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1Sharon:
The dictionary definition for family planning is now subjective?

Rubbiish:
The bold is sad...
What went wrong?
Could he have changed just like that?

anigbajumo:
Really?? Is it possible without the name of kids or any document...I don't understand??

Billyonaire666:
Lexicographic meanings are relative. That's why you get subsets of definitions for each word.

The short answer is, Yes

1Sharon:
What is the subset definition for family planning then?

Billyonaire666:
Family

1Sharon:
Are you for real right now? You've lost the plot.
The reason why his wife isn't having sex with hinis because of the vaginal dryness due to giving birth.

It finally clicked with him because another poster mentioned it. You sound ignorant.

1Sharon:
Lol you're a troll

Billyonaire666:
Planning

Belial06:
I am just saying. You don't need advise you need to grow up and learn how to be a man.

Stop talking too much

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

gentleibraheem:
Wetin dey worry this guy
Same comment on every thread which girl break your heart

Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

anigbajumo:
Let wait and see is someone will prove me wrong with my submission of marry ones best friend. Moreover, most of those ladies are the same. This is a girl of just 22yrs, I bought a Android phone of 40k, place her on weekly allowance and I took her to a pharmacy shop so that I can open shop for her once I married her but later prove me wrong that all ladies are the same. It has reached the point that my mum av now putting pressure on me to accept her apology coz she has fainted twice and was rushed to hospital coz I neither reply her messages or her missed call, it has reached almost 150 missed calls on my phone, she is calling during the day time and in the midnight. Finally, it's quite obvious that no matter how hard to satisfy a lady they are likely to show their oloshoism attitude in them, I don't knw if they swear for them. Imagine a lady that I deflowered not less than 3weeks she don sampled two different dicks..

pocohantas:
I hope they listen. Ndi online virtuous women. So many women are out there catering for their homes alone and the worst part about this is, a woman can be a provider and caregiver easily, but a man can never fit into your womanly role because he is not biologically equipped to. Any woman that chooses to ignore this advice in a relationship and goes into marriage has shortchanged herself for LIFE.

If at all you want to be Nairaland’s sweetheart, you can claim you don’t like money, you don’t care if he gives you. But once you logout, use that your coconut head. A man that loves you and has it, would give you. You wouldn’t even have to ask!! It doesn’t make you a gold-digger!

gregyboy:
Lol, if u accept her back i go swear for u, she cheated on you upon your spendings


And you hear stupid ungrateful wife here complaining on their husband cheating like they are the ones who is running the family so the youngman wont enjoy freedom again


Havnt you heard real life cases on Nairaland were cheating ladies who put up same drama after they were caught and forgiven went back cheating again


For d sake of other men you will be doing good for, teach her a lesson that no man would accept a cheating lady by dumping her

Dump her and her drama, or still make her a sex slave of yours na she go run, probably she
Knew of your marriage intentions that's why she put up the drama in the first place and d money u dey spend on her


If she is only fainting and dont passout completely then feel no remorse all na staged stunt

Another drama await everyman after marriage
We men have always been the victim to women


She kept her virginity that long not for good intentions probably the guys that cane around wasnt worth it to give it to, probably you were more finically capable to give it out for, as soon as open it, wahala optorunity to test every other dick came


Virginity in ladies these days doesn't guarantee morality like in the days,

Next time you come across a virgin again burst
It after marriage it would safe the stress of promiscuousness on the lady

anigbajumo:
As am telling u now my hand were tied, Her brothers and sisters av used begging to confused me. Their comments was that am the first guy in her Life and I was the one that exposed her to social media coz of the phone I bought for her,am just too confused. But am seeing the sign that her fainted story is just a stunt, how will someone that just came out of hospital went to our house and started crying in front of my mother?? I was told that her faces has swollen up and she has lean. Am not around now coz am a Traveller infact my younger sisters at home is preaching forgiveness despite I showed them all the evidence to them. If I show u the evidence here, nobody will ever think of forgiveness. They all peg their comments on "she is just a small girl that she's prone to make such mistake I should give her another chance". Am really confused but the fact is that I can never forget even if I forgive her which is the main reason why I can never date her back.

gregyboy:
If the beg is too much accept her back and show her how they treat cheating spouse

She go run.....

She will ever regret cheating.....


Please never fully accept her back never on no amount of begging nor be yoyr family she shit on


Am a very discipline sombori, for d sake of other men teach her a lesson...


No man should abhor cheating spouse never aslong as we are still paying the bills as the man faithfulness is our gift in return we know they can't give us respect but atleast faithfulness

And even if you cheat on your wife you deserve it

anigbajumo:
Even to partially accept her back is very difficult for me. The day I caught her, she asked for money for hair and I gave her with even more money. I just don't understand wat she needed. Two different guys in a space of two weeks just because of a penny, a guy Bleep her coz of 5k in the same week I bought a phone of 40k for her?? Honestly I just don't understand....

gregyboy:
Then dont accept her bro,

You see my comment to a lady earlier this ladies Bleep for money she wont have leg open if the guy ask for free pussy

She be olosho, call her and tell her that and hung up

abike12:
Ladies, stay single until you find someone that respects you, respects women in general and understand his role as a husband in the Bible (if you're Christian). Don't ever marry a stingy man, there's no love without giving, especially with men.

anigbajumo:
Once a cheat is always a cheat. Av been on this forum for many years. Av Never for once see any guy here that said she forgive her GF coz of cheating and she never cheated again. They always returned back to their wayward Life after forgiveness. Her last message is " I will keep on texting and calling you even if it takes a year for you to forgive me" . I don dey reason another lady no time..

gregyboy:
Ladies when we know particular Nigeria lady wen sabi form go tell man say she go text till he reply, unless she don mess up


Collect the phone if you fit

Try nor reason virgin or no virgin

And nor dey quick spend money on women just that we cant help it because is the money that they her after and draws their attention


We basically make our money for ladies

Draslo:
I already started.

anigbajumo:
Even to partially accept her back is very difficult for me. The day I caught her, she asked for money for hair and I gave her with even more money. I just don't understand wat she needed. Two different guys in a space of two weeks just because of a penny, a guy Bleep her coz of 5k in the same week I bought a phone of 40k for her?? Honestly I just don't understand....

anigbajumo:
See this guy, the phone wey I don collect before I left three days ago. This forum has enlightened me so much.

You don't gat it, I spent for her coz I saw a young lady that I hope she will matured right under my armbit not knowing they are all the same. Rule no one, guys pls don't trust any lady, Always expecting the worst coz those gender are not to be trusted at all.

gregyboy:
Leave that bullshit so many men never had their fun of life, when they were young bcus ladies demanded the impossible from them finically they gave sex and love to whom had the money

I know countless of ladies that have abandoned good guys for a money bagging dudes and i have seen ladies who gave hard time to struggling guys but soon as these guys make it the ladies begin to rush them....


Ladies had their fun earlier than guys if you were a lady and u fuvked based on the pocket of a guy then karma awaits you in your marriage


Are you going to tell me ladies with their sane mind would be attracted to married men, they are simply doing it for the money and fun not for feelings, you are complaining because youre the victim....

If cheat in marriage have to stop it would have start from ladies and their love for financial desires in men

Am fucking gonna cheat, and have my fun, since am not opportune to be having the fun now because of my financial disabilities

1Sharon:
It's nothing to do with sex, men are just greedy

gregyboy:
Men deserve to cheat in marriage and women are obliged to remain faithful


You ladies had your fun with guys when you were young we men will have our fun after marriage