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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Kingcalls: 3:53pm On Jun 10
frozen70:


You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her


Most of u women still don't get it...u all complain that men treat women like trash...this is the reason y... a woman's past determines how men will treat them... all men are the same in this aspect... if u have 4kd a married man in the past or hv had multiple partners in the past, just forget it, no man, I repeat, no man will treat u special...they might pretend , but in their hearts , u are not worth it, to them u are just a vessel for their kids...all men take a woman's past extremely serious... so u women can keep on decieving urselves calling it " in the past" " do not judge " " its the woke generation " .....

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Casham: 3:54pm On Jun 10
baralatie:

You guys are really messed up psychologically
Honestly, I know! I will always appreciate any form of help!
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Kingcalls: 3:54pm On Jun 10
Vision101:
@frozen70

You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her


@me
Correct comment jare. If someone opens his can of worms and the lady holds it against him nko. It happened in the past and so long as it's not happening now what is your problem?

If you are such a saint why did you pregnant her without official marriage. How many ashawo, sugar mummy, one chance pussy, first fruit pusy did you bleep before knowing her.

What do you want now? Leave her with the stigma of a lady that had baby outside wedlock and voom you will move to the next victim.

If you refuse to marry her I will call you a BAD GUY. A complete chop and run.

Simp ur way out of here abeg ...unrepentant simp
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by EgunMogaji2: 3:56pm On Jun 10
DTB and move on already.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by dairykidd(m): 4:00pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:

No, I didn't turn up for the traditional introduction cause I only went with my younger brother and three friends to her family house for introduction, I didn't go with my parents and family. Ii just don't want to have kids with multiple women but it's like a sore on my heart.
Her past really doesn't define who she is 100% but u see that lying thing ehhn, if u are ready for more can of worms later u can continue with her. Ordinary girlfriend wey her way no clear dey make man no fit concentrate well talk more of Wife... It's ur life bro live it well. If u think a lying unrepentant partner isn't too much a sacrifice for u then by all means wife that woman
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Kingcalls: 4:00pm On Jun 10
Kobicove:
Are you trying to say that you did not make some mistakes also while you were growing up? undecided

One thing with simps apart from being weaklings is that they live in denial...they say things to make them feel good after they hv made stupid decisions... simps are kids without confidence, kids thst think they are men... and they are usually not financially successful....they can't even hold strong political positions or head strong defensive agencies.... name one simp in power, anywhere on the world.... not one....weaklings
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 4:04pm On Jun 10
Kingcalls:



Most of u women still don't get it...u all complain that men treat women like trash...this is the reason y... a woman's past determines how men will treat them... all men are the same in this aspect... if u have 4kd a married man in the past or hv had multiple partners in the past, just forget it, no man, I repeat, no man will treat u special...they might pretend , but in their hearts , u are not worth it, to them u are just a vessel for their kids...all men take a woman's past extremely serious... so u women can keep on decieving urselves calling it " in the past" " do not judge " " its the woke generation " .....
men are also part of the problem

Especially those ones that their life mission is to bang as many women as possible in their teen and 20s.

This women that they are thoroughly recklessly banging won't they marry too? Or be mother to children in the future?

THIS IS THE RESULT of such reckless habit

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Kingcalls: 4:18pm On Jun 10
VeeVeeMyLuv:
men are also part of the problem

Especially those ones that their life mission is to sleep with as many women as possible in their teen and 20s.

This women that they are thoroughly recklessly bleeping won't they marry too? Or be mother to children in the future?

THIS IS THE RESULT of such reckless habit


For a man , he doesn't care even if he marries the hoe, cos he will treat her without real commitment or love...its the woman that will b on the receiving end... they are the ones that feel the pain, and if she misbehaves, he will send her parking ... its same with a man that foolishly wastes his money on women ...when he becomes broke, women sef will treat him like crap...thats y men should guide their pockets towards woman just as women should guide their body towards men

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by notok: 4:21pm On Jun 10
baralatie:
Explain that part of been caught? Op never said he caught her with the man?
She lied about sleeping with him before meeting the OP. she lied about her past
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by notok: 4:23pm On Jun 10
baralatie:


Op did not sleep with other women
I'm not saying OP was cheating , I'm saying he's not a virgin but probably didn't lie about it
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Kingcalls: 4:26pm On Jun 10
Baiser:

The girl u slept with before you married your wife, no be person go marry am too?


Point is, the only worry you have to worry is the bloody lying....


So who will marry the guy that another woman finished his money??

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by KingMicky3286: 4:36pm On Jun 10
Will you keep quiet?

You are not officially married to her.. Both of you are .....

Let me check Bible for you ...

Wait.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by cococandy(f): 4:37pm On Jun 10
Some Men are amusingly irrational

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Hassanmaye(m): 4:49pm On Jun 10
MOBBDEEP:


Albeit strange as it sounds, I share same sentiment
I'm even presently towing almost same path, perhaps not as hardlined as you are
Because, somewhere someplace & sometime, I know there are good females.
Those with golden heart
Good heart has no preference for gender
It is a rare quality among both gender
I hate that gender too I was forming nice guy to one stupid girl she took me for granted while given bad boys, now I'm financially ok she wants to come back because she took me for a fool
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by FRANKOSKI(m): 5:24pm On Jun 10
LEAVE HER ALONE.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by crackhaus: 5:27pm On Jun 10
kenoyad:
I learned wifey had slept with a guy that's married and far older than her, I got the impression when we met and started dating and asked her if there was anything between them, she denied.

I got to know from her after three years and she was not even remorseful, claiming she had dated him before we met and that's her choice cause she can date Whoever she want at the time cause she's single.

I always felt bad cause I got suspicious and asked her about it. I always think about it every day and it makes me feel so bad.

Her mother had apologised on her behalf that I should please get it over my mind and count it as when she don't know what she was doing.

We have got a kid and i don't want the kid raised outside a home though we were both not married officially.

I want to get the ordeal out of my mind cause that's the only issue i have with her.

How can I get it over my mind? I think about it every day.
Very funny...

You married a woman you didn't meet as a virgin and you were surprised to learn she had slept with someone else before meeting you?
Whether the person was a married man or a kidnapper, it's irrelevant.

Some of you need to understand that you can never really know with women, especially when it comes to whom they may have slept with in the past before meeting you.

Don't get me wrong though, I'm not suggesting you should have married a virgin... I'm saying you must learn to keep your head firmly attached to your neck and not assume you married/will marry an angel.

Honestly, there are VERY few young women who have not had something to do with a far older man – most will tell you they didn't know he was married, others like your wife will admit their own with with their full chest.
I even prefer the latter...

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Hassanmaye(m): 5:33pm On Jun 10
ABANGWABOI:
You can never get over it Weakling.. grin grin grin

She would still sleep around again and give you another man seed to raise...

Your premium tears would be sweet to behold by then.
Effeminate kid..
Hahahha bad boy
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 5:37pm On Jun 10
She lied and later admit that she slept with a married man (human being) abi?

Why not see it this way? thank God that it was a human being not an animal (gorilla, bulldog, horse or donkey) or an extraterrestrial creature (alien) that shooked penetrated her/went into her
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Hassanmaye(m): 5:38pm On Jun 10
ugodson:
Guy my advice is simply DONT MARRY OUT OF PITY. I did dat to myself and now we are separated and she took my kids away. When we were dating I noticed it but I said to myself she has tried and I really did love her. We got married and she cheated on me not only once. Even if we are separated the betrayal cannot leave the head am telling you.
I will take your advice serious sir

Second advice is to pray. I pray you don't regret it now you have d chance of walking away with just 1 child.
When you guys have 3/4 what will u now do.

Finally brother,the truth is that it will Never leave your head
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Hassanmaye(m): 5:44pm On Jun 10
Ategberoson:
I'm not in the position to advise on this topic but I will never marry a lady that is not a virgin and I will never stay with a caught cheating partner



my love life get as e be, I don't forgive rubbish and nonsense. if I love you and your betrayed me, it means no more togetherness on my side



Pastor Adeboye, Bishop Oyedepo and other pastors I respected reconciliation will not even change my mind when I caught a lady cheating on me


cheating na unforgivable sin and I cannot marry you with your past, go and meet those you featured in that nonsense past. they enjoy you free, make I come pay money? it will never happened
Hahahhaha
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by frozen70(f): 5:52pm On Jun 10
Kingcalls:



Most of u women still don't get it...u all complain that men treat women like trash...this is the reason y... a woman's past determines how men will treat them... all men are the same in this aspect... if u have 4kd a married man in the past or hv had multiple partners in the past, just forget it, no man, I repeat, no man will treat u special...they might pretend , but in their hearts , u are not worth it, to them u are just a vessel for their kids...all men take a woman's past extremely serious... so u women can keep on decieving urselves calling it " in the past" " do not judge " " its the woke generation " .....

So if all men takes a woman's past seriously, women should take men's past joking

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by frozen70(f): 5:54pm On Jun 10
DissTroy:


Not everyone wants to be with a woman who has a very promiscuous past, or didn't respect the institution of marriage enough not to date married men. A woman who doesn't respect it enough to draw that line has no qualms cheating when married.

Most of the married woman cheating slept with married men as singles. The have a warped way of justifying the adultery.

Stop gaslighting men into accepting and dating/marrying damaged women. You wouldn't be with a damaged man yourself if you have better options.

Every one has a past
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by loteliz(f): 6:05pm On Jun 10
frozen70:


You are the one hurting yourself not her

Some thing she did long ago before meeting you and you are still casting back over it

How are you sure she doesn't have any secret lover especially now that you have not married her

Every one has a past just move on

If you are not convinced of her, then let her go dont marry her
This is the only person that actually read the post so far. OP is indeed hurting himself.
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by baralatie(m): 6:06pm On Jun 10
notok:

She lied about sleeping with him before meeting the OP. she lied about her past
I am asking how did she come to the point of finding how to narrate to him that she had that affair after three years?
Was it through nagging?
And what is the deal about the woman's mom begging?

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by wellingtongrey(m): 6:12pm On Jun 10
Well, i understand that we handle things differently. Especially issues regarding emotion. I had similar issues back then, but it was something that had happened before i met her.

In my own case , my wife's aunty's husband has been having sex with her since she was in SS1 (about 15years old) and she was living with them. Imagine that kinda constant sex , over several years grin cheesy . And the man was about 34 years older than my wife. In other word, when she was 15 , the man was about 49. Lol!
I suspected (based on the man's lifestyle and wife's sexual frequency) but she denied it ever happened. After 3years , she told me that my guessed back then was very correct ... and she told me everything. I just smiled. But instead of hating my wife for what happened in the past , i stopped relating with the man(including greetings) . I just hate him for what he did to her at that age.

Op, if she is a good lady/ you have affections for her , then forget the issue of sex in the past and do the right thing.

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Speaktruth88: 6:13pm On Jun 10
Nonsense we’re you expecting a virgin? You these nairaland boys dey funny. Are you concerned she will look for sugar daddy now or are you the one stepping out so you are paranoid?

After 3 years of marriage you are still worried about her exes? You no ready. Have you told her the truth of your own past life? If you wanted a virgin you should have found one.


I wonder the average age of people on this platform

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Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by IamCookie(f): 6:15pm On Jun 10
wellingtongrey:
Well, i understand that we handle things differently. Especially issues regarding emotion. I had similar issues back then, but it was something that had happened before i met her.

In my own case , my wife's aunty's husband has been having sex with her since she was in SS1 (about 15years old) and she was living with them. Imagine that kinda constant sex , over several years grin cheesy . And the man was about 34 years older than my wife. In other word, when she was 15 , the man was about 49. Lol!
I suspected (based on the man's lifestyle and wife's sexual frequency) but she denied it ever happened. After 3years , she told me that my guessed back then was very correct ... and she told me everything. I just smiled. But instead of hating my wife for what happened in the past , i stopped relating with the man(including greetings) . I just hate him for what he did to her at that age.

Op, if she is a good lady/ you have affections for her , then forget the issue of sex in the past and do the right thing.

Wow cry undecided . That man is a really bad man. Are you saying the aunty doesn't know this ? She must be so dumb. Thanks for sharing this undecided
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Kingcalls: 6:52pm On Jun 10
frozen70:


So if all men takes a woman's past seriously, women should take men's past joking

U women watch out if a man has enough money to take care of himself and raise a family... what happens to a man that wasted his money on u women...who will marry him ??
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by Kingcalls: 6:53pm On Jun 10
frozen70:


Every one has a past

Akuko.... if u ladies think that is what will b used to forget ur past, u are indeed on a loooooong thing....
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by frozen70(f): 7:38pm On Jun 10
Kingcalls:


Akuko.... if u ladies think that is what will b used to forget ur past, u are indeed on a loooooong thing....
When a man is loosing, the woman looses too
Re: How To Get Over Trauma Of Wife Past Life by frozen70(f): 7:39pm On Jun 10
Kingcalls:


U women watch out if a man has enough money to take care of himself and raise a family... what happens to a man that wasted his money on u women...who will marry him ??
There is no money a man spent on a woman that is a waste

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