Marriage has its trying times especially in the first 5years...
You already know her flaws,it's left for you to find a way around it.
Dnt leave your marriage cos the devil you know is better than the angel you DNT know.

dacblogger:
Marriage has its trying times especially in the first 5years...
You already know her flaws,it's left for you to find a way around it.
Dnt leave your marriage cos the devil you know is better than the angel you DNT know.

Well he can't take her abusive ways anymore and have decided to divorce for his Sanity

He should always put his Sanity and peace of mind first, and if divorce will lead to it then he should go ahead with the divorce

Susily:



Well he can't take her abusive ways anymore and have decided to divorce for his Sanity

He should always put his Sanity and peace of mind first, and if divorce will lead to it then he should go ahead with the divorce

What makes you think that the next person he will marry will give him peace of mind?
Whenever she starts abusing him,he should just leave the house for her or completely ignore her.she will do it n get tired
You have to apply psychology in marriage,when you notice that the person you're abusing is less concerned,it's not somebody that will tell you to close your mouth.i am a psychologist n a counselor so I should know better.
Divorce is not always the solution please

is marriage compulsory?
if you want to live a peaceful and quiet life....abstain from marriage...i'm enjoying my single life till death do me part...
but if you no fit hold body, either you marry or you pay olosho for easing of tension...say no to rape , domestic violence, and all sort of sexual violence.

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Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man.....I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I no what bad words can do to people

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses,abuse and threaten to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns


She permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she a woman and am expected not to react because that how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for there father sins.

Oracleforce:
is marriage compulsory?
if you want to live a peaceful and quiet life....abstain from marriage...i'm enjoying my single life till death do me part...
but if you no fit hold body, either you marry or you pay olosho for easing of tension...say no to rape , domestic violence, and all sort of sexual violence.

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Marriage is not all about sex...companionship is the main purpose.Dnt forget that.

dacblogger:

What makes you think that the next person he will marry will give him peace of mind?
Whenever she starts abusing him,he should just leave the house for her or completely ignore her.she will do it n get tired
You have to apply psychology in marriage,when you notice that the person you're abusing is less concerned,it's not somebody that will tell you to close your mouth.i am a psychologist n a counselor so I should know better.
Divorce is not always the solution please

Did he tell you he has plans of remarrying after the divorce?? Marriage wahala too much and he needs to file for the divorce then cool off and decide what next to do with his life

chatinent:


It's idiotic to you doesn't mean it's idiotic to humans.

It idiotic to human race......

Susily:


Did he tell you he has plans of remarrying after the divorce?? Marriage wahala too much and he needs to file for the divorce then cool off and decide what next to do with his life

Are you his mouth piece?
Why you carry im matter for your head?
Oga,please lemme alone

dacblogger:

What makes you think that the next person he will marry will give him peace of mind?
Whenever she starts abusing him,he should just leave the house for her or completely ignore her.she will do it n get tired
You have to apply psychology in marriage,when you notice that the person you're abusing is less concerned,it's not somebody that will tell you to close your mouth.i am a psychologist n a counselor so I should know better.
Divorce is not always the solution please

Would you advise same if I was beating her??

You women feel abusing and cursing is lesser evil to a man beating is wife but get this am done.

She want to be beat her up but I won't.....I will rather walk out of the marriage.

Pecoleee345:

Would you advise same if I was beating her??

Are you beating her
If that's the case,I will have to advise the both of you ,not just you alone.

dacblogger:

Are you beating her
If that's the case,I will have to advise the both of you ,not just you alone.

I see......well am not expecting anything different from a woman....Go read the post again this time slower so u can stop asking me lame questions.

Pecoleee345:


I see......well am not expecting anything different from a woman....Go read the post again this time slower so u can stop asking me lame questions.

You're quite rude,I only asked a simple question which you might have lied about in your post.
No wonder your wife is always abusing you.learn how to talk to people,I was only trying to help out

dacblogger:

Are you his mouth piece?
Why you carry im matter for your head?
Oga,please lemme alone

I thought you said you're a psychologist, simple conversation we're having and you're all emotional

If that's how psychologists behave then no one should pay for their services cos a professional getting emotional makes him/her inept in giving sound professional advice

Susily:


I thought you said you're a psychologist, simple conversation we're having and you're all emotional

If that's how psychologists behave then no one should pay for their services cos a professional getting emotional makes him/her inept in giving sound professional advice

You're not the poster so I have no business talking to you.Allow him to explain his situation,DNT explain it for him cos you're not living with him.

dacblogger:

You're quite rude,I only asked a simple question which you might have lied about in your post.
No wonder your wife is always abusing you.learn how to talk to people,I was only trying to help out

A psychologist indeed....answer the person above me first and mind ur damn business..... A wife I spent fortune to marry and provide for is always abusing and cursing me .....u are telling me to ignore her

To you a sensible woman who want her hubby to prosper will be placing curses on him.

Pecoleee345:

A psychologist indeed....answer the person above me first and mind ur damn business..... A wife I spent fortune to marry and provide for is always abusing and cursing me .....u are telling me to ignore her

To you a sensible woman who want her hubby to prosper will be placing curses on him.

You're not paying me to do jack,so you DNT have the right to order me about.
I was only trying to help but I can see you have serious mental health issues.i will leave you your problems,adios.

dacblogger:
Marriage has its trying times especially in the first 5years...
You already know her flaws,it's left for you to find a way around it.
Dnt leave your marriage cos the devil you know is better than the angel you DNT know.

Nope madam, the Devil you know is better than the Devil you don't know.

There's nothing terrible about an Angel - they are mercenaries of peace and progress.

OP
Is there a willingness on her part to change her ways since it hurts you.

You see as painful as it may sound love relationships is not about you, it's about the other person, seeking the best interest of the other party, If your lady doesn't have this understanding, it's going to be difficult to fix things or amends her ways.

Well you're married, I don't encourage divorce but I think there's a way out.

I believe you should see someone she respects to put some sense and perspectives into her, it's painful to have an insensitive spouse.

Pls check this out https://naijasermons.com.ng/wp-content/uploads/Selman/COMPRESSED/The%20Principles%20of%20Effective%20Living-Koinonia%20with%20Apostle%20Joshua%20Selman%20NImmak%20(download%20more%20@%20www.naijasermons.com.ng).mp3

Yusufisraelj:


Nope madam, the Devil you know is better than the Devil you don't know.

There's nothing terrible about an Angel - they are mercenaries of peace and progress.

OP
Is there a willingness on her part to change her ways since it hurts you.

You see as painful as it may sound love relationships is not about you, it's about the other person, seeking the best interest of the other party, If your lady doesn't have this understanding, it's going to be difficult to fix things or amends her ways.

Well you're married, I don't encourage divorce but I think there's a way out.

I believe you should see someone she respects to put some sense and perspectives into her, it's painful to have an insensitive spouse.

Pls check this out https://naijasermons.com.ng/wp-content/uploads/Selman/COMPRESSED/The%20Principles%20of%20Effective%20Living-Koinonia%20with%20Apostle%20Joshua%20Selman%20NImmak%20(download%20more%20@%20www.naijasermons.com.ng).mp3

Thanks for this question.....she isn't willing to change infact she compare herself with a neighbor wife that do worst.... that her is small.

Most times I wonder how someone will rain curses on you and blame it on anger

She started with abuses and step up to curses....this days she even dare me to my face.

Pecoleee345:

A psychologist indeed....answer the person above me first and mind ur damn business..... A wife I spent fortune to marry and provide for is always abusing and cursing me .....u are telling me to ignore her

To you a sensible woman who want her hubby to prosper will be placing curses on him.

Hmmm you made us believe your wife is the problem, but from this little fracas with dacblogger, it leaves a lot on the table.

I think you should learn to see things from another perspective and more importantly be accommodating and stop being offensive and throwing words at people bkos you don't like their opinion. I'm no counsellor I'm just stating the obvious.

Yusufisraelj:



Hmmm you made us believe your wife is the problem, but from this little fracas with dacblogger, it leaves a lot on the table.

I think you should learn to see things from another perspective and more importantly be accommodating and stop being offensive and throwing words at people bkos you don't like their opinion. I'm no counsellor I'm just stating the obvious.

You will live long...only God knows what the poor woman is going through in his hands

Pecoleee345:

Thanks for this question.....she isn't willing to change infact she compare herself with a neighbor wife that do worst.... that her is small.

Most times I wonder how someone will rain curses on you and blame it on anger

She started with abuses and step up to curses....this days she even dare me to my face.

Very well then, many will not subscribe to this opinion and would want to argue with it. The clearest sign a person is assisted by a spirit is carryout certain bad behaviors repeatedly is ANGER.

Time will fail me to explain something's here. But if it will please you, send me a direct mail and let me forward a link to you on something very vital.

Your marriage is under attack. That's just the simple truth and no amount of talking can change anything, you need to introduce LIGHT. If you're a Christian it would be most helpful. Enjoy your weekend

Yusufisraelj:



Hmmm you made us believe your wife is the problem, but from this little fracas with dacblogger, it leaves a lot on the table.

I think you should learn to see things from another perspective and more importantly be accommodating and stop being offensive and throwing words at people bkos you don't like their opinion. I'm no counsellor I'm just
stating the obvious.

I see...... since you are her advocate
1: why is picking the abuse line and ignoring the cursing part....I understood the angle she coming from most people have told me same which the bias I hate.

2: I asked If i was the one beating her would I advise be the same....she replied am I beating her
That was a dull one..

3:If she read my thread well she won't ask me some questions.

And for u have read some of your thread and quote here.... honestly you ain't worth it.

Lastly I doubt if either of you are married so just hush.

dacblogger:

You will live long...only God knows what the poor woman is going through in his hands

Always the thing.

Is always the man fault and she the poor woman.

Well is a society problem......they are always the victim.....Even if the phone she threw at him broke my head am meant to walk off and ignore becos a angel known is better.

Most of the time, the signs are always there but we men tend to ignore or overlook those shits. Thinking she would change but they don't change. Instead those shits get amplified after marriage.
A woman with an anger and loosed tongue that can't be tamed is a No No. She can kill you and u would be history.

Use your tongue to count your teeth.

Pecoleee345:


I see...... since you are her advocate
1: why is picking the abuse line and ignoring the cursing part....I understood the angle she coming from most people have told me same which the bias I hate.

2: I asked If i was the one beating her would I advise be the same....she replied am I beating her
That was a dull one..

3:If she read my thread well she won't ask me some questions.

And for u have read some of your thread and quote here.... honestly you ain't worth it.

Lastly I doubt if either of you are married so just hush.

Very well then my brother all the same enjoy your weekend once again.

dacblogger:

You will live long...only God knows what the poor woman is going through in his hands

Sometimes you need both sides of the story to really get what's going.

Yusufisraelj:


Sometimes you need both sides of the story to really get what's going.

I'm telling you.i was actually feeling for him until he lashed out on me...
I am married so I know how it goes,I was only trying to help him resolve the issue rather than advice him to divorce. He might have withheld some useful info in this post.
I loved your last reply to him,it shows you're mature n learned.kudos

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man.....I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I no what bad words can do to people

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses,abuse and threaten to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns


She permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she a woman and am expected not to react because that how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for there father sins.

Buzz me let's talk.
na_mii2003@yahoo.com

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man.....I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I no what bad words can do to people

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses,abuse and threaten to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns


She permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she a woman and am expected not to react because that how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for there father sins.

True talk

Bola146:
Marriage I don't know why I'm always shocked when I see this word. May we never be victim of bad spouse. If you marry the wrong person, na the end be that Lord, I don't pray for a bad man as husband please

Marrying a bad spouse can never be the end. Simply go your different ways

Romanoff:
I recently attended a marriage seminar that made me understand why some people react the way they do in times of conflict.

The Rhino and Hedgehog scenario and qualities were compared.

A woman can react like a Rhino while a man like a hedgehog, a man can react like a Rhino and the woman a hedgehog or both can be Rhinos or hedgehogs.

It's good to understand how your partner reacts to situations so you can talk things through in a saner manner, as long as there is no physical abuse.

In all, you both should go for counselling, you are obviously the Hedgehog of the marriage and she a Rhino.

I know verbal and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse but once you take divorce out of the table, you'd be able to find other ways to resolve you're conflicts. You both need counselling and you need to express how you both feel in your counselling sessions.

All the best.

You're just becoming active here despite registering since 2019.

That thing called marriage? Definitely not my type.