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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by happy662(m): 2:02pm On Jul 05, 2021
Bahamas95:
It depends on the age of the person.

If you say that to a lady that's overdue for marriage she would take it as an insult.


A guy that's still struggling to make ends meet who is above 40yrs won't take it lightly with you if you make that statement.
lol
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by michoim(m): 2:11pm On Jul 05, 2021
Depending on how you look at it: if you are querrelsome you will take it as insult, if you are friendly you will take it as advice.
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Goldbw122(m): 2:58pm On Jul 05, 2021
Well for me it is the way you take a sentence and process it where is simply means that when you are ready go and marry and the other way around is no one will ever support you like send you financial support to marry your wife know no one will do that so what you need to do is to take the time prepare hard that the enough save even have a backup because you don't know what the future will be all about so that is how we take so it's not a bad insult no one is Insulting, you so you just have to tell the person that yes I will marry so I'm still preparing so you can even go ahead and turn it to a joke and tell the person that okay can you please lend me some money or do a transfer of a millionaire naira me to marry at least that one will fasting the process for me so just take it like that that is how it is.
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Hahjascho(m): 3:11pm On Jul 05, 2021
AchalugoNwa:
I take it as a joke because I get alot of it from friends

and to make the matter worse my younger brother got married recently cheesy

But for me it's Adadike or nothing kiss
Until you realise it hits different when a not-too close person ask you to "go and marry."

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Nobody: 3:51pm On Jul 05, 2021
WoundedLamb:


Telling her "go and marry" knowing quite well that in most cases, she's not in a position to make that move/decision, is enough to get anyone upset. If you tell a guy who really wants to settle down but can't do so due to financial issues to go and marry, he might shrug it off but you've definitely made his worries worse. Nigerians like to think they're just jovial but the reality is that they're just up each other's business. Otherwise, it's really no one's business if someone is married or not. And you'd have to be really close to someone to use that line as a joke.

I just love the diplomatic way you put together your words.
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Expresswriter: 3:56pm On Jul 05, 2021
It's high insult.

Why force your advice on someone else?

Do you think she doesn't know what's good for her?

Do you think she hasn't tried her best?

Do you know about the efforts she has made to be married?

Why remind her indirectly that her friends or siblings or whoever she knows is married and she isn't?

That's emotional manipulation.

Some people can slap you for that.

You have no right to force people into marrying.

Many people who are not married today are not married because they haven't seen the right one.

It's not their fault. They're being careful. The world we live in today is so spoilt!!!

When you start reminding someone to get married they may end up making mistake because they want to prove a point to you that they can marry.

And they may go for the next available and ready person who may not be the right one.

They will later discover some bad habits about this person when they're already married. By then it's too late.

But what caused it?

Because everyone around them was pressuring them, "Go and marry."

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by bukatyne(f): 4:07pm On Jul 05, 2021
seunny4lif:
Do you know how many years Oprah has been with her partner?

Imagine using Oprah who is in a long term relationship with one man as an example of a Single woman

Or Linda Ikeji who is a baby mama to a man that doesn't even send her.

These people can catch cruise sha.
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by meobizy(f): 4:21pm On Jul 05, 2021
Lol. It means the agbaya is of the age. I’ve told my cousin repeatedly to leave small girls and marry. The guy only laughs to my face and continues his lifestyle.

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by seunny4lif(m): 5:05pm On Jul 05, 2021
That’s Nigerians for you grin
bukatyne:


Imagine using Oprah who is in a long term relationship with one man as an example of a Single woman

Or Linda Ikeji who is a baby mama to a man that doesn't even send her.

These people can catch cruise sha.
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Pacesetter123(m): 5:06pm On Jul 05, 2021
It's equivalent to telling someone "with due respect to you,sir/ma'am.......do you know you are talking rubbish?"
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Saintmary(f): 5:09pm On Jul 05, 2021
FalseProphet1:
As the topic implies, I recently told it to a girl whom I felt was way older than the lifestyle she was forcing herself to live, I noticed that her mood changed and she went into a rage and said I insulted her... please house look into it, is it an insult?

And why do many girls see that statement as an insult?

Marry her naw.
Are you not a man?

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by squarelead(m): 5:10pm On Jul 05, 2021
It depends on where the thing take hit you.
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Gfskw: 5:17pm On Jul 05, 2021
Mind your business

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by WowSweetGuy(m): 5:37pm On Jul 05, 2021
JovialJune:



But I'm not single

How you can't deduce the simple logic from my previous comment shows you have -0 IQ, Pele.
-0 IQ..lol

OK. Miss 101% IQ
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Nobody: 5:49pm On Jul 05, 2021
FalseProphet1:
As the topic implies, I recently told it to a girl whom I felt was way older than the lifestyle she was forcing herself to live, I noticed that her mood changed and she went into a rage and said I insulted her... please house look into it, is it an insult?

And why do many girls see that statement as an insult?

I did same thing to a friend of over 11 years and she blocked me on whatsapp despite that i apologised. I only joked with her, even me am not married.
However, It's not right to put unnecessary pressure on people. Marriage could be an achievement for you but not for everybody . Africa values marriage and bearing of children more than anything else. They just like reproduction. In Europe, if a man is 50 years or more , ladies will still ask him If he's single or not. But in Nigeria, if they see a man of 30 years they will just conclude that he's married. I overheard women debating about me . Some just cannot believe that am not married .
The pressure is no more on only ladies , I have received more than I can chew. There are some numbers I dare not dial because of this

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Sparkle777(f): 5:50pm On Jul 05, 2021
HEAVEN4444:
grin grin grin grin carry go. na you be MVP

As you cool down so, may God give you a powerful blessings worth billions IJN

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Nobody: 5:54pm On Jul 05, 2021
KristaPretty:
If anyone tells me to go and marry like other ladies, I will tell them to go and die as their mates too.

Una goodnight

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by engrben25: 6:16pm On Jul 05, 2021
is an advice My reply na money owe me
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by FahBuLous: 6:47pm On Jul 05, 2021
Babalola0920:


You no serious how he be insult, how about GO AND WORK?
Go n work differs from Go and marry... It's like saying "At your age you are still unmarried, shame no de catch you??"

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by emanobis(m): 7:42pm On Jul 05, 2021
Are you aware that "Get out" can be a request and at d same time an insult; the tone used is what determines which one applies
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by smasher1(m): 8:31pm On Jul 05, 2021
FalseProphet1:
As the topic implies, I recently told it to a girl whom I felt was way older than the lifestyle she was forcing herself to live, I noticed that her mood changed and she went into a rage and said I insulted her... please house look into it, is it an insult?

And why do many girls see that statement as an insult?

Both.
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by HEAVEN4444: 8:44pm On Jul 05, 2021
Sparkle777:


As you cool down so, may God give you a powerful blessings worth billions IJN
AMEN. AND BLESSINGS WORTH BILLIONS FOR YOU TOO FROM GOD. AMEN

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Desystem: 9:34pm On Jul 05, 2021
WoundedLamb:


Telling her "go and marry" knowing quite well that in most cases, she's not in a position to make that move/decision, is enough to get anyone upset. If you tell a guy who really wants to settle down but can't do so due to financial issues to go and marry, he might shrug it off but you've definitely made his worries worse. Nigerians like to think they're just jovial but the reality is that they're just up each other's business. Otherwise, it's really no one's business if someone is married or not. And you'd have to be really close to someone to use that line as a joke.

It depends on the tone and the manner it was said,, [/color][color=#006600]
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Desystem: 9:35pm On Jul 05, 2021
WoundedLamb:


Telling her "go and marry" knowing quite well that in most cases, she's not in a position to make that move/decision, is enough to get anyone upset. If you tell a guy who really wants to settle down but can't do so due to financial issues to go and marry, he might shrug it off but you've definitely made his worries worse. Nigerians like to think they're just jovial but the reality is that they're just up each other's business. Otherwise, it's really no one's business if someone is married or not. And you'd have to be really close to someone to use that line as a joke.

It depends on the tone and the manner it was said,, [/color][color=#006600] sad
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Mypeople2(m): 10:42pm On Jul 05, 2021
KristaPretty:
If anyone tells me to go and marry like other ladies, I will tell them to go and die as their mates too.

Una goodnight
God abeg o..Please take it easy
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by youngvito: 6:15am On Jul 06, 2021
Nigeria is probably the only country in the world where marriage is considered a major achievement. A court gives you a signed piece of paper and u can start living with your spouse, thats marriage. There is nothing out of this world about this union, good, people, bad people, rich people. Poor people, ugly people , beautiful people etc all get married

The fact is this, you are not in any position to tell anyone outrightly to "go and marry". Not everyone is keen on marriage and saying that to a lady just makes u look intrusive.




FalseProphet1:
As the topic implies, I recently told it to a girl whom I felt was way older than the lifestyle she was forcing herself to live, I noticed that her mood changed and she went into a rage and said I insulted her... please house look into it, is it an insult?

And why do many girls see that statement as an insult?
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Sparkle777(f): 6:25am On Jul 06, 2021
HEAVEN4444:
AMEN. AND BLESSINGS WORTH BILLIONS FOR YOU TOO FROM GOD. AMEN

AMEN. Thank you sir

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by ennyen(m): 7:25am On Jul 06, 2021
Its not an insult nor an advise. Its just pressure
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by aswani(m): 7:34am On Jul 06, 2021
It's needless belittlement and can be psychology damaging to weaker ones.

Quite frankly, in the Naija context, it is an insult meant to hurt the person it is directed at (mainly a female).

People should be mindful of their words because their own children might end up at the age of that person unmarried too.
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Hassanmaye(m): 5:42pm On Jul 06, 2021
Elock1:
that's because majority of Nigerian girls think marriage is an achievement, they take it too serious.

Some think it's a get away from poverty, so there can put their generational problem on a poor young man.

I told my sister the other day that I may not get married, she seriously started rebuking and binding and even said that I am talking like a small pikin. grin
We are in the same shoe

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Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by frozen70(f): 9:39am On Jul 07, 2021
FalseProphet1:
As the topic implies, I recently told it to a girl whom I felt was way older than the lifestyle she was forcing herself to live, I noticed that her mood changed and she went into a rage and said I insulted her... please house look into it, is it an insult?

And why do many girls see that statement as an insult?

It's a polite insult
Re: Please "Go And Marry" Is It An Advice Or Insult? by Janosky: 2:31pm On Jul 07, 2021
FalseProphet1:
As the topic implies, I recently told it to a girl whom I felt was way older than the lifestyle she was forcing herself to live, I noticed that her mood changed and she went into a rage and said I insulted her... please house look into it, is it an insult?

And why do many girls see that statement as an insult?
What prevents you from marrying her?
As you love her to the extent of giving her sound advice,why not wife her and spend your lifetime giving her beneficial advice?

Is married life for every Chidinma, Tom,Okeke & Harry?

You are not the one fit enough to give her such advice.

Only your parents should ask you such questions,(because you are family/blood /your peace/ happiness rubs off on them, good or bad) not a stranger or acquaintance.

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