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Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Nobody: 3:46pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
neonly: Stop replying Kobojunkie, she's a Die-hard NL feminist. She has no value to add to your home. Her words would make you feel that's how all women behave,,,, which isn't the fact. You need the help of a counsellor & not a feminist. 7 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Shokoloko(f): 3:46pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
neonly: It is not totally right to sacrifice yourself for family happiness. If anything happens to you family will adjust in less than 6 months. If you leave are you planning to leave with the kids? They might be happier with you. Age is not on your side, I believe that after 40 people should try to make themselves happy. At this point you need to either cling to your partner like never before or take a break from the relationship. Your mental health is key. You can only cling to your partner if she realises that this marriage is about to break and is willing to cling to you until the storm passes. So you have to talk with your spouse? Ask her if she is tired? Let her know that you are tired as well. Ask her if she is willing to communicate and cross this stage. Then tell her what you do not like that she is doing and LISTEN to her reasons why she is doing it. If there is a stalemate, both of you should still come together and discuss how you plan to separate temporarily amicably. 4 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by RightToReject(m): 3:47pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
From the connotation of your submission, your demeanor shows that you've always been a wannabe kind and wannabe libertarian man. On the other hand, the vices you enable from the inception of your relationship with her or the once you meted out against her have reared their ugly heads. The solution to your marital problem glaringly lies in your hand. 4 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by 88natzy(m): 3:47pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
[quote author=Kobojunkie post=106218202] Look, no two marriages are created the same and no two individuals in a marriage are exact copies of themselves. You and your wife are meant to design your own marriage in a way that works for you, not go around comparing yourselves to others out there. You are wise. The highlighted, will never be taught anywhere for free. Thank you 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by jericco1(m): 3:48pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
ufotty2001: That's a leech |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by omooba969(m): 3:49pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
AlphaAlex: Very practical I must say !!! 1 Like |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Rubbiish(m): 3:49pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
ahnie:Haba @ the bolded words No be u cook sweet looking rice for hubby on a thread few days ago wey all of us con dey envy? Why u con dey yarn like this? I saw somewhere u stated u wan be feminist? Hope all is well sha...Abeg no let women like Kobojunkie mislead u o 2 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by neonly: 3:49pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
wonderr: Nope I do 99% on me |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by royalfly(m): 3:50pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
[quote author=Kobojunkie post=106218202] So, you want to ruin your 15-year old marriage for the sake of your ego? ■ You go to market ■ Cook ■ clean the house ■ wash the children uniform .... So you do these things in your own home and you expect what, a medal? The person that used to do them before, I am guessing your wife, she no be human being like you? So your wife is interested in her career, and you are what? Against your "friend" doing well in her career or what? And let me guess, communication has degraded between you two and probably between your egos are butting heads at this point and rather than working on that, you are instead thinking of ways to end your relationship? Look, no two marriages are created the same and no two individuals in a marriage are exact copies of themselves. You and your wife are meant to design your own marriage in a way that works for you, not go around comparing yourselves to others out there. Die to your ego if you must and learn to grow rather than destroy your marriage over petty things such as what you listed here. [/quo Abeg,, u never marry am sure of that.. u dey try wan make sense but u are saying nothing.. there is a problem here don't try to twist it.. |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by omooba969(m): 3:50pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Rubbiish: Lol |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Gentlerespect76: 3:51pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
okoroemeka: Wrong? How? Did he divulge their Identities (his own wife and children)? He has done nothing wrong here. He is only looking for a platform to get help. Well, you've ended up helping him yourself with your advice, exactly the reason why he came online. |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Octopusssy(f): 3:51pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Kestolove:For your mind you don give advice, shey? |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Tinyemeka(m): 3:52pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: So how did you conclude that the reason OP was complaining about doing the house chores, groceries purchase, taking care of the kids and on top of all that, being the breadwinner, was because of his ego? 2 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by neonly: 3:53pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Shokoloko: On d contrary I have ask her if she tired abt d relationship and she said no with a smile on her face I can never forget d evening dat was one of d reason dat gave me hope abt us |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Amumaigwe: 3:53pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
neonly: That's the fate that befalls all so called "good" husbands. You take up domestic duties abandoned by your wife instead of reining her in as a real man, only to come online to threaten us with ending your marriage. It is men like you that demonize other men that insist on putting their wives in their place. Ironically, their own marriages flourish but that of wussies crumble. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by cobsol(m): 3:54pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Homeboiy: Not any more |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by vickydevoka(m): 3:54pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
neonly:Divorce her fast. Emeka Ike did sane thing wen her wife chose pastor Chris okotie over their marriage |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Rubbiish(m): 3:55pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Somblaq:The bold is the major foundation cause of most marital issues people post here. A lot of men over pamper women in the early stage of marriage & during courtship, when they can no longer continue with the pampering, then problem set in, because the women are already used to it. Men should learn to be real & be their true self from the on set. 4 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by gabicon: 3:56pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
neonly: The problem here is not really the chores or church or career, the problem is break in communication. A home is a system of different components working together, to achieve success every component needs to be clearly defined as to how they will function. As a result of lack of communication the parties responsible for each component are doing what they deem right. I will advise you get professional help from a counsellor quickly, there is already resentment in the air, should this metamorphose to the next level, the marriage will be irredeemable. Get help soonest. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:56pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Tinyemeka:The house is his and the children are also his. The only reason anyone would believe his/herself too big to do chores in his/her own home is the ego. 1 Like |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by tbarrister(m): 3:57pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Bro this Is bitter but its the best advise. You gotta let her go bro. You've totally lost the battle and somehow she knows you can't do anything about it and thats why she's acting this way. Its either you can't provide for the family or you're too weak but the best thing to do is to divorce and find a younger wife to marry . Think about your future bro. A word is enough for the wise 2 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by neonly: 3:57pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
SimplyFacts: I can handle anybody idea or yans bro's no bi me bring my yarsh come out side Thks sha |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Shokoloko(f): 3:58pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
neonly:So it is weird that she is answering such a serious question with a smile. She is supposed to be worried and curious: that question is pregnant. But lets assume she is someone that smiles all the time In that case you need to tell her that you are tired and unhappy. When people are about to lose something they either grab and hold it tight or they turn away. If you tell her. That will give her an opportunity to express herself. I also feel that you are overwhelmed by the chores at home. You might need a househelp 3 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Gaddafih001(m): 3:58pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Sonnobax15:Na man you be. |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by vickydevoka(m): 3:58pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Kestolove:Girls are always nice and good b4 marriage. As I'm talking to your my neighbor cooks n clean the house ever since the wife got a job of 50k. She contributes nothing, Even wen she receives the salary. Buh na de sane man way de hail him wife b4 marriage. So sister , watin i understand for this life be say, if lion no chop goat, goat go chop grass. If husband is harsh now, de wive will be calm, if de wife is harsh de husband will be calm 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Nobody: 3:59pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Kestolove:They will turn irresponsible at the end |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Nobody: 4:00pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Very useless comment full of assumptions! 3 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by Gaddafih001(m): 4:00pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
okoroemeka:Una never see movie... |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by omooba969(m): 4:00pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Shokoloko: @bolded, is often a recipe for disaster coz as interim separation helps to figure out if we indeed love/miss our partner, it also has the tendency to create a vacuum; presenting us with the chance to ponder better on reasons we don't need our partners anymore. Very dicey! 2 Likes |
Re: Am About To End My 15yrs Marriage by ravensckar(m): 4:01pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:The way I dey look you so, e no be like sey your head correct. 4 Likes |
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