richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

And all the workers left her, that means something is wrong with her, by the way I read this same story 7years ago.

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

Social media na real madness for some people now las las.
When he was working n bringing the money u no talk that one, he opened Ur restaurant for u n that's still him in the business or have u returned the money he used in opening the business to him?
Telling him to wash plate can't n shouldn't be seen as a bad thing if I were the one cos after all Ur supporting the house but where the problem might be should have being the manner u spoke to him, how have being Ur relationship with him since he lost his job, how encouraging have u being to him, and las las u said he just entered the restaurant n that's means he hasn't even sat down before u commanded him or whatsoever not minding where he was coming from n how was the place he went to n what he went there for. Coming on social media to shame ursef

BruncleZuma:


There are a thousand and one ways to communicate displeasure sir, physical or psychological assault is not one of them.

hahahahahahahahaha... I know sey na ur type that will say even if a lady slaps u, u walk away. hahahaahahahahaha

Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?
like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

Jeon:

He's not romantic and caring.
That's why I hate people with pride and ego

Franzinni:
Pride is the devil
Jcole-

Those who are for and those who are against have points but to me, it is complicated to just take a side.

The woman is already stressed, one woman doing the jobs of like three to five people at a time everyday! She may even collapse one day as a result of exhaustion. The husband could easily lend a hand even without being told. They could even manage the restaurant together for the time being.

And for the woman, her approach was bad. Her husband wasn't used to doing that, they didn't discuss it before. He was just coming in and she told him like that in front of the customers, haba! This is Nigeria, it is not the men's culture, we are to learn it.

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

Op this your story is 7years old

You said it all.

MALIGNANTGuest:

I can bet, you didn't request for that politely.
I assisted my wife in doing the DISHES just yesterday and I do it regularly, voluntarily. But my wife has realized that any day she uses a disrespectful tone to request for such, the plates or chores will be abandoned completely.

You start losing your husband the very day you choose to disrespect him.

Emotionss:
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Knowing how our women behave I am 150% certain she told he husband to wash the plates with full Authority and to prove to the customers that she is the madam in charge.

A jobless man is an angry man and the last thing he Needs is his wife reminding him how useless he is at the moment.

That is not what the writer said. That man is just arrogant and rude. If he was settle scores, you don't do that in the presence of your customers.

I have stop commenting on incomplete and one sided stories like this, because it makes no sense to hear one side and judge.we all have to hear the other side of the story before we make good judgement.....
this I have learnt, people always wants to be right or paint themselves angels and the other devil's.......

She definitely said in a bad manner. Many lose respect for their husbands once they begin to earn more.

UDUJ:


Truth be told I see nothing in helping my wife wash dishes if there is no one else to help out in the restaurant and if I am out of a job.

I think it boils down to the manner and way in which she says it. If she says it in a loving way then why not- I'll do it since the success of the restaurant is for the family. It only becomes a problem if she says it in a condescending and mocking way, that will hurt the mans feelings.

So in summary it all boils down to communication and teamwork. In fact, communication is one of the most important aspects of a satisfying marriage and this brings about love and mutual respect between both parties.

See me talking about marriage when I am not yet married sef

BruncleZuma:


I don't think we both agree on what constitutes abuse in this situation.

https://www.nairaland.com/6564069/husband-slapped-me-asking-him/12#101924450

The weapon of a woman is her tongue. If she uses it unguardedly against the man, then it is justified if the man uses his weapon, (his fist) against the woman.

They have only used their weapons against each other.

And if women want equality, all these rubbish about weak men must stop. If you want equality, then you will get everything that goes with it, including blows for annoying the man. If his fellow man does that to him, he'll fight him in the same manner.

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Nigeria men especially Igbo men are disgusting I swear, who told them a man should not do domestic chores .







To be fair, Igbo men have A1 in assisting their wives in running their businesses.
They lead in that regard. They don't just accommodate disrespect, simple.

Coldie:

Where in the story does it state in quote;

"She told the husband to wash plates in public or infront of her customers"?

Abeg show me

Let's know who is being biased here

Read this quote from the OP once again.

so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

The man just walked in and the woman without even greeting him asked her husband to rush to wash plates. Obviously, she wasn't whispering into his ears. And she had the audacity to repeat it.

I hope when you get married, you will not try such rubbish on your husband.

maasoap:






Those who for and those who are against have points but to me, it is complicated to just take a side.

The woman is already stressed, one woman doing the jobs of like three to five people at a time everyday! She may even collapse one day as she a result of exhaustion. The husband could easily lend a hand even without being told. They could even manage the restaurant together for the time being.

And for the woman, her approach was bad. Her husband wasn't used to doing that, they didn't discuss it before. He was just coming in and she told him like that in front of the customers, haba! This is Nigeria, it is not the men's culture, we are to learn it.

pride on both sides was the reason for the breakdown ... That is what I mean. Him losing his money made his ego vulnerable and she taking lead made hers grow.. so naturally something has to give. Remember he set the business up for her so he will feel slighted but a wise man will support his wife regardless then later have the discussion with her.

U deserve worse. Chicken brain

There is nothing wrong with asking ur spouse to help out..but for him to have reacted that way,it's probably the manner at which u asked him..if otherwise he's just foolishly mad

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

In my opinion, there is nothing wrong in asking one's husband to do the dishes, nothing. It is also not acceptable to raise a finger on one's wife no matter the level of provocation. Those said, most women do not know how to talk. I am very sure the tone was harsh, I am also very sure your choice of words would be something around, 'you are there looking at me, is it that you can't see those unwashed plates there'? There is no way you will walk to where he is seated and go like 'Please, my love, would help me with some of this plates so I can quickly take the demands of these clients, Biko, nna'. It is only a mad man who would slap you after this well-chosen words, any man will wash the whole plates in the world if you went about it this way. For a man in his state, and indeed whenever you talk to any man, it is always a course of wisdom to speak respectfully, but you women won't hear. Whether a marriage fails or succeeds depends largely on the wife. Women who know how to use words carefully keep their homes, but you see those ones who put their mouth in motion before they put their brain in gear, they fan the embers of quarrel and strife!

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BruncleZuma:


This is a known phenomenon, and it's a good way for the man to learn self-control because outside his home there are okada men, food sellers, conductors, agberos, policemen, supervisors at work who would do worse than his wife is doing but for the love of God, there is no excuse under the face of the sun that warrants beating one's wife.

The man don't need or expect any understanding from outsiders he needs it from his wife....

Imagine
After losing ALL your life savings to scam, after failing to secure any job, in your depressed state you decide to visit your wife business after picking the children from school.
Entering the restaurant with the kids and the next thing you heard from your wife with full Authority and without regard to your dignity na= baba Emeka oya go and wash those plates at the sink quickly customers are waiting....

Your husband supposed to be running the restaurant with you before he gets another job, I strongly believe he's from my tribe because we get too much unnecessary ego.

You are sick. You mean welcoming your husband who visited your shop by telling him to wash plates in public is right? You are not ok. Stop all this feminism shit. The husband even open this business for her. He deserves some respect. If the man was working would the wife still talk to him in such manner? Comment like yours encourages domestic violence.

MOVIC6:
This man no matter his predicament right now, doesn’t deserve this woman.
Feeding from my money and you are raising your shoulders high to the extent of slapping me, “in public”. Na this kin tin wey woman dey use kill their husbands out of anger.

Women will not kill us.

Hotshisha:




That's not the full story

Once a man losses his source of income women become rude , unappreciative and wicked

Even if you ask Buhari to wash plates with proper manners he would gladly do that but ungrateful Nigerian women are something else


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The best advice ever sir you understand women, lost your job and see how vagina people will treat you

How you told matters a lot,did you lick inside his ears before telling him to goan wash the plate?

As a woman telling your husband to assist you in the dish washing.Thou is not a bad Idea. As long that is the only source of income for the family the husband can assist.
When you use force or aa command on a man to do something. He will get angry. Approach him in the right way by calling him to one corner were no one is seeing you then you can plead 'honey' please can you assist me with the dish while I serve. He will do it
As long the woman is the only one doing everything in the restaurant. The man can help in his own little way by assisting her because that's their only sources of survival. Even if is the man that gave the wife to start up the business that will not stop him from rendering help or assisting her in the running the place.
The both can put heads together and run the place successfully. The man should put pride aside and assist her wife in running the place and they will all benefit from it.its all for the good of the family. Thank you

You are sick. Welcoming your husband by telling to wash plates is wrong. If you are lady, you won't last on marriage with this mindset.

Jobia:
Lol when did washing plates become a big deal in this life biko? How is it degrading?
Its just an easy fvcking chore. Mtchew

[quote author=felix10 post=101921756]I feel for the lady.

The man joblessness is not an excuse not to assist the wife in such manner.

What stopped the man working with the wife for the expansion of the business,

Listen to yourself again, what stopped the woman from discussing the issue with the husband at home first?
I'm sure you are not married and do not understand anything about marriage
you will definitely understand by force when you marry let's see if you can endure women antics even if you are rich talk less of been jobless

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edoairways:

That is not what the writer said. That man is just arrogant and rude. If he was settle scores, you don't do that in the presence of your customers.

Knowing how insulting and rude woman becomes the moment they become the sole provider in a family, I can assure you that Madam is not telling us the full story.

If the man should tell his own side of the story you will be shocke at the level of insults and embarrassment he receives every day from his wife because of his inability to provide for the family at the moment.

Please i need paracetamol

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

If that woman waits for someone to tell her what she did wrong, I would advise the husband not to come home even after he finds a job.

Elporo:


Nah thunder go fire you las las.

A man with no pride is no man.

Real men burnt down Troy.
Real men built the Egytian pyramids.
Real men took over Red Indian territory to birth America.

If they where busy doing dishes, I wonder if you would be able to read or write.

Wow