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Arewalegend:
anti biotics kill sperm

So a woman should take antibiotics indiscriminately to prevent pregnancy?

You think the single woman you're dating is yours until you beat her child. That is when you will learn that she comes first, her child(ren) come next, you come last. You're merely a simp and provider for her kids, nothing more.

Ok

@OP:

People have the choice to date whom they will.

I know someone who had a single mother sister who refused to consider a single dad because she did not want 'drama'.

A single father would have to be extraordinarily fanatic for me to consider him while I was single.

Some people like drama free lives.

MrBrownJay1:


many think that, by getting to know her 1st, you may change your views about single mothers, when you finally get to discover that she has a child. dont blame her, blame African society for that, as these women are looked down upon.

Well, the beautiful thing is I have neither looked down upon nor blamed any single mother for being a single mother. I just don’t want the complicated drama of having to interface with the father of her son. Or when his mother second guesses me when she feels I’m to hard or too lax on her son because he is not my child.

A mother’s loyalty is first to her children before her husband.

AfroKnight:
Parts of the story have been altered cos affected parties might be nairalanders.

A while ago, I met a beautiful woman. She carry front, she carry back. Both in desirable proportions. I got her number and we got talking. We soon advanced to long calls, flirting and risqué jokes. Then she posted a boy on her WhatsApp status one day and the caption rocked me to my foundation. I asked and she confirmed that the little boy was her son. Okay.

“Where is his father?”

“He is not responsible. He is not involved in his son’s life. I take care of him alone.”

“Well, no problem”, I thought to myself. I reminded myself that it is not my dream in life to deal with the complications of raising a son who is not biologically mine, especially one whose father is still very much alive. So, I slowed down. Reduced calls until we drifted apart.

I told a female friend of mine about this and the way she looked at me ehn, I was wondering what I did wrong. She was so disappointed in me for refusing to date a single mother.

Well, I gave that friend of mine a piece of my mind. She had no right to project her concept of right or wrong or even chivalry on me! I am nobody’s saviour. I cannot pick up the responsibilities of another man who is alive and well. It is not only unfair but incredibly unjust to put a man on the spot by letting him find out you have a child after you guys have started flirting and even advanced in the talking stage of a budding relationship. I don dey feel you to the point of starting a serious relationship and I discover this? It is wrong.

And it is even more offensive that you would expect a man to just take it in stride.

Guys do not be shy to refuse if you don’t want.

Some guys are cool with it and that’s fine. If I’m not cool with it, don’t demonise me. It’s my choice.

Share your thoughts please.

alpha fukks beta bucks. she dated the attractive sexy alpha and now she wants you to be the beta provider.

lilvicky68:
If the man(father of the child) is still in the picture, Okafor's law comes to mind..

pls, state d Okafor's Law. I really want to know it. Thanks

Romanoff:
Yet, if you tell both male and female to stop fornicating, they will come for you.

Many are having premarital sex and children are one of the consequences of premarital sex.

You people frown at people doing abortions but won't marry a single mum or won't abstain from sex.

If your partner gets pregnant for you, na una go first say make she abort am, yet, some of you won't marry a woman who has done abortion before.

Una no see say this premarital sex thing no worth am las las?

sex does not mean get pregnant and have a baby, there are protections!

Romanoff:


Even condom dey break. Well we'll sef. So if that happens, what next?

Abortion, keep the baby?

it is 90% safe though

Romanoff:


Those are known to mess with a woman's cycle and can cause infertility.

Is it still worth it?

Madam stop saying what u don't know. Also stop believing hear say.

AfroKnight:
Parts of the story have been altered cos affected parties might be nairalanders.

A while ago, I met a beautiful woman. She carry front, she carry back. Both in desirable proportions. I got her number and we got talking. We soon advanced to long calls, flirting and risqué jokes. Then she posted a boy on her WhatsApp status one day and the caption rocked me to my foundation. I asked and she confirmed that the little boy was her son. Okay.

“Where is his father?”

“He is not responsible. He is not involved in his son’s life. I take care of him alone.”

“Well, no problem”, I thought to myself. I reminded myself that it is not my dream in life to deal with the complications of raising a son who is not biologically mine, especially one whose father is still very much alive. So, I slowed down. Reduced calls until we drifted apart.

I told a female friend of mine about this and the way she looked at me ehn, I was wondering what I did wrong. She was so disappointed in me for refusing to date a single mother.

Well, I gave that friend of mine a piece of my mind. She had no right to project her concept of right or wrong or even chivalry on me! I am nobody’s saviour. I cannot pick up the responsibilities of another man who is alive and well. It is not only unfair but incredibly unjust to put a man on the spot by letting him find out you have a child after you guys have started flirting and even advanced in the talking stage of a budding relationship. I don dey feel you to the point of starting a serious relationship and I discover this? It is wrong.

And it is even more offensive that you would expect a man to just take it in stride.

Guys do not be shy to refuse if you don’t want.

Some guys are cool with it and that’s fine. If I’m not cool with it, don’t demonise me. It’s my choice.

Share your thoughts please.

Premarital sex is root of this problem in most cases.
Single mothers shouid marry single fathers. Equation is balance. Divorcee, window, and widower should also be in the same club as well.

It is never their fault that they are single mothers,
Dating irresponsible men is never their fault
Having unprotected sex with irresponsible men is never their fault
Going for antenatal for an irresponsible man is never their fault
Having an irresponsible man's baby is never their fault
They never take accountability for their clownish actions and are always looking for a sorry a** to "understand" their situation and date them.

Romanoff:
Yet, if you tell both male and female to stop fornicating, they will come for you.

Many are having premarital sex and children are one of the consequences of premarital sex.

You people frown at people doing abortions but won't marry a single mum or won't abstain from sex.

If your partner gets pregnant for you, na una go first say make she abort am, yet, some of you won't marry a woman who has done abortion before.

Una no see say this premarital sex thing no worth am las las?

to each his own. However there are ways to avoid all this nonsense like being a baby daddy/mama.

Most women now use sex and pregnancy as a guise to trap men. Sex is free and it's a gift of nature, be it pre-marital or post-marital or whatever. It's been proven there are viable ways a woman won't get pregnant if she knows what she's doing, so abortion won't even come to play.

Stop the hypocrisy please.

MrBrownJay1:


hell yeah... way better than bringing an unwanted child into this world. so just as much as a condom will solve the issue, anyone can easily deal with all the IFs BUTs and MAYBEs you can think of.

Unwanted by whom?

BRATISLAVA:
You clearly stated it's an altered story, so what if you're changing facts to manipulate the emotional readers? Why should anyone read or comment on it?

These stories from the stables of TRP/mgtow are all fantasy. Notice how easy it is for one of them to alter a supposedly true story, twist it to their ends, and have people debate on it.

Interesting take.

What was altered didn’t take away from the crux of the matter which is the unfair demonisation of men who refuse to date single mothers. It is essentially the same story.

Romanoff:
Yet, if you tell both male and female to stop fornicating, they will come for you.

Many are having premarital sex and children are one of the consequences of premarital sex.

You people frown at people doing abortions but won't marry a single mum or won't abstain from sex.

If your partner gets pregnant for you, na una go first say make she abort am, yet, some of you won't marry a woman who has done abortion before.

Una no see say this premarital sex thing no worth am las las?

People nor dey hear word. Let them face the consequences.

A word is enough for the wise

Okafor's law of congodynamics states that once a woman has been 4ked.. the 4ker has every tendency to 4k the 4kee at any given time..

As for baby mama stuff.. the father of the child can still 4k the mother even during visitations..

jacoik:
lolxxxxx hahahaha and what is that okafor law nna

Lollittaa:

unnecessary rules and regulations births hypocrisy and deceit. Perfect love casts out fear. You can't give the love you do not have. This generation seeks to love and be loved, without first knowing the person who's love Himself.

It is not love to take away the choice of another human being or to guilt-trip (manipulate) them for your gain. Funny that you want to use scripture to sanction manipulation.

MrBrownJay1:


premarital sex isnt the issue, taking care of your body while having premarital sex IS THE PROBLEM HERE.... you can easily have premarital sex (to each their own) without having a baby/std... so long as you protect yourself the right way.

Sorry to say but ur take here is unreasonable

The bottom of these whole discourse is ore marital sex, stop it and u have a saner society

Lol

MrBrownJay1:


premarital sex isnt the issue, taking care of your body while having premarital sex IS THE PROBLEM HERE.... you can easily have premarital sex (to each their own) without having a baby/std... so long as you protect yourself the right way.

Can't the women take care of their kids by themselves though? Cuz that's where most of the complains come into the picture. Most men don't wanna take responsibility for a kid that's not theirs,hence they avoid single women.

I believe this problem can be solved if single mothers stop assuming that any man that come into their life or marry them must be responsible for their child(s).

AfroKnight:


Well, the beautiful thing is I have neither looked down upon nor blamed any single mother for being a single mother. I just don’t want the complicated drama of having to interface with the father of her son. Or when his mother second guesses me when she feels I’m to hard or too lax on her son because he is not my child.

A mother’s loyalty is first to her children before her husband.

A) in Nigeria/Africa, it is a well known fact that men frown upon single women. IMHO, it is down to insecurities and misplaced ego but that is a whole different subject for anotherday.

B) why would you care where the loyalty of a mother lays? if you'd viewed that woman as a whole (aka her and her baby) then down the line your loyalty would also be linked to that child. the important question would be: is that the problem you may have OR the baby being a confirmation that some other dude had sex with your possible "woman" before you?

i really dont see where the problem is...

Davash222:

Ask 99.7536% of Nigeria single mothers about the father of their child/ren, this is always their response.

Does it mean they are foolish or blind to open legs for irresponsible men?

When dating a single mom, always remember, her child comes first before you. Also remember, the father of the child has 100% access to her kpekus.

Godspeed to all prospective Single mothers' attendees.

Guy nah wetin?

AfroKnight:


It is not love to take away the choice of another human being or to guilt-trip (manipulate) them for your gain. Funny that you want to use scripture to sanction manipulation.

That's their second nature. Why you think say serpent go meet eve?

Na to manipulate and take them know

You shouldn't be surprised

Marrying a 'single mother' it's like handicap you're already losing by 1 goal

...but for me once I fancy you and I toast you, I will ask you from day one this two questions

are you married?

do you have any kids?

Straight up. I'm not a saviour.

Or a prince in shinning armour.

I'm a regular joe who just wants peace.

Romanoff:
Yet, if you tell both male and female to stop fornicating, they will come for you.

Many are having premarital sex and children are one of the consequences of premarital sex.

You people frown at people doing abortions but won't marry a single mum or won't abstain from sex.

If your partner gets pregnant for you, na una go first say make she abort am, yet, some of you won't marry a woman who has done abortion before.

Una no see say this premarital sex thing no worth am las las?

Shey u no dey "Kponki-Kponki"?

SyrusdeHansome:
What so many guys don't knw is that not every single mother is a LovePeddler. So many girls got pregnant after trying sex just once. Some of them got pregnant as a result of rape. They had the choice of terminating the pregnancy but refused to commit the sin of fornication nd murder. Not all virgins r good 4 marriage. Being a virgin doesn't necessarily translate to having the needed character that will sustain marriage. There's more to marriage than sex mbok. Let's drop this bias narrative abt single mothers cos the dfrns b/w them nd some of ur saint girlfrnds who r fun of aborting their 2day nd future babies is that they were bold enof to keep the pregnancy out of love 4 the innocent foetus. As 4 me peace of mind is what i need in marriage so if its a single mother that'll give that to me then i'll happily marry her.

why d single mothers don't marry the father of there child?

MrBrownJay1:


premarital sex isnt the issue, taking care of your body while having premarital sex IS THE PROBLEM HERE.... you can easily have premarital sex (to each their own) without having a baby/std... so long as you protect yourself the right way.

I wonder oooo.... It doesn't make sense to be enjoying sex and not consider the consequences of making a stupid mistake.

When baby comes both idiaaats will start looking for who you push the responsibility to.

It was like so a girl that I liked and I knew she liked me met 2 years... one thing lead to another, that when it came down to business.... she said I don't like condoms, that she prefers I sleep with her without condom.

I was shocked cuz it sounded so wrong.... I simply stood up, wore my clothes and walked out....
I could see the shock on her face... I kinda lost respect for her cuz of what she said.

phazotron:


That's their second nature. Why you think say serpent go meet eve?

Na to manipulate and take them know

You shouldn't be surprised

I swear. They rush to bible to justify their actions and try to bully you into doing what they want.