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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Fiscus105: 4:18pm On Jul 07
harmless:
Read this book and thank me later ....."the power of a positive mental attitude" by Napoleon Hill.

Don't join cult or you would end up a collateral damage


In fact u guys won't kill me with laughter

Some say ask holy Spirit to help him
You too you are recommending napoleon book for him


All these are not practical ways of overcoming shyness o

If he is a student let him try to be answering questions in class
If he is a xtain he should try to join Sunday sch Dept, let him go to a small church own by redeem

If he is a faaji guy, let him go to Palm wine joint where at least 10 people use to come for drink and force himself to involve in whatever discussion they table. In that joint he can also be familiarized and talking to girls that are carring goods and foodies to sell thr.

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by aktolly54(m): 4:19pm On Jul 07
@op go join cult na IDIOT
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by ofiko123(m): 4:22pm On Jul 07
Go to God and pray to him..
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Olaolufred(m): 4:23pm On Jul 07
Ask Ngolokante
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Healthquest: 4:24pm On Jul 07
Facts111:

People told me that alot. But i just don't know which way to starting improving it.
make money first... Have alot dat pple will need, all ds will wipe away wt time wit small routine. No need for cult
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by SommyGudman(m): 4:25pm On Jul 07
Oga you are just my type, and you must be masterbating.
My guy, try. As much possible to joke with girls,
If you are a Christian join praise and worship team.
Drop your Android if possible to avoid visiting porn site.lass Las guy man up always call a girl on phone every day even if to say hi.and anybody way find your trouble nigga burst the person head.... people will take you serious

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by studentofTruth: 4:26pm On Jul 07
vickydevoka:

Please brother help me explain. How is masturbation deadly and fornication not deadly. My first masturbation was in de hospital

It's much easier to be addicted to masturbation than sex because masturbation is easier to get than sex.

Frequent masturbation raises your dopamine levels, which, in turn, desensitizes your dopamine receptors, leading to apathy, being disinterested in others, depression, anxiety, etc.

At a time, the person may even start experiencing Parkinson-like symptoms. Here's how: dopamine receptors have dropped so low that normal-state (as against aroused state) dopamine levels cannot efficiently activate them, giving an impression of dopamine deficiency!

Masturbation kills the man in you!

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Dreebieee(f): 4:28pm On Jul 07
sweetshisha:
cool



You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


.

So make sensitive jokes to boost your self-esteem. Bravo

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by michaelponle(m): 4:28pm On Jul 07
If you masturbate u need to stop it.
Then write down the things you are afraid to do most ....go n do them but wisely and legally.

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Igbankpa(m): 4:29pm On Jul 07
You will outgrow it, I'm speaking from experience. I use to be like you but Now I no get joy.

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Vorticity: 4:29pm On Jul 07
Join kegites in your sch bro, it will increase your confidence.
Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by HabaHaba: 4:33pm On Jul 07
Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...

Well, everybody was once shy to some certain extent UNTIL the world go use their wickedness open/tear your eyes!!!

For me, you are perfectly NORMAL!

But because the world is a war zone, you need to develop yourself by

1. Star looking for trouble and get beaten and over time you would have developed the capacity for self defense, even in language
2. Watch Nigerian comedians, especially those that do Stand up yabbings of the audience. Learn how they yab their audience and replicate the same thing in your street. Master and enjoy to yab people. Develop your own yabbings lines and face the fight that may come. It will not kill you.
People would just be surprised that you are evolving in public personality.

3. Start toasting the most beautiful babes around your area/strength, making sure you dump her after making love to her. No loose heart O. The best way to improve on your confidence is with girls. Toast and toast and toast.
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by BENEFICIAL12(m): 4:35pm On Jul 07
LEGENDARY AWARD FOR YOU...
sweetshisha:
cool



You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Usihyelda(m): 4:36pm On Jul 07
sweetshisha:
cool



You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


.
have learnt something today

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Anfield247(m): 4:37pm On Jul 07
sweetshisha:
cool



You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


.
Chai, this person has gone far! I just wish I could be like you in no time.
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by BigYash: 4:38pm On Jul 07
grin
OnlyDeCapPlease:


First of all. Don't join cult. It won't change anything.

Shy people alway take themselves too seriously and think that everybody is watching them or has time for them. Wrong!

Shy people tend to think that other people are easily doing things but it's difficult for them. Wrong!

Learn not to take yourself too seriously. It's not that important. It's ok to be wrong or foolish or mumu or be rejected. Shy people have a problem dealing with rejection. So you get rejected? Fvck em all! You get told off? Fvck em all! Someone laughs at You? Fvck em all! Someone gives you "that look"? Fvck em all! Someone insults you? Fvck em all! All these things don't kill, e nor go commot anything for your body. People often do those things to embarrass you or get a reaction from you. They get annoyed when they can't get any visible reaction from you. That's not your problem.

Pick one day. Call that day you "fvck ya'll" day. On that day do or say anything that comes to your mind. Damn the consequences and just do it for that day. If anyone gets angry, just say I'm sorry, but in you mind say "fvck you", and then carry on doing things. Just don't break the law or physically fight anyone.

Try it and let me know how it went.
grin Your own dey your body o..
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Handsum64: 4:39pm On Jul 07
mbahdi:
U mean u are shy like buhari?
Is Buhari now your idol that his name can't depart your head?
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Usihyelda(m): 4:42pm On Jul 07
I'm having the same predicament, I find it difficult to express my self in public talk more of talking to a lady.

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by longjames4(m): 4:43pm On Jul 07
cool grin grin
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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by LostMyZeal(m): 4:44pm On Jul 07
KennethIbe59:
Same thing with me.. But I discover the problem, Mastubation.....

I am 31 by age, I have been mastubating for over 14years and its killing me slowly..

I have tried on different occasions to stop it but all effort prove abortive.

Most times I mastubate 2 to 3 a day.....

But last week been the 29 of June, I went to church for program and pray that God help me to stop this mastubations..

Believe me it has not be easy but today makes it 8 days I have stay without mastubating.....

I pray God help me not to go back to it...

I try as much not to watch porn movies because I am addicted to it.......

I pray God help you too...

So my friend, don't think you have a problem there is nothing wrong with you.. If u can stop mastubating, u will be fine


Why are you making assumptions
With confidence for that matter undecided
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by longjames4(m): 4:44pm On Jul 07
cool grin grin
Pls help me view it http://fumacrom.com/raJG
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Moura7(m): 4:45pm On Jul 07
drizzle0007:
You didn't state this but I feel it's one of the problem.
Stop masturbating it enforces your current situation.
Rather than the cult option.
Take alcohol. It would give you that temporary confidence boost than could be a push.
For now forget about talking to women like you've been adviced. Creat strong bonds with your male folks and advance to the other gender. You have a social problem not a woman problem so start easy.
Try to go out more or get a job. You'll find it easier communicating with colleagues.
Exercise, it will make you feel good about your self and promote self confidence. You give your self a goal of 100 push ups a day 25 each set spread across the day.
Try to work on communication via calls. WhatsApp calls are cheaper and would make you talk longer. This would help you practice communication without feeling pressure from the person's physical presence. Work on this seriously and you'll find it easier to talk in person.

Pray, I works for some.
Goodluck.

Wow dude. .....how did you know he masturbates?

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by waploger(m): 4:45pm On Jul 07
Facts111:
Good day everyone..

I'll be 24 next month. The problem now is that am too shy. I don't have confidence. I don't have any girlfriend (am too shy to speak to a lady). You can wrongly accuse me and i will went away crying.

I am the first born of a family of six. A man once accused me of sleeping with his wife (the woman in question senior my mama) and i was like "me ? Me ? Me ? " and I went inside crying.

The only friend i have is my phone. The thing is affecting me seriously. I can't eat in public. I can't insult. I can't even look at your face to talk anything.... I talk alot inside... Am an online keyboard wariorr..

One boy was telling me yesterday to join 'cult' to improve. Though am thinking of it. People take me for a fool. Nairaland is my best website.

Please doctors in the house, is there any drug or medication that i can take to make me overcome shyness ?...



you are almost like me when i was 23(can you hold a boner) but now i can talk,hug and be around any level of person and gender. Whatsapp me lets yarn more....
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by TheSoothSayer(m): 4:47pm On Jul 07
Stop masturbating

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by ThatFairGuy1: 4:49pm On Jul 07
grin grin grin
Emboldened!
You just describe me during secondary school days.
I said thesame thing to a girl who walked up on me when my guy told her on my behalf i loved her. cheesy

That was then though.

Ain't looking bad so it was an advantage for me, I have ladies flocking me that I even had to rejects their advances POLITELY coz I don't womanize
ewami:
Let me help you.
When I was in secondary school, I hardly talk and been bullied by my mates to the extent that I was lied against that I was part of a secret cult in school and expelled from
secondary school, I never spoke to defend myself .
I can't toast any girl. My padis toasted a girl and finished the work for me only for me to show up to tell the girl that I was sorry and never meant it.
My life changed the day I found purpose. Start with getting close to God and doing things meaningful. Move away from social media for now.
It won't bite if look at people in the eyes. Ask questions and try boldness. At your age YOU DON'T NEED A GIRLFRIEND. MAKE YOUR LIFE COUNT FIRST

All the best.








Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by rollandben(m): 4:53pm On Jul 07
I understand you, i was Once in your shoe, but today I'm an overcommer of that.
My advise to you is that, if you refused to BREATH, nobody WOULD BREATH for you.
Just summon your courage and gradually you Will be a man of your dream.

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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by omoade1890(m): 4:54pm On Jul 07
This a real problem that sometimes getting out seems impossible.
my suggestion is, get a job in a big supermarket like shoprite, spar or next even if it is as a cleaner. there you will be forced to interact with people. good, bad, and worst of human is always available there and even if your shyness is factory fitted they will break you out of it...yes they are that good.

when you are finally able to speak for yourself don't forget to open another trend on how to shut up because talking freely is addicting.
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Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by LienwaltAbel(m): 4:56pm On Jul 07
sweetshisha:
cool



You are an introvert , no big deal.

In other to help yourself you must set a goal daily to speak with a lady or two daily, try simple lines like " excuse me, do you stay around here, I like your looks, can I have your number, can we be friends" highest she'll say No, or walk off.. but slowly you'll start getting over the sense of embarassment and start replacing it with jokes like " She no even fine sef" , "girl wey I won manage"


.
This one Na anti social disorder bros.
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Memyselfu2009(m): 4:59pm On Jul 07
I was once like you.

Just go out and mingle
Re: Am I Normal ?... Am Too Shy by Cerebellum: 4:59pm On Jul 07
Fiscus105:



What's ur own suggestion ?

Learn how to welcome various options even if they are not tardem with urs

Sometimes countering a suggestion might be a suggestion

And "welcome various options even if they are not tardem with yours" Really?!!...so if someone advice you to kill and no one say nothing otherwise, your foolish self will go ahead??

To slap your mumu face dey hungry me

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