Quim2:



I'm 41. Money delayed me.
I have it now and started searching since November last year. I'm glad I didn't mess up by marrying in poverty. It would have been a huge disaster

My only worry now is kids. I wanna marry before August, that if I see the kind of tall, curvy, light-skinned lady I like. I no dey fear all those high maintenance ladies again lolz.

The surprising part is I have parents calling me to marry their teenage daughters.

Romanoff:


And you know this how?

Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.

Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.

Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.

Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.

Rapmoney:
As a young man, DO NOT let anyone, whether married or not to deceive you that money does not matter in marriage. The truth is that money solves more than half of the problems in marriage, especially in a Nigerian society.

This does not mean that you must be a millionaire or be rolling in money, but have the financial capacity to provide the basic things humans need for living, and luxuries inclusive.

Any home you enter where the man commands maximum respect, observe closely, he is living up to his responsibilities as a man. There is no respect from any woman for that man who cannot provide the basic necessities. Don't let anyone deceive you. That girl that tells you today that she will run any length for you will turn to a tigress tomorrow in marriage if the major finance comes from her.

If you would be respected, make sure you have a source of income that brings a substantial amount that can provide basic necessities and at least, modest luxuries.

Rubbiish:

Words on gold
You can't possibly be contented when u have no money! That's guy's submission is wrong!
If u have made little money, u can't possibly compare your contentment level with when u were u struggling?

pansophist:


Why not quote me directly? All this kpomo men sef

To the topic, contentment is fluid, it is not something that is benchmarked on a particular amount before it (contentment) has an effect. A good example of contentment are the northern shoe cobblers, hawkers, finger nail trimmers and cloth sewers. Think about it, you'll hardly hear or see an hausa man on the news stealing, engaging in ritualist or Internet fraud, even if they are the poorest and largest ethnic group in Nigeria.

Thats what contentment does to you. It kills envy for others, it's being at peace with yourself regardless of your earnings, with a sense of gratitude to top it all. I admire that trait in the Northerners, and it something you should learn from them. So my guy, the instant way to be rich right now, na you just comot mind for all the things wey you no fit afford. No go kill yaself. And next time, get balls quote me, no de go through woman, you hear?


cc. Bukatyne

vickydankal:
Truth be told we love our me to be up and doing. We can cover up here and there for few years but when the man decide to leave the providence for us, we tend to become tensed. We are coming to help not to carry the burden. We can hide the fact that we are the ones doing most of the financial needs but of course certain level of money can not be hidden.

For struggling men, my advice don't get married yet and if you must forget childbearing for a year or 2. The insult, humiliation, embarrassment may not come from the wife, it may be from in-laws, neighbors and family members.

4 keys to solve half of the marital issues
1. Money
2. More money
3. Increase the more money
4. Make more money with the increased money


Pampers, rent, dstv, repairs, upkeep, clothing, health, food, as the essential before talking of pleasures like outing, a local government worker with steady salary can't handle those not to talk of vacation and luxury.

It's not easy on our men oooo seriously, I didn't know what my daddy past through until 1 year of marriage. No body will blame the ladies but the men for lack in the house no matter whose fault it is. Men are expected to do everything but it's not fair nah. You go kill your man if you leave the whole burden to him oooo.

Live at a cheaper place
Marry a manager
Both hands (husband and wife) should have milt steams of income
Start small with the must basic things in the home (na so me and oga start ooo, almost with nothing but story don change small) though give the opportunity I won't try it again, who suffer help abeg.


May God favor and have mercy on our hard working men.

yomi007k:



Shey na by force to marry ni?

babyfaceafrica:
If you are not financially stable, do not marry. Don't let anyone pressure you, cerelac is 4k now.. Na one week dem go finish am.. Be wise

mofedamijo:
Even the extremely wealthy are divorcing. Know your woman and work with her with what you have. What you think might be financially stable might be totally unstable for some women.

Even if you earn cool and live comfortably, some women will call you a pauper. Whereas, even when you don't have much, some women will stand by you till there is a change.
Not in all cases. But it's good for a man to always be on top of his game to be able to pull the string. When your wife is paying the rent, feeding you and paying children fees, you wouldn't need a Prophet to interpret to you that she's the head of the house. Men be wiser.
Some women will help you up the ladder, some will pull you down with your finances.

Choose wisely.

Ruggman:
Your write up is not totally correct, marriage is a life venture that requires maturity and godly wisdom not just money.
Money is necessary for everyone and if you care to know some bachelor's spend far more than some married men on wasteful living.
Major thing you need in marriage is God's favour to marry your own wife. It is important to pray very well and listen to advise, ask relevant questions about your supposed spouse before engaging in marriage.
NB
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*YOUR OWN WIFE WILL STAND WITH YOU WETHER GOOD OR BAD
*IF YOU MARRY WHEN YOU HAVE MONEY, WHAT HAPPENS IF ALONG THE WAY THINGS TURN DOWNWARDS?, WILL YOU ASK THE WOMAN TO TAKE A BREAK FROM THE MARRIAGE UNTILL THINGS RETURN TO NORMAL?.
* A BAD WIFE WILL MISBEHAVE EVEN WHEN YOU ARE GIVING HER HEAVEN AND EARTH.
* MARRIAGE IS NOT A BED OF ROSES, EXPECT UPS AND DOWNS, HIGH AND LOW MOMENTS. MONEY OR NO MONEY CAN NOT CHANGE THIS FACT ABOUT MARRIAGE

Kirkman:

So upon your old age, you still dey find curvy light skinned lady. You still dey play choices game. Na wa for you o! So if the one God has destined for you is now dark skinned will you throw her away?

kzubyar:
Queen of the South

ogashman:
Op


What if you are approaching your fifties and still have not made that money, so u die a single man?

mofedamijo:


Okay, you can chose foolishly then.

Goodbyes

Quim2:


Where she dey since wey i dey suffer?
I guess it's now a crime to make a choice in these things.

Trust me, i worked and still work really hard to get what i want and God will give me something close this month

Thanks

IgweOfNnewi:
Lies from the pit from hell, marry a virgin, I repeat marry a virgin without experience, if you have money or not you wouldn't have issues, if you marry a harlot that even give her all heavens she will go to hell to have sex, I know a woman who had a jobless husband, she was more educated and more financially stable than the man that had nothing but they are living well, even the woman took loan several times in her office to buy two cars for him for transportation and some others to buy the house they are living, they have been together for about 9years now.

IgweOfNnewi:
Lies from the pit from hell, marry a virgin, I repeat marry a virgin without experience, if you have money or not you wouldn't have issues, if you marry a harlot that even give her all heavens she will go to hell to have sex, I know a woman who had a jobless husband, she was more educated and more financially stable than the man that had nothing but they are living well, even the woman took loan several times in her office to buy two cars for him for transportation and some others to buy the house they are living, they have been together for about 9years now.

authority2006:


And then, grow old as a poor lonely pitiable man! That would suck!

ogashman:
Op


What if you are approaching your fifties and still have not made that money, so u die a single man?

obembet:
Nonsense

Op! And all those of you that aggreed with him, u beta think twice. That Linda said and later have baby.

Is it when you are 50s u will settle down and train your children at old age?

Marriage open doors. Just marry the right woman

Blueelf:
Let's be specific

IF you're not making at least N500k per month (and you stay in a Major City like Lagos, Abuja and Port-Hacourt), please don't marry

I used 30mins of my precious time to calculate it. Please marriage is not compulsory and women love your ability to provide, not you