Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

crazymommy:
But if it was the man beating his wife I am sure you will not say we should hear from both parties.....let us stop this hypocrisy...because we are women do not mean we should be hypocrites...

MummyD2020:


It takes a hypocrite to recognise one. If u want to justify wife battery, u are welcomed. All i know, everyone in marriage is a culprit. Just like u will condemn a woman that cheats and pat the man at the back when he does same

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

crossfire47:

its a good thing you found a temporary solution to her madness. my late aunt used to advise us then that the best way to handle a woman when they get nasty is just to walk out of the house and go cool off outside. but there are some that have evolved and now go the extra mile to either cease your car keys or prevent you from leaving the house when they start their wahala, only very few men can tolerate this.

crazymommy:
I am allergic to fools.....it is battering not battery...olodo..bye

Romanoff:

Yes. I'd suggest a separation till the abuser changes.
I'm not an advocate of divorce.

MummyD2020:



Fool like your miserable and foolish mum and the animal u call a dad? Bastard like u that can not argue reasonably. We are here to learn but u dont have that capacity to accept people's opinions. So ur parents are glad that they have a kid? Useless Nincompoop

So ur mum is even in the psychiatric? Not surprised.

dacblogger:

You're quite rude,I only asked a simple question which you might have lied about in your post.
No wonder your wife is always abusing you.learn how to talk to people,I was only trying to help out

MummyD2020:


See ehh, u think all this people that celebrate 20 years and 30 years did not suffer? Its bot easy. Also remember that as humans, he is equally not innocent. I am not excusing bad behaviour. Its not infidelity so it can be amended.

younglleo:
Women raised by single mother are the worst!
Be very mindful to japa if you ever notice, and save ursef the stress nd trauma

Stupidquestions:

A Very idiotic comment

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

Mystery9:

This comment may sound awkward to you, but it's the truth. If you know God"s way, you will fathom it.

biggy26:

What of the one that lost her husband, is she the same as the one abandoned by a man?

biddostandard:
stay strong and walk out of the toxic marriage

MansoryMX:



I understand everything you said. In my own case 3 adorable offspring is in the middle of all this crisis. If a man stands and argues or quarrel with a woman it will lead to fighting and hitting which is usually the mind game of every troublesome woman. Me personally don’t have that time. I married a stubborn woman who has anger issues. She never showed it in 4 years we dated, not once did we quarrel but after two months of marriage everything came out and i almost lost my sanity. She is a good wife, yes. She is th best mother to my kids, yes but she has anger issues. Do i divorce her or repair? What about our kids? Am I ready to walk down that line?

You I hope someone read this. When it comes to marriage love, sex and money isn’t enough. If anyone wants to go into marriage because of these 3 things I just mention then that person is making a huge mistake. Especially love, love is not enough when it comes to why a marriage works

Belafonte:


So, you really don't consider them to be equally as destructive then

bunto:
I personally don't see how any of the comments hereon has helped this young man.
Most of the comments are emotional rather than cerebral.

Now OP...
Cursing, shouting and violence against another are signs of an emotionally injured person.
Have you cared enough to wonder why your wife is so unhappy?

I tell people, it's as simple as ABC..."Happy people give off happy vibes, sad people give off sad vibes and angry people give off angry vibes"......the list goes on.

Love and marriage are supposed to be for better for worse...
I love you means.... I am willing to do everything I possibly can to make you happy and contented. I am in your corner. It's not about me, it's about you.
If you were the one that has anger issues, what would you expect your wife to do? Leave, file for a divorce?

I am not justifying bad behavior, but love is reaching. Let's encourage each other in love.
My advice to OP is.... listen to the things your wife is not saying and try to determine her pain points, something is going on. Be a friend.

All the best. Cheers

akinade28:

So what other things will make marriage work? If love, sex and money isn't enough. I really wish to know, reading stories like this makes marriage scary for me oo

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

akinade28:

So what other things will make marriage work? If love, sex and money isn't enough. I really wish to know, reading stories like this makes marriage scary for me oo

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

crazymommy:
The same mindset is the reason why so many Nigerians still voted for buhari.....rubbish mindset......madam the devil you know and the angel you do not know..none of them is better.....the best is make sure you know the angel too and balance it up....and a psychologist won't say what you are saying....you are a fake psychologist...a good psychologist will first of all care about the sanity of the man in question...he/she will first of all focus more on the present psychology of the man and not talk about the marriage for now....bye

Pecoleee345:
Why does the society see men hitting women as bad thing but women cursing and abusive as normal.

A woman who curses and abuses you will still have the nerve to ask you for money.

Am not a perfect man..... I have my flaws but I am careful with words because I know what bad words can do to people.

Should a man be forced to stay with a woman who curses, abuses and threatens to get him arrested if he touch her despite you have never lay a finger on her in 3yrs of marriage.

People are telling me she is doing it due to anger that she doesn't mean it......am told to avoid making her angry and is that possible.
She gets me angry most times but I just leave the house and go cool off...
I have tried to teach her the act of keeping quiet in moment of anger but she never learns

She is permitted to rain curses and abuses on me because she is a woman and am expected not to react because that's how most women behave.

At this junction have made up my mind to divorce her.....I never wished for this but I can't take this ...... many people see this character of most women as normal (am told there power is in the mouth) but I can't.

Lastly men please avoid women raised by single mother they come with venom and naturally demage psychological...they will take revenge on you for their father's sins.

kabaarikabaari:
[s] so u think single mum can't raise kids?. wat about single fathers ? can dey raise kids? if any woman curses or abuse u den there must be a reason for that. is either u are a serial cheater or u are running from ur responsibilities. New generation men I hail o. are u d only man? abeg free d lady make she meet her prince charming. if u divorced her den what. what a world.......[/s] .

Morningstarrr:

I’ll keep saying this. The only way to know the kind of woman that you intend to marry is through cohabitating for a minimum of six months. The religious/holier than Christ people can go to hell for all I care.

canadianman:


True words, if anyone can they should avoid them. Even men raised by single mums also have this psych damage.