I am familiar with this situation in so many ways.

I know how business like this is done. If you are short of staff, you can use the limited time that you have while you are not attending to customers to do the dishes. When you do have customers, you can stop and continue when you are done with them. That's multitasking.

What would she have done, if he hadn't come when he did?

Also, the wife need to understand that the husband has given her warning by looking at her in a strange way and she's not supposed to repeat herself again.


Like many here have said, a man/husband without job is an angry man. He's going through a lot at that moment and you don't need to compound it.

Although he's very wrong to slap you. He can just walk away

obimag:
if he travels to US he might end up washing dishes in the a restaurant. However, it is all about pride and lack of business IQ. Also a lot depends on your approach. There is absolutely nothing wrong for him to wash the dishes and even join you in transforming the business .

Jehovah ekueme bless your cranium jare. Iono know wassup with African men. Thick skinned apes and resistant to change. No be ordinary business. But if na the man tell her to wash plate and she no do am, it will be seen as insubordination... Radarada buruku.

richmond500:
simp, na ur kind of men weh their women deh control anyhow

Brain dead. Your type deserve to live alone as you consider women to be inferior and second class citizens

Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

What then is marriage if the man can't help his wife?

Nawa...for ur statement.
It shows that there are more stupid men in Nigeria than normal ones.

Na small small like this insult dey take start.
Na fromhelp me buy snuff, person dey enter market.

Most time the tone in our voice brings alot of effect.
Telling him to wash plates isn't the issue but the way you said it is the issue. Also you should have at least allow him rest first person was just coming in from somewhere you don't know what state he was and you just gave him instruction to go wash plate. That's very unreasonable of you....if he wasn't around wont you find a way of washing the plates? Why not then allow him to rest before engaging him and also say this in a more secretive and polite way.
You ordered him around in the presence of the customers and brought his self esteem down and also didn't consider his mental state at that moment those are the things you did wrong.

Anyways he is still very annoyed when he is not convenient in his friend place he'll come home. Allow him cool down and beg for his forgiveness later and also pray he gets job ontime.

AFONAMARO:


Brain dead. Your type deserve to live alone as you consider women to be inferior and second class citizens

insulting me doesn't make u better than a simp, set ur boundaries. There are things as a husband u will do to help ur wife, do go about washing plates in a restaurant, people deh big pass some things

Elporo:


Nah thunder go fire you las las.

A man with no pride is no man.

Real men burnt down Troy.
Real men built the Egytian pyramids.
Real men took over Red Indian territory to birth America.

If they where busy doing dishes, I wonder if you would be able to read or write.

may our ancestors bless you my guy

Theboy21:
You should be happy because your husband is a real nigga

richmond500:
insulting me doesn't make u better than a simp, set ur boundaries. There are things as a husband u will do to help ur wife, do go about washing plates in a restaurant, people deh big pass some things

You are obviously a kid. You called me a fool and that wasn't an insult to you. But when I returned your lack of civility, you come crying like a child.

You obviously need mentoring on what marriage entails.

Now, run along, kiddo

Gbest90:


Na Wa o. This kind comment dey cos headache.

Make una dey try use pidgin na. No be by force to speak English.

We're not 100% Mr. English

I don't need to explain anything to you. Let experience be your teacher. Trust me you know nothing about marriage. I won't be surprised if you are single.

MOVIC6:
Oga, you are still bantering on your over fanned ergo, like you typed, it’s base on understanding and tolerance, you jus nailed yourself and your supporters, sixth sense means been proactive, she might have said it out of stressful mind which your big ergo should understand that at that point in time she is in dire need of your help and you are talking about disrespect.
Can you jus sut down and think of what you are bringing to this discussion.
Your wife, who’s part of your body, bone, flesh and blood, asked you to please help, my brother, pray for God’s help because God loved you unconditionally and he has giving you that mandate to do so to your wife, especially at her time of need but because of overfanned and blotted ergo you see problem in everything all because you are the man of the house.
Oga seek God’s help to love your woman rightly and not lip service.
I know a man that peels the bleeping fuits for his wife to sale.
Oga please stop this arguement if you really have self respect.
Love knows no bounds....
I rest this case.

o dika isi adighi gi mma

DaCharis2016:
It's simply an understanding the husband lacks. Would she ever ask him to wash dishes at home? That was purely on a business/hustling ground. What if the wife can't manage the restaurant, then the husband would had lost so much and they would be starve.

The husband doesn't know the value of what he has.

Pls move this post to FP @admin

I believe the lady speak with a harsh voice and maybe the husband is not in good mood, but raising hand at your wife is never the best,

Gbest90:


Na Wa o. This kind comment dey cos headache.

Make una dey try use pidgin na. No be by force to speak English.

We're not 100% Mr. English

bukolabeauty09:
Most time the tone in our voice brings alot of effect.
Telling him to wash plates isn't the issue but the way you said it is the issue. Also you should have at least allow him rest first person was just coming in from somewhere you don't know what state he was and you just gave him instruction to go wash plate. That's very unreasonable of you....if he wasn't around wont you find a way of washing the plates? Why not then allow him to rest before engaging him and also say this in a more secretive and polite way.
You ordered him around in the presence of the customers and brought his self esteem down and also didn't consider his mental state at that moment those are the things you did wrong.

Anyways he is still very annoyed when he is not convenient in his friend place he'll come home. Allow him cool down and beg for his forgiveness later and also pray he gets job ontime.
Thank you Sir. Nice advise/write up

AFONAMARO:


You are obviously a kid. You called me a fool and that wasn't an insult to you. But when I returned your lack of civility, you come crying like a child.

You obviously need mentoring on what marriage entails.

Now, run along, kiddo

I called u a simp which u are obviously a simp, if u think u are also a fool, then I didn't know.

I am sorry for ur misfortune

cococandy:


But guess what? It’s not for free. It supports the family income.

If I had no source of income and my partner is running a food business to support us and can’t pay workers to wash dishes due to our income is now reduced, I would be stupid to say I can’t wash dishes to help the business survive. Like I said y’all are weird AF. I don’t know where your reasoning comes from.

There’s no role or job too demeaning for anyone on this earth. Stupid pride that’s defies logic is what makes some of you try to complicate uncomplicated situations.

Dishing what I can’t take?
I can wash dishes, wipe poop, clean up vomit, do anything to support my family. But y’all are too good for that. Such a stupid point of view to support

If you TRUELY respect ur husband in the 1st place you won't even wish him to wash plate or sweep the floor talkless of outside.
Lets imagine the man had come down from is SUV on a starched native/shirt with mess wey choke ... can that woman try that nonsense. naa see finish cause am.
As a woman if the crown of your head (ade ori) can be washing plate outside then such woman is shameless & deserves no respect from bachelors in that area.

Honestly you need more slap.

So degrading.
You could have used other method.

richmond500:
I called u a simp which u are obviously a simp, if u think u are also a fool, then I didn't know.

I am sorry for ur misfortune

You do not even know the meaning of a simp, coward.

Go to bed, kids are asleep already

This man does not need any job he already has one " the restaurant" So washing dishes makes him less a man?! The man lacks wisdom so sad!!!

Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

Oga there is nothing wrong with telling him to help her out.....what's with this ego handling from men ah ah your own wife for that matter

The man(boy) no try at all

Jeon:

He's not romantic and caring.

That's why I hate people with pride and ego

MODIFIED

Keep quoting until you guys choke


Lollittaa my winter bear see them

Birds of a feather.

I do not see anything wrong with washing plate for a lady who has done her part to take care of things while he's down. She is a wife and not ur enemy, 2 shall become one.

Love covers multitude of sin; insecurity and low self esteem can speak to a man's heart because he has nothing towards maltreating his wife but if you are wise to observe, I tell you that woman called ur wife, means well and not bad. The one person to understand her more is her husband.

Pride is not what makes a man but wisdom rather.

Not unless she has stepped over the lines, then you can simply walk away. You are set over her not by just strength but by being the head. Swallow ur pride as a man and get job and get things fixed but strike her not, that is what it means for a man to be the HEAD!

At the moment this is the business that is taking care of the home, paying the rent and school fees for the children. a little help or support will not kill the man..so the woman will do all the work.and come home and still do bed work.. madam to me you are not wrong

AFONAMARO:


You do not even know the meaning of a simp, coward.

Go to bed, kids are asleep already

u are also a coward? Damn, I am sorry for u

Why would you want to insult me? Did I insult you? What is wrong in a man without good source of income supporting his wife in any venture she decides to go into to assist the family? It's people like you that tend to discourage others from a humble beginning.

benji93:
I am trying hard not to insult you for your opinion, madam. The man clearly indicated disapproval the first time. A wise wife wouldn't repeat it again unless she doesn't give a damn. Wash the plates boy. I am feeding you. That was probably the straw that broke the camel's back. You thought it was smart to bring up the example of men frying Akara with their wives. I fear you.

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

calm down dear. There's more to this story

There is always a problem when a woman becomes the bread winner of the family

Galaxydon1:
I don't see anything wrong if the Man watches plate. It's lack of understanding, so if it was the Man that runs The business won't he dish out plates for his customers. Since it's a family business i don't see anything wrong with it.

I don't see anything wrong with the fact that you are dumb

He should have added a SUPER KICK to make more brutal ..... nonsense upon foolishness

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

Will I keep quiet, see your mouth man do this man do that.
I wasn't surprised with your comment, after all what do women of nowadays know

People like you will see yout woman changing babes diaper and still want her to come dish your food out, people like you will see your woman doing yout laundry still expect the woman to do they children’s homework, people like will see that the woman is tired from work and still want to climb her, people like you don’t deserve marriage, you better go be a priest where you can expect much respect.
Oga you are not yet matured enough yo give advice in marriage.
Jus go and sit down.
Marriage is not jus respect or pride, is not about the man but the both of you. If your experience is ur idea, I reject it many times and over.
Rest this case please

Masterito:
I don't need to explain anything to you. Let experience be your teacher. Trust me you know nothing about marriage. I won't be surprised if you are single.