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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Caseless: 4:27am On Aug 25, 2021
2ndtimeuncle:


It rains everywhere, I don't want her to make a decision she will regret for the rest of her life.
Brilliant!!! Don't mind that fool up there. He might be having a sister in a more difficult marriage who hasn't left her marriage, but he's here telling your own sister to quit.

Tell your sister to work on herself and focus on her kids. It's not easy. Provided the husband is not beating her she can manage his excesses for now. The man would realize the difference between the woman at home and the one he's chasing outside, I.e, if she works on herself. I think he's getting something from the baby mama, something your sister isn't giving. She should work on herself. Tell her to pray and not be a complete housewife.

Marriage is not bed of roses. It's full of challenges. Tell not to listen to other women who might be advising her to quit her marriage and claiming they won't take such from their husbands; most of them are taking more hits in their marriages than your sister is doing. She should watch the kind of friends she keep.

Millions are out there looking for her opportunity, if she goes, they'll fill her space. Tell her to work harder to keep her marriage. Not physical fight. She should stop confronting her husband in a rude way. Speak to him in a mature way,

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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Juliearth(f): 4:34am On Aug 25, 2021
zedman1:
Thing is, most of us are unaware of what's going on around us. I never for once cheated on any of my girlfriends when I was single and never believed I could ever cheat, in fact, I saw people who cheat as breasts.... Until my awakening. I found out there's something called 'twin flame'. When you meet your twin flame, NOTHING in this world can seperate you from them, whether you are married or single. We know nothing of such in this part of the world, hence blame those who choose to unite with their twin when sh*t happens. I was/am caught up in this web and there's nothing I didn't do to break it, but I couldn't. We are seperated but there's something bigger coming that I can't stop, something that I fear yet love so much... Our final reunion. From my observation, that 'side chick' could be your brother in-law's twin, but like I wrote earlier, we don't know these things around here.


Twin flame or not, the Bible expects us to resist temptation. If men are allowed to have twin flames, should women be allowed to do same? What would then become of the union and sacredness of marriage? That thing you call a twin flame is the Devil's orchestration to ruin marriages because he is staunchly against it. My advise to you and every other person about to make this mistake is to shun the act. Make a conscious effort to keep this "flame" far from you.

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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Nobody: 5:35am On Aug 25, 2021
yuping:
I know you love your sister but right now she is going through a mental and highly emotional situation,if she is not happy with her husband she is going to make irrational decisions that might affect the whole family. imaging yourself going through heart break you cannot move on from.
nobody makes changes to life and not get affected by it.
Let her fall, she is determine and know what's best for her, she will rise.

This is really beautiful.
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Gunayo(m): 6:20am On Aug 25, 2021
Avviala:


And I say again, all Nigerian men are useless. If you are not useless, then stop trying hard for me to see otherwise. And I'm not going to marry a Nigerian d**k. And I will not be heartbroken as I would never love anyone.
Okay now l understand. You are a lesbian. Repent before its too late.
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Emmanuel909090: 6:26am On Aug 25, 2021
Uyi168:
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I usually do not do religion. It's Nonesense. You don't deliberately hurt people you claim you love. There is no single justification and sense in it.
Nigerians don't love their god. Na mouth una dy. Your actions clearly points it out.

Will we even be discussing this if the scenario had involved the woman coming home with a pregnancy of a side preek and still continue being involved with the side guy?.

I have no defense to this, and i doubt if you are ever going to understand me, but if you can be truthful to yourself, tell me you have never hurt someone you love.

I am not been sentimental, be it a guy or a girl, you can easily take it, if you hear your dad is cheating, than hearing your mum is cheating.
Its a simple thing a woman cannot keep 2 men at home as husbands but a man can keep more than 2, a woman is supposed to undedstand her place, but the feminist has taught this twitter generation how to rant.

Anyways whatever works for you do, if your husband cheats and you feel its best to cheat, please do.
One love.
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by DMerciful(m): 6:27am On Aug 25, 2021
Men and women do not have same liberties. A man can marry multiple wives without societal issues.

So stop making a direct comparison btw a man and a woman in terms of what they can or cannot do!
GenAbacha:


It rains everywhere but it was this on this same nairaland that someone said his fiancée began disgusting him after she was raped, a crime which was not her fault.

Let alone someone intentionally breaking trusts and covenants.

Let me ask you a question; if your young wife confesses to you that she’s months pregnant with her side piece’s baby, what would be your reaction?
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by steve13(m): 7:08am On Aug 25, 2021
So you want the sister to move out? Move out to where ? With what? The man is not sleeping around, he sleeps with just one extra person and that's not a big deal compared to whats obtainable from men of these days

Do not support any woman to leave a non physically abusive man , do you honestly think a man can sleep with only one woman all his life ? Pls don't be funny o



GenAbacha:


Ahnahn, you don’t know how it relates to your story? Lol you’re funny.

You see exactly what your brother in law is doing/did to your sister, just imagine it was your wife that’s doing/did it.

I want to know, what will your honest reaction be?
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Uyi168: 7:18am On Aug 25, 2021
Emmanuel909090:


I have no defense to this, and i doubt if you are ever going to understand me, but if you can be truthful to yourself, tell me you have never hurt someone you love.

I am not been sentimental, be it a guy or a girl, you can easily take it, if you hear your dad is cheating, than hearing your mum is cheating.
Its a simple thing a woman cannot keep 2 men at home as husbands but a man can keep more than 2, a woman is supposed to undedstand her place, but the feminist has taught this twitter generation how to rant.

Anyways whatever works for you do, if your husband cheats and you feel its best to cheat, please do.
One love.
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You nor answer my question?
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by zedman1(m): 7:26am On Aug 25, 2021
Juliearth:



Twin flame or not, the Bible expects us to resist temptation. If men are allowed to have twin flames, should women be allowed to do same? What would then become of the union and sacredness of marriage? That thing you call a twin flame is the Devil's orchestration to ruin marriages because he is staunchly against it. My advise to you and every other person about to make this mistake is to shun the act. Make a conscious effort to keep this "flame" far from you.
First off, I never tell anyone about this stuff cos it's so deep, perhaps it's cos I had a drink I let it out. Secondly, it happens not only to men as you think. Thirdly, why do we assume Christianity or Islam is the only religion in the world? What if you weren't born a Christian or what if you were born in Kuwait or Somalia, India or China ? Would you be quoting the bible? My dear, there are thousands of religions and many older than Christianity and Islam, these two are only more wide spread. Think, you have a God given brain. Lastly, it is not a religion, it just happens and there's almost nothing you can do to stop it. It's not all lovey dovey as you may think but rather very turtous. Make ALL efforts to marry your twin flame, not even your soul mate, if you are still single- that is, if you have the privilege to see what some have seen. It is the happiest of marriages that will ever exist. Some persons are extremely happily married but don't know why, it's not a sin to be in such happiness, the 'devil' can't give such. I never knew about it until it happened to me, every step all the way. I'm in no way trying to justify cheating, People cheat for stupid reasons too, then again you mustn't be in a relationship with someone else when it happens, you both might be single. Mind you, I've never been so spiritual in my life like I am, so if you jump to say it's the devil and you believe in the efficacy of prayers, I'm asking you to pray for me wherever you are and break the chain cos that's what I've always wished for but it seems impossible. Why did I have to bring this up here? Alcohol is a basta*d.

*I modified to get your eyes open a little bit. Open your eyes, God (or whatever you choose to call it ) never created you blind. Reach to your soul.
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by BRATISLAVA: 7:37am On Aug 25, 2021
Magnoliaa:


But why will their answers be the same? When no two person is the same? This would be a very nice research to carry out sha. With a bigger population, not a few women from one socioeconomic state. Oh. And the background will be extremely important here... we need to specify the kind of single mothers, because if we choose any single mother who is a single mother for just any reason, especially for a bad decision she made (or the death of her husband for instance), we might get a skewed conclusion.

So based on the premise of this thread, the kind of single mothers that should be interviewed should be single mothers who became single mothers not of their own doings. As in, yunno, a single mother from a one night stand is different from a single mother who left an emotionally abusive and cheating man... Ehen. So the framework of the research should be the happiness level of: married women with cheating partners vs. single mothers who left a cheating partner. My own judgment (bias), I'll say here, tilt towards the latter being high. I'll bet those kind of single mothers, who left a cheating partner, NOT BECAUSE OF A PERSONAL MISTAKE, would experience much more relative freedom and from STDs, and peace of mind and everything.

And these single mothers sample must also include single moms of the upper and middle class. Ehen. Make e for balance. So you won't interview girls that stay in Amuwo-Odofin and say they are representative of an high class single mom that stays in VGC. We'll study both single moms who went on to get a degree and relocated overseas to the ones who couldn't and ended up opening a kiosk - both of them after they left their cheating husbands. My point is, for the unhappiness you'll record in both categories of single mothers, how much of it is caused by money, lack of access to opportunities, low education, etc? So it won't be enough to conclude they are unhappy SIMPLY because of single motherhood. (We may also look at their belief system and personal ideologies and how this shapes their concept of happiness). And then, the reference group is women married to cheating partners, right? We'll study them too and see if the (financial) struggles they face are much less biting than if they were alone. Asin, what financial/moral/mental support do they get from their hubbies that they can't get alone? Are there any recognizable differences between the earning power/financial worth/self-esteem of a single mom struggling alone after she left a philandering husband and the earning power/financial worth (or self-worth) of a married {single} mom staying with a philandering husband?

I cum in piss. I'm not disagreeing with or arguing with you o. I'm just lending my chikini knowledge to the angle you're coming from, yunno, taking it higher by suggesting a more refined way of enquiry ((a systematic) research) than a guess work. Filled with the usual human biases.

E.g

Mic drop.

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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Nobody: 7:55am On Aug 25, 2021
1F30M4:


Lol yea but not so much
Good morning, chief, is there any negative effect(s) that accompanies chewing of garlic?
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Gudlite: 8:54am On Aug 25, 2021
FACTS TO KNOW:

Our arch enemy is Satan and he came to steal,kill and destroy
Your Sister needs Serious prayer to save her marriage
There are a lot of mysteries about life that only prayers can address.
Let her not quit the marriage,Why? her husband did not ask her to,quitting means giving room for another woman and she is not doing anything to take care of herself and the children,if she leaves,she will be frustrated (she needs to be alive for her children)

This is a minor issue to address if she can pray.

SHE NEEDS TO FIGHT BACK THROUGH PRAYER and watch how that strange woman will be disgraced.
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by oshorstan(f): 8:58am On Aug 25, 2021
Wow this is huge, but I will keep it simple. I don't support adultery in marriage. But the question is, What is sweeting the man outside that your sister is lacking? If it is pussy, then your sister's own isn't bitter then. Something is lacking in your sister, that is making the man go out. Helloooo!!!! Ladies sit up, times have changed. . If 3-4-3 nor work, abeg play full attacking 4-3-3 and see how you go score many goals. Even if they settle, baba go still go straight to the street like a rabid dog. Something is not right
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Hathor5(f): 9:52am On Aug 25, 2021
Magnoliaa:


But why will their answers be the same? When no two person is the same? This would be a very nice research to carry out sha. With a bigger population, not a few women from one socioeconomic state. Oh. And the background will be extremely important here... we need to specify the kind of single mothers, because if we choose any single mother who is a single mother for just any reason, especially for a bad decision she made (or the death of her husband for instance), we might get a skewed conclusion.

So based on the premise of this thread, the kind of single mothers that should be interviewed should be single mothers who became single mothers not of their own doings. As in, yunno, a single mother from a one night stand is different from a single mother who left an emotionally abusive and cheating man... Ehen. So the framework of the research should be the happiness level of: married women with cheating partners vs. single mothers who left a cheating partner. My own judgment (bias), I'll say here, tilt towards the latter being high. I'll bet those kind of single mothers, who left a cheating partner, NOT BECAUSE OF A PERSONAL MISTAKE, would experience much more relative freedom and from STDs, and peace of mind and everything.

And these single mothers sample must also include single moms of the upper and middle class. Ehen. Make e for balance. So you won't interview girls that stay in Amuwo-Odofin and say they are representative of an high class single mom that stays in VGC. We'll study both single moms who went on to get a degree and relocated overseas to the ones who couldn't and ended up opening a kiosk - both of them after they left their cheating husbands. My point is, for the unhappiness you'll record in both categories of single mothers, how much of it is caused by money, lack of access to opportunities, low education, etc? So it won't be enough to conclude they are unhappy SIMPLY because of single motherhood. (We may also look at their belief system and personal ideologies and how this shapes their concept of happiness). And then, the reference group is women married to cheating partners, right? We'll study them too and see if the (financial) struggles they face are much less biting than if they were alone. Asin, what financial/moral/mental support do they get from their hubbies that they can't get alone? Are there any recognizable differences between the earning power/financial worth/self-esteem of a single mom struggling alone after she left a philandering husband and the earning power/financial worth (or self-worth) of a married {single} mom staying with a philandering husband?

I cum in piss. I'm not disagreeing with or arguing with you o. I'm just lending my chikini knowledge to the angle you're coming from, yunno, taking it higher by suggesting a more refined way of enquiry ((a systematic) research) than a guess work. Filled with the usual human biases.

E.g

A smart lady you are. kiss

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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by easiebimz: 9:57am On Aug 25, 2021
If she moves out now, she will be a liability on you. Why not advice her to focus on herself by getting busy so that she can sustain herself and her kids if she eventually decides to walk out.
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Lilmhzshy: 9:59am On Aug 25, 2021
2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.

if possible get her an apartment, move her out of his house, get her a job don't let him know where she is, but before this seat him down and talk to him, its because he doesnt see value in her, she depends on him and also probably she's doing something wrong and the baby mama is doing better, if you can get the baby mama contact and talk to her also advice her to see reasons not to destroy another person home only if she doesn't want to get married too, here is my contact if you wana talk further 09093957975, have had similar experience but no baby mama in this one ooo, just plenty gf and i had to stand on my ground.

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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by Ishilove: 11:15am On Aug 25, 2021
crackhaus:


If you so wish, you could go on typing and gesticulating from now till tomorrow because you need to appear neutral and without bias.
However, it still won't change one fact and a universal truth that when it comes to cheating, a husband having a love-child versus a wife having a love-child are two very different things that can't be adjudged in the same way.

I asked the other gentleman some questions which I feel you would have done well to answer since you felt the need to jump in on the comment, instead you went off on a tangent going on about the upcoming generation, progeny, the society, bla bla bla... Like who gives a fvck mayn? LoL

You're even insinuating that my comment is corrupting the younger generation yada yada yada...
Do you think typing comments on NL is going to stop anyone from cheating or having biases that are backed up by the reality of this world?

Infidelity in marriages that's been happening since the dawn of time and perpetuated by both men and women equally, is something that won't stop... neither will appealing to the emotions of people urging them to be less hypocritical suddenly erase the fact that a husband can get another woman pregnant, inform his wife and still continue with the marriage if the wife so pleases because he does NOT need to impose the child on her or have her take care of it.

However, if it was the wife with a pregnancy from another man and she informs her husband, how then REALISTICALLY do you expect the marriage to continue?

— Should her husband accept another man's child, raise it, spend his money on it, and roleplay daddy?
— Or should she handover the child to her side-bobo instead and continue with her marriage without the interference of the child?


You can stew on the answers to the above questions.

If you understood my thought process well enough, you would know that I have never been one to sugarcoat anything to please the gender that loves to hear lies disguised as sweet nothings just because it makes them feel good – same reason they are easily the most deceived by people who know how to game even when they assume they're in control of a situation.

So yea, of course women are cheaters and men are cheaters as well – I have never denied it or tried to change the world's perception, I don't even care to.
And yes, you should definitely fear women just as men should be feared too — There's no innocent gender as far as I'm concerned.
And then, perhaps men are really scum afterall but are women angels in comparison? Fvck NO!

My stance has always remained the same when it comes to marriage and infidelity, husbands and wives should cheat if they want to cheat... Just try not to get caught or bring the child of your infidelity to the house.

And furthermore, between a husband and a wife, who is more capable of having a child outside the marriage without letting it interfere with the union? A husband can 100%.
No woman is going to successfully do that as long as her husband is aware of her infidelity, NONE.

It's fine if you see it as hypocrisy, you can also hate it or love it. None of your emotional response to the above stated fact is going to change anything about the reality of things.

Cheers...
You speak the truth, unfortunate as it is. The sheer unfairness of it all is part of why this new generation of feminists are so toxic and bitter.

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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by tunwumi: 11:16am On Aug 25, 2021
cococandy:

What does “the real wife” gain?
Explain to us

Everything a "real wife" gains
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by freshalien: 11:26am On Aug 25, 2021
2ndtimeuncle:


I honestly don't know how the instance you gave relates to my story. I am pro family, my first instinct is how to preserve my family.

You are already biased and have your mind made up. You are pro family, so that means you shouldn’t think and analyze issues objectively. Answer the question, if your wife tells you she is pregnant for another man, what would you do?

Well, your sister should find something doing first before giving people headache with her issues. How can someone be a full-time housewife in this present day and age.

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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by cococandy(f): 11:28am On Aug 25, 2021
tunwumi:


Everything a "real wife" gains

Which is? Please list them

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Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 1:19pm On Aug 25, 2021
2ndtimeuncle:
Good morning fellow nairalanders, I hope your day is going well though mine didn't start so well. I am a nairalander but I have to open this account for this. I have an issue bothering me, I will try to keep my story as brief as possible.

I am a guy from a humble background. My parents had only two children, myself and my younger sister who is now married with two kids. She had her last baby boy some time early this month. Her marriage with this guy ( my brother inlaw) has been one I considered relatively peaceful. That is from my own perspective knowing that there's no marriage without one or two misunderstanding here or there at some point.

Well, she found out that her husband got another girl pregnant who gave birth to a baby girl. My sister found out after she gave birth to her first son. Her husband was the one that confessed to her that he has another child outside their marriage. They settled the issue and moved on he promised he would end the relationship he had with the baby mama.

Last year, during the Covid19 period, my sister found out that he was still seeing his baby mama after she saw their chats. She confronted him and he denied having anything to do with the baby mama except for sending money for his daughter's upkeep once in a while. It was a big issue which was brought to the attention the two families. They found a way to settle after a lot pleading and talking to the two of them.

To cut the long story short, she sent me screenshots that proves that he is still seeing the baby mama. In one of the screenshot he wants to see her in their normal place and the girl agreed but doesn't want them have sex on this particular occasion. My sister has bad temperament and it is not easy to calm her down when triggered. She's threatening to quit the marriage and I fear she may do something wrong this time around . She is yet to confront her husband because I managed to convince her to keep it on hold till she calms down.

Note : My Dad is late and my younger sister is a house wife hence solely dependent on her husband. Please ignore my grammatical errors. I am putting this out here because I have ran out of ideas.


Your sister is a fool.. let her quit the marriage and see the other lady move in shaperly and she would now become the baby mama..
The earlier all this western wannabe fools realise that a man is polygamous in nature the best for this feminist wannabes.. even Oyibo dey cheat just look at Bill gates .. just to tell you that a man is polygamous irrespective of his race..

She would loose and I can't wait for her to learn the bitter way after walking away from her marriage..
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 1:23pm On Aug 25, 2021
GenAbacha:


Look, I grew up in a house where the woman was a house wife.

The man has more than likely planned out his future before marriage. “Marry a woman and keep at home for children but flex outside when I want to or when I’m bored”, that’s how it always plays out when these kind of things happen.

The pregnancy may have been unexpected cos if the girl didn’t get pregnant, your sister may never have known.

You may successfully convince her to continue only for her to come back one day to tell you the man has built a bungalow for one small girl that’s rubbing his chest.

I don’t know if your sister is educated but if she is, it’s best she finds a job and prepare for whatever comes next.

Thankfully, my mom was a university lecturer who for some reason agreed to be a house wife. When she noticed oga was playing away, she took my baby sis and relocated.


You came from a broken home.. no wonder you have been so bitter about the man been talked about here..

You can wail all you like but the fact remains that men are polygamous in nature..
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 4:46pm On Aug 25, 2021
Avviala:
Nigerian men are useless. All of them.
If they don't cheat, they are hypocrites, toxic or women beaters. Even the so called calm ones are egoistic bastards and manipulative d**ks. The op wants his sister to stay in a marriage where she is disrespected daily but would not want to be disrespected as well.
It's women I blame. If right from time, we never accept cheating, men would not think of imposing their disgusting acts on us. Or at least not openly.
Since your sister's husband is only useful because of money, she should bear the marriage till she has enough savings to cater for herself and the children.
And I hope this is a lesson to women that you should never enter a marriage empty handed. Men only usefulness is money. If you remove that power, its easy to see them for the sh*t they are.


You are free to cry us a river. ..

You people can only Wail ..

We set the pace and you lots must follow and abide..

Donate more tears pls..
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 4:57pm On Aug 25, 2021
JovialJune:
Ladies, make sure you are independent before getting married, have something doing, something that fetches good money to avoid stories that touch like Op's sister, it is sweet to have a say in your marriage than to be a "yes sir" kind of wife, being a 100% house wife doesnt and can never pay, if you want to be a traditional wife abi matriarchal woman, be one with dignity, self worth, and self respect, i don say my own

**With the very foolish, stupid, idiotic advices I see here coming from mostly guys, if I should quote and tell them my peace of mind, I go chop ban, but I'll hold my peace...


I am enjoying your Wailings...

Yarn nonsense and chop ban.. grin grin grin
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 5:02pm On Aug 25, 2021
MrSamsung:


I have gone through your good rambles, and one thing is consistent with all the paragraphs and statements, it sounds like this: '"Ah men and women can cheat around, I don't give a damn as long as you make EXCEPTIONS for only MEN to sleep and have bastards and still PRESERVE their marriage. The onus is on the woman!"'

With this kind of mental disposition and behavior, I bet that you don't know that our forbearers and REAL MEN of old didn't exhibit this character. In fact should they even have a mistress and a bastard, they will try their best to hide such and not rub it on the woman face, many of them wouldn't even do this, instead they would rather come out CLEAN to the wife that they are taking a second BEFORE they have a child who is not a bastard. Why? Because they understand DIGNITY not just to themselves but to their wives and families.

But now our days, grown-up men would turn to community dogs, have bastards, rub it on the wife's face even giving her the OPTIONS to either stay or leave. Like wtf sad is she a trash, or a woman deserving of no honor, or is she a piece of wood or animal I bet you, you will dignify your pet more.

This is not being a man but being a proud and arrogant macho and a selective justifier. I question the manliness and not the manhood of men with such thinking or behavior.

Also you rambled about me being emotional. Let me tell you one thing you don't know at this age. There's nothing that humans do without emotion, be it suppressed, controlled, hidden, pour-out, uncontrolled, bad or good emotions. Even to pick a pen to write you must have DECIDE.

Peace.


You are Wailing.. I am enjoying it grin grin grin

Men would always be Men .. we are Polygamous.. if e pain you make you go visit Afghanistan..
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 5:08pm On Aug 25, 2021
JovialJune:



I'm married, but I love you regardless kiss

Watch how man boys will assume you are a female with a male moniker.


My happiness is that men with his kind of mentality are few..
And we the Polygamous men (that you all call cheats out number the rest ) ..
His comment is irrelevant.. thank God for feminism .. it exposed to men generally how the other gender can be Cruel and callous .. so men of this generation no even send..
The live as they like as freeborns and nothing would change that. ..
Just look at Rude boy.. he is not even bothered about what his vicious estrnaged wife is up to.. dude even posted clips of him and Jim iyke after he beat up uche..
Look at Odion ighalo, how he dumped that feminist wife of him and moved on and is enjoying his life..
Men has awoken and is now Changing the game.. y'all females can only Wail.. as for the dude you quoted.. we dash him to your gender just like Solomon buchi.. until when he is tired and comes back to be a man..

My dear.. We the REAL men in this forum especially are enjoying your Wailings..
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 5:11pm On Aug 25, 2021
ImaIma1:


They will call him their favourite, overused empty word...SIMP.


He is a Big SIMP and Dem nairaland girls no go still give am Dem deety TowTo to suck upon all the simp comment he made
grin grin grin grin
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 5:17pm On Aug 25, 2021
MummyD2020:


Watch how the hypocrites will say its a man's world or better still, keep mure becos the man is at fault. Honestly, i can imagine the woman's pains and dilemma. If not, its just to do what Anita Okoye did to that her morafucker of a hubby. May God helep us in this institution called marriage . So many sensitive issues arising on daily basis


Wailer.. Anita can't do shit.. our divorce laws isn't like the stupid western world..

Just recently, a man was ordered to pay a meagre 10k for the children's up keep after their divorce..
No alimony and other incentives here in Nigeria.. like I said. If you think Paul bank account would suffer cos of the divorce.. lol.. I laugh at your folly.. and guess what.. people easily flout court orders in Nigeria and nothing would happen.. even the meagre sum he would be told to pay.. he can still flout the court orders from time to time and frustrate the wife on it.. the last time I checked Feminist fani kayode is with his triplets and also frustrating that igbo girl up and down in police and court.. thank God say Paul is rich and has money too..

Stop dreming.. this is Nigeria not California or Ontario..
Re: My Sister Wants To Quit Her Young Marriage. by FORWARDEVERLY: 5:21pm On Aug 25, 2021
Emmanuel909090:


If your dad is cheating, please encourage your mum to do same. They are equal okay.


No mind that Idiot..
Trying to imitate men in what they do is what made many women lonely, single and miserable especially the single moms..

You give am better response..

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