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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by edoairways: 4:44pm On May 21, 2021
Emotionss:
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Knowing how insulting and rude woman becomes the moment they become the sole provider in a family, I can assure you that Madam is not telling us the full story.

If the man should tell his own side of the story you will be shocke at the level of insults and embarrassment he receives every day from his wife because of his inability to provide for the family at the moment.
There is more to the story. I doubt if it was dish washing that resulted to that slap. He must have endured many things
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by BruncleZuma: 4:45pm On May 21, 2021
effort1:


The weapon of a woman is her tongue. If she uses it unguardedly against the man, then it is justified if the man uses his weapon, (his fist) against the woman.

They have only used their weapons against each other.

And if women want equality, all these rubbish about weak men must stop. If you want equality, then you will get everything that goes with it, including blows for annoying the man. If his fellow man does that to him, he'll fight him in the same manner.

There can be no justification for that.
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by yahmohy27: 4:45pm On May 21, 2021
richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed so




hahaha funny comment evet
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by ultimatekint(m): 4:45pm On May 21, 2021
Are you an Englander?if not, you are stupid.
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by adanny01(m): 4:46pm On May 21, 2021
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She even had the effrontery to say he slapped her in public, did she ask him to wash plates in private?

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Soar2019: 4:47pm On May 21, 2021
*Anyway both you and your husband do not yet understand the principle of marriage
* He lost a job you own a restaurant.. can you imagine? Omo nwase..orise! Your husband is dumb you seems foolish’ ( sorry for foul language ) but you both deserves that maybe you can both wake up!
* can't ur husband manage the restaurant and both of you work together
* go kook for him and tell him not to look for job again that he should come manage the restaurant/buka.. tell him u will wash the plates and he manages the finances
Ok??
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by BruncleZuma: 4:47pm On May 21, 2021
effort1:


The weapon of a woman is her tongue. If she uses it unguardedly against the man, then it is justified if the man uses his weapon, (his fist) against the woman.

They have only used their weapons against each other.

And if women want equality, all these rubbish about weak men must stop. If you want equality, then you will get everything that goes with it, including blows for annoying the man. If his fellow man does that to him, he'll fight him in the same manner.

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You need the sort of help that I can not provide you sir
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by effort1: 4:48pm On May 21, 2021
BruncleZuma:


There can be no justification for that.

But there is justification for a woman using her tongue to abuse and belittle the man, right?

It is what you give to the world that the world gives back to you.

If you give abuse, you will get abuse back in full measure.

Please enjoy your desired equality

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Emotionss: 4:49pm On May 21, 2021
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edoairways:

There is more to the story. I doubt if it was dish washing that resulted to that slap. He must have endured many things

Now you understand my point.

Also there's the possibility that the way and manner she told the husband to go and wash those plates in front of her customers made him reacted that way just to prove to them and possibly himself that he is still a man.
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by neonly: 4:49pm On May 21, 2021
BruncleZuma:
You don't have a husband, no real man assaults a woman over such issues.

Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by solreb: 4:49pm On May 21, 2021
BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”
It's not that is wrong for your husband to help out, it may be that how you made or where you made the request that angered him. However there was immaturity on his part in that he could have walked out ignoring your request without slapping you. Also no need packing out because at this point in time both of you need each other even to pray together.

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by effort1: 4:50pm On May 21, 2021
BruncleZuma:


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You need the sort of help that I can not provide you sir

If you don't want to be abused with the fist, don't abuse with your tongue.
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by BruncleZuma: 4:50pm On May 21, 2021
effort1:


But there is justification for a woman using her tongue to abuse and belittle the man, right?

It is what you give to the world that the world gives back to you.

If you give abuse, you will get abuse back in full measure

I can't not in good conscience allow the justification for violence or assault on a woman because an individual's ego was bruised. That's part of being a man, the ability to not let petty words get to you.

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Germi9: 4:50pm On May 21, 2021
Jeon:

He's not romantic and caring.

That's why I hate people with pride and ego
No i dont think its about pride and ego am sure the Man has been tolerating the woman’s bad behavior since he lost his job,Men are not so mean until they start observing behaviors again i am sure that the manner in which the woman must have ask hi to wash the dishes in the presence of customers that once respected him was appalling,if she had calmly met him and asked for assistance the worst he would do will be to refuse the message.
Men are naturally sensitive when they can no longer provide...He should go back home and madam should apologize

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Rikkely: 4:51pm On May 21, 2021
Can't the wife tell the husband to do that in private without the customers knowing?
it's very bad to condone bad attitude because you are not helping this woman problem
shameful



Coldie:

Ask yourself 2 things, is the man doing that because the woman just wants to belittle him or as at the point it's needed.

The woman is attending to a crowd of customers trying to meet up, if she says ok attend to the customers let her go and wash the plates he can't.

Ok wash the plates let her attend to the customers as soon as possible then come over and take over from u, u vex.

What do u want her to do?
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Jodera: 4:52pm On May 21, 2021
Coldie:

Where in the story does it state in quote;

"She told the husband to wash plates in public or infront of her customers"?

Abeg show me

Let's know who is being biased here
so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out

Read that sentence slowly and clearly and tell me how the woman didn't embarrass her husband in public except it's just you who want to be biased

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by anungangampu: 4:52pm On May 21, 2021
Before a man will leave his house to a friend's In search for a job after slapping his wife in public show how long the man has been degraded by his wife before having such uncontrollable anger unleashed in public. If I read between the lines the problem didn't start there and the man already felt humiliated even before the first request.
The man left the house because continuous words from his wife will result in more battry . As a wise man he left to keep his mind sane.

Many don't know how women hunt their husband like witches once the earning table turns.

I can tell you this woman felt guilty, reason she want people to tell her the truth. Your husband is at the worst state in his life and at least if u don't care enough, don't start to show it in public. Any man will react to such.

It's not about washing dishes I can tell you.. Forget about the dishes it was just how she wanted everyone's approval by telling us the husband is broke and she takes all expenses and her husband should jump up to wash dishes as if it was his job specification.

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by bigtt76(f): 4:53pm On May 21, 2021
At home it's ok but in public? No dear. What happened to your staff? Can't they do the dish or get some indigent person in the neighborhood to do that for you and you feed him/her if you can't afford paying them a wage.

The husband too proud, he ought to have taken the initiative and assist the wife. I've seen men frying akara with their wives on the roadside to make ends meet.



BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by richmanrichard: 4:54pm On May 21, 2021
The problem was not what you said but how and where you said it.
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by acevic: 4:56pm On May 21, 2021
Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

There is no sense in this
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by acevic: 4:57pm On May 21, 2021
richmanrichard:
The problem was not what you said but how and where you said it.

Were you there to have known how she said it?
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Oracleforce: 4:59pm On May 21, 2021
Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

You put emotional sentiment to your response...though I don't subscribe to the man slapping his wife....but the wife thinking of using her husband as a plate washer in the business investment that the man finance 100 percent....abba....think am, now....

This kind woman is terrible....

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by neonly: 5:00pm On May 21, 2021
Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell


See them coming out to defend stupidity

Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by MOVIC6: 5:01pm On May 21, 2021
I won’t insult you but you and people like you need psychological recycling, imagine at the heat of sales, no boy or maid to aid and you enter and see you wife struggling, you will jus walk out, if she wants she can die, brother may God give you the brain to be reasonable
Masterito:
You are sick. You mean welcoming your husband who visited your shop by telling him to wash plates in public is right? You are not ok. Stop all this feminism shit. The husband even open this business for her. He deserves some respect. If the man was working would the wife still talk to him in such manner? Comment like yours encourages domestic violence.

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Jodera: 5:02pm On May 21, 2021
Coldie:

Ask yourself 2 things, is the man doing that because the woman just wants to belittle him or as at the point it's needed.

The woman is attending to a crowd of customers trying to meet up, if she says ok attend to the customers let her go and wash the plates he can't.

Ok wash the plates let her attend to the customers as soon as possible then come over and take over from u, u vex.

What do u want her to do?
She went about it the wrong way.
Ask yourself these questions
1... Why will she tell him in front of her customers
2... Her workers were quitting one by one, why didn't she bring the idea of her husband helping out at home? Why in the canteen thereby catching him offguard?

I notice you're a "male" with your "m" moniker but you don't reason like how an average man thinks but how women do think. No matter how loving and caring a man is, no man, I repeat, no man will take it lightly if he just entered his wife's canteen and immediately she just tell him to help her "rush and wash plate" in front of customers. (Emphasis on the words "rush and customers"wink

No man I tell you, forget that thing!!

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Idadurun: 5:02pm On May 21, 2021
DaCharis2016:
What's totally bad? Considering the pressure on her she mentioned. I think her asking for her husband's help was justified.
Are you sure you have or know what is husband? If you have then you're in the category of this woman. What a nonsense
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by samwillyco1(m): 5:03pm On May 21, 2021
Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

You didn't finish the statement, it should be like...

That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate in public to the hearing of your customers.
It is intimidating but should have walked away without slapping you.
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by acevic: 5:04pm On May 21, 2021
A reasonable husband would not slap his wife in the public or in private
A reasonable husband will not walk into his wife’s business and see that she is the only one struggling to do everything and not offer to help.

A reasonable wife would not command or ask the husband to wash plates in a condescending manner.
A reasonable wife would call the husband to a quiet and private corner to make that kind of request.

Having said all these, the husband should be lucky to be in Nigeria. In the western world, his problem would have been compounded with assault and battery charges.

The husband probably walked in with pride to eat and leave his plates on the table for the wife to wash as usual.

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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Nobody: 5:06pm On May 21, 2021
Masterito:
You are sick. Welcoming your husband by telling to wash plates is wrong. If you are lady, you won't last on marriage with this mindset.
Since you can't engage me without insulting your mother. Dey your dey

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