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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Klass99(f): 6:56am On Sep 13, 2021 |
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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by cococandy(f): 7:01am On Sep 13, 2021 |
Klass99: I don’t know who’s really telling them that women don’t care. He thinks if I (for example) find out someone I’m with now, used to frequent brothels or was a miscreant, I won’t care? Lying to themselves and reinforcing gender stereotypes that harm only women specifically. I’m for keeping the same energy. 12 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by greenie77: 7:13am On Sep 13, 2021 |
cococandy: A clear reflection of the fragile nature of the male ego. 5 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Klass99(f): 7:30am On Sep 13, 2021 |
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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Saintmary(f): 7:32am On Sep 13, 2021 |
igbowoman:Loud it abeg 1 Like |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Acidosis(m): 7:34am On Sep 13, 2021 |
cococandy: But we have seen a lot of women come here to say they don't want a virgin man. We have also seen a lot of men say it's team virgin or nothing - something a lot of women have never confessed. Virginity isn't even in a woman's top 10 list of what she wants in a man. I think the difference is crystal clear when it comes to sexuality. When men brag about lasting 1 hour in bed and having a huge manhood (something that comes probably from experience with multiple women), a woman listens in anticipation not disdain. On the other hand, men don't want to hear such from a woman. |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by cococandy(f): 7:48am On Sep 13, 2021 |
Acidosis: Everyone should speak for themselves last last. As for the “differences that are crystal clear”, it’s not because of any magical phenomenon that no one understands. It’s simply because you people shame women’s sexuality and some women end up buying into it. 7 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Acidosis(m): 8:20am On Sep 13, 2021 |
cococandy: The biology of a woman already made her the receiver. For men, we are the giver. Whilst the man and woman want satisfaction, the mode of satisfaction differs. One aiming to receive would rarely go after the sexually-poor. That's why women blush over these things rather than show disdain. |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by cococandy(f): 8:46am On Sep 13, 2021 |
Acidosis: Lol. What are we receiving? (joke) But on a serious note, all these theories don’t mean anything. Women receive? men give? You’re just talking about spermatozoa in this case. When the sexual intercoursè isn’t done with conception in mind and as such the man wears a condom, then that theory of giving and receiving falls apart as the couple both give and receive pleasure. And even if the theory stands, it still doesn’t mean anything. One doesn’t deserve to be vilified while the other is glorified, when both of them are absolutely necessary to come together for it to be successful. Unless men engage in sex with only themselves henceforth. By subscribing to such beliefs, we inevitably tell women that they are to be in constant state of shame. It doesn’t sit right with me. 6 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by pocohantas(f): 8:46am On Sep 13, 2021 |
That is how they end up with Tuface 2.0 then start crying on social media. By not caring if he is a brolosho. Same Nigerians will now ask you “didn’t you know when you entered?” You mean you don’t envy these women with chaste husbands? Not the one you will be fighting for all over social media? I hail una wey no care o. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by efficiencie(m): 8:50am On Sep 13, 2021 |
igbowoman:So wrong...I dey come! |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by elantraceey(f): 8:53am On Sep 13, 2021 |
Acidosis: The point is not really about lying but just saying less than necessary. I have no such past to discuss any way but I have a friend who drew apart from his babe because of her past, he loved her but just couldn't look at her the same way after she told him some things she had been through, most of which weren't totally her fault but it changed nothing. Ladies generally talk too much and a lot of these things, the man would most likely never find out in his lifetime. 1 Like |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by cococandy(f): 8:57am On Sep 13, 2021 |
pocohantas: Women keep getting told over and over that they should not care about men’s sexual wildness as long he “provides” and they start believing it from a young age. But when the man carries it into the relationship and steps out during the marriage or even a mere boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, it hurts the woman (who supposedly shouldn’t really care as much as the man). Now we have confused women who are hurt but feel guilty about their hurt feelings. Like they have no right to be hurt by a faithless man. And all because they truly believe that they are selfish for wanting a man who commits to them in the same way he expects strict commitment. 3 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by cococandy(f): 8:58am On Sep 13, 2021 |
greenie77:Indeed. Men’s ego have caused untold things since the beginning of earth And we are the emotional ones 1 Like |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Acidosis(m): 9:07am On Sep 13, 2021 |
cococandy: The receive & give theory simply means that more women want to receive the best sex More men want to give the best sex. Women are rarely told to take viagra na and supa komando (energy drink). I agree with you that shaming isn't a right thing to do but this thing also affects men. In our society today, it is almost a taboo for a man to come out to claim virginity at 25 because men in this category believe that women don't want them. Men, most of them time, have to lie about how long they last in bed just to get the woman blushing. If more women can show some level of admiration towards virgin men (as well as 2-minute men); show them that they're open to growing and learning with their man in bed, the era of shaming will ultimately fade. Men are the reason women lie. And women are the reason men lie. |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by greenie77: 9:09am On Sep 13, 2021 |
cococandy: That reminds of a sticker I saw somewhere that reads " I have empowered myself enough to demand better" and that has stuck in my head. 1 Like |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by greenie77: 9:13am On Sep 13, 2021 |
Acidosis: Who is more likely to shame a man who is still a virgin at 25, women or his fellow men? 2 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Acidosis(m): 9:20am On Sep 13, 2021 |
elantraceey: Oh that's true. Not saying too much is not the same as lying. Well, I agree to some extent but if talking about one's past gives some sort of relief, why not? Talking about our past to someone we claim we love should be like a therapy to finally leave the past behind. Also, not talking about it can be very burdensome even if the other party is less likely to find out. I still believe that people should speak about the past, at least the events we remember so well. Btw, it's been ages o! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Acidosis(m): 9:25am On Sep 13, 2021 |
greenie77: Both. Who is more likely to shame a 2 minute man, women or men? |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by greenie77: 9:44am On Sep 13, 2021 |
Acidosis: Both. At least you saw some guys who mocked the OP whose thread on genital wart made front page, days ago. Mocking the size of his genital based on the pictures of the affected area he posted. On a serious note, a woman is more likely to open up to a fellow woman on her struggles with her sexual performance and not feel judged but a man will less likely as he.needs to validate himself before other men, bragging he is a stallion while in reality, he is 120 seconds! 2 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Acidosis(m): 10:10am On Sep 13, 2021 |
greenie77: Validation is key |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by izzou(m): 11:26am On Sep 13, 2021 |
pocohantas: I'm more worried about those who see sense in this. Instead of encouraging everyone to come to a relationship with all honesty, you are telling them not to care, and not to be honest. 1 Like |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Nobody: 12:52pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
Mercychen: Like seriously, are we talking about the same women that won't disclose there age or the ones that even lie about there names, height and body features, even single moms some lie about there status. Same naija gurlz wey their body count no dey ever pass two hubby is always the 3rd .. these posts as only affirm SM and reality be like oil and water. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Nobody: 12:57pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
ImaIma1: You call that illusion a message, since when did women start telling men their true past ...as much as i am into r/ship I'm shocked. we all know if women disclose their past as much as these posts insinuate most wives won't even be married |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Nobody: 1:03pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
cococandy: is it an illusion play these morning or you gurlz just feel like fooling una selves small .... gender wey no fit disclose their real age are here forming we tell men everything. some of have dated over 20 gurlz n still can related with the truth women disclose i don't even know my babe salary range sef yeye gender |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Nobody: 1:13pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
bukatyne: thanks for saving some of us the stress of shalaying. when i read comments/post here i feel like women don't know a thing about men. however i don't bother asking gurls about their past cos i know she's gonna lie, i understand a lady's past will always be a depreciation to her value. 1 Like |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by pocohantas(f): 1:19pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
This one fit die the day all ladies decide to stop responding to him and his terrible English. Ugly men do the most. Tufiakwa!! 6 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Nobody: 1:23pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
Klass99: That "some" is as irrelevant as minority, what majority will do remains the only valid conversation. no one builds hypothesis and induce on few |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Klass99(f): 1:28pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
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Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by pocohantas(f): 1:34pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
Klass99: Always going about quoting every female, hoping at least one would respond to him. I am sure the irritant has the profiles of all active females bookmarked. But na true @MC Oluomo’s gbola o. The guy done try for that industry women. He should be the No1 sugar daddy of Lagos. 4 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by ImaIma1(f): 1:55pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
larryjonze: Same applies to men. The standards apply for both sexes. Men also have horrible pasts that they guide with their lives. If they disclose, no woman might agree to marry them. If a man can keep his past a secret, why shouldn't the woman be given the same privilege? How many men tell their babes that they were chronic masturbators, rapists, ritualists, abortion enablers, etc? Please let's stop this hypocrisy of giving the men a free pass and putting women through a bottleneck. 5 Likes |
Re: URGENT: A Timely Advice To Young Women by Nobody: 2:01pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
It doesn't work like this in the real world. Women have their own nature and no advise you can give will make them change. A lot of times you don't even need to ask, when women have conversations they giveaway a lot of information on their own even without you asking. Women would always talk about their secrets in one way or the other. If a lady has been raped or done 10 abortions, if you are a good listener one day you will hear it from her. It's that simple. igbowoman: |
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