chatinent:
Oga,


Inasmuch as I understand some women are very annoying, I must remind you the only ground that's christian for divorce: adultery.


If she's not committed one, you need to work things out.

I have once being in a situation when a girl hit me first repeatedly and still ran telling people I attack and beat her.

BTW, didn't you notice this while courting?

only ground is divorce really? What of threat to life?

You people should learn to think beyond what is in the bible or Koran

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

the last paragraph tho. Yes. They have some psychological damage that make them see men as neccessary enemy. They are scared their husband/ male partners will leave them just as their father left or abandoned their mother. They tend to follow older men. Most are damaged pyschologically and never come to respect their male partners. I have been in such situation and it was difficult keeping on. Its workable. You have work to do tho.

dacblogger:
Marriage has its trying times especially in the first 5years...
You already know her flaws,it's left for you to find a way around it.
Dnt leave your marriage cos the devil you know is better than the angel you DNT know.

The same mindset is the reason why so many Nigerians still voted for buhari.....rubbish mindset......madam the devil you know and the angel you do not know..none of them is better.....the best is make sure you know the angel too and balance it up....and a psychologist won't say what you are saying....you are a fake psychologist...a good psychologist will first of all care about the sanity of the man in question...he/she will first of all focus more on the present psychology of the man and not talk about the marriage for now....bye

dacblogger:

You're quite rude,I only asked a simple question which you might have lied about in your post.
No wonder your wife is always abusing you.learn how to talk to people,I was only trying to help out

See someone that calls herself a psychologist??lol.. whoever taught you psychology is the person that really needs to see a psychologist.....psychologist ko psychopath ni....

crazymommy:
But if it was the man beating his wife I am sure you will not say we should hear from both parties.....let us stop this hypocrisy...because we are women do not mean we should be hypocrites...

I love you crazymom

dacblogger:

You're quite rude,I only asked a simple question which you might have lied about in your post.
No wonder your wife is always abusing you.learn how to talk to people,I was only trying to help out

Are u a psychopath Cox I doubt if you are psychologist

TWLifestyle:
"Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins."
U sound like the typical misogynist who would blame single mothers and women -but keep quiet about deadbeat fathers and men generally ! should we also avoid boys raised by single mothers ? Anyways , you shouldn't have to put up with abuse from anyone - you should seek divorce as you said - nobody should have to put up with any abuse from wife/husband cos of marriage .

I'm a man .... Please stay away from any man that thinks the world revolves around him. Or any man that believe there are a lot of women in the world that he can change you if you effed up...for your sanity.

We have psychologically disturbed people in both gender.

You not a psychologist, don't solve their issues.

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

so u think single mum can't raise kids?. wat about single fathers ? can dey raise kids? if any woman curses or abuse u den there must be a reason for that. is either u are a serial cheater or u are running from ur responsibilities. New generation men I hail o. are u d only man? abeg free d lady make she meet her prince charming. if u divorced her den what. what a world........

Op

This is pathetic.

However, I believe you can still work on the marriage and make it a success because I can see you sound like someone with a mature mind. I'm also looking at it that if you have children already and you decide to divorce now, it may give room for your children to be raised by a divorced (single) parent and your children may transfer their anger to their own partners later on.
My advice is that you should start having a periodic (e.g. monthly) one-on-one review of the strengths and weaknesses in your marriage with your wife with effort on sustaining the strengths and finding solutions to your weaknesses together.

Personally, I don't subscribe to seeking the services of marriage counsellors if actually both of you are mentally sound. You will both be more proud if you can resolve your challenges yourselves.

A 3 year old marriage is at the last stage of the volatile period and if you survive it you can survive future challenges as there will always be issues in any marriage.

Quit if you think it is too toxic to remain in the marriage especially if you can't handle it anymore.

chatinent:


It's idiotic to you doesn't mean it's idiotic to humans.

This one loud

Pecoleee345:


Good question

She showed flashes but most times to are colleagues at work.....we courted for two years but we never really stayed together so I didn't get to really know that part of her.

I’ll keep saying this. The only way to know the kind of woman that you intend to marry is through cohabitating for a minimum of six months. The religious/holier than Christ people can go to hell for all I care.

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

the thing is tiring because society doesn't want men to react to anything a woman does.they feel it's normal for a woman to abuse you and when you hit dem.they wud say woman beater.if you argue with a woman,society wud say you are behaving like a woman.A man bottles up a lot of things that's why you see women live longer than men these days.e no easy

U may not be saying the truth here a woman on her right sences can never abuse her husband my experience my husband is the verbal abusive type and each time he does that I always remind him that one day I may be force to retariate I have advice him severally that I will prefer a man to hit me than to abuse me and when his insult has gotten beyond control even he do abuse me in church on the street without thinking who was there then I started retairiating because of that he started liaring to people that I don't have respect for him and that he want to divorce of which I am ready on which action he chooses because he fail to tell people the truth, it's only an irresponsible man that can abuse his wife even before his in law my case was worse than that , and my regret was when we started he never shown this sign because I would have prefer him being a drunk and I will still marry him than abusive husband, this man I married him when he had nothing but because he is making it now he feels he can treat me any
how so my brother be truthful u properly abuse her first and she might have warned u about it before she choose to be abusing u back thank u

cryptoglorious:
What about Men that were raised by single mothers? It can also go this way.
Are they guarantees that only people who were raised by both parents have 100 percent happy marriages?
Much as that father figure is important, it doesn't guarantee even 60% Fidelity, morality and grooming! Environment and other factors too numerous to mention also contribute to how a child eventually turns out!
Please let be guided.

Besides not all single mothers are/were slots. Some became single by deaths or no fault of theirs.

Why are you telling me all these Cynthia

Bro your last statement is something I can't get off mind
It's a powerful massage

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

Juncture, not Junction. When you no be conductor

Xxx123xxx:
Seconded bro..Many of us lack introspection thus we are solely responsible for our plight .
This women who is sniper tongued bitch now was once your girlfriend whom YOU made your wife.

Now lie to yourself that she hasn't been inflicting injuries on your ego with her tongue before marriage.

Or that you didn't know she was raised by a single mom.

You and only you are culpable for the fix you are in.

Your poor choice in women brought you thus far I would advice you seek counsel from people who have a pedigree in this matters moving forward before you make a bigger mess of things.

. Let me not call u a fool. Women have the ability to behave like angels during courtship but when marriage comes its a whole new ball game.

crossfire47:

My brother, mean is an understatement and the way I see it, most of them share this trait in common. Ever wondered why the serpent had to approach the woman in the bible to Disobey God's orders?? That's the reason we all are in this mess today in life.

My brother! You get..

At times I wonder if women meet somewhere, be it social media or real life, to discuss and share the best way to frustrate a man and drive him crazy..

Everywhere you go, is the same issue..

If you go beer parlor, na married men full there..

Annoyingly, this women will tell you they see nothing wrong in their behaviour...

I don't know how people cope with these Delilahs on the prowl.

I can't stand bad attitudes especially coming from the one you profess you love. I'll just take you off you like I do to my jacket when it's hot.

All those nagging, tensions and commotion s reduce the lifespans of men.

Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing.....

A wife must be a good thing before you even find it. If she's not a good one, she's not even qualified to be wifed.

We, the men, bungle our search for a good thing and just settle for any daughter of Eve and turn around to start complaining.

Take time to search well. Stop being superficial. You must dig, wash and sieve to find gold. Men don't want to do the digging. They want microwaved women.

Real attracts real. Quality attracts quality. Razz attracts razz. Iron sharpens iron. Deep calls unto deep.

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

You can't say you didn't see all the signs before marriage.

You definitely ignored them.

Romanoff:

I know verbal and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse but once you take divorce out of the table, you'd be able to find other ways to resolve you're conflicts. You both need counselling and you need to express how you both feel in your counselling sessions.

would you give this advice if the complainant had been a woman talking about how she was being constantly boxed by her husband?

MansoryMX:


Marriage isn’t for the weak. As I am talking to you this very minute, I am not in my house. Na still same quarrel and insults cause am, even when I choose to be quiet. Like someone said, women are the originator or domestic violence. As mine start her madness I jejely kiss our kids, carry my bag and ball go one side go cool off. You can push me to that dark place that I will start hitting you. Naaaa, lemme enjoy my small quiet and bachelor time, I can’t come and go and kill myself

its a good thing you found a temporary solution to her madness. my late aunt used to advise us then that the best way to handle a woman when they get nasty is just to walk out of the house and go cool off outside. but there are some that have evolved and now go the extra mile to either cease your car keys or prevent you from leaving the house when they start their wahala, only very few men can tolerate this.

Belafonte:


would you give this advice if the complainant had been a woman talking about how she was being constantly boxed by her husband?

Like I said in my comment, unless it has led to physical abuse.

I don't know how you missed that.

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ComeToJesus:
I don't know how people cope with these Delilahs on the prowl.

I can't stand bad attitudes especially coming from the one you profess you love. I'll just take you off you like I do to my jacket when it's hot.

All those nagging, tensions and commotion s reduce the lifespans of men.

Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing.....

A wife must be a good thing before you even find it. If she's not a good one, she's not even qualified to be wifed.

We, the men, bungle our search for a good thing and just settle for any daughter of Eve and turn around to start complaining.

Take time to search well. Stop being superficial. You must dig, wash and sieve to find gold. Men don't want to do the digging. They want microwaved women.

Real attracts real. Quality attracts quality. Razz attracts razz. Iron sharpens iron. Deep calls until deep.

Preach brother, preach!!!. that's just me in a summary. life on its own is stressful, not about to add more issues to it.

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

You are wise...

Romanoff:


Like I said in my comment, unless it has led to physical abuse.

I don't know how you missed that.

This is what you said below:

Romanoff: I know verbal and emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse

They are equal but you want them to be resolved differently?

You want them to work through verbal and emotional abuse, but divorce is fine as soon as physical abuse is introduced?

Okay

People raised by a single mom are usually toxic in marriage, while
People raised by a single Dad no wan send marriage sef.

Belafonte:


This is what you said below:



They are equal but you want them to be resolved differently?

You want them to work through verbal and emotional abuse, but divorce is fine as soon as physical abuse is introduced?

Okay

That what all I said in the comment?

Please go and read again from top to bottom.

alizma:

Those raised by both parents are not totally excluded. You need to add that men should observe the spread of authority in their prospective in-laws house before they say I do.
If the woman is in charge, the young lady is likely going to see it as a normal thing for her to be in charge.

Every guy should write this down somewhere

VeeVeeMyLuv:
9.Better to dwell in a corner of a rooftop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.

Proverbs 21 Vs 9

He who has ears, let him hear