frozen70:


You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her

baralatie:

You guys are really messed up psychologically

Vision101:
@frozen70

You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her


@me
Correct comment jare. If someone opens his can of worms and the lady holds it against him nko. It happened in the past and so long as it's not happening now what is your problem?

If you are such a saint why did you pregnant her without official marriage. How many ashawo, sugar mummy, one chance pussy, first fruit pusy did you bleep before knowing her.

What do you want now? Leave her with the stigma of a lady that had baby outside wedlock and voom you will move to the next victim.

If you refuse to marry her I will call you a BAD GUY. A complete chop and run.

kenoyad:

No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. Ii just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.

Kobicove:
Are you trying to say that you did not make some mistakes also while you were growing up?

Kingcalls:



Most of u women still don't get it...u all complain that men treat women like trash...this is the reason y... a woman's past determines how men will treat them... all men are the same in this aspect... if u have 4kd a married man in the past or hv had multiple partners in the past, just forget it, no man, I repeat, no man will treat u special...they might pretend , but in their hearts , u are not worth it, to them u are just a vessel for their kids...all men take a woman's past extremely serious... so u women can keep on decieving urselves calling it " in the past" " do not judge " " its the woke generation " .....

VeeVeeMyLuv:
men are also part of the problem

Especially those ones that their life mission is to sleep with as many women as possible in their teen and 20s.

This women that they are thoroughly recklessly bleeping won't they marry too? Or be mother to children in the future?

THIS IS THE RESULT of such reckless habit

baralatie:
Explain that part of been caught? Op never said he caught her with the man?

baralatie:


Op did not sleep with other women

Baiser:

The girl u slept with before you married your wife, no be person go marry am too?


Point is, the only worry you have to worry is the bloody lying....

MOBBDEEP:


Albeit strange as it sounds, I share same sentiment
I'm even presently towing almost same path, perhaps not as hardlined as you are
Because, somewhere someplace & sometime, I know there are good females.
Those with golden heart
Good heart has no preference for gender
It is a rare quality among both gender

kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.

ABANGWABOI:
You can never get over it Weakling..

She would still sleep around again and give you another man seed to raise...

Your premium tears would be sweet to behold by then.
Effeminate kid..

ugodson:
Guy my advice is simply DONT MARRY OUT OF PITY. I did dat to myself and now we are separated and she took my kids away. When we were dating I noticed it but I said to myself she has tried and I really did love her. We got married and she cheated on me not only once. Even if we are separated the betrayal cannot leave the head am telling you.
I will take your advice serious sir

Second advice is to pray. I pray you don't regret it now you have d chance of walking away with just 1 child.
When you guys have 3/4 what will u now do.

Finally brother,the truth is that it will Never leave your head

Ategberoson:
I'm not in the position to advise on this topic but I will never marry a lady that is not a virgin and I will never stay with a caught cheating partner



my love life get as e be, I don't forgive rubbish and nonsense. if I love you and your betrayed me, it means no more togetherness on my side



Pastor Adeboye, Bishop Oyedepo and other pastors I respected reconciliation will not even change my mind when I caught a lady cheating on me


cheating na unforgivable sin and I cannot marry you with your past, go and meet those you featured in that nonsense past. they enjoy you free, make I come pay money? it will never happened

Kingcalls:



Most of u women still don't get it...u all complain that men treat women like trash...this is the reason y... a woman's past determines how men will treat them... all men are the same in this aspect... if u have 4kd a married man in the past or hv had multiple partners in the past, just forget it, no man, I repeat, no man will treat u special...they might pretend , but in their hearts , u are not worth it, to them u are just a vessel for their kids...all men take a woman's past extremely serious... so u women can keep on decieving urselves calling it " in the past" " do not judge " " its the woke generation " .....

DissTroy:


Not everyone wants to be with a woman who has a very promiscuous past, or didn't respect the institution of marriage enough not to date married men. A woman who doesn't respect it enough to draw that line has no qualms cheating when married.

Most of the married woman cheating slept with married men as singles. The have a warped way of justifying the adultery.

Stop gaslighting men into accepting and dating/marrying damaged women. You wouldn't be with a damaged man yourself if you have better options.

frozen70:


You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her

notok:

She lied about sleeping with him before meeting the OP. she lied about her past

wellingtongrey:
Well, i understand that we handle things differently. Especially issues regarding emotion. I had similar issues back then, but it was something that had happened before i met her.

In my own case , my wife's aunty's husband has been having sex with her since she was in SS1 (about 15years old) and she was living with them. Imagine that kinda constant sex , over several years . And the man was about 34 years older than my wife. In other word, when she was 15 , the man was about 49. Lol!
I suspected (based on the man's lifestyle and wife's sexual frequency) but she denied it ever happened. After 3years , she told me that my guessed back then was very correct ... and she told me everything. I just smiled. But instead of hating my wife for what happened in the past , i stopped relating with the man(including greetings) . I just hate him for what he did to her at that age.

Op, if she is a good lady/ you have affections for her , then forget the issue of sex in the past and do the right thing.

frozen70:


So if all men takes a woman's past seriously, women should take men's past joking

frozen70:


Every one has a past

Kingcalls:


Akuko.... if u ladies think that is what will b used to forget ur past, u are indeed on a loooooong thing....

Kingcalls:


U women watch out if a man has enough money to take care of himself and raise a family... what happens to a man that wasted his money on u women...who will marry him ??