Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

Do you know why they say the downfall of a man is not the end of his life? And not the downfall of a woman is not the end of her life

You have never worked , sweated to give someone money for love,

You have recieved all your life and never given

To you all man should cater for your father and parents responsibility

And when they choose not to look at how you describe them in your own word


All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

I hope men and your male children read between the lines

BruncleZuma:


Did you even bother to read Homers Iliad; your basic Hollywood driven knowledge of history is troubling. And the kinds of fatalistic attributes to real men shows me how unlikely you've seen a real man before.

If a man is attacked, what should he do?
If a man must expand, what must he do?
If a man is humiliated, what should he do?

Stop trying to deviate.. .. and you call another man that reminded a women whose in charge a beta. Go and wash plates while people like the OP's husband do want men have been doing for centuries... destroy and rebuild!

BruncleZuma:


Did you even bother to read Homers Iliad; your basic Hollywood driven knowledge of history is troubling. And the kinds of fatalistic attributes to real men shows me how unlikely you've seen a real man before.

What happened in Homers Illiad?

You got him pissed off before he walked into the restaurant. Also you rudely asked him to do the dishes.
Check it out, it was ur rude attitude that sacked all the staff.

I want to believe that he would have done that without you asking.
Remember,he owns the restaurant not you. And people still cluster and eat from you n u make ur cheese but it doesn't water down to him

CalmElder:


What happened in Homers Illiad?

Helen, despite all the war, was returned back to her husband after being kidnapped several times in-between the trojan wars and the demise of Archilles and his band of merry warriors (you know, the actual real men the fellow I replied to is currently mooning over)

DaCharis2016:
What's totally bad? Considering the pressure on her she mentioned. I think her asking for her husband's help was justified.

The pressure did not send to the village like other women to search for help.

You never start.

The woman is trying to bring out the other side of her husband by instructing him to wash plates in public... It's on called for... because he is jobless whereas he even opened the business for u.. U are an ungrateful, if he behave like this to u when u don't have anything doing, how will u feel... I think by now u will be in another man's house as ur second husband

If you have that much customers where u can't be washing, u can at least afford a young boy or girl who can wash plates and serve for you. I have seen women who sell by the roadside with less customers, they all have a young girl helping them. Somepeople just hate to see someone doing nothing, they see them as lazy.
Because you are now the breadwinner, your husband now must work for you to have a right to get his daily meal from you. A wise wife knows how to make her husband do things for her without hurting his ego.
Woman stop asking if your actions are right or wrong, go to that friend's house and beg your husband so at least it will prove that you didn't mean any disrespect. Be a wise woman, foolish people will tell you that since your husband can't provide he is useless and you dont need him, if u like follow those foolish advices and not beg your husband, your choice. A wise wife hide the shame of her husband and prays positively for him. Be guilded.

kennylesy122:
I would slaps you again..... you have customers and you say your husband to wash the plate what are you try to insinuating?? Gradually you turn him to ur staff atleast give respect a chance if you do respect him enough you won’t dare say that you embarrassed and disrespected him Public you deserve to Hot slap

What the heck are you trying to write ?

Both of them are not serious

She could have asked him to help in other ways, washing plates hell no, dt is degrading

E no concern me pls

richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

fuckingAyaya:
U can still see well to type the man no slap you well

I doubt if it was a hot slap!

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

Your husband is a foolish men with zero ego

Very good ! Next time you go no wetin Tradition mean

He should use sledge hammer on your head.

A grown man walks into your restaurant that he opened for u and u instructed him to wash plate with everybody around.

Stupeed woman

richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

She's not even supposed to tell him that, if the man is a reasonable and considerate man he would go and do it himself.

How would u as a man feel if your wife is going tru such stress, despite fending for the family u see her attending to loads of customers then she's attending to them, plates are piling up nobody to wash them, u can't help to attend to the customers and u still cant help to at least wash the plates.

Which kind yeye pride be that

Gbest90:


Na Wa o. This kind comment dey cos headache.

Make una dey try use pidgin na. No be by force to speak English.

You dey craze o

I actually laffed

A man that is emasculated by having to rely on his wife to feed is the man you are asking in public, in front of customers to help you wash plate. Madam you Bleep up. If he has been helping out in the past, it will not be a problem. Call elders. To beg the man. U no try

richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

...you read well

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

Your husband absolutely overreacted. He's very wrong to have taken offense in your asking for help in that situation. However, your manner of approach or tone in asking may have sounded condescending and disrespectful to him. The fact that ur customers noticed what transpired is an indication that u embarrassed him in the way u made the request. They shouldn't have noticed. Sometimes, it's not WHAT we ask, but HOW we ask. A man's pride is easily hurt when approached inappropriately.

In summary, there's nothing wrong in what you asked, but how you asked may have been responsible for his action.

Even the way you said it here is a total sign of disrespect. There's a way you romance him to do it and not this authoritative and direct way.

I wasn't there to know how the APPROACH was. I think his reaction was as a result of the way she approached him.

He even left u alive.smh

I don’t know why Bimiafashion keeps coming to my mind after reading this thread

Husband 1-0 Wife

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

THE WAY U PASSED D MESSAGE TO HIM IN PUBLIC CHALLENGED HIS EGO AS UR HUSBAND. IF IT'S AT HOME, U COULD HAVE PET HIM OR BOTH OF U SHOULD HAVE SETTLED SUCH ARRANGEMENTS, PLS. YOU CAN GO TO HIM AT HIS FRIEND'S PLACE AND APOLOGISE PROFUSELY TO HIM, EVEN ELICITING HIS FRIEND'S HELP PLS. AM SURPRISED MYSELF THOUGH, U BOTH ARE SUPPOSED TO BE VERY GOOD FRIENDS AND RELATE IN SUCH WAYS WITH OUT RANCOUR...HIS BEING IDLE NOTWITHSTANDING.