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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by frozen70(f): 7:40pm On Jun 10
loteliz:
This is the only person that actually read the post so far. OP is indeed hurting himself.

You are absolutely right
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by OgaSeun: 7:50pm On Jun 10
Okay. Cheat. Make it known to her. Don't apologise.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Laideabdulahi: 7:56pm On Jun 10
anthonyuncle:
get a side chick

Gbam!!!
Op, no need to search for answer.
This is it
Or
F.. k another sweet younger lesss body count babe.

And the equation will be balanced
Infact you will find yourself less worried and. Smiling each time u come home
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Laideabdulahi: 8:00pm On Jun 10
Orelafintun:
My man, please get it quickly out of you mind and love your wife. You are feeling like that because you know about it. Others outside there might even slept with demons not to talk of older men. Your wife may even be better than others. Therefore, love her the more.[b] In fact, remembering how she was being bleeped might set you on and you then cane her well. [/b]That is jokingly. Pls love her
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 8:30pm On Jun 10
Laideabdulahi:


Gbam!!!
Op, no need to search for answer.
This is it
Or
F.. k another sweet younger lesss body count babe.

And the equation will be balanced
Infact you will find yourself less worried and. Smiling each time u come home
How is two complete wrongs make it right for either of them
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Oyindidi(f): 8:34pm On Jun 10
You marry all the girls you sleep with?
Oga if you no like her baggage free her abeg.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by WowSweetGuy(m): 8:47pm On Jun 10
Mr Emotions
grin
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Baiser(m): 8:49pm On Jun 10
baralatie:

How is she a terrible person?
When she dated other men before they met?
She dated married men, then lied and when caught she still dey form
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 8:56pm On Jun 10
Baiser:

She dated married men, then lied and when caught she still dey form
She dated a married man.did tat relationship lead to her getting married to the man in question.did she have a child for the married man.how does a single woman who dated a married man make her a terrible person?

She said in the beginning that they were not dating and you guys say she got caught!
How was she caught because there is no where the op said he caught her cheating with the married man!
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by EndRape2(f): 9:51pm On Jun 10
She did that when she was single, you should only be bothered if she did it
in marriege .

Also I will advice her not to marry you, poeple with unforgiving spirit and heart should not go into Marriage, Marriage is two forgivers living together.


You are an unforgiving soul, no woman should come close to you.


Go and look for a virgin to marry, still another man might sleep with her in marriage, she can even be raped sef.









uotee author=kenoyad post=102548876]I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.[/quote]

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Vision101(m): 10:02pm On Jun 10
@Kingcalls

Simp ur way out of here abeg ...unrepentant simp.



@me
I don gree I'm an unrepentant simp. I will not destroy someone's daughter to show that I'm smart.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by henchc(m): 10:17pm On Jun 10
here is my own advice. Some times we should first remove the log in our eyes before judging others.
How many girls did you break their hearts before meeting your wife? did she tell you that she is a virgin? Put yourself in her shoes before judging her!!!! She may have dated a married man, but did you ever wonder how the married man treated and cared for her? Some times its easier to judge people. you didnt tell us about yourself before exposing your wife.
Besides most men met their wives when they were dating other men! and for the sake of love they wrestled (won the ladies heart) by going extra mile to show extra love.
rather than hurting yourself, show her more love if you truely love her you will see things turn around positively. some girls may not have slept with married men, but they have slept with multiple boys and yet some of you marry them.

lastly stop bringing your family issues to platform like this, matured men dont do that.

love can be built, improved. have a large heart to forgive and move on.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Cunnilingus(m): 11:14pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:

No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. Ii just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.

Oga move on forget that lady. God is warning you now oh. That lady smell like trouble
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by BRATISLAVA: 11:15pm On Jun 10
DissTroy:


Not everyone wants to be with a man who has a very promiscuous past, or didn't respect the institution of marriage enough not to date married women. A man who doesn't respect it enough to draw that line has no qualms cheating when married.

Most of the married men cheating slept with married women as singles. The have a warped way of justifying the adultery.

Stop gaslighting women into accepting and dating/marrying damaged men. You wouldn't be with a damaged man yourself if you have better options.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Xkale1234(m): 11:43pm On Jun 10
Leave her and look for a decent lady
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Vaiki(m): 12:09am On Jun 11
Don't marry her! She is still keeping secret lovers and they are married men. Save yourself the heartache
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Mckhala80: 12:48am On Jun 11
So sad my brother , i'm a victim of this same situation but yours is better as it only lasted for 3yrs but mine was 8yrs with a young daughter. Under my roof it happened and i wasn't aware until feb14 (val) 2021. Call +2347033692393 and hear my advice . You can't kill yourself cos the future they say is female.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by armyofone(m): 5:25am On Jun 11
How many ladies did you do before you met her - your lost ribs?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by BRATISLAVA: 6:06am On Jun 11
baralatie:

Explain that part of been caught?
Op never said he caught her with the man?

Many comments from men on this forum are just because they hate and want to disparage women at all costs. They just need to to put out something misogynistic.

You can see they don't read before commenting.

And none of them will answer you. If they do, they will be speechless and weak to comment again.

OP is a liar right from his topic. He's just one of those red pill men who believe they can control women's sex lives before they meet them, and carry it on their head like most of their do called kings do.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by chachanga: 6:15am On Jun 11
3 years of fornicating with her with a child as proof and you're still bothered another man got in there before you.

If you could get her legs open, what's to have stopped another man doing such earlier?

And she's still with you.

Forget the past except she's still living that life. Move on into your future and go make her a righteous woman.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by ohynedar(f): 7:42am On Jun 11
OP, do not let the type of mistake that almost everyone makes before they marry these days destroy what you have with your woman. Even though she said it without remorse, it's still true that she probably had to flow with the happenings in her life then which I strongly believe she isn't proud of hence the reason for her denial at first.
Please find a place in your heart to forgive her, think of her in a different light and help her overcome the everlasting heartache that it would cause. One more thing though...

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by ECHICHE: 7:59am On Jun 11
You can still right the wrongs in ur marriage. She may hv behaved like that out of frustration of not properly married......with a child.

1. Look for a good marriage counselor to counsel you & ur wife without further delay.

2. Pay her bride price & Complete all marriage requirements as per ur capacity.

3. Make out time to talk to ur wife, if possible take her out. She will listen.

4. Be open to her. Work on yourself, make adjustments where necessary. Be patient with her. With time, she will change, & you will enjoy ur marriage.

5. Both of you should be prayerful & trust God for a successful marriage.

May God strengthen you & bless ur marriage.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Mindlog: 8:32am On Jun 11
HigherEd:
What you need is a therapist to help you deal with this.
I can recommend a therapist for you from Medicbird Nigeria. It's just 6000 naira per hour.

N6,000 per hour?.....Hmm
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by jamesfield: 8:36am On Jun 11
shocked
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by kenoyad: 5:20pm On Jun 11
baralatie:

I think the op is not revealing much?
I am even wondering how the woman now came out to tell him
Was it as a result of constant pressing on the issue for the 3 years and she finally gave in!
Then the mother pleasing on her behalf means it has become a known issue between the woman,her mom and herself.
Therefore the op has deliberately tampered with the story of what actually happened?
I didn't alter the story, it's just a summary, psychologically, I saw the guy on her friends list on Facebook and I challenged her then, she denied, I forgot it, then just early this year, i was seeing the guy and we just greets, hey, hey. My mind just started telling me what i felt before about them had flirt together before, what gave me the motive was, the guy na oshomo and my baby mama na flashy, happening sisi then, one morning, we both on the street cause she's travelling and the guy was passing on bike, we greeted and I noticed my woman eyes changed and said who are you calling egbon and the guy also looked back at her. I confronted her that you think I didn't knew you both had had fling in the past, she then admitted, I was mad but kept my cool. I couldn't sleep that night. How her mum knew: since then, I always yab her, insults her and even told her to pack and leave severally but her mama don't want that for her cause she also had kids for two men. She called me one day that she wanted to see me, and I told her but she'd been briefed by her daughter before. She apologised and beg that I should let the matter go off my mind and count it as when she don't know what she's doing.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by detectivejones(m): 5:25pm On Jun 11
You need to let go of whatever she did in the past, BTW you need a counsellor and I can recommend one for you
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by kenoyad: 5:30pm On Jun 11
[quote author=ECHICHE post=102602109]You can still right the wrongs in ur marriage. She may hv behaved like that out of frustration of not properly married......with a child.

1. Look for a good marriage counselor to counsel you & ur wife without further delay.

2. Pay her bride price & Complete all marriage requirements as per ur capacity.

3. Make out time to talk to ur wife, if possible take her out. She will listen.

4. Be open to her. Work on yourself, make adjustments where necessary. Be patient with her. With time, she will change, & you will enjoy ur marriage.

5. Both of you should be prayerful & trust God for a successful marriage.

May God strengthen you & bless ur marriage. [/quot
e]
Thank you, God bless you.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 7:47pm On Jun 11
kenoyad:

I didn't alter the story, it's just a summary, psychologically, I saw the guy on her friends list on Facebook and I challenged her then, she denied, I forgot it, then just early this year, i was seeing the guy and we just greets, hey, hey. My mind just started telling me what i felt before about them had flirt together before, what gave me the motive was, the guy na oshomo and my baby mama na flashy, happening sisi then, one morning, we both on the street cause she's travelling and the guy was passing on bike, we greeted and I noticed my woman eyes changed and said who are you calling egbon and the guy also looked back at her. I confronted her that you think I didn't knew you both had had fling in the past, she then admitted, I was mad but kept my cool. I couldn't sleep that night. How her mum knew: since then, I always yab her, insults her and even told her to pack and leave severally but her mama don't want that for her cause she also had kids for two men. She called me one day that she wanted to see me, and I told her but she'd been briefed by her daughter before. She apologised and beg that I should let the matter go off my mind and count it as when she don't know what she's doing.
What was the sole aim of you going about looking for yours woman's past for the past three years!

1: you went on a stranger's phone and pick the man's face and linked it instantly bro your woman

2: you developed familiarity with the man.only for you to fuel your fears

3: you now ended with a near miss between you,the man and your woman

4: at end she told you what you wanted to hear after 3 years.and what did it result into?

5: you are kicking your woman with child out of your house
5b: you are nagging
5c:you are Fighting
5d: you can't sleep
5e:you are still not happy
5f: you are worse off

So my question to you is this? What has the information about your woman past that you have been pursuing for over three years solved

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by kenoyad: 8:57pm On Jun 11
baralatie:

What was the sole aim of you going about looking for yours woman's past for the past three years!

1: you went on a stranger's phone and pick the man's face and linked it instantly bro your woman

2: you developed familiarity with the man.only for you to fuel your fears

3: you now ended with a near miss between you,the man and your woman

4: at end she told you what you wanted to hear after 3 years.and what did it result into?

5: you are kicking your woman with child out of your house
5b: you are nagging
5c:you are Fighting
5d: you can't sleep
5e:you are still not happy
5f: you are worse off

So my question to you is this? What has the information about your woman past that you have been pursuing for over three years solved
I am depressed, not happy and I want to get over it and love her the more and put that incident behind. I only need to get over it and I don't know how to.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Baiser(m): 4:41am On Jun 12
baralatie:

She dated a married man.did tat relationship lead to her getting married to the man in question.did she have a child for the married man.how does a single woman who dated a married man make her a terrible person?

She said in the beginning that they were not dating and you guys say she got caught!
How was she caught because there is no where the op said he caught her cheating with the married man!


You are supporting nonsense.
Dating a married man means you want to destroy a home, unless of course you intend getting married.

Destroying a good thing makes one a terrible person.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 10:03am On Jun 12
Baiser:



You are supporting nonsense.
Dating a married man means you want to destroy a home, unless of course you intend getting married.

Destroying a good thing makes one a terrible person.


My question to you is this ?
Did she end up destroying the alleged man's marriage?
Did she have children for the married man?
Did she not end that relationship with the man before they met?
Did the op not allege that the married man in question is a womanizer and known for extra marital affairs outside his own home?

Did she destroy the man's home?but check it out now !the op is the one destroying if not already destroyed his own home by his own self !

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