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Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by DrtroubleM: 10:03pm On Dec 26, 2018 |
He cheated on..Cheat on him too.. case closed! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by robosky02(m): 10:23pm On Dec 26, 2018 |
Oyindidi:looking for angelahnie Wil wait for u naa abi at day break |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by DarkandHandsome(m): 11:23pm On Dec 26, 2018 |
StPete:how about the vow they took 1 Like |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Daeylar(f): 12:34am On Dec 27, 2018 |
You seem to be financially stable, divorce him and move on, what about your parents? Run to them and lean on them while your free yourself from this man. It will get better as soon as you start doing that. Wishing you strength to raise these kids on your own. As for the giving him your car so you can jump okada. This idea of displeasing yourself just to please someone else, it's not healthy, All the best. ednut1: That's one of the reasons why cheating scares and pisses me off. Exposing me to diseases, some which can kill, imagine treating HIV for life when you were not the one having sex like a rabbit everywhere. 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Gratefulaheart: 7:52am On Dec 27, 2018 |
Thank you all for you time and advice. We have decided to go for counselling. Anyone knows any professional marriage counsellor im Lagos that you can recommend? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Dyt(f): 8:16am On Dec 27, 2018 |
Gratefulaheart: Way to go I hope you will be fine after the counselling |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by ifyalways(f): 8:49am On Dec 27, 2018 |
Dyt:Lol This might help the woman but pure waste of time and money for the man. How does counselling stop a cheat from cheating? Perharps this will make her feel better, good for her. No counselling works like a heart-to- heart, sincere talk between couples. Idiyat where u hide Segun and Idowu? 5 Likes |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Dyt(f): 9:03am On Dec 27, 2018 |
ifyalways: Oh well She's all that matters The healing is all she needs for her own sanity. Even with the heart to heart talk Does it change the fact that he won't ever cheat again? It's a hard one she Finding that man that respects you Shegs don marry Idown should be fine as she's always watching You no come my side again abi? I need African food direct from home not all these mixed expensive ones Hian Btw It's Idayat |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by CanadianNaija: 9:11am On Dec 27, 2018 |
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Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by CanadianNaija: 9:20am On Dec 27, 2018 |
Poster, sha collect your car. Your husband won’t change, he will get smarter. The only good that comes out of this is that now you know the kind of man you married. Treat yourself like a baby girl, don’t do suffer head in marriage based on love, you guys can repair your marriage without you flying bike, and if you have excess cash use it to spoil yourself. A man that loves you won’t even allow you bike while he drives. Growing up when my dad has to change one of the cars and we had just one car for a period, it was my mum using it. He used public transportation except for when we had to go out as a family. I don’t know where men of these days learnt all these strange behaviors that they exhibit. 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by flyca: 9:21am On Dec 27, 2018 |
Counselling ke? Has he admitted any wrongdoing? 1 Like |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by ImaIma1(f): 11:41am On Dec 27, 2018 |
It is hard to advise in this delicate situation. Cheating is not a husband's right as some people are making it seem. Cheating does a lot of damage to the family and to the person cheating himself even if he doesn't know. It tampers with the bond between a couple and destroys every form of love and trust. At this point, you need to be selfish and do what's best for you and the children. Your husband is selfishly taking care of his sexual urges outside not caring if you are hurt in the process... whether emotionally or health wise. There are some things I won't take. And one of them is putting me in the line of danger. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by ifyalways(f): 12:36pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
Dyt:Idiyatu Shegs don marry ? Tpia i guess I no come your side again o. Thought i will use the airline and stop over for 3 or 4 days for my DEc waka but i got a better offer from another airline. Mid next year maybe. I will ask Dayo to handmake you amala and lafun then buy u fresh ikokore |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Gratefulaheart: 1:08pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
flyca:He eventually admitted yesterday. But blamed me for it. He also said that i am over reacting that "did i hear he impregnated anyone?" I feel he only admitted because of the burden of proof against him. Even though he knelt down to beg, i certainly feel he would not have stopped seeing the lady if he wasn't caught. I am so angry but looking at this children, i am just weak to take action. I don't want to involve family and when i mentioned counselling, he said okay. I am so heartbroken. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by flyca: 1:19pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
Gratefulaheart:From outright denial to this? “Did he impregnate anyone?” Wow! Did he actually say this? Nawah o Sweetheart, just go for the counselling since that is what you two have decided. You will be fine las las. This one you are angry when you look at your kids, please be careful o. Don't hurt anyone, please. Also, please stop posting any further. The more you post, the more you expose the m*nster you live with. And the more, folks like me here want you to “deal” with him. Hugs to you darling. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Dyt(f): 2:12pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
ifyalways: tpia and shegs would really make an outstanding couple you know hahahahahahahahahahah abeg call Dayo ooo that food is needed |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Dyt(f): 2:16pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
flyca: what makes you thibk she doesnt need someone to talk to? she cant handle it all by herself reason she came here to seek opinion ofcus she will sieve but keeping quiet will ruin all of it just my own opinion sha itk dyt hianus |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Dyt(f): 2:19pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
Gratefulaheart: oh well he feels he hasnt done anything wrong still 'at least he didnt impregnate anyone' smh in all of this wahala stay strong eat well even when you dont have the appetite and cry less |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Nobody: 2:30pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
Saffi:You wrote a wonderful text but the question is, would you say this if she cheated on her husband? |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Nobody: 2:32pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
nedubest:Most men are scum not all as portray by you |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Nobody: 3:09pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
You will be fine love, time is the healer. Always put yourself first and your kids. You teach people how you deserve to be treated. Treat yourself like the queen you are, your husband will follow. But if you allow yourself to be trampled on, that’s what will happen. You should’ve never allowed your husband to use your car whilst you suffer to take a bike, stop putting your husband before yourself, that’s part of the reason why he’s so nonchalant. Men are naturally rugged and women are soft and should be pampered. It is well my dear. Gratefulaheart: 1 Like |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by djon78(m): 3:16pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
ifyalways: This is it. As a man, if you are married to a woman you have built a deep connection with, why cheat on her?? Nawa for some men. It is well 1 Like |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by thorpido(m): 6:13pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
Gratefulaheart:Blames you for it?He's pushing responsibility.What did he say was your blame? You should go for counselling.Hope it will help. Change has to come from within him anyway.It's a shame he's still not taking full responsibility. What does he mean by he didn't 'impregnate someone'? Take your car back.He's lost the privilege to drive it while you use public transport. Take your time to decide what you will do.Forgiveness won't come easily but you may decide it's best for your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Ugosample(m): 10:53pm On Dec 27, 2018 |
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Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Obalola4: 5:02pm On Apr 19, 2021 |
I came across this confession today on my counseling table so I thought I should share. DIVORCED SINGLE MOM WROTE; I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it's good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws. I am 32 years of age. My ex husband and I dated for 6 years. We where best of friends. I waited until he completed college and started work. My family and his family then met. We got married and had a son. (7 years old now). My husband was short tempered at times but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn't control me. Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he was controlling me I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me. I never wanted divorce. I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a loose woman in his eyes. One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside. I went to my family, my family took him to the police, every time I looked like I was being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case. I felt that what I was doing was wrong. My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue and he remained alone. After two days, I received a call that he was in the hospital. My family told me that I shouldn't go there because it would look like I was begging him and my sisters believed he was feigning the illness. All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused. He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me. I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell. When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my surprise he openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce. We were divorced in 2009 July. Now, my husband is married, whilst l am here wasted! My family members are gossiping about me. I depend on what my ex husband gives to my son for survival. I know I wasted my marriage. I am here telling all wives that they should be careful how they get advise. Don't be cheated, don't entertain family interference in your marriage my dear reader. Even my young sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged me to get divorced are always teasing and bad mouthing me. Please ladies, be vigilant in your marriage. Thought it wise to share my story to save your marriage. There is no benefit in pride for nothing. SOMETIMES IT'S NOT THE MAN'S FAULT AT ALL, IT'S YOUR PRIDE,AND THE PEOPLE YOU ALLOWED TO ADVISE YOU,SO BE WISE AND VIGILANT IN YOUR MARRIAGE. 3 Likes |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Nobody: 12:58am On Apr 20, 2021 |
Brake a bottle on his head |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by culf: 2:21am On Apr 20, 2021 |
Gratefulaheart: Make up your mind on what to do, most advise that you will get here are from singles and people that don't have experience Make up your mind what you want to do; either divorce or forgive. I will advise you forgive and pray for God to change Him, genuine forgiveness but if you can't and if you know you can't be faithful to him then leave, You have right to walk away since he cheated. Whatever you decide, consider your angels and know that it's not always best to make decisions when angry. May God see us through. |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by naija4life247: 7:05am On Apr 21, 2021 |
babeosisi: Breadwinner ko, bread loser no. 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Realestbae(f): 4:30pm On Apr 22, 2021 |
Madam calm down. Cheating is synonymous to naija men. Your own even good say oga no password him phone some women here don't even have access to their husband's phones.And as far as am concern no marriage is made in heaven forget about those single ladies here telling you to get a divorce, U can decide to do that only if Uve made up your mind to stay single for the rest of your life cos man drama no dey finish. I consider U lucky cos U gat a job n two wonderful kid so b grateful to God. My advice is ignored him totally,love yourself 100%, treat yourself well. Cheers! |
Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by kwaso2(m): 6:48pm On Apr 22, 2021 |
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Re: I Just Found Out My Husband Has Cheated On Me. Please Help by Obalola4: 11:14pm On Jun 30, 2021 |
flyca: This is the husband. All of you are Mumu. Because she didn't tell you what she did. Because of you people's advices, the home is broken � |
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