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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Nobody: 5:26pm On Jun 20, 2021
Some MEN can really Love women ooo.
I can't imagine myself heading to the ALTAR with a Jobless Lady. That's madness. Not in this time.
I had a lot of Female Friends who kept visiting and cooking all manner of dishes.
But I remained resolute on my kind of bride.
And God answered it, in no distant time.
It's better to be insulted by a wife who has got a good job than a housewife who still does nothing at home, but shares responsibilities among maids whom she kept at home.

What's Love...?
No matter how sweet your Nyansh is, it was never part of my absolute requirements for nuptials.

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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by colestephan86: 5:27pm On Jun 20, 2021
MEGA4BILLION:
I believe you bought that cloth your wore to snap this pic from a shop.
When last did you go and help the shop owner clean his/her shop.
Your family sold you, you are a solid product.
Calling your husband irresponsible shows that you are not different from your family.
Hello , encourage her. Be matured
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by pocohantas(f): 5:28pm On Jun 20, 2021
Kondomatic:
And she still wants him to send something to her parents every month because he sends to his own parents.


I really need a vjay in my next life.

Ah, you want to be the most hunted human?

Babalawo dey find you. Ritualist dey find you. Yahoo boys dey find you. Kidnappers dey find you. Are you sure you still need it?

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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by dominique(f): 5:29pm On Jun 20, 2021
This recycled fake story again?
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Theoarhics: 5:29pm On Jun 20, 2021
Serves your hungry family right. The price is too much to be paid on your head.
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Joetttimua1811(m): 5:30pm On Jun 20, 2021
Thank God he's a gentleman hence the reason you're still under his roof grin
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by markopaulo(m): 5:30pm On Jun 20, 2021
ur brother's wedding is not his cross,ur broda was man enough and ready that is why he wants to marry.
ur brother should solicit for help rather than tax people compulsorily, 120k is too much na for an in law .
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by linearity: 5:30pm On Jun 20, 2021
What will surprise me here is, if this man and many other men under his shoes are not progressing; they will be blaming witches and wizards and running from Pastor to another in search of needless deliverance.

What they have failed to realize is that, they used their own hands to marry the witch, put her under their roof.

With a wife that reasons like this and put this kind of pressure on her husband, knowing fully well the limited resources and income available to him; who need a witch?
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by sukar886: 5:31pm On Jun 20, 2021
That's what I will do,if I spend more than 100k to marry,sense no go kill me
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Kondomatic(m): 5:31pm On Jun 20, 2021
pocohantas:


Ah, you want to be the most hunted human?

Babalawo dey find you. Ritualist dey find you. Yahoo boys dey find you. Kidnappers dey find you. Are you sure you still need it?
Two sef if possible.


Bandits no wan see me.
Bokoharam is on my case.
Cultists dey eye me.
SARS dey my door.
Police and army have special interest in my case.


I am sure abeg.

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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by mikkyjay(m): 5:32pm On Jun 20, 2021
Kandeed:
Igbos are good at that even after marriage they'll still be
sharing bills to the bride's husband like they've done a
great favor giving their daughter over to the man. just
Imagine undecided

Stay away from 9ja girls, stay completely away but will Nigerian guys listen? No


You see your foolishness? Who told you the lady of from East, ignoramuses like you will just call anyone one that you aren't exposed enough to know where they come from Igbo.
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Trustedpronet: 5:34pm On Jun 20, 2021
Some Igbo's can be selfish in the way they think. 580k dowry? That is huge investment from your husband.
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Fastlinkpro: 5:34pm On Jun 20, 2021
Did any one contributed for him when he paid your bride price? Your brother want to marry and he has no money?
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by ZaramT: 5:35pm On Jun 20, 2021
120K compulsory levy on him to support your younger brother pay his bride's price?? Another one will still come for Church wedding oo. Sadly that's not the end, your father will still divide your brother's house rent and other expenses by 3 and force your husband to pay 1 and to you it's nothing bad.

See you and your family are toxic, parasites and very irresponsible. Man must be going through shit. I pray not to meet a wife like you or in-laws like your brother and parents.

TUFIAKWA

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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by naturefellow(m): 5:36pm On Jun 20, 2021
We're still having this type of discussion in 2021?

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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Marpol2021(m): 5:36pm On Jun 20, 2021
Op na old na old Trend be this,
Easyincome24:
My Husband paid N580K for my Bride price and refused to help my family members
~ Nigerian Lady

A Nigerian Lady Identified as Elohor Okudu narrates how her husband has refused to help her own family members after paying almost N580k bride Price.

The story was shared by a twitter user identified as @SmartAtuadi, the lady is seeking professional advice as the issue bothers her.

She Wrote: “I got married 8months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the traditional wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition.”

“He was able to raise the money as I wasnt working and I couldn’t help financially. After marriage I suggested that he should be sending something monthly to my parents as he does send to his parents too, but to my surprise the reply he gave me was that he didn’t owe my parents anything that they have collected all they are entitled to fromHelpNigerianally I was not angry about that until my younger brother wanted to get married and his bride family gave him list of things for the traditional wedding which amounted to 400k.”

“My dad then shared the expenses and told my husband to contribute 120k towards my brother’s wedding but to my surprise, my husband said no and told me that my family has collected all they wanted during our wedding and they shouldn’t come to him for any financial assistance, this got me angry and I told him that he is not responsible.”

“Ever since then we have been living like strangers in the house, he doesn’t talk to me, he has just been keeping to himself, and I have never seen him this way before not even in our 2 years of courting.

“Please our mummies and daddies, kindly advise me on what to do to save the situation, I am in between my husband and my family”.

#areatalkreport

Source:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=586096619460875&id=102858197784722
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Stanleyq: 5:38pm On Jun 20, 2021
Eheenu, let them take money from the dowry and settle them, some umunna never had mercy to their inlaw
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by DMCY: 5:38pm On Jun 20, 2021
Easyincome24:
My Husband paid N580K for my Bride price and refused to help my family members
~ Nigerian Lady

A Nigerian Lady Identified as Elohor Okudu narrates how her husband has refused to help her own family members after paying almost N580k bride Price.

The story was shared by a twitter user identified as @SmartAtuadi, the lady is seeking professional advice as the issue bothers her.

She Wrote: “I got married 8months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the traditional wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition.”

“He was able to raise the money as I wasnt working and I couldn’t help financially. After marriage I suggested that he should be sending something monthly to my parents as he does send to his parents too, but to my surprise the reply he gave me was that he didn’t owe my parents anything that they have collected all they are entitled to fromHelpNigerianally I was not angry about that until my younger brother wanted to get married and his bride family gave him list of things for the traditional wedding which amounted to 400k.”

“My dad then shared the expenses and told my husband to contribute 120k towards my brother’s wedding but to my surprise, my husband said no and told me that my family has collected all they wanted during our wedding and they shouldn’t come to him for any financial assistance, this got me angry and I told him that he is not responsible.”

“Ever since then we have been living like strangers in the house, he doesn’t talk to me, he has just been keeping to himself, and I have never seen him this way before not even in our 2 years of courting.

“Please our mummies and daddies, kindly advise me on what to do to save the situation, I am in between my husband and my family”.

#areatalkreport

Source:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=586096619460875&id=102858197784722

Same old story, I thought I read this on nairaland not long ago undecided undecided undecided
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Fantazy(m): 5:38pm On Jun 20, 2021
Listen to your self talking authoritatively as if you are right by forcing your husband to assist your family because he married you.

Listen, without too much tori;
If your husband is to help your family, it should be his willing, not you forcing it on him.
Imagine, your father shared 120k for him to contribute to your siblings wedding. LOL

If I may ask: how much did your sibling(s) contribute to assist him when he was running helter sketer to pay your own bride price?

Make I no lash you hot slap oh!
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by NOETHNICITY(m): 5:39pm On Jun 20, 2021
The girls family is just a disgrace

For Godsake dude is on 70k monthly, they should he more concerned whether thier daughter feeds well considering the guys income

There is nothing that is as terrible as marrying from poor family
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by kweensheba: 5:39pm On Jun 20, 2021
Paying bride price should be phased out in the first place.

It cheapens the woman.

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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Kandeed: 5:39pm On Jun 20, 2021
mikkyjay:


You see your foolishness? Who told you the lady of from East, ignoramuses like you will just call anyone one that you aren't exposed enough to know where they come from Igbo.

I din call her Igbo
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Nobody: 5:41pm On Jun 20, 2021
The BRIDE PRICE of LADY in this Story is not worth more than a BUNCH OF BANANAS.

I'm still wondering why a struggling young man would dish out marriage proposals to a jobless lady, when that same Jobless Lady wouldn't do such if she were in the man's shoes.

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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by chuksoyo21(m): 5:41pm On Jun 20, 2021
Make u no go kill that man, oh
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by KefeeBRIGHT91(m): 5:41pm On Jun 20, 2021
Easyincome24:
My Husband paid N580K for my Bride price and refused to help my family members
~ Nigerian Lady

A Nigerian Lady Identified as Elohor Okudu narrates how her husband has refused to help her own family members after paying almost N580k bride Price.

The story was shared by a twitter user identified as @SmartAtuadi, the lady is seeking professional advice as the issue bothers her.

She Wrote: “I got married 8months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the traditional wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition.”

“He was able to raise the money as I wasnt working and I couldn’t help financially. After marriage I suggested that he should be sending something monthly to my parents as he does send to his parents too, but to my surprise the reply he gave me was that he didn’t owe my parents anything that they have collected all they are entitled to fromHelpNigerianally I was not angry about that until my younger brother wanted to get married and his bride family gave him list of things for the traditional wedding which amounted to 400k.”

“My dad then shared the expenses and told my husband to contribute 120k towards my brother’s wedding but to my surprise, my husband said no and told me that my family has collected all they wanted during our wedding and they shouldn’t come to him for any financial assistance, this got me angry and I told him that he is not responsible.”

“Ever since then we have been living like strangers in the house, he doesn’t talk to me, he has just been keeping to himself, and I have never seen him this way before not even in our 2 years of courting.

“Please our mummies and daddies, kindly advise me on what to do to save the situation, I am in between my husband and my family”.

#areatalkreport

Source:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=586096619460875&id=102858197784722

...some ladies are just so hilarious wahlahi...when you were getting married, which of your brothers contributed to the bride price that was paid on your head? You on your part is idle, yet still have the guts to tell your husband to send money monthly to your parents. He earns 70k from which he takes care of his new family (you inclusive) as well as his parents and maybe siblings yet you want to be a burden to him. Kukuma kill him with your bare hands na because he say make him marry wife.
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Benzemma(m): 5:42pm On Jun 20, 2021
Easyincome24:
My Husband paid N580K for my Bride price and refused to help my family members
~ Nigerian Lady

A Nigerian Lady Identified as Elohor Okudu narrates how her husband has refused to help her own family members after paying almost N580k bride Price.

The story was shared by a twitter user identified as @SmartAtuadi, the lady is seeking professional advice as the issue bothers her.

She Wrote: “I got married 8months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the traditional wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition.”

“He was able to raise the money as I wasnt working and I couldn’t help financially. After marriage I suggested that he should be sending something monthly to my parents as he does send to his parents too, but to my surprise the reply he gave me was that he didn’t owe my parents anything that they have collected all they are entitled to fromHelpNigerianally I was not angry about that until my younger brother wanted to get married and his bride family gave him list of things for the traditional wedding which amounted to 400k.”

“My dad then shared the expenses and told my husband to contribute 120k towards my brother’s wedding but to my surprise, my husband said no and told me that my family has collected all they wanted during our wedding and they shouldn’t come to him for any financial assistance, this got me angry and I told him that he is not responsible.”

“Ever since then we have been living like strangers in the house, he doesn’t talk to me, he has just been keeping to himself, and I have never seen him this way before not even in our 2 years of courting.

“Please our mummies and daddies, kindly advise me on what to do to save the situation, I am in between my husband and my family”.

#areatalkreport

Source:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=586096619460875&id=102858197784722



So after your husband that's earning 70k monthly, struggled to pay 580k for list on your head, you still get mind to call him irresponsible man! Nawa ooh, you get bad mouth. I pity that your husband.

You better go and ask your husband for forgiveness!
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by invinzzzzzble5: 5:44pm On Jun 20, 2021
psucc:
When you buy a car, do you go back to assist the seller? So many parents fail the test here. They fail to understand that marriage is a union not a transaction. You get united with another family and hence share also her burden (if any). But where you get it all at the initial stage, be ready also to starve at the later stage.

Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by EMMY76: 5:46pm On Jun 20, 2021
This woman and her family are just heartless how can they be expecting this much from a man that earns just #70k a month in today's nigeria where the prices of everything have skyrocketed? This is the reasons why some nigerian guys prefers to marry foriegn women the greed and entitlement mentality of most nigerian girls and their families are just too much.

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Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by infortech(m): 5:47pm On Jun 20, 2021
I love your husband, because that will be the same tin I will do. some parents are something else
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by ndiri(m): 5:49pm On Jun 20, 2021
Ok. Congratulations, you have finally made it to the front page of Nairaland, from day one you married, you should have known that your husband is your husband and not a stranger, with 70k salary monthly he was able to raise almost 600k for your traditional marriage ands you still task him, haba
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by Robisky001(m): 5:53pm On Jun 20, 2021
Nairaland and recycled stories. This happens to be the 3rd time I am seeing this on the forum.
Re: My Husband Paid N580K For My Bride Price But Refused To Help My Family Members. by jspinsight: 5:53pm On Jun 20, 2021
I knw dis is cock & bull story..BT just to add to it: did ur brother contribute a penny to make up d N580k ur hasband paid for ur bride price?

Easyincome24:
My Husband paid N580K for my Bride price and refused to help my family members
~ Nigerian Lady

A Nigerian Lady Identified as Elohor Okudu narrates how her husband has refused to help her own family members after paying almost N580k bride Price.

The story was shared by a twitter user identified as @SmartAtuadi, the lady is seeking professional advice as the issue bothers her.

She Wrote: “I got married 8months ago, my hubby earns 70k monthly while I am yet to get a job, during our wedding ceremony, hubby spent about 580k on the list given to him for the traditional wedding, I persuaded my parents to reduce the list but they said it is a must and a tradition.”

“He was able to raise the money as I wasnt working and I couldn’t help financially. After marriage I suggested that he should be sending something monthly to my parents as he does send to his parents too, but to my surprise the reply he gave me was that he didn’t owe my parents anything that they have collected all they are entitled to fromHelpNigerianally I was not angry about that until my younger brother wanted to get married and his bride family gave him list of things for the traditional wedding which amounted to 400k.”

“My dad then shared the expenses and told my husband to contribute 120k towards my brother’s wedding but to my surprise, my husband said no and told me that my family has collected all they wanted during our wedding and they shouldn’t come to him for any financial assistance, this got me angry and I told him that he is not responsible.”

“Ever since then we have been living like strangers in the house, he doesn’t talk to me, he has just been keeping to himself, and I have never seen him this way before not even in our 2 years of courting.

“Please our mummies and daddies, kindly advise me on what to do to save the situation, I am in between my husband and my family”.

#areatalkreport

Source:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=586096619460875&id=102858197784722

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