JovialJune:



So what I typed na insult? E pain u sotey you no fit type anymore, no be you dey display emotion liedis? Lmao, all talk no substance full here sha.

I am not pained at all. I made my point and have no I'll will towards you. I have also made my observation about your comment and advised you. This is a faceless forum and I expect you respond with decorum to people. Make your points without insults. I hope you don't expect me to continue haggling on this over-flogged topic?

obyrich:
I am not pained at all. I made my point and have no I'll will towards you. I have also made my observation about your comment and advised you. This is a faceless forum and I expect you respond with decorum to people. Make your points without insults. I hope you don't expect me to continue haggling on this over-flogged topic?

If you have nothing reasonable to type, buzz off.

When I was a kid, there was a trend. Married men will cheat and abandon their wives and kids to go stay with a side chick. If they didn't, they just kept the wives as monuments while enjoying outside. They didn't hide it, they were blatant. The wives will double down, work harder, pray harder, cry harder and look older because of the heartbreak and mistreatment. They kept hope alive, remained celibate and waited for as many years as the husband will decide to return to their senses, or not.

We all saw it, and I guess this must have influenced the pattern we see today. Most women don't want to be their mothers who prayed and hoped and waited while a man gallivants. I guess they have decided that two can play the game, and that what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. It's mostly not about money, it's about sexual satisfaction and emotional contentment.

Just my summation from myriad conversations I've had with a lot of women.

JovialJune:


Yes a woman can do same and more, it is a choice, no one can tame another, is that not what you guys preach about everyday?

You forget what this thread is about yet you tell me to condemn cheating of all kinds, how many of you men have ever opened threads to condemn cheating men? You guys cheat and take pride in it, ladies are cheating right back and all of you are keep crying about it like babies deprived of milk,

The idiot I quoted had the effrontery to say men have the right to cheat, you did not preach the rubbish up there to him, yet you choose to tell me, sumtin dey worry you

Don't quote me to spill rubbish if you cannot direct it back to your gender.

If you take your time to read my post, you would see zero trace of war in it, but I can see that you are a warrior. Sorry for quoting you.
Thank you

HeavenlyCherub:


Why do married men cheat. Women are tired of double standards. One good turn deserves another, treat others how you want to be treated. Better for you be transparent and inform someone you can’t do monogamy than deceive them.

if you are married, please come make i fvck your punana pls nah. dont mind that your stupid boy you keep at home as a husband. i will do you fine sha

GTCO:
That's the highest form of disrespect. Let them go back to their fathers house.

Men who cheat should go back to their father's house too. Do onto others what you want others to do onto you. This is why feminists exist

bepositive11:


Men who cheat should go back to their father's house too. Do onto others what you want others to do onto you

Go back to their father's house and leave the house for you? Lmao.
In as much as I don't endorse infidelity of any kind either from the man or the woman, but c'mon guys let's be realistic, you female folks bear the brunt of the societal stigma if caught cheating.
Be wise, all these peeps screaming women can cheat won't be there with you when you start bearing the consequences of your ill advised actions.
Come to think of it, who would want to marry a female divorcee who was caught cheating?
Can you say thesame for the male folk?
Let's be guided.

Ladies seem to be picking up the baton of promiscuity from the guys.

Oksman:


People like you have nothing to offer. Morally it's is wrong, societally it is repulsive, and spiritually, I doubt if you are. Even female animals do respect the alpha male in their territory! Sometimes our comments portray the deep temptations we are unable to express because of certain hindrances.

What is this one saying? Oga go and sit down, using big big grammar with no common sense. I am monogamous i have never cheated not even in a single relationship. You have no point and you’re going off topic. You want to dish but you can’t take it.. I’m here for you

silibaba:
if you are married, please come make i fvck your punana pls nah. dont mind that your stupid boy you keep at home as a husband. i will do you fine sha

Just by reading your comment I can tell sometimes people can read/listen but fail to comprehend.

megareal:
When I was a kid, there was a trend. Married men will cheat and abandon their wives and kids to go stay with a side chick. If they didn't, they just kept the wives as monuments while enjoying outside. They didn't hide it, they were blatant. The wives will double down, work harder, pray harder, cry harder and look older because of the heartbreak and mistreatment. They kept hope alive, remained celibate and waited for as many years as the husband will decide to return to their senses, or not.

We all saw it, and I guess this must have influenced the pattern we see today. Most women don't want to be their mothers who prayed and hoped and waited while a man gallivants. I guess they have decided that two can play the game, and that what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. It's mostly not about money, it's about sexual satisfaction and emotional contentment.

Just my summation from myriad conversations I've had with a lot of women.

One of the only real person here, I wonder why the bleating everywhere because women of today decided not to tolerate or endure bullshit anymore.

obyrich:
I am not pained at all. I made my point and have no I'll will towards you. I have also made my observation about your comment and advised you. This is a faceless forum and I expect you respond with decorum to people. Make your points without insults. I hope you don't expect me to continue haggling on this over-flogged topic?

I just don’t understand some of these man babies we have left in society. If someone doesn’t agree with their perspective they resort to name calling or sexualizing you. So sad the society we live in today. Some men are not even mentally stable to want to be in a marriage

JovialJune:



You must be living in a cave if in this 21st century, you think there are no independent single and married women, are men not also looking for emotional support when they go into a relationship or get married? How old are you?

Who started the paying of bride price? Is it not men aka your ancestors? If you want social justice, work on your foundation by going to your villages, sit your elders down and tell them to abolish bride price and the nonsense bride price list before you come here to spill rubbish, after all the bride price is paid to a man, not the woman,

no woman will pay any groom price rubbish cos in the history of the world, women have not, and will not sit down to deliberate on any stupid list or price, till then, any woman that wants to cheat can cheat at her own free will, no particular gender has the exclusive right to cheat.

During marriage rite, there is mothers right which the groom pay to the brides mother and her fellow women.


Stop arguing what you don't know young lady.


Men pay bride price, sponsor the whole wedding, foots most of the family bills, carry most of the family's burden on his head.


Only in few rare cases that you see some women grudgingly sharing the family's bills with the husband or maybe bringing more and when you visit such a family you will definitely know from the hostile environment and disrespect to the man and every living thing in that household just because the woman is bringing more.


But all over Nigeria and in most families, the man is footing 90% of the bills, buy cars for the wife, kids, sponsors her to vacation, and she lives her dream life out of the man's sweat without the man making a fuss of it.



Any woman that does that happily can cheat.


How many women are contributing to community projects and development projects; even the ones occupying top political offices, barely insignificant few, you know the truth even if you decide to argue.

megareal:
When I was a kid, there was a trend. Married men will cheat and abandon their wives and kids to go stay with a side chick. If they didn't, they just kept the wives as monuments while enjoying outside. They didn't hide it, they were blatant. The wives will double down, work harder, pray harder, cry harder and look older because of the heartbreak and mistreatment. They kept hope alive, remained celibate and waited for as many years as the husband will decide to return to their senses, or not.

We all saw it, and I guess this must have influenced the pattern we see today. Most women don't want to be their mothers who prayed and hoped and waited while a man gallivants. I guess they have decided that two can play the game, and that what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. It's mostly not about money, it's about sexual satisfaction and emotional contentment.

Just my summation from myriad conversations I've had with a lot of women.

Society of course saw such men as useless men.


The kind of men you used as example in your narrative are the useless men which aren't even up to 2% of men because if they were up to that, I ought to have at least 3 uncles and my dad on the list but alas I can't remember knowing any man like that in my lifetime, only heard about such happening far away.



There are foolish men of course but they aren't supposed to be used as yardstick to measure all men.



Your opinion lack merit because it's just an insignificant sample few

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humilitypays:
During marriage rite, there is mothers right which the groom pay to the brides mother and her fellow women.


Stop arguing what you don't know young lady.


Men pay bride price, sponsor the whole wedding, foots most of the family bills, carry most of the family's burden on his head.


Only in few rare cases that you see some women grudgingly sharing the family's bills with the husband or maybe bringing more and when you visit such a family you will definitely know from the hostile environment and disrespect to the man and every living thing in that household just because the woman is bringing more.


But all over Nigeria and in most families, the man is footing 90% of the bills, buy cars for the wife, kids, sponsors her to vacation, and she lives her dream life out of the man's sweat without the man making a fuss of it.



Any woman that does that happily can cheat.


How many women are contributing to community projects and development projects; even the ones occupying top political offices, barely insignificant few, you know the truth even if you decide to argue.

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You are very funny with this your thought process, it still doesnt change the fact that bride price and list originated from you men, from your ancestors to your elders in the village, if you like give women, teenagers, toddlers, babies, the whole community out of it calling it one name or the other, it will not change these facts and known truth, or is it the women, children and kids you men will go meet with to abolish bride price? Very funny logic you have,

Regarding marriage, it is very obvious you are using the basis of Igbo culture to define all marriages, step out of your enclave, in some tribe, the traditional is solely done by the bride's family, then the church is done by both families, different cultures apply for different tribes

The fact that some men take care of their families doesnt mean there aren't women who do same, and we will not call their efforts "how many" to disregard their effort, so cancel that yeye 90% you spew there, some women are sole bread winners but you will never know, they allow people see the horseband as the head for peace to reign, so it is more like 50:50

Now I don't even understand this your argument cos it doesn't relate to this thread, but all in all, if the man likes, he should spend for her whole family, her village, pay bride price of trillions, no one cares, a woman abi na wife who wants to cheat will cheat, simple.

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humilitypays:
Society of course saw such men as useless men.


The kind of men you used as example in your narrative are the useless men which aren't even up to 2% of men because if they were up to that, I ought to have at least 3 uncles and my dad on the list but alas I can't remember knowing any man like that in my lifetime, only heard about such happening far away.



There are foolish men of course but they aren't supposed to be used as yardstick to measure all men.



Your opinion lack merit because it's just an insignificant sample few

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Your opinion lack merit because you used only your father and uncles as a yardstick to measure men like that,

The minute few you've met cannot be used to describe men in that category, these sets of men described by the person you quoted is a well known fact that has been going on and on since the time of old till now, we have all been hearing stories upon stories of such men, so they are definitely in the majority, even here on this forum, it has been said countless times by so many guys here that they want wives like their mum and grandmothers who can endure men like that except you want to deceive yourself or try to hide these facts just to make a point.

So your opinion lacks merit and very insignificant.

Kevsmart88:

Go back to their father's house and leave the house for you? Lmao.
In as much as I don't endorse infidelity of any kind either from the man or the woman, but c'mon guys let's be realistic, you female folks bear the brunt of the societal stigma if caught cheating.
Be wise, all these peeps screaming women can cheat won't be there with you when you start bearing the consequences of your ill advised actions.
Come to think of it, who would want to marry a female divorcee who was caught cheating?
Can you say thesame for the male folk?
Let's be guided.

Feminists exist because of this mentality. More and more women are becoming financially stable and independent. They don't have to deal with this anymore

am sorry I sound like that, it wasn't intentional. for a married woman cheating? mehn, is so disgusting to me. I hate indecent dressing in women/girls talk more extra-marital affair.

am not taking side in men, but I abhor seeing married women doing nonsense.

if I get married and find my wife in the act, I will set her ablaze, I wont bother about the law that will hang me later

HeavenlyCherub:


Just by reading your comment I can tell sometimes people can read/listen but fail to comprehend.

It's time to abolish the bride price rule. Let both genders cheat the way they like

silibaba:
am sorry I sound like that, it wasn't intentional. for a married woman cheating? mehn, is so disgusting to me. I hate indecent dressing in women/girls talk more extra-marital affair.

am not taking side in men, but I abhor seeing married women doing nonsense.

if I get married and find my wife in the act, I will set her ablaze, I wont bother about the law that will hang me later

If you’re caught cheating. Should you be set ablaze? Who has not fallen short of God’s glory?

HeavenlyCherub:


If you’re caught cheating. Should you be set ablaze? Who has not fallen short of God’s glory?

yeah.
Moreover, am not even sex freak.

The only language I understand is money and business.

Ahmed0336:
Fear that gender...


Na d only gender wey see devil eye to eye bi dat

stfu

If this was a general view trust me we would have less divorce in our society...but then religion and tradition has destroyed the ability to rationalize.

HeavenlyCherub:


They’re women out there who want polygamy and equally some men want polyandry. It’s essential male and female specify preferences instead of cheating.

JovialJune:
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You are very funny with this your thought process, it still doesnt change the fact that bride price and list originated from you men, from your ancestors to your elders in the village, if you like give women, teenagers, toddlers, babies, the whole community out of it calling it one name or the other, it will not change these facts and known truth, or is it the women, children and kids you men will go meet with to abolish bride price? Very funny logic you have,

Regarding marriage, it is very obvious you are using the basis of Igbo culture to define all marriages, step out of your enclave, in some tribe, the traditional is solely done by the bride's family, then the church is done by both families, different cultures apply for different tribes

The fact that some men take care of their families doesnt mean there aren't women who do same, and we will not call their efforts "how many" to disregard their effort, so cancel that yeye 90% you spew there, some women are sole bread winners but you will never know, they allow people see the horseband as the head for peace to reign, so it is more like 50:50

Now I don't even understand this your argument cos it doesn't relate to this thread, but all in all, if the man likes, he should spend for her whole family, her village, pay bride price of trillions, no one cares, a woman abi na wife who wants to cheat will cheat, simple.

You made a valid point but your misandry got the better of you, sadly. Y

Yes, we can all agree that brideprice is a masculine thing, which some see as some sort of oppression. No one should argue that with you. You made a valid point there.

However, on taking responsibility, in Africa here and Nigeria in particular, in 9 out of 10 marriages, men take more than 90% of the financial burden. Don't come and start saying bullshit that women do bla bla bla too. Men do most of the givings, financially. Far more so. I know and I'm talking from experience. I have met many families but I have not met one female breadwinner. Even if she was, it is wholly temporary It is never a long term thing. It is rare.

The average Nigerian man deserves his wife's fidelity more than she deserves his. I am serious. Men like to win a woman's heart with money, but whose heart can't be won with money? Answer me?

And if the person is gotten with money, you'd expect extreme fidelity - that's why your employee would talk to you anyhow and you would be off to work very early the next morning.

Imagine that I got married to one of Bezos daughter and she brings the money, don't you think that she deserves my 2000% loyalty? Yes, absolutely she does. I mean, it's common sense.

3plet:
If this was a general view trust me we would have less divorce in our society...but then religion and tradition has destroyed the ability to rationalize.

I swear love is easy, humans on the other hand are so complicated

Baldwretch:


You made a valid point but your misandry got the better of you, sadly. Y

Yes, we can all agree that brideprice is a masculine thing, which some see as some sort of oppression. No one should argue that with you. You made a valid point there.

However, on taking responsibility, in Africa here and Nigeria in particular, in 9 out of 10 marriages, men take more than 90% of the financial burden. Don't come and start saying bullshit that women do bla bla bla too. Men do most of the givings, financially. Far more so. I know and I'm talking from experience. I have met many families but I have not met one female breadwinner. Even if she was, it is wholly temporary It is never a long term thing. It is rare.

The average Nigerian man deserves his wife's fidelity more than she deserves his. I am serious. Men like to win a woman's heart with money, but whose heart can't be won with money? Answer me?

And if the person is gotten with money, you'd expect extreme fidelity - that's why your employee would talk to you anyhow and you would be off to work very early the next morning.

Imagine that I got married to one of Bezos daughter and she brings the money, don't you think that she deserves my 2000% loyalty? Yes, absolutely she does. I mean, it's common sense.

Wow.. fidelity based on who has more money. God help us

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Baldwretch:


You made a valid point but your misandry got the better of you, sadly. Y

Yes, we can all agree that brideprice is a masculine thing, which some see as some sort of oppression. No one should argue that with you. You made a valid point there.

However, on taking responsibility, in Africa here and Nigeria in particular, in 9 out of 10 marriages, men take more than 90% of the financial burden. Don't come and start saying bullshit that women do bla bla bla too. Men do most of the givings, financially. Far more so. I know and I'm talking from experience. I have met many families but I have not met one female breadwinner. Even if she was, it is wholly temporary It is never a long term thing. It is rare.

The average Nigerian man deserves his wife's fidelity more than she deserves his. I am serious. Men like to win a woman's heart with money, but whose heart can't be won with money? Answer me?

And if the person is gotten with money, you'd expect extreme fidelity - that's why your employee would talk to you anyhow and you would be off to work very early the next morning.

Imagine that I got married to one of Bezos daughter and she brings the money, don't you think that she deserves my 2000% loyalty? Yes, absolutely she does. I mean, it's common sense.

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In 2019, one of Dangote's daughter got married, the husband cheated on her, the side chick now has a child for him, the wedding was all over the internet and the talk of the town, so drop your stupid common sense rant else where, the mumu husband that knows Dangote is the richest man in Africa and she has the money, why wasn't there extreme fidelity from him?

Same way a woman will cheat on her husband whether rich or not, do not expect fidelity from anyone, especially from the wife because you spent more money or you're rich, the earlier you guys accept this reality, the better.

After forming feminist online, you'd still submit to a man. That's the only way you can be happy as a woman. Nature does not allow vacuum!

JovialJune:
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Your opinion lack merit because you used only your father and uncles as a yardstick to measure men like that,

The minute few you've met cannot be used to describe men in that category, these sets of men described by the person you quoted is a well known fact that has been going on and on since the time of old till now, we have all been hearing stories upon stories of such men, so they are definitely in the majority, even here on this forum, it has been said countless times by so many guys here that they want wives like their mum and grandmothers who can endure men like that except you want to deceive yourself or try to hide these facts just to make a point.

So your opinion lacks merit and very insignificant.

HeavenlyCherub:


Of course. Because you have no point your best response is to insult me. Your mother is foolish.. nonsense. What did I say here that’s not straightforward. Instead of deceiving people just be honest you will find women who want to be polygamous with you don’t deceive someone into a commitment they didn’t bargain for

I doubt you have a mother, but if you do i guess she will die soon. Because having a poison like you will definitely kill her.

Now down to tbe matter, I can't exchange points with a mind on emergency.
I never expected more from a slut, i didn't expected less and you didn't disappoint your clan.
You will always support your trade, since your pot is itchy let men keep scratching it lol.

I pity any man wifing or planning to wife you.
Bastard fly.

Oksman:


People like you have nothing to offer. Morally it's is wrong, societally it is repulsive, and spiritually, I doubt if you are. Even female animals do respect the alpha male in their territory! Sometimes our comments portray the deep temptations we are unable to express because of certain hindrances.

Oga from Genesis of ur argument, that lady says nothing but pure truth, go out and see what husbands subjected wife to, just like servant if not slave. When a husband go low by dating every girl or woman, even in neighborhood, some dating their maids even to the notice of housewife, some date another woman in church that both attended,yet you want such woman to keep adore you like king, ....just because you be foolish and useless alpha male..what about husband that will go and sleep outside several days without informing wife?....oga let me tell you truth and pure fact.... respect is earn oooo and not commanded as you believe.

White men impose their culture on us
Polygyny is our culture in Africa
Men can marry two or more women as far as he can take care of all of them and no complain
Polygyny is still widely practice in Islam
No wonder Christian women think they are equal to their men hence can do anything their husbands do
Until we get back to the way our forefathers did
We might not get it right