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Magnoliaa:
Can you imagine? Ehya. Sorry about your experience, sir. But if it's to carry you out to go flex, the same guy will prolly be willing. All to boost his social status.



Same with you, too. I think at this point ehn, the bro code thingy has become a cliche, with no substance whatsoever. I'll like to hear other guys' experiences, I'm sure they'll have...but some will not just want to say it out loud. But sorry, ehn, for what you went through. It must be so painful to be refused help by someone you consider a friend. Especially when you're at your lowest.



Lie? Really? Lol. You've ever faced something like that? Do you care to share? Me I want to know and learn o.

are you OK? You want to learn what you already concluded on. You mean you Conclude before you start learning? To what end, to change your conclusion or to argue even more. You want more guys who have the negative experience but you don't call on guys like us who have and also constant reciprocated the bro code? What a bias skewed research you want to do.

Magnoliaa:
Thank you for the last sentence, especially. What this lady said and your advice is actually an indictment to you men yourselves. You people can form bro codes, and band together to insult women, and call women their own worst enemies, and sleep on a dirty bed, sharing boxers together and bla bla bla (that women typically do not do) and because of that declare that you love each other, because you're all supposedly banging a single girl, but your so-called affinity is only skin deep. You DON'T feel a single thing for each other. And this is not even because you don't have the money. A broke boy can still, any how, whichever way find money to give to his girlfriend, but to give his broke guy friend?

Instead of speaking to yourselves to change your attitudes, you'll rather hate on the girls ''whyning'' your friends' brains. At least a broke partying babe that is being bankrolled will still take the gifts and monies she get from men to share with her friends. The genuine sharing spirit is there.

That men are broke in huge numbers and women are cashing out (typically) only points more to the fact that men do not help one another rather than the manipulation of women y'all cry wolf about.

You are not totally right because It depends on your circle of friends.

My inner circle of friends are working class and business minded people. With these guys we lend helping hands to each other in serious amount of monies.

Because there is a blind trust we have developed amongst ourselves over years.

Then there are the other circles hustling but not focused like that, at any slight opportunity they wanna have comfort at expenses of creating sustainability.

We have helped friends from these circle and a single dime wasn't paid back or actual progess haven't materialize in their lives.

Then there are the random ones you bump into on events or random places, their views on life is good and future ambition is strong.. these ones you connect them with people you have crated credibility with and they open the door of opportunity.

Its mostly guys that are not elightend that will see a fellow bro struggling and would put his interest first over helping that struggling friend. This is regardless of the fact that they do things together and all... With guys like this they are still in their primal state mind, purely survival mode.

It's why you would see friend sleeping with girl of best friend.... Friend killing friend.... Friend betraying friend.

When I interact I watch out for clues that give off this primal mindset, this helps to decide if we gonna end it there, or be a what's up what's up friend... Or guy make we go bar to go chill.

Magnoliaa:
''One-off'' situation? LMAO. Go conduct a

Anyway, I don't think I need to mention that exceptions apply to all the things I've said here sha.

True talk. ��

Magnoliaa:
Thank you for the last sentence, especially. What this lady said and your advice is actually an indictment to you men yourselves. You people can form bro codes, and band together to insult women, and call women their own worst enemies, and sleep on a dirty bed, sharing boxers together and bla bla bla (that women typically do not do) and because of that declare that you love each other, because you're all supposedly banging a single girl, but your so-called affinity is only skin deep. You DON'T feel a single thing for each other. And this is not even because you don't have the money. A broke boy can still, any how, whichever way find money to give to his girlfriend, but to give his broke guy friend?

Instead of speaking to yourselves to change your attitudes, you'll rather hate on the girls ''whyning'' your friends' brains. At least a broke partying babe that is being bankrolled will still take the gifts and monies she get from men to share with her friends. The genuine sharing spirit is there.

That men are broke in huge numbers and women are cashing out (typically) only points more to the fact that men do not help one another rather than the manipulation of women y'all cry wolf about.

Women are all time holders of brokenness.

McStoic:
So you used this "one off" situation about guys sometimes helping ladies more than their fellow guys as a general behaviour??

Everyone and their dog know that men always got one another's back more than the female folk do to themselves. You talk about women sharing things, kaii....this one off me. Women than can pretend, backbite and even jealous one another yet you can never know...Heck, men are you even more liberal/generous than women!

I thank God your limited knowledge on this topic does not hold light to the reality and truth..

Obviously wrote from her LIMITED experience.

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Intersexxsherry:
But seriously women stopped helping men because most of them don't appreciate a good woman..

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Iffa slap you eeh, you will know urself.

siofra:
Me I'm a woman, no man dey dash me money o
Not even my own father.

just my spec.. can we connect

Mrscarter:
If some men stop giving women money n buying them things the men may not be as broke.
However all of this is generalizations. Everyone's situations n relationships etc are different. Cant guess on anyone

Mature comment, deeply thought out response. Not some random thoughts-in-the-head thing.

TearNinja001:
Lol...and you call that one friend? I would have ghosted him a long time ago.

Unless maybe there's something that's making you two stick together

I don't even talk to him anymore

Emmadoc:
You are so so right.

I've helped a lot of niggas, friends, but I found out, I was being taken advantage of.

There was friend I helped when he was in school, nigga called me, that he needed some cash to tidy up some schools stuff.

I sent him the money, he couldn't pay back, so I told him to pay me whatever he has with him.

He gave me half of the funds I borrowed him, as a real nigga, I told him to keep the rest.

There was a time we were having a conversation about his school, and the idiot told me the money I borrowed him, he never used it for school stuffs, he told me he gave it to his girlfriend...

After sometime, I went to this same guy to borrow me some cash, because he was doing well, I even promise to pay back with interest, men the nigga stopped picking my calls till date.

Before I help such friends in my life again, you must have a collateral, something of value for that money, else I won't give you 1kobo.

Bro code my foot, and he is not the only one, because of people like him I stopped making friends, except na for business.

The problem with people like you is that you make general conclusion just from your very few experiences. Can you swear in all your life that there has never been a day a bro helped you?

We even made it more wrong to limit this help to only cash gift. What about the times some of our friends connected us to a job, invited us to join them at meal..., are those not help.

Personally, I have had help from the guys I considered as friend and I have tried my best to reciprocate it also.

Moreover, you helped your friend when he was in need, is that not the bro code we are talking about? Though you allege that he never reciprocated it when you needed same, but are there not others that have helped you but you never helped?

siofra:
Me I'm a woman, no man dey dash me money o
Not even my own father.

Merely looking at most of ur posts nd comments, whch says alot about ur character, person no suppose even help u. U deserve to suffer for 600 Years!

Akinblogdotcom:
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Hanti nobody oo...u just keep grinding till further notice.

Lavisha:
M A N means Morning, Afternoon, Night.


To be a MAN, you mustn't quit hustling.

your mummy born sense put for your head plenty. You made my day

NOwazobia:
The problem with people like you is that you make general conclusion just from your very few experiences. Can you swear in all your life that there has never been a day a bro helped you?

We even made it more wrong to limit this help to only cash gift. What about the times some of our friends connected us to a job, invited us to join them at meal..., are those not help.

Personally, I have had help from the guys I considered as friend and I have tried my best to reciprocate it also.

Moreover, you helped your friend when he was in need, is that not the bro code we are talking about? Though you allege that he never reciprocated it when you needed same, but are there not others that have helped you but you never helped?

I haven't gotten any b4, most of the help I get are from immediate families.

Haven't got any from friends, both cash and connection.

Emmadoc:
I haven't gotten any b4, most of the help I get are from immediate families.

Haven't got any from friends, both cash and connection.

OK then.

We work!
We don't feel entitled to other people's resources.

You can't know,it's been God and the fear of being an irresponsible man

dammie4j:
Sometimes the smile can be masked. I’ve always promised to support my fellow bro at the slightest opportunity whenever there is a genuine need. I’ve been there honestly.

P.S: Guys, learn to help your fellow gees rather than lavish to impress who will not care sighting a better offer on the table

I hope they listen, this is always what I preach about, when you help a man you are also securing your future, because the pendulum do shift and you may find yourself needing help from that same person, it may not be financially.

Men are the real MVPs. Life is always harder and not fair to them. As a lady, I have been in unfortunate situation and was helped because I was a female, while other men in such situations were were simply ignored or told to "face it like a man".
Even times when I would get all emotional over bad situations and cry and panic. But there they are, even in the midst of their bad situation, they still keep their head up, being optimistic, strategizing and sorting out things with a clear head.
I Thank God he made MAN.
The world is such a lovely place with them in it.
God bless all men out there

McStoic:
So you used this "one off" situation about guys sometimes helping ladies more than their fellow guys as a general behaviour??

Everyone and their dog know that men always got one another's back more than the female folk do to themselves. You talk about women sharing things, kaii....this one off me. Women than can pretend, backbite and even jealous one another yet you can never know...Heck, men are you even more liberal/generous than women!

I thank God your limited knowledge on this topic does not hold light to the reality and truth..

Bro, a struggling man will meet a wealthy lady today and still struggle to buy her the latest iphone 13 just because he wants to smash,meanwhile that lady can afford the phone heck she even have other men queued up ready to get her the phone and more. we men need to be purposely stingy to this women atimes and focus more on ourselves. Because any which way, a woman can never starve except she really REALLY chose to.

God bless you Mary Jane for been deep in thought and understanding of what we Men go through. Women like you ain't easy to come by, that would appreciate the men hustling and undying spirit.


and

Maryjane001:
Men are the real MVPs. Life is always harder and not fair to them. As a lady, I have been in unfortunate situation and was helped because I was a female, while other men in such situations were were simply ignored or told to "face it like a man".
Even times when I would get all emotional over bad situations and cry and panic. But there they are, even in the midst of their bad situation, they still keep their head up, being optimistic, strategizing and sorting out things with a clear head.
I Thank God he made MAN.
The world is such a lovely place with them in it.
God bless all men out there

Blessing185:
Whether na pride I go say or dignity or frustration or manliness no dey even make some of us voice out say we broke. We go just fem begin look up to God.. imagine going out and not eating but thinking of wat family at home will eat and u re all dey depend on ..e no easy dats y most men die earlier dan their appointed time.

Life of a family man!

sinkhole:
If this lady is not married, please all Nigerian men, I have just discovered a jewel of a woman. Unfortunately I am married myself, I would have put in my application ASAP.
God bless you, my lady

Amen.
Thank you, sir.

Males help their fellow males. The same cannot be said of women.

Lol see question … Na Buhari Dey give us money .

Magnoliaa:
Thank you for the last sentence, especially. What this lady said and your advice is actually an indictment to you men yourselves. You people can form bro codes, and band together to insult women, and call women their own worst enemies, and sleep on a dirty bed, sharing boxers together and bla bla bla (that women typically do not do) and because of that declare that you love each other, because you're all supposedly banging a single girl, but your so-called affinity is only skin deep. You DON'T feel a single thing for each other. And this is not even because you don't have the money. A broke boy can still, any how, whichever way find money to give to his girlfriend, but to give his broke guy friend?

Instead of speaking to yourselves to change your attitudes, you'll rather hate on the girls ''whyning'' your friends' brains. At least a broke partying babe that is being bankrolled will still take the gifts and monies she get from men to share with her friends. The genuine sharing spirit is there.

That men are broke in huge numbers and women are cashing out (typically) only points more to the fact that men do not help one another rather than the manipulation of women y'all cry wolf about.

No be your fault and I no go blame you. Lol at "crying wolf about". See insult on top our money and generosity

siofra:
Me I'm a woman, no man dey dash me money o
Not even my own father.

use your pussy

Joysticks:
Men don't have va.gina to do a trade by barter.

in many parts of the world, the table is turning.

Magnoliaa:
Thank you for the last sentence, especially. What this lady said and your advice is actually an indictment to you men yourselves. You people can form bro codes, and band together to insult women, and call women their own worst enemies, and sleep on a dirty bed, sharing boxers together and bla bla bla (that women typically do not do) and because of that declare that you love each other, because you're all supposedly banging a single girl, but your so-called affinity is only skin deep. You DON'T feel a single thing for each other. And this is not even because you don't have the money. A broke boy can still, any how, whichever way find money to give to his girlfriend, but to give his broke guy friend?

Instead of speaking to yourselves to change your attitudes, you'll rather hate on the girls ''whyning'' your friends' brains. At least a broke partying babe that is being bankrolled will still take the gifts and monies she get from men to share with her friends. The genuine sharing spirit is there.

That men are broke in huge numbers and women are cashing out (typically) only points more to the fact that men do not help one another rather than the manipulation of women y'all cry wolf about.

Story, women are more stingy. They don't neither help women non men. Reason they usually say I prefer male friends because of the favour they get from them.

bigcee:
Hello

simp

That's man for you.

Magnoliaa:
Thank you for the last sentence, especially. What this lady said and your advice is actually an indictment to you men yourselves. You people can form bro codes, and band together to insult women, and call women their own worst enemies, and sleep on a dirty bed, sharing boxers together and bla bla bla (that women typically do not do) and because of that declare that you love each other, because you're all supposedly banging a single girl, but your so-called affinity is only skin deep. You DON'T feel a single thing for each other. And this is not even because you don't have the money. A broke boy can still, any how, whichever way find money to give to his girlfriend, but to give his broke guy friend?

Instead of speaking to yourselves to change your attitudes, you'll rather hate on the girls ''whyning'' your friends' brains. At least a broke partying babe that is being bankrolled will still take the gifts and monies she get from men to share with her friends. The genuine sharing spirit is there.

That men are broke in huge numbers and women are cashing out (typically) only points more to the fact that men do not help one another rather than the manipulation of women y'all cry wolf about.

Ouch! The truth hurts. It goes both ways though. (Some)Women hate themselves becos of jealousy while some guys will rather help a lady than help their fellow guys. It goes both ways