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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by aribisala0(m): 7:15pm On Jul 07, 2021
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mofedamijo:


Choose wisely.
You cannot know you have chosen wisely until after you have chosen
those who have never seen war are often very brave

According to the bible ( I am not saying it is true or not) Peter denied Jesus 3 times in one night.
Did Jesus not choose wisely?

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Akalia(m): 7:15pm On Jul 07, 2021
Romanoff:
As a woman, I advice strongly against it.

If you're a woman, don't get married without a source of income, no matter how small.

Either a job or a business. Just have something doing.
It is a recipe for disaster if you have nothing doing.
Now you are talking. You now coloborate my point on the other thread.
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by pomide(m): 7:16pm On Jul 07, 2021
ogashman:
Op


What if you are approaching your fifties and still have not made that money, so u die a single man?

Yes

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by kessydaddy(m): 7:17pm On Jul 07, 2021
Nice point
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Nobody: 7:17pm On Jul 07, 2021
ogashman:
Op


What if you are approaching your fifties and still have not made that money, so u die a single man?

Paul the apostle died a single man and he was buried the same way a married man would be buried.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Finchmgh: 7:19pm On Jul 07, 2021
maak400:
You're right OP, money is important in marriage.

But my question to everyone is, if a man is hustling and he's still not financially stable till he's 40 years old, will you advise him not to marry but to keep hustling till he is financially stable even if he's nearing 50 years old?
Marriage is not a necessity.
Getting married is a privilege, if you're not privileged to afford it, then it's better you stay off it.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Akalia(m): 7:19pm On Jul 07, 2021
obembet:
Nonsense

Op! And all those of you that aggreed with him, u beta think twice. That Linda said and later have baby.

Is it when you are 50s u will settle down and train your children at old age?



Marriage open doors. Just marry the right woman
Explain more about your assertion?
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by TheGift: 7:20pm On Jul 07, 2021
This is sound and practical advice. Those who have ears should sit and hear.

Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.

Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by seanwilliam(m): 7:23pm On Jul 07, 2021
mofedamijo:
Even the extremely wealthy are divorcing. Know your woman and work with her with what you have. What you think might be financially stable might be totally unstable for some women.

Even if you earn cool and live comfortably, some women will call you a pauper. Whereas, even when you don't have much, some women will stand by you till there is a change.

Some women will help you up the ladder, some will pull you down with your finances.

Choose wisely.

Lol una like to Dey twist topic just to have a say.. the bolded is exactly what the op is talking about ..

U don’t have to be millionaire but u need to be financially capable of providing basic things..

Everything is not money I agree, but no marriage will work in this 21st century without money ..
It might work when there’ are no kids yet , but when they start coming , bro you’re on a long thing .

And your partner must be working and contributing too .. make bills no go kill u before your time
Note : I’m not married but 80% of divorces ive seen have something to do with money ..

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Franking: 7:25pm On Jul 07, 2021
Na die o.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Blackdisciple(m): 7:25pm On Jul 07, 2021
Sure....
Not just more than half but money solves 99.9% problem in marriage

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by laxetude: 7:26pm On Jul 07, 2021
nextstep:
So what I'm hearing is: "men, work hard, get money, get married, then spend all your money on maintaning a wife, with children" angry

Abegi... this country has enough children. Men, use your money to travel abroad, treat yourself to a spa in Asia, spend a week in the Bahamas, chill out in our Lagos resorts.

With no dependents, you can save up enough to enjoy this world, instead of spending your every waking hour being a walking wallet.

Nigga am riding on this same wave. Life is too darn short

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by TheGift: 7:26pm On Jul 07, 2021
You’re still hustling in your 50s and you want to bring someone’s daughter into your hustling lane... then have children on top of that? When you have used all the energy of youth hustling?

Just stay single and have an independent companion if you need companionship- which is the essence of marriage.

maak400:
You're right OP, money is important in marriage.

But my question to everyone is, if a man is hustling and he's still not financially stable till he's 40 years old, will you advise him not to marry but to keep hustling till he is financially stable even if he's nearing 50 years old?

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by dingbang(m): 7:27pm On Jul 07, 2021
Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.

Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.
michelle55, do you concur?

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by aribisala0(m): 7:28pm On Jul 07, 2021
Finchmgh:

Marriage is not a necessity.
Getting married is a privilege, if you're not privileged to afford it, then it's better you stay off it.
There are different dimensions to the issue.


Biologically there is a competition for whose genes will inherit the earth. If you don't make babies then the offspring of one idiot will inherit the world so you need to add your genes to the mix
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Berezuski: 7:29pm On Jul 07, 2021
If you don't have anyone to feed or cater for, would you task yourself to work?

But Congratulations!
You just gave a lifeline to those who don't even want to try.
But remember that age is on the decline.
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Truvelisback(m): 7:30pm On Jul 07, 2021
ogashman:
Op


What if you are approaching your fifties and still have not made that money, so u die a single man?
Good one bro. If u are waiting to be financially stable b4 getting married, u go grow Moses. Like d way an elderly man told me, give am bele 1st, then other things can follow later.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by kernniejay(m): 7:31pm On Jul 07, 2021
The school fee of my 2 year old is N30k per term. I have not mentioned the prices of his exotic foods because he has not mastered our local food yet o, not even rice or amala. Don't let me mention the amount of food that we his parents consume, the bills to settle every month and the monthly allowance for the grand parents. It is not a joking matter at all.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by dingbang(m): 7:32pm On Jul 07, 2021
Na when sisters of the man wife abuse the man onto say he no get money, na when you go know say e important for man to get stable income.

But as for me.. Lai lai, i will not marry a broke woman too.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Femmyfestus: 7:32pm On Jul 07, 2021
Romanoff:
As a woman, I advice strongly against it.

If you're a woman, don't get married without a source of income, no matter how small.

Either a job or a business. Just have something doing.
It is a recipe for disaster if you have nothing doing.
smiley
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Quim2: 7:34pm On Jul 07, 2021
ogashman:
Op


What if you are approaching your fifties and still have not made that money, so u die a single man?


I'm 41. Money delayed me.
I have it now and started searching since November last year. I'm glad I didn't mess up by marrying in poverty. It would have been a huge disaster

My only worry now is kids. I wanna marry before August, that if I see the kind of tall, curvy, light-skinned lady I like. I no dey fear all those high maintenance ladies again lolz.

The surprising part is I have parents calling me to marry their teenage daughters.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by PENNYSWAP: 7:34pm On Jul 07, 2021
Suicidal
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by bluefilm: 7:36pm On Jul 07, 2021
Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.

Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.

Before nko?

Money is the most important thing in marriage.

Love na just secondary.

Bear that always in your heart... at least, as a Man.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Nobody: 7:37pm On Jul 07, 2021
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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Savedday: 7:38pm On Jul 07, 2021
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Tolani1122(m): 7:38pm On Jul 07, 2021
Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.
Marrying or not marrying , I will impregnate a girl this year
Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Nobody: 7:39pm On Jul 07, 2021
Treborblue:
Abeg no do pass yourself
Well on a lighter note Here is the viral moment of when a yahoo boy abi almost man was picked on bike from a HK by his mum. grin cheesy





https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gh3cEl8wqRA
what is HK
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by MrNipplesLover(m): 7:40pm On Jul 07, 2021
Fear women...

I don talk my own.

Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by kay29000(m): 7:40pm On Jul 07, 2021
ogashman:
Op


What if you are approaching your fifties and still have not made that money, so u die a single man?

Lol.
Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by MeghaneMorgane(f): 7:41pm On Jul 07, 2021
Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.

Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.
Op you are very correct. It is only lazy men who are also poor that says money is not important in marriage. A man who is not lazy will never say that. Even the Bible has said it, a man who cannot provide for his household is worse than an infidel.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by ultimateprof: 7:42pm On Jul 07, 2021
If you want to die quick, marry without a stable income, but if you want to experience heaven on Earth marry with a stable income.

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Re: Marrying As A Man When You Are Not Financially Stable by Nobody: 7:42pm On Jul 07, 2021
maak400:
You're right OP, money is important in marriage.

But my question to everyone is, if a man is hustling and he's still not financially stable till he's 40 years old, will you advise him not to marry but to keep hustling till he is financially stable even if he's nearing 50 years old?

The best thing is for the man to ensure he is earning something, most importantly, to marry a woman who will appreciate and accept him the way he is. If you don't marry a money monger, the little you earn, if spent decently, while the woman is also working, would go a long way...

Nonetheless the OP has a point.

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