You have two options to choose from
Divorce your wife and marry her OR
Cut her off and settle with your wife.
You are living a double life, make your decision fast before your life turns upside down.

Just sing her Chike's faithful and cut her off

daylay7:


I also did. But I reached out again to someone who reconnected us.

It's obvious you love her more than your wife.

You should have waited and not rush Into marrying another woman.

It's either you tell your wife the truth so you'll quarrel or fight and settle,marry her as second,block her completely or divorce your wife on the ground of you commiting adultery cos that's what you've done. Thinking of another woman.

Magana yakare ���

Ginaz:


You know what is wrong with you? Wanna know ? You’re a fool! You’re supposed to be married and act married , not fool around with a jezebel!

ceaser:


Bámidélé or whatever you call yourself, you nor well. Shey o wà okay shá?

Ginaz:

You’re such a fool , deranged and I spit on you.

Too much venom and vituperations on this thread and against @op, haba! He killed person? Ordinary feeling that can be killed or controlled with proper advice and guide!

Ginaz:


You know what is wrong with you? Wanna know ? You’re a fool! You’re supposed to be married and act married , not fool around with a jezebel!

Divorce your poor wife and marry the whoreee jezebel so you can live happily ever after cos I prove to you that you will definitely fuvk her.

What I hate most is foolish adults who have no control. I was once in a tangled- affection war with someone who got married but immediately he married I deleted his number cos I won’t want another woman to cry cos her husband can’t get over her fellow woman.

It hurt to pieces knowing your husband is still in love with someone else while being married to you !!!!

I send love and light to your wife and I hope God spare her the trauma of finding out what you have been up to. Useless dick like you.

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Damn.what a rebuke..you really sound bitter.If your husband err..or sleep with another woman. .you will kill him straight up. .kill him kill him kill him.

daylay7:
Hi everyone,

I met this lady long time ago before I got married to my wife and we were in love back then. She refused me when I actually proposed to her and I moved on afterward but each time we were together, our love was quite evident in the air which became noticeable to people around us.

Eventually, I got married and we distant ourselves for the sake of both of us and then, we reduced our phone talks but we were still friends.

And now, each time we were opportune to talk on phone, the feelings keep coming back. It is irresistible! The day we eventually met, we almost make out but we got ourselves under control miraculously and we distant again for a while. The truth is I can't stop talking to her at least we don't even do that often as before.
What is wrong with me? i need help! What do I do?

May be her puna sweet pass madam own. finally you need deliverance. pastor righteousness2 over to you

Dude, you've chopped the bokubo, Nawao.

Really

Xilsbridalhouse:

Fictional ?

Kai una don use Nairalanders play football tire o! Why do you guys always bring up fake stories? Is it boredom? And usually men all the time!!!

I think he tried to say it's fiction after Ginaz angry reaction. The curses she rain on him was too much to bear.

All these people carrying baggage of old relationships up and down. Oga if you are ready to move on burn the dammed bridges and forge ahead, if not go and slug it out with her until she agrees to marry you.

daylay7

You are just too foolish to understand that you wasting your time.

And the only help you need is that I pitty you.

Terrible... very terrible...

TRY TO BLEEP HER ONCE

OlawaleBammie:


Hmm, my hand no dey again ooh.

Goan meet ur pastor

OlawaleBammie:

But now her eyes don clear abi??

Na win win, make she sef dey battle with the trauma and pains. Laslas una go give unasef belle.

We no fit see eye to eye again. Na on fone we go dey talk

bepositive11:


It's tricky. You will have to either leave your wife and be with her, or cut her out of your life completely if you wish to stay with your wife. If you can, try to remain friends with her but define clear boundaries.

hhmmmmm. okay.
Thanks

crackhouse:
U go soon marry spirit wife.

Na u go first marry one na
Alawada

sweetshisha:
They are all like that.... Just friend zone her, because running from her would keep the feelings stronger.... Tell her all about yourself love and sex life , let her know she is just and old friend and your heart is elsewhere

I have an ex with 2. Kids who had managed to keep in touch since 2012

She always has one reason or the other to get in touch

HHmmmmmm

Kingstanding:
. If you still love her my candid advice is for you to divorce your wife. Must you bring everything to nairaland? What is happening to you do happen to 60% of men and women if I'm not mistaking. Best of luck.

Not my story really and it is still mine all the same. I get your point there anyway.

AmgrayLogistics:
You need prayer.
May God guide you

Thanks. We all do.

nehemiah111:
Feelings is a very strong spirit same thing happened to me too... You have to deal with it fast bro before it takes away your happiness permanently.

Hhmmmmm. You are right

praiseneo:
calm d fvck down na u find advise na u still de reply almost everyone with unserious vibe

Me self just dey catch cruise bro. All na fictions.

Ojemedad:
Tomorrow you will come to us and say you want to be a leader. you want to rule Nigeria , ordinary feelings you cant control

I no be Buhari

kingsleefolli:
You are not wise for exposing personal life here,this nairaland people will make your case worsen.solve your problem within your self.not all issue come here.nairaland people are not solution solver.they are problem manager.all of us.

You are right. But it is not what you are thinking. The reason for this story is to,
1. identify sensible nairalanders
2. get different opinions about issues of life since this particular incident happens to 60% of the younger generations as clearly stated by one person on this thread.

All the same, I get your point.

Sunnymatey:
The devil want to use that demon (the lady) to ruin your marriage.

This is the programming
1. Your wife will divorce you when she get to know.
2. The lady herself will dump you like you ever exist
3. Depreesion will set in
4. Then your peace of mind is gone and finally
5. Thought of sucide
Be wise

You are right. All these you stated here has happened to someone I know. The only thing he didnt do is your last point.

dalass:




@OP, you didn't do in summary at school?

I no pass Summary Joor.
Don't mind me. I just dey give the story raw as e dey come

to200:
How is that our business

Then, look away!

Na dem dem! . you were right about one thing. If you had read through some of the replies, you would not have wrote this long epistle. All the same, I get your point Mr. Kasari!

ceaser:


Bámidélé or whatever you call yourself, you nor well. Shey o wà okay shá? I think your name should be added to the list of Playboys and demons along with names like Femi, Tunde, Segun, Vincent, Chuks etc that are commonly heartbreakers.

When he now has problems with his marriage as a result of infidelity, he will not allow people rest on Nairaland. Then you will start seeing front page topics like "Help, I'm married but my ex-girlfriend got pregnant for me", "Help, my wife has threatened to kill herself and I when she discovered I have a relationship outside", "Help, I'm married but I slept with my ex-girldriend and now I think I have HIV", "New couple clash as wife pours acid/hot oil on cheating husband".

Nonsense. Except this OP is trying to catch cruise or trend with this topic, I don't think he deserves any advice of any kind. Because if indeed it's true life story, then I'm sorry for him and I hope he burns in Hades for betraying the love of his wife and mortgaging the peace in his family by even remotely entertaining any iota of romantic urge towards that ex.

What nonsense. An ex is called that for a reason. Do you realize that it will be more painful for your spouse if she finds out your infidelity is with your ex more than it will be if it is with any random girl? Thinking of your ex alone is a slap on your wife cos it simply means she is not worth as much as the ex to you in the first instance.

I don't even stay as "friends" once we've dated before. Even if you turn down my advances but still want to smartly put me in the friend zone or in the "please I urgently need 2k zone", you become enstranged to me at once. You become an outcast, an anathema and a virus to be avoided at all cost.

The only person that should deserve your attention is the one who was ready to accept you/accepted you and that person is your wife. For whatever reason the ex rejected you at that time, you should move on and ignore her memories even if you can't totally delete them.

I'm so pissed right now.



It's understandable that humans (both male and female) are polyphahic, hoping to try out new menu different from what they currently enjoy. Even if his wife gives it to him in all manner conceivable only in p0rn movies, guys may still wish to get laid outside. The agreement between the dude and his wife was to be faithful till death do them part. It's a different cup of tea if they agreed on an open relationship/marriage or if they agreed on polygamy from the start cos he will not be breaking an agreement that way. The wife will have a prepped mind that her husband may also be getting it outside, so no emotional trauma will ensue from that.

What is annoying in his short post is the fact that he did not even give any sign of worrying about the effect his actions will have on his wife. Such disrespect.

Administration1:
Bro, I'm currently in your shoes Brother

uwagboe1:


Useless dick got me laughing for ages

Don't mind madam Ginaz.

olaarie:
You are mischievous. E go clear for ur eyes soon ���

Ok

sammirano:
Op you are a fool. Ok. First you need no validation from anyone on what to do. If you really fancy the lady take her as your mistress already. Its a fucking mans world, learn to live it.

I love nairaland.