Oyindidi:
Now? Na bed I dey so, I go soon sleep. Watin you come do for town?

StPete:
This is what you get when you snoop around. Give me one good reason why you checked his phone when you knew you didn’t have the heart to withstand the outcome of your findings?

Right now, you shouldn’t bother your head too much about whether he’s denying or not. As long as he’s providing your needs and taking care of the family, just channel your heart and emotions to something more meaningful. As much as it hurts, it’s safe to say you shouldn’t dwell too much on it. The more you do, the more it hurts and the more it causes rifts between you two. And trust me, nagging him won’t make him stop. It’ll only make him device a more tactical means to cover his tracks.

ednut1:
so divorce means depriving ur kids the father lol. He is broke and chasing after a woman. I am currently in my father's house for xmas opposite us is a man's grave and his wife . Both Died around 2003. From Aids. D man was a chronic cheat.

Gratefulaheart:
Thank you all for you time and advice. We have decided to go for counselling. Anyone knows any professional marriage counsellor im Lagos that you can recommend?

Dyt:



Way to go
I hope you will be fine after the counselling

ifyalways:

Lol
This might help the woman but pure waste of time and money for the man. How does counselling stop a cheat from cheating?

Perharps this will make her feel better, good for her.

No counselling works like a heart-to- heart, sincere talk between couples.

Idiyat where u hide Segun and Idowu?

Dyt:






Shegs don marry
Idown should be fine as she's always watching
You no come my side again abi?
I need African food direct from home not all these mixed expensive ones
Hian

Btw
It's Idayat

flyca:
Counselling ke?
Has he admitted any wrongdoing?

Gratefulaheart:
He eventually admitted yesterday. But blamed me for it. He also said that i am over reacting that "did i hear he impregnated anyone?"

I feel he only admitted because of the burden of proof against him. Even though he knelt down to beg, i certainly feel he would not have stopped seeing the lady if he wasn't caught.

I am so angry but looking at this children, i am just weak to take action. I don't want to involve family and when i mentioned counselling, he said okay.

I am so heartbroken.

ifyalways:

Idiyatu

Shegs don marry ? Tpia i guess
I no come your side again o. Thought i will use the airline and stop over for 3 or 4 days for my DEc waka but i got a better offer from another airline. Mid next year maybe. I will ask Dayo to handmake you amala and lafun then buy u fresh ikokore

flyca:


Also, please stop posting any further. The more you post, the more you expose the m*nster you live with. And the more, folks like me here want you to “deal” with him.

Hugs to you darling.

Gratefulaheart:
He eventually admitted yesterday. But blamed me for it. He also said that i am over reacting that "did i hear he impregnated anyone?"

I feel he only admitted because of the burden of proof against him. Even though he knelt down to beg, i certainly feel he would not have stopped seeing the lady if he wasn't caught.

I am so angry but looking at this children, i am just weak to take action. I don't want to involve family and when i mentioned counselling, he said okay.

I am so heartbroken.

Saffi:
I think before marriage one has to mentally prepare themselves for the worst scenarios possible. Not like you’re expecting them to do something bad, but just understanding that human beings are flawed, nobody will reach your expectations 100% and preparing your mind for extreme disappointment. So when the storm comes, you’re not a train wreck and you won’t allow any human being to make you mentally ill/insane.

Anyways you won’t find your answer here, clearly you guys are having communication issues as your husband is refusing to confess or be transparent. I honestly think you guys need marriage counselling as there could be underlying issues that we do not know about that’s causing issues in your marriage. Try not to get too much family involved as it will make matters worse, they can be very biased and toxic. Don’t make decisions out of anger and take good care of yourself mentally and physically. Prioritise your children and give yourself peace of mind. Understand that when someone cheats on you, most times you are not the issue. So don’t beat yourself up or blame yourself just yet. You will be fine, and I believe you will get your answers through counselling. Love yourself first before anybody.

nedubest:
men are scum

Gratefulaheart:
He eventually admitted yesterday. But blamed me for it. He also said that i am over reacting that "did i hear he impregnated anyone?"

I feel he only admitted because of the burden of proof against him. Even though he knelt down to beg, i certainly feel he would not have stopped seeing the lady if he wasn't caught.

I am so angry but looking at this children, i am just weak to take action. I don't want to involve family and when i mentioned counselling, he said okay.

I am so heartbroken.

ifyalways:
Welcome to marriage. . .

Now you are in pains, bobo is probably out chopping the sidechyk or drowning beer and peppersoup somewhere.

Better get yourself together, put on your shock absorber , believe all human are fallible, sit up and tight to sail on or sink your ship.

Reality 101. Ndo o

Gratefulaheart:
He eventually admitted yesterday. But blamed me for it. He also said that i am over reacting that "did i hear he impregnated anyone?"

I feel he only admitted because of the burden of proof against him. Even though he knelt down to beg, i certainly feel he would not have stopped seeing the lady if he wasn't caught.

I am so angry but looking at this children, i am just weak to take action. I don't want to involve family and when i mentioned counselling, he said okay.

I am so heartbroken.

Ranchhoddas:
See them with their false indignation.
Na today man begin play away match?
The only error here was that a nigga got caught.
Thou shall not be caught.

Gratefulaheart:
I noticed he has been exchanging calls alot with a particular number on Whatsapp. So I asked him about it and he bacame defensive. He angrily asked for me to give him back his phone, and when i refused he forcefully collected it from me, twisting my fingers in the process.

I later got my hand on his phone at a later time and was able to get the number of the person. I called and i received the shock of my life when the female who answered the call said he's her boy friend and they have been seeing for a while now. She admitted they have been having sex in a hotel, that my husband told her he isn't married.

Thank God my call recorder was on. I have the qhole conversation stored on my phone. I was very calm although my conversation with the lady, wven though it's the hardest thing i have ever had to do.

I confronted my husband and he denied it. I played the recorded call and guess what? He still denied!

We have been married for 4 years with 2 kids. I feel so devastated and awful right now not knowing which way to turn.

He's not apologizing or feeling remorseful. This is too much of a betrayal and I just don't know how we could ever get past this. I feel so betrayed and can't believe he would do this and not think of the impact it would have on me and our kids. I thought we were soulmates and would grown old together.

I have been sobbing all day since i found out.

Has anyone ever gone through this? What is the right way to handle this?


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babeosisi:


He is a goat
He won't even admit it.I hope you have a well paying job.Find something that makes you happy and enjoy doing it.
Your joy should come from within,thank God you have kids.
If you are the main breadwinner please send him to his mother's house to grow sense

Gratefulaheart:
I noticed he has been exchanging calls alot with a particular number on Whatsapp. So I asked him about it and he bacame defensive. He angrily asked for me to give him back his phone, and when i refused he forcefully collected it from me, twisting my fingers in the process.

I later got my hand on his phone at a later time and was able to get the number of the person. I called and i received the shock of my life when the female who answered the call said he's her boy friend and they have been seeing for a while now. She admitted they have been having sex in a hotel, that my husband told her he isn't married.

Thank God my call recorder was on. I have the qhole conversation stored on my phone. I was very calm although my conversation with the lady, wven though it's the hardest thing i have ever had to do.

I confronted my husband and he denied it. I played the recorded call and guess what? He still denied!

We have been married for 4 years with 2 kids. I feel so devastated and awful right now not knowing which way to turn.

He's not apologizing or feeling remorseful. This is too much of a betrayal and I just don't know how we could ever get past this. I feel so betrayed and can't believe he would do this and not think of the impact it would have on me and our kids. I thought we were soulmates and would grown old together.

I have been sobbing all day since i found out.

Has anyone ever gone through this? What is the right way to handle this?

You will surely grow old together. The doctrine of forgiveness implies forth giving tolerance before it happens. Be wise. Be patience. Be smart.
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flyca:

Okay so I read this part and decided to add more.
Wait o, you have been supporting him financially and he still had guts to cheat? How can a broke man who has being failing in this basic family responsibility still have ere.ction?

I need you to think: How can you protect your kids? Where are your relatives? Parents? Can you hand over your kids to some trusted adult in the meantime?

If yes, take them away and get ready for drama.
Do you have any crush? Maybe from secondary school or university? If yes.... good!

Stop sobbing or crying, he is not responding to it. Start a chat with someone from your past, start with a neutral chat. School life, lectures, school uniform, teachers, life after school, church, religion, politics etc. Allow him to occupy you in the meantime. Laugh, have fun. Ignore oga and reconnect with your past. Be cheerful at home, keep up with your wife duties, call your kids and stay connected with them. Ignore oga totally. If you have been dropping money for him, STOP! Pamper yourself. If you have extra cash, buy a luxury product for yourself! And excuse me, you may be needing your precious car more often than usual Stop flying bikes, it's not sexy! And you since you will be wearing high heel shoes, it's not convinent, not anymore!

Now, how he reacts will direct you, your next moves, and most importantly, will direct how deep the connection goes. If he is still unconcerned, increase tempo, move to gear 2. Fix a date. Again, still keep it as neutral as possible. Meet him at Mr Biggs or Tantalizers. Go with one of your kids (the one that will tell Daddy that “Uncle Sam” bought him ice cream )! Lol.

Lemme know when you get to gear 4

Whatever you do, do not leave your matrimonial home for any baskard slay queen! Na him go run commot. Keep that recording very safe too. We die dia!

Hey, it's just an advice. You must not follow it!