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Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by GodisFirst: 7:04pm On May 21, 2021 |
You deserve a second dose. You need to employ someone to do that for you and not try to transform your husband to a plate washer. Why not allow him be, maybe he would use his discretion do it if he sees how the situation is, instead of confronting him to do it and I am sure you told him to do that before the customers, that was why he slapped you in there presence. You are lucky he opened the business for you and also helping out with the children's school runs. Try using your family friends that has his phone number to reach him, apologize and beg him, at least let him come home and continue to help with the kids. |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by effort1: 7:05pm On May 21, 2021 |
BruncleZuma: The so-called dressing down can cause more bruise than physical attack. Verbal abuse can cause a permanent damage to the confidence of the victim. It damages self-esteem and can lead to life-long mental health problems. There is a support system for physical abuse, but there is none for verbal abuse. So, the victim is left to cope on his own. He can even end up committing suicide. Verbal abuse is psychological. It's pain goes deeper than one can imagine. If you don't want physical abuse, don't give people verbal abuse |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by BruncleZuma: 7:06pm On May 21, 2021 |
effort1:The bros already carry baggage of low self-esteem, even good morning fit cause slap. |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Idaytesj29(m): 7:07pm On May 21, 2021 |
Zeeknow3245: What stops the woman from doing the plates and have the man do something else? It has to be plates? Then, that's not her first day in the shop, the pressure must have been an everyday thing. Why didn't she discuss needing more hands or assistance with her husband before that incident. Then, this man was responsible for setting up the business for his wife 100% and because his business was scammed, he has to be employed by his wife? And no better department for him than dish washing? Abi? Fear God ooo 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Codes151(m): 7:08pm On May 21, 2021 |
Firstly. We were not there to see the context of how you said it. In front of your workers. You actually rubbished my guy... |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by kaelz(m): 7:09pm On May 21, 2021 |
BonPatrick:This is my question to you, "If you have a neighbour and the both of you repair generators, do you go and meet him to lend you his spanner whenever you have more customers than he has?" |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Commotfornigeri: 7:10pm On May 21, 2021 |
NewSoul: Life is give and take my guy... In all my years of marriage, I have learned that women are Garbage in, Garbage out or Love in, love out. Anytime i ignore my wife a little, or get too busy with work, we often have quarrels that we cant even identify the source. When I'm all over her, touching here and there, buying gifts, doing mushi mushi and hanging out in the kitchen, life becomes bliss and no arguments. It is a normal human nature to be receptive towards actions or people that make you feel good. Life itself is transactional. Your friends actions are as a result of your actions too. Life is Garbage in, garbage out. |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by effort1: 7:11pm On May 21, 2021 |
BruncleZuma: Maybe his low self esteem was caused by consistent verbal abuse. When men hit women over verbal abuse, the physical hitting is just an action in response to a reaction. Unfortunately, people are so myopic that they focus only on the reaction without giving a thought to the action that prompted it. If you don't want physical abuse, don't give verbal abuse. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Nobody: 7:12pm On May 21, 2021 |
Margy: Devils advocate... Go and slap the man na? Basstard. See the amount of hatred in you! "The man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.." Who are you again? Deputy Jesus? Ogun kee you and your family there for cursing a man that is innocent. Have you ever wondered that the approach of the wife might have mattered in dishing out the orders to go and wash plate? 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by BruncleZuma: 7:12pm On May 21, 2021 |
effort1:There's no justification for physical assault, my hand don dey cramp from typing this matter repeatedly no matter what. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by MOVIC6: 7:13pm On May 21, 2021 |
Like I told someone, you and them needs psychological reformation. You see your wife in dilemma and you want her to come and hug u and bow to you as Jesus Christ, when as a man you supposed to have sixth sense of sensitivity, guy no make me remember my own experience, I’m advising you as an unknown friend, treat ur woman like a queen and God himself will bless you through her Masterito: |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by lebienconnu: 7:13pm On May 21, 2021 |
feemi: How I wish I could give you multiple likes. If I were a soldier I would salute you six times. |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by richmond500: 7:13pm On May 21, 2021 |
AFONAMARO:I didn't read this ur nonsense. This isn't about pride, its more of respect. When things were going well with the man, he didn't turn her into a full house wife, he opened a business for her and does his manly duties diligently but due to probably her bad attitude, most of her staffs left and things went bad for the man and all she could do is to try turn him into one of her maids abi? When she said it first, he gave her a bad look, that was suppose to send a message that he wasn't happy, but because she prides herself as the bread winner and the king of the house, she has to tell him again to wash plates in public, the man has to show her that despite his predicament, he is the the king of the home and won't stoop so low in washing plates in a restaurant. Everyone must have an ego, here the woman has massaged her ego beyong country and is trying to destroy the mans ego 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by effort1: 7:15pm On May 21, 2021 |
BruncleZuma: So, are you saying there is justification for verbal abuse? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by BruncleZuma: 7:17pm On May 21, 2021 |
effort1:None of that physical, verbal or otherwise. Once you raise your hand instead of communicating, you no get any case whatsoever. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Oju4190: 7:17pm On May 21, 2021 |
kennylesy122:o boy dis Ur grammar need hot slap |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by effort1: 7:18pm On May 21, 2021 |
BruncleZuma: What of those who raised their voices to abuse and tongue lash men? Is that justifiable in your camp? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by BRATISLAVA: 7:19pm On May 21, 2021 |
MummyD2020: Not only that, but also prostrate while doing so. And be ready for anything he wants. Most men who demand these things are economically disadvantaged and have nothing to fall back on except their empty pride. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Masterito(m): 7:21pm On May 21, 2021 |
I do dishes without my wife telling me, especially when necessary. I have a happy home. My home is built on respect and tolerance. See you know nothing. It is wrong for a man to even tell his wife to go and wash dishes in public, vice versa. Some forming nonsense feminist. As Christian's we must learn to respect your husband. The Bible even made a man the head. I advise you to advice yourself. If you can spot the disrespect in the story, then you lack common wisdom. MOVIC6: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by BruncleZuma: 7:21pm On May 21, 2021 |
effort1:Communication is a two-way street, you can't justify abuse or violence in any way, mode or manner. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by ogwuche4u(m): 7:22pm On May 21, 2021 |
richmond500:To you now you made sense. All your assertions are nonsense. He feeds from the business and even clothes from the business. What is wrong in helping your partner do the dishes? Pride is a useless thing. If only he supports the wife in the business, am sure they will go far. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by ThatFairGuy: 7:22pm On May 21, 2021 |
It's not well. She goofed or not. Respond debbydams: |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by ThatFairGuy: 7:24pm On May 21, 2021 |
Even it is disrespectful to you for your husband to wash plates in your restaurant. Let alone you asking him to. He felt miserable, won't too blame him for his reaction. Walking away would have been better though |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by effort1: 7:26pm On May 21, 2021 |
BruncleZuma: But you are here trying to justify verbal abuse. What does that make you? A bias, wicked soul? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by richmond500: 7:28pm On May 21, 2021 |
ogwuche4u:the business belongs to him, he bought everything for her, chairs, gas stove, plates and even pay rents. If he opens the business for himself and put in workers, I don't think any of his workers will tell him to wash plate. The woman is ungrateful 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Hardgun: 7:29pm On May 21, 2021 |
MummyD2020:Thanks but this a different case telling her husband to wash plate for a customer please to me it's very bad |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by MOVIC6: 7:33pm On May 21, 2021 |
Oga, you are still bantering on your over fanned ergo, like you typed, it’s base on understanding and tolerance, you jus nailed yourself and your supporters, sixth sense means been proactive, she might have said it out of stressful mind which your big ergo should understand that at that point in time she is in dire need of your help and you are talking about disrespect. Can you jus sut down and think of what you are bringing to this discussion. Your wife, who’s part of your body, bone, flesh and blood, asked you to please help, my brother, pray for God’s help because God loved you unconditionally and he has giving you that mandate to do so to your wife, especially at her time of need but because of overfanned and blotted ergo you see problem in everything all because you are the man of the house. Oga seek God’s help to love your woman rightly and not lip service. I know a man that peels the bleeping fuits for his wife to sale. Oga please stop this arguement if you really have self respect. Love knows no bounds.... I rest this case. Masterito: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Maxvasia(m): 7:33pm On May 21, 2021 |
This is one side of the story sha. Will be stupid to pass judgement like that. The dangers of a one sided story. |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Zeeknow3245(m): 7:35pm On May 21, 2021 |
Idaytesj29:Oga did you read the write up at all? She didn't employ. She asked for help for him to dishes. Which department? He used the money to open a business which is commendable but Oga things are not the way they are. Oga drop this your pride . When you will move abroad you go know say this mentality stinks. Men wash dishes, men drop kids, men take out the trash,men do groceries, men do Laundries and men cook same with women. Do you know how many leaked pictures about David Cameron have been leaked with him cooking and even Washing? Things are hard and you shouldn't make it harder. He refused to even get menial jobs so as to feed his family. Oga you shouldn't hear people's stories ooo. There's a man who was living in my area, he lost his job because we all knew he worked. So he started helping his wife wash,cook and keep records if his wife isn't around . We dey help am dish food for small pay if his wife wasn't around.His kids were little then. His wife does same exactly same. They've apportioned delegations to each other. If the man washes and cook for 2 days,the woman cooks the rest 4 days. From there he focused on keeping records and accounts before he later got a job. The wife was bad mouthed but still gives him respect too. But as long money go drop and everybody wins,no wahala. Life can never remain like that. His wife still runs it with other workers. FUNNILY the man is Igbo The truth is Until you know your problem you can't solve anything 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Akuruoulo(m): 7:39pm On May 21, 2021 |
richmond500: U MISSED NOTHING SIR |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by Akuruoulo(m): 7:44pm On May 21, 2021 |
Hotshisha: THE SIMP U QUOTED ISN'T JUST A SIMP |
Re: My Husband Slapped Me For Asking Him To Wash Plates by mamagee3(f): 7:44pm On May 21, 2021 |
Some women are just so dumb... If you need help in your business and all your staff members all left, why not try to find some new people gradually or did every staff member quit at the same time? Why tell a full grown man to do domestic chores like washing dishes in public view just so everyone will know that you're the boss and you run your household? How did an idiot like you convince a man to date and stay committed to you for so long in the form of marriage?? 3 Likes 1 Share |
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