Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

@Lalasticlala ...
@mynd44 ..
@rocktation ..
@farano ..

You need working on your self esteem

You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


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Amotolongbo:
You need working on your self esteem

People told me that alot. But i just don't know which way to starting improving it.

sweetshisha:




You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef"


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Thank you... But what of those taking advantage of my simple life. Any advice?

work on yourself esteem

Facts111:
Good day everyone..
I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have convidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). ..you can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.. Am the first born of the family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and i went inside crying. The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr.. One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking on it. People takes me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website. Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

Facts111:

Thank you... But what of those taking advantage of my simple life. Any advice?

As much as I don't like to advise you to change your simple nature because of others cruelty.... Sadly in Nigeria you must act tough .

For an introvert , that means you have enough idle time, and you think alot, with lots of imaginations...

In your solitude time seat and reflect on previous experience like the man embarassing you , and imagine yourself slapping him or insulting him, then think of the highest thing he can do .. picture it vividly

Because what you are going through is just some fears holding you back, you must confront the fears from your mind and from your thinking using active imagination...

After doing this for a while you must learn to talk back at people, start from your household or people that can't harm you then soon take on tougher people




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You didn't state this but I feel it's one of the problem.
Stop masturbating it enforces your current situation.
Rather than the cult option.
Take alcohol. It would give you that temporary confidence boost than could be a push.
For now forget about talking to women like you've been adviced. Creat strong bonds with your male folks and advance to the other gender. You have a social problem not a woman problem so start easy.
Try to go out more or get a job. You'll find it easier communicating with colleagues.
Exercise, it will make you feel good about your self and promote self confidence. You give your self a goal of 100 push ups a day 25 each set spread across the day.
Try to work on communication via calls. WhatsApp calls are cheaper and would make you talk longer. This would help you practice communication without feeling pressure from the person's physical presence. Work on this seriously and you'll find it easier to talk in person.

Pray, I works for some.
Goodluck.

Whatever you do STAY VERY VERY VERY VERY FAR AWAY FROM CULTISM.

That's not an option.

I know how you feel.

Try going out more.... make conversation with people.

Damn Niggar!!!!
Will joining cultism boost your morale or been used to terrorize your neighborhood..... use your head cz you’ll face the consequence(s) of any decision you take now be it good or bad... Shalom

@ drizzle0007 Yes i forget to stated it. " i mastubate ". But finding it hard to stop.

Facts111:
@ drizzle0007
Yes i forget to stated it. " i mastubate ". But finding it hard to stop.

It's difficult. People say pray and all that spiritual stuff. I would only advice you to be self aware. Be aware of what triggers it and control it. You can't stop the act directly in my opinion. You can only stop what triggers it. So if it's a thought for instance, be aware of the fact that you're having a thought that could trigger the act and try as much as possible to distract yourself from that thought. That's what I mean by being self aware and taking control. Get busy, learn to code, get a job, register in a gym. Anything that keeps you busy. Do it. You'll be fine.

Facts111:

People told me that alot. But i just don't know which way to starting improving it.

If u are a Christian join a group in your church. There u get to meet both gender. It is one of the easiest way of overcoming shyness. Whatever u decide, don't ever join cult!

Nwannem only u can save ur sorry ass!

One mumu up there said, you should be drinking alcohol, beta don't listen to him so you don't become a gutter warrior and kidney problem patient

And cultism...Eh eh..Premium death is loading on your dear life, I just pity ur mama and papa

Iree o

Just trust yourself

Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright....

You are an introvert but the way you are going now if care is not taken you will turn into a pussy ass niggarr

M

It's not easy to get off that track as an introvert, it starts with you deciding to get off the track!

PM me to add you to the Introvert Lounge Whatsapp group to meet, connect and share ideas with like minds.

If you impregnate girl now, hope you capable? To woo a lady is not hard as to buy Pampers.

I just book space, I am too shy to type self



Anyways God punish all those wey dey make things hard for common man.

Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

First of all. Don't join cult. It won't change anything.

Shy people alway take themselves too seriously and think that everybody is watching them or has time for them. Wrong!

Shy people tend to think that other people are easily doing things but it's difficult for them. Wrong!

Learn not to take yourself too seriously. It's not that important. It's ok to be wrong or foolish or mumu or be rejected. Shy people have a problem dealing with rejection. So you get rejected? Fvck em all! You get told off? Fvck em all! Someone laughs at You? Fvck em all! Someone gives you "that look"? Fvck em all! Someone insults you? Fvck em all! All these things don't kill, e nor go commot anything for your body. People often do those things to embarrass you or get a reaction from you. They get annoyed when they can't get any visible reaction from you. That's not your problem.

Pick one day. Call that day you "fvck ya'll" day. On that day do or say anything that comes to your mind. Damn the consequences and just do it for that day. If anyone gets angry, just say I'm sorry, but in you mind say "fvck you", and then carry on doing things. Just don't break the law or physically fight anyone.

Try it and let me know how it went.

Go and take Igbo and thank me Leta

Weed is a remedy to shyness.

Nothing will boost your confidence like having plenty money in your account, so forget everything and concentrate on your work. Try and make money. Employ people who are loyal to you and make more money. Your confidence will grow from there

U mean u are shy like buhari?

Yes you're very much normal jawe.... Everyone is shy in one way or the other.
I for one I'm a shy fellow sometimes I just struggle to get outta that box sha

Rg

Yes, you are.

In anything u do, pls, don't do cultism.