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Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

If you don't know what to do next then you're not ready for a relationship

Congrats bro

Go to church/mosque and be praying to God to uphold and sustain the relationship.

since you don’t know what to do with the relationship for now, you can give out the relationship to a guy that needs it and knows what to do with it till you are ready and know what to do

CaroLyner:
If you don't know what to do next then you're not ready for a relationship

help me na... can u guide me through.

What am I suppose to be doing at this point?

Amotolongbo:
Congrats bro

Go to church and be praying to God to uphold and sustain the relationship

This one weak me

Amotolongbo:
Congrats bro

Go to church and be praying to God to uphold and sustain the relationship

haba... how na?

Kolo OP upandan

Prepare yourself for daddy duties and start by evening,you don born pikin

Thewrath:
Prepare yourself for daddy duties and start by evening,you don born pikin

explain boss

Relax, this feelings always come when u ask a girl out the first time, just be cool with her, everything will sit in place with time.

She's also feeling the same way if its really her first relationship

Lol op chill. Someone up there advised that you go and do Thanksgiving in church, I no fit laugh
Op say the relationship fit end before e start chai

richmond500:
Relax

time is running out against me... the relationship is already some hours old and I have done nothing and said nothing... she will soon start growing cold feet


Help me nah... I heard u are Ubunja and this is your alternate moniker. Help me nah

bro goto google and read all books By Joe Clef on Scribd for free and change your life.

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with h.orny girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

richmond500:
Relax, this feelings always come when u ask a girl out the first time, just be cool with her, everything will sit in place with time.

She's also feeling the same way if its really her first relationship

I m scared... mood swings and cold feets may set in and she might jump ship ASAP

richmond500:
Relax, this feelings always come when u ask a girl out the first time, just be cool with her, everything will sit in place with time.

She's also feeling the same way if its really her first relationship

This will not be her first relationship bro

cPapaAjascO:
time is running out against me... the relationship is already some hours old and I have done nothing and said nothing... she will soon start growing cold feet


Help me nah... I heard u are Ubunja and this is your alternate moniker. Help me nah

just 2hours relationship and u don deh mumu, give her the whole of today let her calm herself, invite her over for lunch 2moro and discuss like normal friends

richmond500:
just 2hours relationship and u don deh mumu, give her the whole of today let her calm herself, invite her over for lunch 2moro and discuss like normal friends

it's more than 2 hrs bro... since yesterday afternoon

cPapaAjascO:
This will not be her first relationship bro

no deh overdo, u just deh secrete excess hormones, by this time next week, u won't have this feelings again

EASYGURU:
bro goto google and read all books By Joe Clef on Scribd for free and change your life.

I heard joe clef's ideas can set a relationship ablaze... I want to be careful so I dont get misguided

cPapaAjascO:
it's more than 2 hrs bro... since yesterday afternoon

since yesterday?
Call her now and hang out with her, if u guys have a place u normally visit or where she likes going then go there with her, just chill.

richmond500:
since yesterday?
Call her now and hang out with her, if u guys have a place u normally visit or where she likes going then go there with her, just chill.

thanks boss, that's a good one

Relax !
I bet you're feeling so lucky to have her such that you dont wanna say or do the wrong thing !

Its always that way the first time,you can only learn by experience,no amount of coaching will make it perfect,you have to learn from victories and mistakes alike.

My advice though
Dont ever insinuate to her in any way that you feel lucky to have her,that will give her more power and leverage over you,and as a man,you dont want that to happen.


Be confident
She's lucky to have you,not the other way round,so dont go trying to please her !

Since you're a new couple and you dont have much experience,ill not recommed you taking her out,it'll be awkward and pretense filled,instead invite her to your crib,and just talk,get to bond properly !

Dont try to impress her just yet,the goal is to make her fall head heels over in love with you,and you do that by forging a very strong emotional bond with her (it is the only language they understand)

What am i saying in essence,just talk and let her feel you.

cPapaAjascO:
thanks boss, that's a good one

don't ever try to bring the relationship matter, don't try so hard to make her feel calm, she probably trying to handle her own anxiety, u too try to be calm (though its hard) and discuss like u are a friend, if u are anxious, u will make her anxious too, ur boldness and friendliness should be ur weapon here, bet everything u had on it.

U can talk about other things like what u want to do in the near future, dont allow anxiety to make u start asking her what is her favourite colour or her favourite food bla bla.

Ask questions where she could express herself, instead of asking her what's her favourite food, u can ask her what she thinks about garri and okra soup without oil just try to flow and don't over do it like she's in an exam hall, everybody deh fear inside exam hall no matter how hard u read

Creativeace:
Relax !
I bet you're feeling so lucky to have her such that you dont wanna say or do the wrong thing !

Its always that way the first time,you can only learn by experience,no amount of coaching will make it perfect,you have to learn from victories and mistakes alike.

My advice though
Dont ever insinuate to her in any way that you feel lucky to have her,that will give her more power and leverage over you,and as a man,you dont want that to happen.


Be confident
She's lucky to have you,not the other way round,so dont go trying to please her !

Since you're a new couple and you dont have much experience,ill not recommed you taking her out,it'll be awkward and pretense filled,instead invite her to your crib,and just talk,get to bond properly !

Dont try to impress her just yet,the goal is to make her fall head heels over in love with you,and you do that by forging a very strong emotional bond with her (it is the only language they understand)

What am i saying in essence,just talk and let her feel you.

wow. Nice. Well appreciated

richmond500:
don't ever try to bring the relationship matter, don't try so hard to make her feel calm, she probably trying to handle her own anxiety, u too try to be calm (though its hard) and discuss like u are a friend, if u are anxious, u will make her anxious too, ur boldness and friendliness should be ur weapon here, bet everything u had on it.

U can talk about other things like what u want to do in the near future, dont allow anxiety to make u start asking her what is her favourite colour or her favourite food bla bla.

Ask questions where she could express herself, instead of asking her what's her favourite food, u can ask her what she thinks about garri and okra soup without oil just try to flow and don't over do it like she's in an exam hall, everybody deh fear inside exam hall no matter how hard u read

wow thanks boss

i pay premium on SCRIBD just to read Joe Clefs books

cPapaAjascO:
I heard joe clef's ideas can set a relationship ablaze... I want to be careful so I dont get misguided

he should please give it to me please. treat your relationship like friendship oga

Amotolongbo:
Congrats bro

Go to church/mosque and be praying to God to uphold and sustain the relationship.

You can even give the relationship to a guy that needs it and knows what to do with it till you are ready and know what to do

Creativeace:
Relax !
I bet you're feeling so lucky to have her such that you dont wanna say or do the wrong thing !

Its always that way the first time,you can only learn by experience,no amount of coaching will make it perfect,you have to learn from victories and mistakes alike.

My advice though
Dont ever insinuate to her in any way that you feel lucky to have her,that will give her more power and leverage over you,and as a man,you dont want that to happen.


Be confident
She's lucky to have you,not the other way round,so dont go trying to please her !

Since you're a new couple and you dont have much experience,ill not recommed you taking her out,it'll be awkward and pretense filled,instead invite her to your crib,and just talk,get to bond properly !

Dont try to impress her just yet,the goal is to make her fall head heels over in love with you,and you do that by forging a very strong emotional bond with her (it is the only language they understand)

What am i saying in essence,just talk and let her feel you.

I think taking her out and relaxing is a good thing, if the relationship is new, she may be uncomfortable coming to his house, let them meet in a neutral ground where she will be comfortable and he also will be, what he needs right now is confidence, him go just fvck up if him try to do alpha male, he will embarrass himself, he needs confidence first before trying to pretend he is in charge so he doesn't scare her away trying to make her feel she's lucky to have him.

The only time u try to be a redpiller is when u meet a feminist, if u try to be like a lion on an obedient girl, she will be defensive, its good not to make early mistakes

Send her money.
Congratulations, you just had your first non-biological child.

Spread her bread and butter it

richmond500:
I think taking her out and relaxing is a good thing, if the relationship is new, she may be uncomfortable coming to his house, let them meet in a neutral ground where she will be comfortable and he also will be, what he needs right now is confidence, him go just fvck up if him try to do alpha male, he will embarrass himself, he needs confidence first before trying to pretend he is in charge so he doesn't scare her away trying to make her feel she's lucky to have him.

The only time u try to be a redpiller is when u meet a feminist, if u try to be like a lion on an obedient girl, she will be defensive, its good not to make early mistakes

You've got a point bro
But he still needs to come off as a man thats in charge,or in the long run she'll toss him left and right at the see finish stage.

You are right about the public meeting,i guess he wont be able to make her trust him well enough,soon enough to visit him.

You're right.