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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:14pm On Jun 10
Getdabag:
u cant take a woman u wanna spend the rest of ur life with to the alter without doing background checks of her past its ur duty to know...even in the villages it is a custom..so if u find anything ugly its ur choice to either proceed or retract..
Ok does that mean when the guy impregnate the girl now into having a child.
He did not know that the girl eye tear reach back

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Omanze: 3:14pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.

Yeah!
This kind of feeling happens to so many men like you. It is part of masculinity. But if your woman is of a disposition that she won't go back to her past, then you must move on and let bye-gone be bye-gone.

You will not see yourself a mature man nor will anyone consider you serious if you, out of naivity, fails to look forward by looking behind over an issue already in the past.

Advise:

-Pledge your fidelity to her and have her solemnly do same to you.

-You both must draw closer to God. That is the best known solution to a life of escaped/ promiscuity.
(This is because to a godless person, 'stollen water is sweet and food eaten in secret is pleasant'
But, to the godly, one must 'drink water from his/her own cistern' or remain thirsty...

Those who live a life of chastity and godliness are quite familiar with the language I am speaking .

NB: If you keep God out of your relationship, you will not enjoy fidelity because it's only the fear of God that leads to avoidance of cheating and secrecy in marriage.
(The other day a man accused his wife of doing such stuff behind him, the wife denied. Peace makers called the wife in private, talking with her in the absence of the husband: she exclaimed '...if I do that stuff he will not even know...'

The peacemakers were like undecided undecided grin

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by CryptoRepublic1: 3:15pm On Jun 10
You're funny bro,she didn't even know you when it happened and you're here killing yourself,please don't carry woman matter for head or else you'll just die before your time, I always tell my wife say I no tie her with robe,if she want to fukc anybody else behind my back to make sure that she use condoms,she always assure me that she'll not do anything like that, but for me I don't trust anyone, not even myself,if a woman want to cheat she'll cheat and there's nothing you can do about it because women are better liars than men.

Don't carry women matter for head.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Walkee: 3:15pm On Jun 10
southniyikaye:
It was hard letting go the feelings I have for my wife...
Now that have gotten over her, I now hate women extremely to the extent to hold simple conversations with them is now hard..
She has made me a cold blodded hater of the female gender...
This is not a part I wish to tow in my life but the more I try to change into who I was before, the more I hate them so I have decided to steer clear anything relationship for now till I am back to my normal self..

If you are good to them, they tag you as a weakling..
If you are hostile to them which wasn't my default, they tag you aggressive..

To maintain your sanity, deal with them with your brain at alert

MODIFIED **some people will never read to comprehension before attacking you like rabbid dog...
If you've been used and manipulated, must you seek revenge on others?
If you've been a simp for years and your eyes finally open, you will become extremely angry and want to take revenge on the opposite gender bur instead of doing that, why not work on yourself, rise above hate and become better?
Is this too hard to understand?
what the fucck is this? You now hate people because someone had sex with someone a long time ago when you didn't even know each other?
To be honest you are very dull. Chai someone will sleep on the same bed with you, wake up every morning and see your face chai. People dey suffer sha. I'm just wondering how boring everything about you must be

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by ugodson(m): 3:15pm On Jun 10
Guy my advice is simply DONT MARRY OUT OF PITY. I did dat to myself and now we are separated and she took my kids away. When we were dating I noticed it but I said to myself she has tried and I really did love her. We got married and she cheated on me not only once. Even if we are separated the betrayal cannot leave the head am telling you.

Second advice is to pray. I pray you don't regret it now you have d chance of walking away with just 1 child.
When you guys have 3/4 what will u now do.

Finally brother,the truth is that it will Never leave your head

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by CONFAMA: 3:16pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.


You sound so naive and immature. Why worry about something your wife did when she has not even met or know you. Plenty wahala full this world and see where you decide to put your mind and focus on. Be like you're idle and have a lot of spare time

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by DissTroy(m): 3:16pm On Jun 10
baralatie:

The op ha s not down the traditional marriage .

You really are insufferable if after the explanation backed by legal meanings, you are still on about traditional marriage. And you probably are a teenager if you don't know traditional marriage rites come in different forms, and the acknowledge of the families during the "opening of drinks" is paramount.

Dude, when last did you relate with your relatives to learn things?
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Ghostmode2two(m): 3:18pm On Jun 10
Women are bunch of secrets. How could a married woman have a man outside that would try to kill her husband just because her husband warned her of her stupid affairs and the man fell so sick later the woman told her husband that it was her God in heaven that she prayed to that punished the husband by bringing a near death sickness? Women are terrible.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Baiser(m): 3:19pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:

And the guy is older, married at the time and a player.

She's a terrible person and too easy...
The fact that she would lie, unapologetically, shes probably not normal.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:19pm On Jun 10
DissTroy:


You really are insufferable if after the explanation backed by legal meanings, you are still on about traditional marriage. And you probably are a teenager if you don't know traditional marriage rites come in different forms, and the acknowledge of the families during the "opening of drinks" is paramount.

Dude, when last did you relate with your relatives to learn things?
So if a dude comes to your house with his friends with alcohol to introduce himself as the person to marry your daughter.automatically is the traditional marriage recognized in your village?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by efficiencie(m): 3:20pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.

Mumuni...the older ex-lover has the keys to her "kolo" and no matter how strong the vault where you put her "kolo" is that guy will always access the "kolo" in grand style...infact the kind of maneuvers that you are scared of performing will be performed exceedingly and abundantly will all passion and aggression until the "kolo" becomes "koto orun"...you had better take the child for DNA test before you raise another man's child! When we say you should marry virgins una go talk say virginity is lack of opportunity...well you now have a sexually experienced toilet bowl of a wife...so deal with it!
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Getdabag: 3:24pm On Jun 10
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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:25pm On Jun 10
Baiser:


She's a terrible person and too easy...
The fact that she would lie, unapologetically, shes probably not normal.
How is she a terrible person?
When she dated other men before they met?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:27pm On Jun 10
Getdabag:
those are the irresponsibile ones and not ready for marriage..my advice if for men intending to settle down and not gf/bf ..inugo
Ehen!
You see the dynamics that has played out now?
Yes! The man wants to marry a woman.he does back ground check on the woman but as the man is planning so also the woman is counterplanning!
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by juniorstar(m): 3:31pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.
Did you not sleep with other women before you married her? If you didnt e go pain u. Worse thing is she isn't remorseful. Wonder how her mum got to know.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by simplesearch: 3:33pm On Jun 10
You were or you are? If you are both officially unmarried then you both are committing fornication. Women without the spirit of God are crafty and weird, reason you need to get saved so the Lord can lead you and fulfill his will for your life; without this the journey may be vicious than intended.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by deavicky(m): 3:33pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.
I for tell u something but what can I say because my own dey my body and I never settle am yet.
But as long as she didn’t tell u she was a virgin before u married her. Some body must have definitely slept we her. In some cases it might even be more than 20 men So try not to go into ur partners passed if u can't beer the negative stories.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by notok: 3:35pm On Jun 10
Op is not sad that his wife had sex , he's only sad that his wife lied about and when caught she was unapologetic about it , no show of remorse for lying.
It's just like asking your girlfriend if she has had an abortion before and she lies about it . But when caught instead of saying she was sorry about lying she tells you it's her womb and she can do anything with it

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by notok: 3:36pm On Jun 10
juniorstar:

Did you not sleep with other women before you married her? If you didnt e go pain u. Worse thing is she isn't remorseful. Wonder how her mum got to know.
op slept with women but he didn't lie about it like his baby mama

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:36pm On Jun 10
juniorstar:

Did you not sleep with other women before you married her? If you didnt e go pain u. Worse thing is she isn't remorseful. Wonder how her mum got to know.
I think the op is not revealing much?
I am even wondering how the woman now came out to tell him
Was it as a result of constant pressing on the issue for the 3 years and she finally gave in!
Then the mother pleasing on her behalf means it has become a known issue between the woman,her mom and herself.
Therefore the op has deliberately tampered with the story of what actually happened?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:38pm On Jun 10
notok:
Op is not sad that his wife had sex , he's only sad that his wife lied about and when caught she was unapologetic about it , no show of remorse for lying.
It's just like asking your girlfriend if she has had an abortion before and she lies about it . But when caught instead of saying she was sorry about lying she tells you it's her womb and she can do anything with it
Explain that part of been caught?
Op never said he caught her with the man?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 3:39pm On Jun 10
notok:

op slept with women but he didn't lie about it like his baby mama

Op did not sleep with other women
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Ategberoson(m): 3:44pm On Jun 10
I'm not in the position to advise on this topic but I will never marry a lady that is not a virgin and I will never stay with a caught cheating partner



my love life get as e be, I don't forgive rubbish and nonsense. if I love you and your betrayed me, it means no more togetherness on my side



Pastor Adeboye, Bishop Oyedepo and other pastors I respected reconciliation will not even change my mind when I caught a lady cheating on me


cheating na unforgivable sin and I cannot marry you with your past, go and meet those you featured in that nonsense past. they enjoy you free, make I come pay money? it will never happened

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Amalekki: 3:44pm On Jun 10
Too many guys here are living in lala land - some are even typing their sanctimonious opinion after fornicating with their girlfriend that will likely end up as another man's wife while they dream of marrying a virgin... you are joking! grin
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Getdabag: 3:47pm On Jun 10
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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by pocohantas(f): 3:48pm On Jun 10
baralatie:

So the op that says he believes in the institution of marriage is considered to have fulfilled all duties by getting the woman pregnant with a kid outside marriage?

Hahahahahahaha
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by fannybaby(f): 3:51pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.
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You didn't sleep with any woman before you met her
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by southniyikaye(m): 3:51pm On Jun 10
Walkee:
what the fucck is this? You now hate people because someone had sex with someone a long time ago when you didn't even know each other?
To be honest you are very dull. Chai someone will sleep on the same bed with you, wake up every morning and see your face chai. People dey suffer sha. I'm just wondering how boring everything about you must be
you still didn't read the modified part did you?
Before you quote someone next time, make sure you are doing it with your Brain intact...
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by CUMIN: 3:52pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:

And the guy is older, married at the time and a player.

If you can't handle it. Let her go. The trauma might last a lifetime.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Londonused: 3:52pm On Jun 10
MiVida:
E dey pain to imagine, I know....


To imagine the shooking, how big the thing be, whether e big pass your own, how deep the thing go inside your woman, how the man take enjoy your property... chai e dey pain! angry


Take heart bro. cry

OnG. When you see her sometimes, Na Wettin dey come your mind

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