So many girls have lost the man of their dreams because they listen to their friends. I don't know why it's hard for girls to give their friends good advice.

A leech and a friend, dumping the guy will be the best thing that ever happened to him.

Asking for refund on things bought is kinda petty shaa whether for inter or intra gender, especially if you didn't make it clear that they'll be paying you back..
Moreover, you have to say everything that was bought first and how much was spent and requested for, don't use pad and come and make people bias here.. because if all that stuff was ₦5k or below, most men would not ask for a refund and just forget about it.. Unless she clearly stated that she'll be paying back while asking, if that's the case, then i see no issue here..
He has a car and a good job doesn't mean there's money on ground.. He has a family (parents, siblings and relatives).. He might be saving for a business idea or even for wedding rites.. This is Nigeria and men are made solely responsible for everything..
Also, according to you they are both not materialistic and well to do and they love and care for each other but we know who's expecting to be spent on.. so much for the feminist movement, well that's a story for another thread.. so enough with that non entitled bullshit..
If she can't stay with him, leave.. They're wealthier guys out there who would spend on her, and actually non entitled girls out there too who would not expect.. Them both should keep searching..

But if after the break up, she now be seeing black flags on new boyfriend and you run to nairaland to complain, I now see it on FrontPage, na when i go get problem with you and that mod wey go move am come FrontPage.. Make everybody getout.

Rozcol:
He came with his ride

He should add money he used to fuel the Car to and fro..
Let that girl pay it too..
We are in the era of equality.. she should be treated equally..

Rozcol:
My friend isn't a leech and does not demand from him as well but however his stingy habits portrays a red flag, a man who does not priotize your needs will eventually be an irresponsible man in marriage, he will extend such stingy attitude towards his kids

A man stingy towards his kids? Una dey really dey craz for this nairaland, bomb dey ur head

For bleeps sake..... Where is it written that once a girl is in a relationship she's entitled to billing her bf..... You entitled nitwit better go and improve on your mentality of being self reliant,..,dumb dumb

The screenshot explains it

See em don tie your friend...VOODOO believe or not

Rozcol:
We are exhausted, he won't just go,he's somehow annoyingly very smart.My friend just don't want to appear as been materialistic

Not appear materialistic, when she is and garnished with entitlement.

Try and contribute meaningfully to a relationship and not being oliver twist...honour agreements it helps keep your respect.

Man go even buy sanitary pad join..chai...Ike a gwula..I pity the guy, If he mistakenly end up with her...na early retirement from earth.

Can't your friend come here herself and tell us the true story because I don't trust the complainer. I have seen a lady who was looking for how to end her friend relationship just because she's interested in the guy.

They're not on the same page.
She needs to let him know how she feels that he is stingy and why she feels that way, and she needs to let him know what she expects from her boyfriend and vice versa.
If they both can make compromises, good for them. Otherwise they both can call it quits.

Kondomatic:
You're not financially responsible if young women do not think you're stingy.







Kondomatic 1985

Chai...no be lie sha....

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

What does your friend actually do in the relationship, does she cook and clean?
Does she perform the duties of the woman in the relationship?
Abi she's a Nigerian "feminist" that doesn't "cook nor clean" for no man, but will want him to foot the bills in everything, say the whole story

Lilpen3758:
which means dey guy fit no stingy dey way she dey talk sef.....

You seem to know a lot about "your friend" oo

Make una comot eye for person money nah.

The Op put us in the dark here. Let her tell the actual items and figure. A few thousand may be 5 or 6 digits. Don't get carried away with that.

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Seeing you on this thread be like pikin them send go steal, na leg he go use break door...

ShootThemAll:
Where is the love?

You are calling your boyfriend that you "LOVE" stingy.

Does True Love exist? Or is it all about the benefits.

Love never existed in the first place.

"...stingy but very good man. He is good in ALL other things "
What does ur friend (and u ) really want ?
The money or all other things ?
She should work on the man since that is the only thing that is lacking except there is another thing to it. She work on him and he also work on her.....after then she can now make a decision.
Is ur friend perfect ?
Or somebody is on a standby ?

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

What has your friend offered to him apart from mutual sex sessions.
Would she not have spent money If she had sent someone else to buy those things for her. Why are Nigerian ladies so filled with sense of entitlement when in a relationship. Oyibos carry flower up and down and their girls appreciate them but here the girls want us to carry their family loads on our heads that their own father and brother no fit solve.

Why won’t you mind your business? The dude is the chairman of stinginess of west Africans

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Hahahaha

Rozcol:
He came with his ride

he must av fuelled his ride nah? Hiw much?

slimman007:


Leech and entitled lady spotted here.Why do most Nigerian ladies have this terrible mindset most the guy provide for you when he is not official married to you answer me,can't you provide for your needs while in relationship.Look here young lady that guy is not your father neither your benefactor so leave him alone and walk away.To me you are a liability to him and you have nothing to offer him expect your pucci which he can get anywhere so what makes your own special.If I may ask you ever since you have been with him what meaningful impact have you added into his life rather than to demand which is the emblem of an average Nigerian lady

This is exactly what I told a Nigerian lady some weeks ago and she picked offense. Nigerian ladies need to understand that a relationship is not an income generation program.

slimman007:


That lady can't say the man hasn't been providing for her in his little way is just that she sees that relationship as "POVERTY Alleviation PROGRAM" where all are needs must be fulfilled which is the typical emblem of an average Nigerian ladies.Once an average Nigerian lady agrees to date you automatically her financial needs must be met

Maybe you didn’t read the subsequent post she made. She said they went out one time, the guy stopped to buy banana and she wanted to buy too but he paid for his own banana and asked her to refund him his money.

How much is banana that a guy can’t pay for his woman? Abeg you guys should say the truth for once na

This gender with their entitlement mentality. I was hoping to see me and my friend have spent almost 50k on him without him returning the gesture. Make una getat.. You and your friend getat. You asked him to help you buy something, not that he wanted to buy it himself, you didn't know if it was money for something else he was supposed to do that day. He rightly asked for a refund. Fiam you tagged him stringy...Why must it be the guy spending.. Guys Spending on your girlfriend is not her right, it's. Privilege unless ofcourse she reciprocates, then don't stop at nothing to make her happy.. Dump him biko.. Tell him straight to his face. Grace found him on time..

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy excuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

AutoChick4U:
Who said anything about lavish? I hope he ain't expectung to eat her cookies if she can't eat his money. Rubbish

This is stupid!

Slurity:
I am a married man and I know better, Any boyfriend that did not have the sense of responsibility to give as a boyfriend will be even worse as a husband. Any lady that go ahead with such a stingy boyfriend is surely very stupid.

Not the new kind of girls the present day Nigerian girls have turned into you,re lucky you didn't marry this modern girl olosho with self entitled mentality marry them and they will ask you for money before you can have sex with them even in marriage its a mentality that has to be quenched its already creating baby mama,s in this generation of girls.I witness a divorce case in court were a wife will ask her husband for huge amounts of money before sex its a mentality she developed with time with boyfriend's and crossed over into marriage and eminent divorce

Kondomatic:
Or may be worse but then my way is not the standard for all.


Giving is a gift, there are so many Nairalanders that are dirty rich but they don't give but I have seen someone receive money during a give away here and gave someone who wasn't so lucky something from the little he got. If it's not in you, forget it.


Now back to the OP, if my imaginary girlfriend calls me on phone and asks me to help her buy some stuffs, I will ask her for the money even before buying the stuffs. The things that could make me buy the them first before/without collecting money are if we agreed on "pay on delivery" or maybe the level of the relationship or the way she's been spending on me.

I give when I want to give not when I am indirectly compelled to give.


Do you know that there's a difference between "Babe, I need these things but I am tall on cash please can you get them for me" and "Babe please help me get these stuffs"

The first needs my favor, the later is sending me on errand.


You send me, you pay.


Besides the OP is one hell of a crafty lady.
She said that she(her friend) asked him to buy her stuffs and pad.


Why did she name pad and left the others? Simple, to get you all on her side.


So if your lady asks you to buy her stuff(iPhone 12, Lexus RX 350, MacBook and Gucci wears) and pad you will not collect the money because you wan prove say you be man?

Sense is too much in ur head.... I hail.

Like what most ppl said before now, in relationships of this kind, women tend to depend solely on a man for every damm thing. For instance for some ladies, once a man asks for their number and calls them the next thing "house rent has expired, need to change wardrobes and all worth nuts why" I'm not saying that a boyfriend shouldn't be supportive but the female counterpart should equally contribute something meaningfully in the relationships.

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

But she is materialistic if its only his stinginess so y lie. She should just show him how shallow she is n tell him he deserve better n let him go.