slimman007:


Leech and entitled lady spotted here.Why do most Nigerian ladies have this terrible mindset most the guy provide for you when he is not official married to you answer me,can't you provide for your needs while in relationship.Look here young lady that guy is not your father neither your benefactor so leave him alone and walk away.To me you are a liability to him and you have nothing to offer him expect your pucci which he can get anywhere so what makes your own special.If I may ask you ever since you have been with him what meaningful impact have you added into his life rather than to demand which is the emblem of an average Nigerian lady

Don't be stupid! If he can't let go of a few thousand now you think he'd when married? Abeg he's not a husband material

Your friend is already materialistic. Honestly I'm sick of Nigerian women's entitlement mentality.

She should use the same style that she used to break up with the last boyfriend,. Rubbish!

God Almighty Continue To Bless That Guy for me

stingy boyfriend is very bad but are u are rich girl if No don't complain cos life hard now

Oviebright:
Is this fictional or real? Even a broke guy won’t collect money back from an ordinary female friend he assisted to buy pads and other few stuffs for. Not to even mention girl wey u Dey call ur gf or girl wey u Dey date.
Omo where una Dey see this guys from self?

your a simp

Kondomatic:
Or may be worse but then my way is not the standard for all.


Giving is a gift, there are so many Nairalanders that are dirty rich but they don't give but I have seen someone receive money during a give away here and gave someone who wasn't so lucky something from the little he got. If it's not in you, forget it.


Now back to the OP, if my imaginary girlfriend calls me on phone and asks me to help her buy some stuffs, I will ask her for the money even before buying the stuffs. The things that could make me buy the them first before/without collecting money are if we agreed on "pay on delivery" or maybe the level of the relationship or the way she's been spending on me.

I give when I want to give not when I am indirectly compelled to give.


Do you know that there's a difference between "Babe, I need these things but I am tall on cash please can you get them for me" and "Babe please help me get these stuffs"

The first needs my favor, the later is sending me on errand.


You send me, you pay.


Besides the OP is one hell of a crafty lady.
She said that she(her friend) asked him to buy her stuffs and pad.


Why did she name pad and left the others? Simple, to get you all on her side.


So if your lady asks you to buy her stuff(iPhone 12, Lexus RX 350, MacBook and Gucci wears) and pad you will not collect the money because you wan prove say you be man?

You have spoken the minds of many

OP learn to spell the word 'excuses' not escuses

Tell that lady to go and get a job.

You are not his wife, so you are not yet his responsibility.

You are the one with the private part, you are the one to buy the pad.

So you want to assign your monthly menstrual cycle hygiene duties to him.

To you and the person posting this online, how much is the pad in question that you can't afford.

There is something call prudence. Not everyone from a wealthy home was brought up to impress people.
Some people are prudent. And prudence is a virtue.

Any girl can buy her pad without announcing it.
That's is a fact.

AutoChick4U:
Don't be stupid! If he can't let go of a few thousand now you think he'd when married? Abeg he's not a husband material

go buy d material wey go fit well for husband

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Since he is already hinting on a proposal, it’s best your friend opens up to him. COMMUNICATION is a very important factor in every relationship. Me for one if I was a guy, I will not help my GF buy her pads/tampons or basic stuffs and still calculate and ask for a refund from her. These are little things that can be overlooked, even male friends do it without asking for a refund.

If your friend is not financially bouyant, it’s best for her to end the relationship so as not to be a financial burden to the guy if he eventually proposes because once they get married, she won’t be getting a dime from such guy.

ThatIgedeBoy:
Very useless girl.
I can't even date a girl that can't pay her transport of buy pad....
Where is her father...
Is relationship a job?

You lack sense. What's bad in asking ur bf to buy you toiletries on his way to your house? Her pad probably wasn't enough or she was caught unawares. She gave him d money back but you men no even read to comprehend but rush to comment like illiterates.

Don't they teach comprehensive English in school again? Fools can't reason outside d box

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Op the way I see it ......immediately your so called friend succeeds in dumping him you'll gracefully step in..

Now tell that your friend that I said she should be very careful of you.

Some women and entitlement mentality ...did the guy not communicate the terms for helping with the purchase...do you know if the guy had already budgeted the money for something else prior to the request.

bepositive11:


That guy is extreme though. How can he ask his gf to pay him back a few thousands? What will he do if they should get married? Ask her to pay for everything he buys for her? That's madness

Stingy and financially responsible are 2 different things

your a simp

bepositive11:


He's dating with the intention of marrying her so he has to show how he would be as a husband. What he did was very cheap.

I'm sure if a woman did that to you, you would feel that she's cheap too. Just a few thousands and he's even well off

Women already don't send men, some even see it as an insult for their man to ask them for anything.

Women are cheap by default which is why they always threaten men with sex.

dominique:
Entitled mentality aside, some men are ridiculously stingy and are now using the assumption of the average Nigerian babe's greed as an excuse not to spend on their girlfriends. If you can't as much as buy toiletries of a few thousand naira for your girlfriend, you deserve to be dumped. Such man will be the most useless of husbands, they would rather watch their wives and kids starve and wear rags than spend on them. Ladies too should cultivate the habit of buying gifts for their boyfriends from time to time

You can't tell me that the man hasn't been providing for her is just that most Nigerian ladies sees relationship as an avenue to cash out where all her needs must be meet without contributing anything meaningful into the guys life

amazingspiderma:
Tell that lady to go and get a job.

You are not his wife, so you are not yet his responsibility.

This has nothing to do with responsibility, when I was in school anytime any of my male course mate come around to visit me in my hostel, I usually request they help me buy a few things because I was too tired to go out. They would and will not collect their money from me, was I their responsibility back then? Some of us pay for our friends Tfare especially when we go out together, does that make them our responsibility?

These are some of the red flags in relationships. She didn’t ask for a phone, she didn’t ask for a car, she only asked for a basic thing which as a boyfriend/girlfriend you should be able to help your partners pay for without asking for refunds.

For this kind of guy, if they get married he will never spend on her as his wife.

Kondomatic:
Or may be worse but then my way is not the standard for all.


Giving is a gift, there are so many Nairalanders that are dirty rich but they don't give but I have seen someone receive money during a give away here and gave someone who wasn't so lucky something from the little he got. If it's not in you, forget it.


Now back to the OP, if my imaginary girlfriend calls me on phone and asks me to help her buy some stuffs, I will ask her for the money even before buying the stuffs. The things that could make me buy the them first before/without collecting money are if we agreed on "pay on delivery" or maybe the level of the relationship or the way she's been spending on me.

I give when I want to give not when I am indirectly compelled to give.


Do you know that there's a difference between "Babe, I need these things but I am tall on cash please can you get them for me" and "Babe please help me get these stuffs"

The first needs my favor, the later is sending me on errand.


You send me, you pay.


Besides the OP is one hell of a crafty lady.
She said that she(her friend) asked him to buy her stuffs and pad.


Why did she name pad and left the others? Simple, to get you all on her side.


So if your lady asks you to buy her stuff(iPhone 12, Lexus RX 350, MacBook and Gucci wears) and pad you will not collect the money because you wan prove say you be man?

Please ask her to mention those other things.....because she said and I quote: everything amounted to thousands besides pad is just in hundreds. Lolzzzz

Rozcol:
My friend isn't a leech and does not demand from him as well but however his stingy habits portrays a red flag, a man who does not priotize your needs will eventually be an irresponsible man in marriage, he will extend such stingy attitude towards his kids

He is simply treating her an an equal who is capable of taking care of herself, just as feminists demanded.

Skullano:
What has your friend ever gotten for this said stingy boyfriend?.

Good question

Rozcol:
He knows my friend is very reserved, he will quickly grab that we planned it.Can you imagine he's hinting on proposal, I mean who marries a hardcore stingy man

don't you think he's playing it safe? I mean girls these days are all after money,...
And also why do I think the guy is not simping.....
Also you don't know if a man is stingy until something serious happens... And also if you've dated him for like a year no single gift then you can conclude he's not the giving type,..

More importantly remove eye from chopping his money, it's his not yours...

Las las e fit be test.
If this banana thing is true, it’s most likely he’s stingy.
My advise... try to know how he behaves with friends and relatives... if he’s stingy to them.
Pay more attention to the way he talks; does he talk like a stingy person/ is he overly concerned about my money.. I can’t do this or I can’t do that with my money...sey u get?... if yes, it’s a red flag.
Like someone advice you above, don’t close the door... just try another relationship...and compare... no go dey open kpekus anyhow o.
I wish you and your friend all the best.

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Are you a thief?
You asked someone to help you get something and you don’t want to refund.
You’re just entitled to money that’s not yours and think you can determine how it’s spent.
If you or your friend had a job and source of income, you’d not be peaking and lusting after another person’s money.

If you wanted him to dash you, you should request and ask nicely. Not feeling entitled.

marveangel:
Why are you telling us this...the same mouth u used to accept the relationship use it to end it if you don't want him no more

Don't mind the myopic hypocrite

He's still called a good guy here because he's rich... And again, she would have dumped him without struggling. There are guys out there who gives a lot. Leave us alone oh... Why not tell him talk it over with him?

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Kondomatic:
You're not financially responsible if young women do not think you're stingy.

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Kondomatic 1985

Your source of wisdom will not die.. Amen

bepositive11:


He's dating with the intention of marrying her so he has to show how he would be as a husband. What he did was very cheap.

I'm sure if a woman did that to you, you would feel that she's cheap too. Just a few thousands and he's even well off

How do you know what the lady calls a "a few thousands"? It might be something even her parents cannot afford to get her yet she is mouthing off. Do you know the financial position of the guy at that time? Because a guy is well off doesn't mean he doesn't have other responsibilities.

Lastly, there is no way this lady is not exaggerating. Most times when people tell stories like this, they minimize their own flaws and blow up the supposed flaws of the other party. It's a shame you are jumping to conclusion based on her tale alone. How hard is it to break up with someone if you really want to?

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Your friend is a good defination of a leech... Sorry, but what have your friend ever gotten for him, the gentle guy thinks it is irrational to spend on a girl that feels it is the responsibility of a guy ro spend on his girlfriend. Your friend should rather talk it out with him and expect him to spend on her only when they are married.

Olamide done talk am. Ma lo fe broke Nigga run for your life.

slimman007:


Leech and entitled lady spotted here.Why do most Nigerian ladies have this terrible mindset most the guy provide for you when he is not official married to you answer me,can't you provide for your needs while in relationship.Look here young lady that guy is not your father neither your benefactor so leave him alone and walk away.To me you are a liability to him and you have nothing to offer him expect your pucci which he can get anywhere so what makes your own special.If I may ask you ever since you have been with him what meaningful impact have you added into his life rather than to demand which is the emblem of an average Nigerian lady

If the lady in question is your sister you'll advise her to leave the relationship. Aside affections for each other giving gifts is very important to make a relationship work out

Kondomatic:
You're not financially responsible if young women do not think you're stingy.







Kondomatic 1985

Word's of the Wise ones are word's of life savers

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