Apart from relationship with this girl, do you have a dream? Do you have something you are passionate about and desperately wish to achieve before death meets you? Are you satisfied with just living? Eating, going to toilet, and maybe having sex in the future? Are there things you also want to be or do in this life? Like employ people, create jobs, have an NGO that supports albinos, or sponsor a research that can change a life? Is there an invention you are working on? Are you a gym cat? Building your muscles and intellect? Do you want to learn programming and teach it for free to kids who are less privileged and have challenging backgrounds in life. What about your love for God and paradise. Do you want to live a life that is approved by God and be saved from hellfire?

You see all these questions I asked you? If you are living your life taking steps to achievement of any of these things, your mind will be filled up, your self esteem will be high at its peak, you will see everyone that cones your way as a possible tool to achieving this dream. So meeting with this woman of yours, will take its natural course. It wouldn't need any one on nairaland to tell you what to do next, your dreams, your starved ambition, your inner energies, will lead you. And you will not see yourself any less in esteem than her. She is not doing you a favour by accepting your proposal, its only an opportunity to see how and where she meets you on your way to the top.

If you meet her and she has no dreams, or will be a harbinger to your own ambition or standards, you may have to help her to the way up, or break up with her to find your own kind. So don't be too excited. You are also a big catch. Do you see how djcuppy is all over Anthony Joshua? He is filled with fulfilment. There is a man out there who would scream if cuppy likes his comment on her page, or likes his picture, or follows him. But Anthony Joshua wouldn't need all that excitement. His fulfilment in life overshadows all of that. Be the Anthony Joshua in your life. Your dreams can take you there. Your dreams you are working on, can influence your behavior and perception, your gratitude to God and your self esteem.

With this mindset or personality, you can date Obamas daughter and still live by your standards. You can tell otedolas daughter that you don't take alcohol or you won't attend a particular party, the relationship should favour your dreams. If not, it should not exist. So you can turn down a proposal from the most beautiful girl in the block. You matter too. In fact, you matter most! You are the catch!

PrimeWatermark:
Send her money.
Congratulations, you just had your first non-biological child.

non-bilogical, is she a robot?

Simp lord

never start a relationship with money
Going to the pool may not be also a good one you might she may misinterpret it and you may get carried seeing other ladies
if you guys can go to cinema and buy her ice cream and pop corn, after the movies you guys can see and talk, have a proper introduction so you can start feel being intimate

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

Guy calm down you don't have to do anything special...if you guys both live in the same state just message her and arrange a date with somewhere you can but drinks and perhaps food..
You won't do anything special, just talk about everything and anything if you guys have been friends before i am sure there are some things you guys haven't talked about yet... Say that thing... Be smart enough to say what you don't want to say yet... And be in control enough to words outta her mouth...

Just be creative and open minded, that's all you need... Things like this are meant to be spontaneous.

And don't forget to know her stand on sex and see mybe it alligns with yours..

On a final Note: in whatever you do not start what you can't finish.

Hahahahaha, wetin my eyes no go see for this Nairaland.

My brother please two of you should do looking competition. These emojis are just too limited

Now go and fill up ur bank account...its time for the spending

Jh0wsef:
Lols

boss can I get your WhatsApp number??

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

Nothing has changed, just keep being friends. Now you can hold hands while walking down the road. Please don't do premarital sex, it will destroy you!

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.

This made me remember the first time I asked a girl out back in 2017. Babe said Yes and gave me her number that very day; although we've been seeing and a bit close at our jamb coaching center (It was on the last day that I told her my mind)


I got home and I never called her till date because;

1. At the time I felt I was not ready for a relationship because I was 18 or thereabout

2. I don't know what I want in a woman

3. I wanted to prove to myself that I was not shy to talk to a girl

4. It was too easy that she gave me her number that day and said Yes

So if I'm to apply this to this context, I think you should think deep and ask yourself what you want in the relationship? Why you like her

But if I'm to advise you, you can Kickstart it by calling her every morning and night

Na so relationship dey start


Never been in a real relationship though but you know they say it's people that are single that gives the best relationship advise


Peace be unto thee

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

If u don't no what to do, y then did u ask her out?

Shouldn't you have been going on dates to get to know each other before agreeing to be a couple? Lol.

Be yourself

Kokaine:
Apart from relationship with this girl, do you have a dream? Do you have something you are passionate about and desperately wish to achieve before death meets you? Are you satisfied with just living? Eating, going to toilet, and maybe having sex in the future? Are there things you also want to be or do in this life? Like employ people, create jobs, have an NGO that supports albinos, or sponsor a research that can change a life? Is there an invention you are working on? Are you a gym cat? Building your muscles and intellect? Do you want to learn programming and teach it for free to kids who are less privileged and have challenging backgrounds in life. What about your love for God and paradise. Do you want to live a life that is approved by God and be saved from hellfire?

You see all these questions I asked you? If you are living your life taking steps to achievement of any of these things, your mind will be filled up, your self esteem will be high at its peak, you will see everyone that cones your way as a possible tool to achieving this dream. So meeting with this woman of yours, will take its natural course. It wouldn't need any one on nairaland to tell you what to do next, your dreams, your starved ambition, your inner energies, will lead you. And you will not see yourself any less in esteem than her. She is not doing you a favour by accepting your proposal, its only an opportunity to see how and where she meets you on your way to the top.

If you meet her and she has no dreams, or will be a harbinger to your own ambition or standards, you may have to help her to the way up, or break up with her to find your own kind. So don't be too excited. You are also a big catch.

With this mindset or personality, you can date Obamas daughter and still live by your standards. You can tell otedolas daughter that you don't take alcohol or you won't attend a particular party, the relationship should favour your dreams. If not, it should not exist. So you can turn down a proposal from the most beautiful girl in the block. You matter too. In fact, you matter most! You are the catch!

I like this.

richmond500:
I think taking her out and relaxing is a good thing, if the relationship is new, she may be uncomfortable coming to his house, let them meet in a neutral ground where she will be comfortable and he also will be, what he needs right now is confidence, him go just fvck up if him try to do alpha male, he will embarrass himself, he needs confidence first before trying to pretend he is in charge so he doesn't scare her away trying to make her feel she's lucky to have him.

The only time u try to be a redpiller is when u meet a feminist, if u try to be like a lion on an obedient girl, she will be defensive, its good not to make early mistakes

Nice, insightful.

You be like bubu. You campaign for the position for how many years....but you no actually get plan for anything.

cPapaAjascO:
help me na... can u guide me through.

What am I suppose to be doing at this point?

You're name is Papa Ajasco and you're clueless on how to handle women matter?

CaroLyner:
If you don't know what to do next then you're not ready for a relationship

In my village we will say; "kpomkwem". Meaning Finall Full Stop.

Nothing else to add.

You are NOT YET READY for a relationship.

1. Ask yourself why you went for her.
2. If you can answer that question walk towards it.
3. Don't follow anyone's template, everyone is unique in his/her own way.
4. Be yourself don't fake anything.
5. Thank me later

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

Just be yourself in the relationship and don't start what you cannot finish just because you want to impress her. Let everything work out on its own.

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

Build friendship. What does she like doing or talking about?
Invest your time on them. Learn from her if possible. Be truthful about yourself

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

One thing I know is ladies like attention
Give her attention call her fix dates for you guys to sit and talk more about yourselves
Call her sweet names and make sure you tell her she is beautiful and you made the best choice in asking her out
Do this atleast twice or thrice she will definitely want to take the feelings from emotional to physical
Fix a date for intimacy and if she oblige good if not don’t get mad she will come around or you guys will have to abstain some ladies do but try to read the signal she gives you
If not my brother run she is up to leach on you after all she was too quick to say YES
All the best

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

Don't worry. We will draw up a time table for what you should be doing with your newly found girlfriend.

What was your plan when you decided to ask her out?

See wetin human being dey worry about in this 21st century.

Kokaine:
Apart from relationship with this girl, do you have a dream? Do you have something you are passionate about and desperately wish to achieve before death meets you? Are you satisfied with just living? Eating, going to toilet, and maybe having sex in the future? Are there things you also want to be or do in this life? Like employ people, create jobs, have an NGO that supports albinos, or sponsor a research that can change a life? Is there an invention you are working on? Are you a gym cat? Building your muscles and intellect? Do you want to learn programming and teach it for free to kids who are less privileged and have challenging backgrounds in life. What about your love for God and paradise. Do you want to live a life that is approved by God and be saved from hellfire?

You see all these questions I asked you? If you are living your life taking steps to achievement of any of these things, your mind will be filled up, your self esteem will be high at its peak, you will see everyone that cones your way as a possible tool to achieving this dream. So meeting with this woman of yours, will take its natural course. It wouldn't need any one on nairaland to tell you what to do next, your dreams, your starved ambition, your inner energies, will lead you. And you will not see yourself any less in esteem than her. She is not doing you a favour by accepting your proposal, its only an opportunity to see how and where she meets you on your way to the top.

If you meet her and she has no dreams, or will be a harbinger to your own ambition or standards, you may have to help her to the way up, or break up with her to find your own kind. So don't be too excited. You are also a big catch.

With this mindset or personality, you can date Obamas daughter and still live by your standards. You can tell otedolas daughter that you don't take alcohol or you won't attend a particular party, the relationship should favour your dreams. If not, it should not exist. So you can turn down a proposal from the most beautiful girl in the block. You matter too. In fact, you matter most! You are the catch!

And i thought i was a wise old man. Please teach me some wisdom!!!!

Truthfully I'd tell you to just be you. Don't try to force anything or give a persona that isn't you. If you guys are meant for each other the chemistry would flow seamlessly, no stress.

Calm down guy..... Make sure u call her at least once in a day, ask how she is doing, tell her u just call to check on her.

Don't call more than 2 times a day, left for me once is OK.

After like 3 days, invite her for lunch or so, make sure it's an eatery or somewhere cool, no invite her to your house yet...

Discuss normal issues as friends, what she like, School, work, career etc.... Don't start by throwing money at her o..

GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER BETTER

cPapaAjascO:
time is running out against me... the relationship is already some hours old and I have done nothing and said nothing... she will soon start growing cold feet


Help me nah... I heard u are Ubunja and this is your alternate moniker. Help me nah

Hahaha, you're a clown. Time is running against you, hahaha. Stop exerting unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Don't start with sending her money cos you don't want to start a relationship with such signals. Gifts are good though but be creative with the art.

What does she like? You can go on fun dates like go kart racing, open mic nights, etc.

cPapaAjascO:
Well it didnt take up to an hour asking her out and she gave me a yes. But I am lost and confused as to what to do next.

This would be my very first real relationship and I dont want to screw it up. This babe is special and well versed in almost every topic of discussion. She tickles my brain with her intelligence and I want to quit old odd escapades with desperate girls and start a real relationship.

Thing is, I dont know how to go about it.

Day 1 she said YES

Day 2 I dont have an idea of how to get it started.



Do I call her or text her or send her money or gifts or take her out shopping or swimming


I m already scared that my relationship with her may end even before it starts. I need ideas guys.

Help me!!!

Wahala no dey finish !!!

ARE U SURE U NEED GUIDE LINE

cPapaAjascO:
help me na... can u guide me through.

What am I suppose to be doing at this point?

you both can go have lunch or dinner, start from there, if it’s dinner (preferably), call/text her the next morning with compliments and ask if she enjoyed her night (dinner)

You know what next to do from there.

Pick a suitable restaurant and you guys should meet up there. Allow her to order whatever she desire from there you'll know the kind of woman you're dealing with. Just follow normal and don't talk much about past. Focus on the present and her future goals. Have a great day

cPapaAjascO:
help me na... can u guide me through.

What am I suppose to be doing at this point?

Send her money or gift? Are u stupid?