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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Weathered: 6:33am On May 26, 2021
Lovelyn451:
biggest fool of the last decade!!! Extend the insults and hatred to your mum for failing to instil discipline in you
this is the old port Harcourt olosho when community dick done bend like question mark.

She's the true life version of the Samaritan woman Jesus met at the well.

Your mama go collect award for raising the unflinching, indiscriminate Mandingo bender

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by africandollar: 6:33am On May 26, 2021
Augla1:
Just as you said if you leave it, it will grow 'week by day'. You know what Geometric progression is

grin Yeye. Twitter savage sited.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by imagrg(m): 6:33am On May 26, 2021
I had same challenge when I married my now late wife (she died last month). It's not easy getting her to breakup a relationship that was established on long-term, but I did.
First, I let her understand how such attachment could breakup our marriage; next, I got her impregnated fast...at least, that kept her busy with herself and somewhat made the bestie see the reality of her change in status. Then gradually, her attachment to the bestie waned with time and she became more and more attached to me.
Here are some tips for you:
*Please, remember to jerk her always and make sure you make her 'come' any time you do that.
*Give her much attention and let her know you care. And please do that passionately. I did that for 25 years and won my wife's heart for close to 24 years before she passed away recently. Our children called us, 'Romeo and Juliet'.
*Try as much as possible to take her out on picnics often.
*Buy her gifts, like panties, 'legins', anything you think would catch her fancy.
*You can have a quarrel with her but don't EVER beat her up, no matter how provoked you may be. Just put on a shirt and walk out and when you come back in the evening make sure you come home with 'suya' or any other mouth-watering snacks for her. If she refuses to eat it, please, pet her and apologise to her even if she's the one who wronged you. Feed her!
*Remember, your wife is your bestie, close confidant, your new mother (Yes, I called mine, Mummy and she called me Daddy), and she is your FIRST CHILD! Pamper her the much you can and she will pass same love to the children who in turn will show you both, love and care!
*Though you have the right to be jealous, but don't take it to the extreme please.
Adopt these approach, and have a good and long-lasting married life, boy!
By the way, how old are you?

*if you need have any question to ask, you can chat me up on WhatsApp: ZERO SEVEN ZERO EIGHT FOUR SEVEN NINE THREE ZERO SEVEN EIGHT.

I wish you and your new wife a Happy Married Life.

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by imagrg(m): 6:35am On May 26, 2021
I had same challenge when I married my now late wife (she died last month). It's not easy getting her to breakup a relationship that was established on long-term, but I did.
First, I let her understand how such attachment could breakup our marriage; next, I got her impregnated fast...at least, that kept her busy with herself and somewhat made the bestie see the reality of her change in status. Then gradually, her attachment to the bestie waned with time and she became more and more attached to me.
Here are some tips for you:
*Please, remember to jerk her always and make sure you make her 'come' any time you do that.
*Give her much attention and let her know you care. And please do that passionately. I did that for 25 years and won my wife's heart for close to 24 years before she passed away recently. Our children called us, 'Romeo and Juliet'.
*Try as much as possible to take her out on picnics often.
*Buy her gifts, like panties, 'legins', anything you think would catch her fancy.
*You can have a quarrel with her but don't EVER beat her up, no matter how provoked you may be. Just put on a shirt and walk out and when you come back in the evening make sure you come home with 'suya' or any other mouth-watering snacks for her. If she refuses to eat it, please, pet her and apologise to her even if she's the one who wronged you. Feed her!
*Remember, your wife is your bestie, close confidant, your new mother (Yes, I called mine, Mummy and she called me Daddy), and she is your FIRST CHILD! Pamper her the much you can and she will pass same love to the children who in turn will show you both, love and care!
*Though you have the right to be jealous, but don't take it to the extreme please.
Adopt these approach, and have a good and long-lasting married life, boy!
By the way, how old are you?

I wish you and your new wife a Happy Married Life.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Mr5050(m): 6:35am On May 26, 2021
Bro keep her busy with belle before she go pass the nine months assignment finish she no fit remember where her bestie dey cos oyibo say idle mind is a devil's workshop.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by CSTRR: 6:35am On May 26, 2021
Why would you marry a 22 year old?

How Many of them get sense?

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by blahc007: 6:35am On May 26, 2021
ABANGWABOI:


The guy you quoted is a big fool..
Look at the nonsense he listed that a man should do or pass thru so as to have a good marriage.. wife wey man use money marry and still dey pay her bills..
Men of this generation are mostly Idiotic..
If she can't Submit, do not Commit.. na my watchword be that .

My Son....you see why Most of you don't succeed in any thing?
You don't handle everything with a strong hand....the girl is too young to understand life inside Marriage, that's why most times wifing older ladies reduces stress in marriage,cos they tend to understand more...

The Marriage has happened already, your patience and diplomacy in handling issues of life is required here...
wisdom is profitable to direct.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by jaxxy(m): 6:37am On May 26, 2021
Rubbiish:

Let that close friend be female & not a male!

Some gals don’t like female besties. Lol

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by kayluv95: 6:39am On May 26, 2021
Jeon:


hi

don't marry you pple will not listen..
Leemaahooo ���
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by cardoctor(m): 6:40am On May 26, 2021
Bestie ke?
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Ikpongiton: 6:40am On May 26, 2021
BadBradley:
a 22 year old isn't old enough for marriage?

You want them to be prostituting and become an old dejected lovlorn-shrew like you?

Old frustrated feminists like you won't allow these young girls breathe except you corrupt them and level the playing field for oold oafs like you whose pussy is as dry as the biblical wilderness.

Many women now see their menopause in their 30s, but a damaged community object like you would even encourage a woman to keep close male friends in their marriage when it is clear the male friend wants only one thing.

Na God go punish bitter old olosho like you.
what did amazon said, that makes you to caustic-tongued her in this manner.she does not deserve this insult at all.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Weathered: 6:40am On May 26, 2021
DonBenny77:

22 year old girl never ready to marry, I wonder why e pain you like that.
You are the bitter and lousy fellow
this one na Donekpa!!!

Pussified aboki abi na westernised idiot
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Hassanmaye(m): 6:42am On May 26, 2021
positivevibez:
If you are not careful she may kill you because of that guy I'm speaking from experience.
Blood of Zachariah! Are you sure
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by blahc007: 6:42am On May 26, 2021
imagrg:
I had same challenge when I married my now late wife (she died last month). It's not easy getting her to breakup a relationship that was established on long-term, but I did.
First, I let her understand how such attachment could breakup our marriage; next, I got her impregnated fast...at least, that kept her busy with herself and somewhat made the bestie see the reality of her change in status. Then gradually, her attachment to the bestie waned with time and she became more and more attached to me.
Here are some tips for you:
*Please, remember to jerk her always and make sure you make her 'come' any time you do that.
*Give her much attention and let her know you care. And please do that passionately. I did that for 25 years and won my wife's heart for close to 24 years before she passed away recently. Our children called us, 'Romeo and Juliet'.
*Try as much as possible to take her out on picnics often.
*Buy her gifts, like panties, 'legins', anything you think would catch her fancy.
*You can have a quarrel with her but don't EVER beat her up, no matter how provoked you may be. Just put on a shirt and walk out and when you come back in the evening make sure you come home with 'suya' or any other mouth-watering snacks for her. If she refuses to eat it, please, pet her and apologise to her even if she's the one who wronged you. Feed her!
*Remember, your wife is your bestie, close confidant, your new mother (Yes, I called mine, Mummy and she called me Daddy), and she is your FIRST CHILD! Pamper her the much you can and she will pass same love to the children who in turn will show you both, love and care!
*Though you have the right to be jealous, but don't take it to the extreme please.
Adopt these approach, and have a good and long-lasting married life, boy!
By the way, how old are you?

I wish you and your new wife a Happy Married Life.

I love this... Maturity at play here...
Few men has the patience to handle a woman...our present day men knows only the forceful way...Submit or I leave the marriage..
They forgot that the relationship was in existence before the marriage happened...just wisdom with patience is needed to handle such a young home.

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by skillmyman(m): 6:43am On May 26, 2021
she chose to marry you despite having the bestie for so many years.
bros relax. dont suffer inferiority complex.
she called the guy in your presence and said what she said.
dont think there is anything going on bro so relax.

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by bafsonbaf: 6:44am On May 26, 2021
b3llo:
This kind battle no be child's play. That besty must have shared a lot of common interest with her. You have to be intentional and deliberate in order to scatter that friendship.
There is nothing good about besties for a married woman. I have been one and we knack anyhow! We enjoy our bestie life before she finally married and I cutoff!
Konji na bastard! There is always risky for a guy bestie close to a married woman
The next thing na knack
Anyhow anyhow just stop them
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Joromi1: 6:45am On May 26, 2021
ABUPHARM:

How does stockholm syndrome get into this now?
That's why she can't get over her ex.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Hassanmaye(m): 6:46am On May 26, 2021
Pzpropertylimit:
Hmmm the wife is meant to obey u . U may just develop heart attack and the end u know yet she will be alive to enjoy her life . Oh if na me , I will continue telling her that I am not comfortable with her continue that relationship with the guy . If she insists , she will just see my divorce letter . Before she kills u , do the needful pls . Women are evil !
Are you sure they are evil do you have bad experience with them ni
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Johnlegacy57: 6:46am On May 26, 2021
AmazonTopaz:
You married a 22 year old that may not be mature for marriage and is supposed to be free living her best life.

You said she is a jovial person so that is how she is and besides she knew that guy as a friend before meeting you so you gotta accommodate that.The only problem is that she isn't mature enough to know that there should be boundaries and she shouldn't over do it.It is a good thing that she is open to you about it.

She is still young and don't cage her because of marriage or that she should let go of someone she has known for years because she married you.

Just tell her to minimise it and draw boundaries.

My mom married at the age of 19 and you are saying a 22 year old is not mature for marriage.

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Hassanmaye(m): 6:47am On May 26, 2021
SangoOlukosoOba:
Yiu need find a lasting solution.

Contract the besties life to people who can terminate his existence.

You wont spend over 200k and he will be forever missing.
Haha wickedness
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Johnlegacy57: 6:47am On May 26, 2021
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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by summerflame(m): 6:50am On May 26, 2021
AishaYesufu:

Too many weaklings and simps parading as men.


Too many evening newspapers feminist exhibiting their over drilled and over elasticated community borehole coupled with their stupidity ..
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by summerflame(m): 6:51am On May 26, 2021
Petyprince:
Good one... I wonder how people find it hard to stop their wives from doing wrong things.

My kinda person my wife can't insult me by insisting she must keep a male bestie.

She can hide it but lemme not find out! Cause she will explain to me if that friend is more important to our marriage.

Then i will know my next line of action.

Na man u be

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by system21: 6:52am On May 26, 2021
Am talking from experience, what op have is community wife not his wife.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by summerflame(m): 6:52am On May 26, 2021
Tugee:


Don't use your mothers standards to judge other women.

Bros, u are doing well
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by karnap(m): 6:53am On May 26, 2021
Sundrus:
If u truly want make that friendship wane out naturally, become friend with that her bestie.
grin if you don't take.this advise, no one here will give you more than this one
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Fiscus105(m): 6:53am On May 26, 2021
Casalindal:
Reading through comments I can’t help it but laugh at some people poor stage of mind.... hello Op you don’t have to worry about your wife and her bestie, most girls keep gays guys mostly as bestie and trust they feel more safe having them around. I have a male bestie and he is one of the best thing that have ever happen to me. Your wife bestie probably have shared deepest things and darkest moments together, don’t take that away from her please it will hurt her badly.

I am married and my best friend is a guy and I love him so much you don’t want to even imagine. The difference with me is I have learnt to balance both. I feel you should help your wife learn how to balance both relationships and trust me gay bestie are the best ever.....

Don’t allow people here who are so backward and who live in carve pollute your mind.. Kim has a male bestie and you never see him come in between her marriage?? Please enjoy your marriage and take away this worries there are not needed at all.


I did not pity you o, but the guy you called ur husband
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by owowa145(m): 6:59am On May 26, 2021
Well, the friendship will grow year by the week on it's own undecided Isiewu. Jokes apart, she got to listen to u if she truly values d marriage.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by owowa145(m): 7:00am On May 26, 2021
Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

Well, the friendship will grow year by the week on it's own undecided Isiewu. Jokes apart, she got to listen to u if she truly values d marriage.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Revolva(m): 7:02am On May 26, 2021
Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

You are in trouble....ooo this ur marriage to a 22 years ...what does a 22 years have upstairs,.....they are so childish in relationship

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Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by owowa145(m): 7:03am On May 26, 2021
armyofone:
@ 22, she should be in college or pursuing/building up her career - don't you think so ?

Haven't you heard that Nigeria men now want a career wife ? If at 22 she is married, where is the time to accomplish that ?

Nigga, Omotola got married at 17yrs and that didn't stop her education and career path in her hubby's house... Get sense pls.
Re: Cutting The Connection Between My Wife And Her Male Besty by Hassanmaye(m): 7:05am On May 26, 2021
Casalindal:





You think that would help?? My male bestie even came over to live with us when I put to birth and it was one of The best days of our friendship. You do not be rational but apply logic. They both share a bond trust me male (gay) bestie are the best
What do you mean they share A bond

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