Samskid310:
If you said it nicely,I would nicely say no I can't.
If you say it disrespectfully,I swear I go padlock everybody inside the shop carry key comot.
Daughter of Jezebel you can't embarrass me

Hahaha.....
I feel you die bro.
You made my day!

If the man has Not been watching Plates at Home ,it will be Strange for her to ASK him to wash Plates in Public.She should have called him INSIDE and Tabled her request and Not infront of everyone .If she called him privately and politely asked,i dont think He will have reacted that way.so i cant blame the man .If he slapped her in Public,its because she humilated him in Public .Thou He over reacted by slapping her,she Hurt His emotion.its Not pride but Not all men will allow such .some men could watch Plates ,its their choice and Not Bad ,If He says He cant watch Plates ,you dont crucify him for that

habiham:
I believe if u don't tells him to do so he will definitely do cos he can clearly see you are busy , the manner u confronted him caused this try and beg him and maintain your home back put the devil to shame

The insult she dished to him is highly undeserving and bad. Majority of women are naturally rude and idiotic when a man isn't in chat financially

You've not done anything wrong.
A reasonable husband will offer to help you even without you asking for help.
If not for pride, I don't see anything wrong in him joining you in managing the restaurant pending when he gets a job, after all that's where the money for running the home comes.
Leave him, hunger will chase him back.
Get cheap labour to help you in the restaurant, dont get yourself worked up.

bepositive11:


Not true! Not all humans are cowards like her husband. There are many who would protect the vulnerable. Cowards have psychological issues to deal with. For example, low self esteem.

In fact, one of the true tests of someone's character is how they react when they have power over others.

That is your opinion which you are entitled to just like I am mine

You are not God

In my opinion all humans are Cowards one way or another

Every one has psychological issues to deal with
Protecting the vulnerable one today does not mean you will do that everyday
No human is consistently good or consistently bad or consistently brave. No one is perfect
You are not saying anything new or profound
You are just saying what makes sense TO YOU

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

The truth is, the problem didn't start from the restaurant, I guess you haven't been treating him nicely since he lost his job.

And secondly, does it mean the customers cannot wait for you to wash the plate and serve them?. The last time I checked, people wait for 10, 15, 20 minutes before been served in restaurants.

Why must your husband wash plate?, Why not ask him to help you collect money from the customers? Lol

Anyways na husband and wife matter, na small person dey talk put, but remember two wrongs don't make a right.

Don't know if this story is true or not ,or it happened seven years ago as some people claimed but lemme just pretend it's genuine.

Madam ,you were in the wrong , in fact you fvck up big time ,, your husband as portrayed is a caring man ,for him to open a restaurant for you , do school runs to assist you shows he is a nice person

But immediately he lost his bizness cos of the Scammers ,you began to demean his position as head of the home . Just imagine your write up ,he just walked in and the welcome you could give him is he should RUSH and wash dishes because you were busy ,he ignored and you went further to emphasize your demand , thereby reducing him to a servant in the establishment which he is the de facto owner in PUBLIC for that matter.
You were lucky his younger sister wasn't there to see how you intended disgracing her elder brother in public , maybe na your hot pot of stew she for take baff you .
I'm not married and don't intend to venture but if peradventure it happens ,, because of this story I wouldn't help with the dishes ,never ! If balloon waan burst mek e burst.. I rather be a short AKI AND PAWPAW than become a tall TONY UMEZ woman wrapper..

My dear Men in whatever you do , always double your hustle and have different sources of income to avoid "see finish"..

So just because you are the one footing the bill at the moment you now think you can be sending your husband unnecessary errand.

I'm not saying he can't wash plate for you but that should be his willing, not you having to send him.

Before he lost his job has he ever told you to come and assist him? At least he was the one footing the bills then.

You women and pride una be like 5 and 6.

richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate in public for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

make I hear word joor. In my area, the akara woman here runs the business with her husband cause uncle nor get job. Come and see the man pounding beans and making pap, even Washing plates cause the crowd is much and they have no extra hand. Carry head of house for head and you nor get money

Galaxydon1:
I don't see anything wrong if the Man watches plate. It's lack of understanding, so if it was the Man that runs The business won't he dish out plates for his customers. Since it's a family business i don't see anything wrong with it.

thank you I. It has now become a family business cause all house expenses are coming from there. Small boys and toxic men just full nairaland

hello sweetheart am available

hi

Ryan03:
make I hear word joor. In my area, the akara woman here runs the business with her husband cause uncle nor get job. Come and see the man pounding beans and making pap, even Washing plates cause the crowd is much and they have no extra hand. Carry head of house for head and you nor get money

Oga this isn't about head of house or anything.

If she had politely told the man at home that he should help her in the restaurant since he isn't doing anything and feeling depressed daily, that would have been different, but she chooses to tell him to go wash plates in front of her customers, the man is probably going through a lot and feeling less of himself since he can't provide for his family, maybe his friends has even jokingly insulted him too about it.
Then his wife had to make things worse by telling him to go and wash plates.
forget the nonsense u are saying, if u are in his shoes, u won't do it

IRALIFE:


I don't understand you o. Since she took over providing for the family, she couldn't pay her staff and they all left. She had to do it all alone.

It should be a family business. In fact if he helped, the business will boom more and they will have more finance for the family.

She didn't need to ask him sef, he should have just blended in. It's not demeaning. They are a team.

I don't know the manner she asked though. Probably she asked rudely. Whatever it was, I think he should have spoken to her about that rather than slap her.

Ego doesn't pay bills. You can imagine he ran away now and left the woman to take care of the children. She is also running the shop alone. Who would help to pick the children from school at least? Would she have to close shop to do that thereby loosing some customers and money in the process.

When his friend is tired of him, he will come back home and be the man he should be, addressing the main issues.

Sincerely, I understand that he's feeling bad that he can no longer take care of his family through his business. However, in times like this, he should encourage himself.

Thank God he set up the business before. Invariably, he is the one still providing for the home. He should join hands with her to make the business bloom. If he sees it this way, he will be at peace.

Shut the Fu*k up
If u were in is shoe won't u don d same
In d public sista
U dey wicked oooh

omonnakoda:
That is your opinion which you are entitled to just like I am mine

You are not God

In my opinion all humans are Cowards one way or another

Every one has psychological issues to deal with
Protecting the vulnerable one today does not mean you will do that everyday
No human is consistently good or consistently bad or consistently brave. No one is perfect
You are not saying anything new or profound
You are just saying what makes sense TO YOU

Well, whatever suits you. You are a coward, but I am not. It takes courage to not be a coward. Last reply to you.

The woman did the right thing but at the wrong time and place... This should have been discussed earlier at home --the inner room. The man will just wash the dishes with humility and support the business.

omonnakoda:
That is your opinion which you are entitled to just like I am mine

You are not God

In my opinion all humans are Cowards one way or another

Every one has psychological issues to deal with
Protecting the vulnerable one today does not mean you will do that everyday
No human is consistently good or consistently bad or consistently brave. No one is perfect
You are not saying anything new or profound
You are just saying what makes sense TO YOU

Well, whatever suits you. You are a coward, but I am not. It takes courage to not be a coward. Last reply to you on this.

AFONAMARO:


You guys should stop carrying ego and pride on your head like gala for sanity sake. Didn't you read where she stated that her husband is jobless, does nothing, and that she is the only one at the shop that feeds the family including the husband? I bet the man actually came to eat before the wife asked for his assistance which isn't a daily occurrence.

The man is wicked for allowing his wife do the dishes, serve, go to market as well as cook for public to raise money to feed same man, pay rent, pay the kids fees and run the home.
What exactly is marriage all about if not togetherness, understanding, sacrifice and genuine love?

I bath my kids, take them to school, do homework with them and run my home (finance) 100%. And my manhood did not disappear.


I pity women that marry egocentric men like you

do you have problem when reading narration or you just a disgraced to the men race??
you must be a woman mestruation.

debbydams:
It is well

longtime..

Rubbish! There is nothing bad in it. It only depends on how she said it. Maybe in a command tone or a condescending manner. What's wrong in a husband assisting her wife when he can clearly see that the wife is struggling? What's bthe big deal about washing a plate as a man? Rubbish!

Hardgun:
That's very bad telling your husband to wash plate

bepositive11:


Well, whatever suits you. You are a coward, but I am not. It takes courage to not be a coward. Last reply to you on this.

Declaring that you are or are not a coward does not make or unmake what you are or what I am

Why you need to take this so personal is confusing but instructive.

You do not know me. You come online exchange a few posts and you tell me what I am.

Guy, calm down I have no struggle with you I just said what I think and you see it a different way. I respect that. I did not address my thoughts to you

When the time comes in YOUR life PROVE you are not a coward. Don't TELL me you are not a coward. I really do not care.

DaCharis2016:
What's totally bad? Considering the pressure on her she mentioned. I think her asking for her husband's help was justified.

There's no any justification.. I can only offer help willingly.. Not telling me to wash dish..I won't wash and I won't come to that shop again..We both born the Pipkin.. She should take care of them and leave me..

Na mumu you be. Didn't you read where she said she has taken up the financial responsibility of the house using the proceeds from the restaurant?
What other gains are you looking for?

Hotshisha:


I payed 100k to rent a shop

I payed an extra 100 k to buy plastic chairs, table and accessories for interior

I bought gas stove, microwave, cutlery, and food stuff almost 100k

Gave the wife another 100k working capital

All in all I spent 500k on a business venture or $1200 USD on a business venture I earned zero Kobo from( 1.2k is minimum wage of hard labour in USA) and annual income in Nigeria

Yet I am told to wash plates for the customers and I should not get angry and slap the person degrading me because I want to be a real man

I won't slap her , I'll take over my business with receipt and proof of payments I made starting up the business, I'll start washing the damn plates and keeping my profits for my damn self, for 50k I'll get an excellent cook in Lagos and run a proper business, let her go and ask her father and elders in their village to wash plate after buying her plates and business so she can survive




.

DaCharis2016:
It's simply an understanding the husband lacks. Would she ever ask him to wash dishes at home? That was purely on a business/hustling ground. What if the wife can't manage the restaurant, then the husband would had lost so much and they would be starve.

The husband doesn't know the value of what he has.

Pls move this post to FP @admin

Abeg forget..because I broke..Are should be mumu..Some men self...

richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate in public for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

When we say the brain of majority of women is naturally dull, they say we hate women.

richmond500:
So in summary, U tell ur husband to go wash plates so u can serve ur customers?

like him go sit down carry sponge wash plate in public for u for restaurant weh him open for u?
Is that really what I read or I missed some part?

When we say the brain of majority of women is naturally dull, they say we hate women...

Truth is . . .there's actually nothing wrong with the man assisting with washing the plates, but I'm very sure the problem was how she asked... My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve . . .From this quote you can tell that madam was already getting fed up that Oga does nothing but sit at home and maybe bring the kids from school . . .so she was already cooking up what to say to him the next time he shows up at the restaurant . . .a good thing she even acknowledged that he opened the restaurant for her. . . Sometimes it is not what you say, but how you say it that matters!

Since the man is job hunting, I see no why he shouldn't join his wife to run the eatery together. The slap scenerio wouldn't have happened or ever be taught of. There will be proper division of labor and more hands will be employed.
As for the slap scenerio, both of them are wrong. Why ask your husband to wash plate in front of your customers? I believe she asked him in an inappropriate tone that warranted a slap from her husband.

Olaideolayemi:
longtime..

abi o

omonnakoda:
Declaring that you are or are not a coward does not make or unmake what you are or what I am

Why you need to take this so personal is confusing but instructive.

You do not know me. You come online exchange a few posts and you tell me what I am.

Guy, calm down I have no struggle with you I just said what I think and you see it a different way. I respect that. I did not address my thoughts to you

When the time comes in YOUR life PROVE you are not a coward. Don't TELL me you are not a coward. I really do not care.

Going back on my last statement. I'm replying
My point is you can't generalize anything or anyone. There are always exceptions. I'm not declaring not being a coward. I live my life that way.

Anyway, tired of the pointless back and forth. Let's just stop here.

I want to assume it was the manner in which the woman asked him.

There's a way to approach a man when it comes to doing domestic chores especially a man who just lost his means of livelihood.

It takes a lot of wisdom cos already, the man is feeling less of himself and his ego hurt cos he can't provide d way he used to..

May God help d family and everyone of us.

Sebastine1994:
madam you are a fool


when I was job hunting, every body was my enemy, I never smiled, everybody was a suspect.

put your self in his shoes.

societal expectations and other pressure, plus all the subtle body language insult you are giving him.

it means you are busy while he is lazy.

This is a recycled story and I wonder if it's true.
Anyway, that aside have you tried to put yourself in her shoes?
She's also going through a lot to provide for the family, with a dwindling business. She cannot afford to pay her staff and she's the only one working and serving customers at the same time.
Your partner should support you. She was obviously already stressed and overwhelmed alone during the rush hour, and was relieved to see a savior in her husband. A saviour who has come to help her in the shop, heaven sent at the right time during rush hour.
Unfortunately, he turned out to be the devil himself.
He even slapped her on top, despite all her efforts.
That's the only source of income for their family for now o. There's nothing bad if he joins her in the business, as a staff.
He even abandoned her with the children. Is that not wickedness?
I'm sure he came to the shop to have his lunch and be served and catered to.
Who else should volunteer to wash the plates, if not him?
Even if the business isn't going so great, that's the only thing feeding them for now o.
Anyway, everyone's thinking process is different sha.