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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Ishilove: 2:33pm On Jun 10
southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert
Ogbeni goan siddon o jare.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by ceede2: 2:34pm On Jun 10
tydi:

What should had made me more happier??
Remember I said exxxxxx
Ex. Case close.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Lovablepanther: 2:34pm On Jun 10
SoftP:
Dude, kindly change the headline;

How to get over ur Baby mama or girlfriend’s trauma Not wife,
Whatever u wrote up there is for real Men, not small boys with teddy brains

Presently u’ve no moral right to question her fidelity, besides u didn’t met her a virgin’
I’m sure she was only considering ur emotions, the reason she lied to you initially.

You’ve had a kid with her for 3years and she didn’t dump u to forge ahead!
& her mum is still calm enough to pamper ur feelings,
O boy u get mind.

I guess U’re just fetching reasons to dump her; u need serious flogging

angry angry angry angry angry As in eh cool That kind Fulani flogging
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Casham: 2:35pm On Jun 10
I always bragged about how I can't bear to even touch a lady that's been bedded by another man. But recently, shawty just told me about a man she dated not more than three years ago(we actually saw him passing by) who was twice her age at the time and married. She was eighteen then. I was/am so heartbroken about it and I just withdrew myself from her. But, instead of hating her for that (I am dissappointed), I hated the man. Why would you just sleep with a girl that you know will be someone's joy some day? So you see, it is a Human problem not limited to one gender. Humans are weaklings when it comes to sexual purity. Even as a man, I wish never to have more than five body counts. But just put it in your mind that "every lady is DEFINITELY getting cocked by someone. The next lady you will meet is probably having an orgy with two married men right now. Nobody is a saint; the world don rotty already. With my shawty, there's nothing to forgive; she's still my joy. I understand how you feel, but this is life.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:35pm On Jun 10
southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert
you are seriously doing yourself

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by TWLifestyle: 2:37pm On Jun 10
southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:38pm On Jun 10
GeneralPula:
Seems you’ve mistakenly got married to a Hoe, the sad thing for you is that hoes don’t retire..

This is what you get when you form a mature boyfriend by not running the necessary checks on your woman..

My advice is toxic. Don’t let me give it..
The point of correction is this!
They are currently not married to this point in time from the time past before he met her

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:41pm On Jun 10
Casham:
I always bragged about how I can't bear to even touch a lady that's been bedded by another man. But recently, shawty just told me about a man she dated not more than three years ago(we actually saw him passing by) who was twice her age at the time and married. She was eighteen then. Ok I was/am so heartbroken about it and I just withdrew myself from her. But, instead of hating her for that (I am dissappointed), I hated the man. Why would you just sleep with a girl that you know will be someone's joy some day? So you see, it is a Human problem not limited to one gender. Humans are weaklings when it comes to sexual purity. Even as a man, I wish never to have more than five body counts. But just put it in your mind that "every lady is DEFINITELY getting cocked by someone. The next lady you will meet is probably having an orgy with two married men right now. Nobody is a saint; the world don rotty already. With my shawty, there's nothing to forgive; she's still my joy. I understand how you feel, but this is life.
You guys are really messed up psychologically

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Yankee101: 2:41pm On Jun 10
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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:43pm On Jun 10
Bola146:


Of three years of relationship with a child Your foundation is so faulty!!! You took who? And her parents accepted? That is Iyawo saara lipsrsealed You too get some faults please.
Shebi you see the person crying is even worse than the ladies ex

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by DissTroy(m): 2:43pm On Jun 10
frozen70:


You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her

Not everyone wants to be with a woman who has a very promiscuous past, or didn't respect the institution of marriage enough not to date married men. A woman who doesn't respect it enough to draw that line has no qualms cheating when married.

Most of the married woman cheating slept with married men as singles. The have a warped way of justifying the adultery.

Stop gaslighting men into accepting and dating/marrying damaged women. You wouldn't be with a damaged man yourself if you have better options.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:44pm On Jun 10
anthonyuncle:
get a side chick
The person he is complaining about is a side chick with a kid for him
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:47pm On Jun 10
DissTroy:


Not everyone wants to be with a woman who has a very promiscuous past, or didn't respect the institution of marriage enough not to date married men. A woman who doesn't respect it enough to draw that line has no qualms cheating when married.

Most of the married woman cheating slept with married men as singles. The have a warped way of justifying the adultery.

Stop gaslighting men into accepting and dating/marrying damaged women. You wouldn't be with a damaged man yourself if you have better options.
So the op that says he believes in the institution of marriage is considered to have fulfilled all duties by getting the woman pregnant with a kid outside marriage?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Getdabag: 2:47pm On Jun 10
SoftP:
Dude, kindly change the headline;

How to get over ur Baby mama or girlfriend’s trauma Not wife,
Whatever u wrote up there is for real Men, not small boys with teddy brains

Presently u’ve no moral right to question her fidelity, besides u didn’t met her a virgin’
I’m sure she was only considering ur emotions, the reason she lied to you initially.

You’ve had a kid with her for 3years and she didn’t dump u to forge ahead!
& her mum is still calm enough to pamper ur feelings,
O boy u get mind.

I guess U’re just fetching reasons to dump her; u need serious flogging
honestly mehn..realmen woukd dump the hoe and wife a virginity not small boys with teddy brains marrying hoes

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by KingAzari: 2:50pm On Jun 10
Seems I am not normal by not giving a flying fvck about the sexual history of any woman in my life. I am not sure I would ever care - whether wife, side chic or girlfriend. I don't even wanna ask you who you fvcked last. I am more concerned about what you do with at the present. If you like, be an excess p0rn star - keep it to yourself. Nobody should tell me. If I fvck you and I feel the toto don see more mileage than 1967 Acura Bugatti and Mercedes Venza, I would bail out.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:50pm On Jun 10
TheUndercover:
The fact that you asked her about it and she denied is a slap to your face. She's waving a big red flag right in front of you. The real paternity of the kid is to be questioned. Another reason to marry a known virgin. Thread carefully.
Do you know that they are unmarried?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by southniyikaye(m): 2:55pm On Jun 10
TWLifestyle:
you have serious problems- only a man can be so silly and egotistic ! Cos of one woman u hate all women - it's the disregard for women that they raise you people with that is making u misyarn . Are you the first person who had a bad relationship ? Better dust ur self up and stop behaving like a child .
you don't have to behave erratic like a convulsed child. If you've been used and manipulated for a long time, you will want to seek revenge on others but instead of seeking revenge on those who didn't hurt you, why not work on yourself and move on? That's what the writeup is about and just incase you have a dense brain that can't comprehend
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 2:55pm On Jun 10
The only thing I see in your case is this:
You both are not married summary you are both singles

She already has a kid for you therefore she is a baby mama

You have serious insecurity issues and therefore the possibility of you constantly barging her and wearing both yourselves down is there.

As a result of wearing yourselves down and walking out of her marriage right ,infertility is very likely

When it happens the cycle of toxic relationship is been played out

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by southniyikaye(m): 2:55pm On Jun 10
baralatie:

you are seriously doing yourself
am seriously working on myself to become a better person.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Ukpayahor: 2:58pm On Jun 10
Who brought this to front page? oga Wetin happen for your wife's life before you met her nor concern you at all, I repeat e nor concern you at all except the thing has a direct effect on your current lives(they are trying to reignite the fire or maybe the kid they told you his her sibling turns out to be her child etc). Which kind jealousy be this one; if na me be her, my mother will not step foot in my house again for apologising to you for what does not concern you.

Lemme Tell U Something Important: "Whatever Happens In The Life Of Your current boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife B4 U Met Him/Her IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS...!!!

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by DissTroy(m): 2:59pm On Jun 10
baralatie:

So the op that says he believes in the institution of marriage is considered to have fulfilled all duties by getting the woman pregnant with a kid outside marriage?

Marriages are in different forms, man. The parents or guardian acknowledging their union is valid enough. All they need do is walk into a registry to get a marriage certificate if they need to process documents. Never heard of customary law?

Promising to marry a woman is a good as being engaged to her. Even the Lagos State Government has begun prosecuting men who engage and dump women without just cause.

I don't care how long I've been in a relationship with a female, the moment I discover she's knowingly dated/slept with married men, everything begins to die and would never lead to the alter. If I discover when already married, I'd resent her.

By subtle means I've always made this obvious to the women in my life. I also won't be with one who's had to abort for no reason other than medical complications. I've never made any woman abort so I don't deserve to be with any. Just like I've never gotten sexually intimate with a married woman even though I get accosted online and in person daily. smiley

And, no I'm barely religious too so these aren't religious reasons but my principles.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Getdabag: 3:00pm On Jun 10
sircrabo:
Everyone has a past, there is no need to dig into people's past to judge them. Most of the Pastors we see today, if they tell you about their pasts, you will Marvell. Some were cultists, murderers, rapists.....

What about you, did you marry as a virgin ? If most married women tell their husbands what they did when they were single, their husbands will regret getting married to them. Judge people from the time you met them, that's what I believe.

Remember things you did in secondary school, university..... I know men can be jealous. the thought of seeing your wife or GF under a man moaning is enough to make one lose trust; even if it happened before they married. My pastor's wife used to tell us about the life she lived before meeting Christ and getting married to a pastor. She wouldn't say everything, but some of us can imagine the extent she had gone.

Take heart, you are not alone
that na complete rubbish u dey tlk so imagine say I be keep mysef till marraige as a man oh ...hustle to be comfortable..while the the future wife dey chop life, chop preek chop ppl money till she jam Christ. na him u wan tlk oldthings are past away? baba e no go fit wrk..I no dey judge o but somthings cant be overlooked..

p.s
I be baller grin bet I no fit marry woman wey don tear eye reach back never

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:01pm On Jun 10
DissTroy:


Marriages are in different forms, man. The parents or guardian acknowledging their union is valid enough. All they need do is walk into a registry to get a marriage certificate if they need to process documents. Never heard of customary law?

Promising to marry a woman is a good as being engaged to her. Even the Lagos State Government has begun prosecuting men who engage and dump women without just cause.

I don't care how long I've been in a relationship with a female, the moment I discover she's knowingly dated/slept with married men, everything begin to die and would never lead to the alter. If I discover when already marriage, I'd resent her.

By subtle means I've always made this obvious to the women in my life. I also won't be with one who's had to abort for no reason other than medical complications. I've never made any woman abort so I don't deserve to be with any. Just like I've never gotten sexually intimate with a married woman even though I get accosted online and in person daily. smiley
A live in the house boyfriend and girlfriend known in the community does not equate to a legally married couple

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:03pm On Jun 10
southniyikaye:
am seriously working on myself to become a better person.
Ok!
Abeg try well,well o!
The Lord is your strength!
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:04pm On Jun 10
Getdabag:
that na complete rubbish u dey tlk so imagine say I be keep mysef till marraige as a man oh ...hustle to be comfortable..while the the future wife dey chop life, chop preek chop ppl money till she jam Christ. na him u wan tlk oldthings are past away? baba e no go fit wrk..I no dey judge o but somthings cant be overlooked..

p.s
I be baller grin bet I no fit marry woman wey don tear eye reach back never
How do you want to know if the girl tear eye reach back?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Baiser(m): 3:06pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy .
The girl u slept with before you married your wife, no be person go marry am too?


Point is, the only worry you have to worry is the bloody lying....

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by ABANGWABOI(m): 3:06pm On Jun 10
You can never get over it Weakling.. grin grin grin

She would still sleep around again and give you another man seed to raise...

Your premium tears would be sweet to behold by then.
Effeminate kid..
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by kenoyad: 3:08pm On Jun 10
Baiser:

The girl u slept with before you married your wife, no be person go marry am too?


Point is, the only worry you have to worry is the bloody lying....

And the guy is older, married at the time and a player.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:10pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:

And the guy is older, married at the time and a player.
Wtf?
Are that scared that her ex is far better than you?
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by DissTroy(m): 3:11pm On Jun 10
baralatie:

A live in the house boyfriend and girlfriend known in the community does not equate to a legally married couple

Except you want to argue for the sake of it, the OP clearly stated he had done marriage introduction with his friends and family members (except his parents). At these introductions, there's "breaking of kolanuts" and "uncorking of drinks'. Juxtaposed that with customary marriage. Next find out the legality of customary marriage and statutory marriage.

Tonto Dike and Churchill had customary marriage but they were still referred to as man and wife. If they had to relocate together as a couple, they would have had to do statutory marriage.

Still, I believe what is worth doing is worth doing well.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Getdabag: 3:11pm On Jun 10
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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:12pm On Jun 10
DissTroy:


Except you want to argue for the sake of it, the OP clearly stated he had done marriage introduction with his friends and family members (except his parents). At these introductions, there's "breaking of kolanuts" and "uncorking of drinks'. Juxtaposed that with customary marriage. Next find out the legality of customary marriage and statutory marriage.

Tonto Dike and Churchill had customary marriage but they were still referred to as man and wife. If they had to relocate together as a couple, they would have had to do statutory marriage.

Still, I believe what is worth doing is worth doing well.
The op ha s not down the traditional marriage .

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