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Another Marriage About To Crash. by Pecoleee345: 8:25am On Jul 16, 2021
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Xscape1993(m): 8:33am On Jul 16, 2021
Our society is not fair to men when it comes to domestic violence.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Bliss955(m): 8:35am On Jul 16, 2021
Your last statement is wisdom for those who choose to take heed.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Candidlady: 8:36am On Jul 16, 2021
SpruceMediaNG:





[/b]Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for there father sins.[b]


This verse killed me with laugh...

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by biddostandard: 8:37am On Jul 16, 2021
stay strong and walk out of the toxic marriage

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Bola146(f): 8:40am On Jul 16, 2021
Marriage sad angry I don't know why I'm always shocked when I see this word. May we never be victim of bad spouse. If you marry the wrong person, na the end be that lipsrsealed embarassed Lord, I don't pray for a bad man as husband please

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by chatinent: 8:41am On Jul 16, 2021
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attacked and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Romanoff(f): 8:46am On Jul 16, 2021
I recently attended a marriage seminar that made me understand why some people react the way they do in times of conflict.

The Rhino and Hedgehog scenario and qualities were compared.

A woman can react like a Rhino while a man like a hedgehog, a man can react like a Rhino and the woman a hedgehog or both can be Rhinos or hedgehogs.

It's good to understand how your partner reacts to situations so you can talk things through in a saner manner, as long as there is no physical abuse.

In all, you both should go for counselling, you are obviously the Hedgehog of the marriage and she a Rhino.

I know verbal and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse but once you take divorce out of the table, you'd be able to find other ways to resolve you're conflicts. You both need counselling and you need to express how you both feel in your counselling sessions.

All the best.

MODIFIED

The link below explains in summary what the Rhino and Hedgehog analogy is about as well as the pros and cons of being any of the two.

It could help somebody.

https://claritylifeconsulting.com/respond-to-conflict-rhino-vs-hedgehog/

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Nonexisting1: 8:55am On Jul 16, 2021
So you just woke up to the reality. You are lucky not to have opened this thread from your grave. She was giving you hell and you were there deceiving yourself thinking you could cope with her. I am not shocked to hear that she was raised by a single mother. Daughters of Jezebel will always be daughters of Jezebel but you see the brand that are raised by single mothers, they are usually psychologically damaged beyond repair.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Savedday: 8:55am On Jul 16, 2021
9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Pecoleee345: 8:57am On Jul 16, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

Good question

She showed flashes but most times to are colleagues at work.....we courted for two years but we never really stayed together so I didn't get to really know that part of her.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Stupidquestions: 8:57am On Jul 16, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?
A Very idiotic comment

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Nonexisting1: 9:08am On Jul 16, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.
I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?
Did he tell you he was a Christian? You said if she is not committed to the marriage, he should work things out. How? Does that statement make sense to you? You expect him to remain married to a vile woman and when he dies in it, you will turn around and call him a fool. You people should stop asslicking the women folks here, the highest thing they can give una is puna which one can easily order online nowadays.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by MJBOLT: 9:09am On Jul 16, 2021
Marriage was/is designed to favour women no matter what,I'm glad you are learning grin

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Raymond0008(m): 9:49am On Jul 16, 2021
Omo! They will be nice to you during dating and courtship but after marriage they will change a lot.

I don’t even like talking about marriage for now, na to make money be my priority now.


My scope of dating girls now is that if you stress me from dating definitely we can’t be together for long period of time so it’s far better to cut it off at the moments.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by SEGLIZ: 9:50am On Jul 16, 2021
Xscape1993:
Our society is not fair to men when it comes to domestic violence.

which society are you talking about? this same one in Africa or another? why play the victim card.

I can't tell if you reside in the west.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by debbydams(f): 10:59am On Jul 16, 2021
Hummmm
Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by chatinent: 12:39pm On Jul 16, 2021
Stupidquestions:

Very idiotic comment

It's idiotic to you doesn't mean it's idiotic to humans.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by chatinent: 12:41pm On Jul 16, 2021
Nonexisting1:
Did he tell you he was a Christian? You said if she is not committed to the marriage, he should work things out. How? Does that statement make sense to you? You expect him to remain married to a vile woman and when he dies in it, you will turn around and call him a fool. You people should stop asslicking the women folks here, the highest thing they can give una is puna which one can easily order online nowadays.

If he isn't christian, he could do what he believes. You don't just come here and spit the divorce-her syndrome.

This is marriage we are talking about not dating! This is a serious business! Even therapists endeavour to see if they can bring a reunion! Your little words may send big messages!

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by fati2001(m): 12:51pm On Jul 16, 2021
Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man.....I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I no what bad words can do to people

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses,abuse and threaten to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns


She permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she a woman and am expected not to react because that how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for there father sins.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Obakashdee(m): 1:09pm On Jul 16, 2021
Anyone who sees women abusing and Cursing as normal is not normal

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Lifestone(m): 1:13pm On Jul 16, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?
Abeg stop this, it's not biblical. This is currency to slavery

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by younglleo: 1:17pm On Jul 16, 2021
Women raised by single mother are the worst!
Be very mindful to japa if you ever notice, and save ursef the stress nd trauma

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Theboy21: 2:07pm On Jul 16, 2021
Na una dey waste time, if a bitch misbehave fix her right...only Pussy ass niggas and her fellow gangs will sympathise giving an excuse for her actions while execting you to be strong and nice, Op eyes don clear cheesy cheesy

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Teeboy15(m): 2:07pm On Jul 16, 2021
Brother I feel your pain.

If you don't take action to end it now, sooner or later you'd be forced to hit beat her mercilessly, by then it would become worse for you.

For your sanity, end it now

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by obinna58(m): 2:16pm On Jul 16, 2021
SpruceMediaNG:





[/b]Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for there father sins.[b]

I had a relationship with one, they're just there to punish men. Not all though

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Olril18(m): 2:35pm On Jul 16, 2021
Romanoff:
I recently attended a marriage seminar that made me understand why some people react the way they do in times of conflict.

The Rhino and Hedgehog scenario and qualities were compared.

A woman can react like a Rhino while a man like a hedgehog, a man can react like a Rhino and the woman a hedgehog or both can be Rhinos or hedgehogs.

It's good to understand how your partner reacts to situations so you can talk things through in a saner manner, as long as there is no physical abuse.

In all, you both should go for counselling, you are obviously the Hedgehog of the marriage and she a Rhino.

I know verbal and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse but once you take divorce out of the table, you'd be able to find other ways to resolve you're conflicts. You both need counselling and you need to express how you both feel in your counselling sessions.

All the best.
like if it is that easy.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Olril18(m): 2:36pm On Jul 16, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?
yes oo..till she get angry and stab him in his sleep one day..dididnrin oree

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by bepositive11: 2:39pm On Jul 16, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

No, he doesn't "need" to work things out. If she is not willing to work on her issues, there's no hope

It's hard enough to change abusive ways, let alone recognising that oneself has a problem

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by Xxx123xxx(m): 2:48pm On Jul 16, 2021
chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?
Seconded bro..Many of us lack introspection thus we are solely responsible for our plight .
This women who is sniper tongued bitch now was once your girlfriend whom YOU made your wife.

Now lie to yourself that she hasn't been inflicting injuries on your ego with her tongue before marriage.

Or that you didn't know she was raised by a single mom.

You and only you are culpable for the fix you are in.

Your poor choice in women brought you thus far I would advice you seek counsel from people who have a pedigree in this matters moving forward before you make a bigger mess of things.

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Re: Another Marriage About To Crash. by SpruceMediaNG: 3:05pm On Jul 16, 2021
obinna58:


I had a relationship with one, they're just there to punish men. Not all though




they're just there to punish men grin

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