Gokoyer0:
You guys should stop deceiving OP. No one need a soothsayer that it will end in premium tears. One of my guys has just been reduced to nothing by her wife. I am talking about a "machoman" here. Op need someone that can easily calm down with some empathy.

But she might not be as bad as the OP describes her. For instance, he says she's hot tempered, but she might not be quick to get angry. She might just be those type that you have to really do something crazy to upset her.

I once had a girlfriend of that type.
She was ok physically to my taste, except for the fact that didn't know her inner mind.
So when I started seeing those signs/attitude, I just had to let her go because I could not cope with her and there was no point going deep with her.
So you should have noticed this since before thinking of being serious with her.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Marriage is about complementing each other. If you have the same character, it has serious pros and cons.

Both of you loving the same things is likely and good but constantly clashing on other things brings disaster. You will have more clashes than normal because both of you have very little tendencies of compromise.

I can't tell you to leave her or not, but it seems you take what you read too serious. A book cant find a wife for you. You have to use courtship to get the right woman.

You are hot tempered and you want God to bless you with an innocent, cool hearted woman? Who will now marry the cool hearted men? Work on yourself, bro and stop looking for who'll complement your imperfection.

Since you are also choleric go for a phlegmatic lady. If you go ahead, frequent head on collissions between you too are all but guaranteed and the effect wont be pleasant

ONCE YOU LOVE YOUR PARTNER,YOU WILL BE ABLE TO TOLERATE EVERYTHING ABOUT HER,LOVE CONQUER EVERYTHING INCLUDING HOT TEMPER

there is really no big deal here for me oh, its just a matter of talking things through. i have seen females who were tigresses in their youth melt to a mouse when they get married. nobody go tell you when the hit don start, na only you go use your hand advice yourself cos you go tire one-day. but seriously if you cant handle her, then don't stress yourself and stress her in the process. and this things about not knowing when next you will see another person is what i don't get, is that low self esteem i sense there? bros you need to evaluate yourself, know who you are and what works best for you before you can bring in someone to your space, cos right now i know marriage should be the least of your problem.

Proverbs 25:24 It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.


The worst senerios is that, both of you are grenades.

My brother, you both are advised to accept Christ and get sanctified, else....

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Fire and Fuel in holy matrimony, they should create a Netflix show around this.

I thought she has cholera

Modernizer:



well, i really need to settle down, and im really not the type that eadily gets into relationships. so im wondering how long it would take me to reach this extent again with a new person

So you're going to marry an abusive woman just because you're afraid of being alone.

I wish you good luck

Ok before u be dey find one cool girl wey u go carry hot temper kill abi? Bros e no work, na this one fit u and na this one u go marry. Who give u the hotness? Who tell u say e no get stop? Na this one u go marry. God forbid any good girl suffer wetin she no know

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Have you checked the price of casket. All women can be a a mother but not all can be a wife

BigDawsNet:



Manage if you love her

Very bad advise, marriage should be enjoyed, not managed!

Hot needs cold to simmer down, have u ever heard of a negative+negative work together... In matters of LOVE&affair one of the parties have to be FOOL, so if u are not ready to play the fool and she's not giving u any impression she's ready to play that role I'd kindly advice u to break it off now.

My2cents.

zeenaman:
You are hot tempered and you want God to bless you with an innocent, cool hearted woman? Who will now marry the cool hearted men? Work on yourself, bro and stop looking for who'll complement your imperfection.

Na God go help me bless u. Somebody has what people are scared of n u are even proud saying out side instead going for deliverance

Simple physics like like repel why unlike attract. Bro be wise and don't get burnt.

OP go ahead, if she's the perfect match for you. At first (first five years) it might be tough but last, last, both of you will be alright due to maturity and understanding. In my former compound, I used to know a couple (then, they were dating) that fought almost every day, to the extent of the lady stabbing the guy. They are both joyfully married together now, the last time I saw them, it was like wow! I jokingly asked if they still fight, both were accusing each other for the cause of the fight then. That shows lack of maturity on both of them then. When I was much younger, I was very stubborn, even in school majority thought I was a cultist. But now, I'm gentle as dove. OP, one day you will change especially when you begin to have children.

SUGARCyprian247:
Oops! I think I just learnt a new word today.

Choleric


Thank you OP.


PS: When it comes to marriage you can never play smart/wise. You can only be lucky or Unlucky.

The most compatible might turn out to be the most toxic.

Marriage shouldn't be based on luck, let's learn to get our own luck

whodeyhere:


All of una wey dey advise make him no marry the girl are evil o, so you want make him go marry a gentle and cool headed lady and begin to dey give problem abi... Bros abeg go ahead and marry her please, both of una go survive. No joke, I used to have a couple like that from my previous workplace and they are still together till now. [b]In the end, one of them go still calm down [/b]when e realise say the other one na inborn dangbana choko.

That is if they survive High blood pressure, stroke and mental abuse

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

Sorry that I have to quote you, I guess this is the way I could pass my message and you will get it immediately...


I hardly talk on peoples relationship, because I don't know how and where you guys meet each other and how you love each other but:


If you possess all these attribute, don't marry somebody who also possess same, the outcome would be brutal, and it would reflect on your kids..

Your kids would definitely tap into that gene/trait, which would not be nice for a family...

God would lead you well

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

check her zodiac sign to know if you guys are compatible. Some persons don't believe in it but it works.

Both of you should visit Calvary, you concern will be taken care of.

newbornmacho:
Bro...I'm not interested in anything female for now. You know this .

See this idiot, but you opened and reply to this thread. Useless being

When you were knacking her you didn't consider the fact that she's choleric, it is now that you have demolished her abuna you know that she's choleric. Chimeric kor, chloronackric ni..YOU must marry her oh..if you are not willing to, then, don't spy on my signature below oh..because I don't want you to mine Pi COIN.
Just joking. My advice is that you can marry her and learn to tolerate each other.
It might be rocky at first but everything would go well with time. My marriage is a good example of what you mean.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

She tick all boxes as if naa footballer she be
She be attacking midfielder

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

For you to share this here, shows that it can't work.

Because sharing it here for Advice consciously or Unconsciously shows that you don't find her being a choleric comfortable.

And she would never change, because temperament is naturally imbedded, and not learnt.

The choice is yours to make.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

My Brother, As a Melancholic with a Bitter taste for Cholerics, I wish you all the best and pray for divine wisdom for you.

You'll know what to do eventually.

PS. Cholerics can be lived with tho but are you ready to tolerate Her completely?!

Them Dey cArry hot temper enter marriage wey u wish to make work ?

When u answer the question, u will decidedly whether to settle down or not.

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Modernizer:


Wahala. Everyone seems to be saying the same thing...is it that big a deal?

Is like you are eager to die very quick?

Lolzzz you know whom you're about to marry doesn't fit your temperament and you're still asking if you should go ahead. The good thing about this is that you're not already committed in marriage so the decision of walking away should be much easier for you to make without the input of anyone here. Understand that marriage is something that can make or Mar you not just on earth but eternally. Marrying a lady with a hot temper to start with is a very big no. Go for a lady that gives you peace of mind, not one who would most likely give you issues on a daily basis and take away your peace. And I always tell people, especially ladies, do not rush into marriage because you see your mates going into it. It is not a competition. There are certain decisions in the life of someone which are called "life decisions", e.g. choice of a life partner, choice of a course in school, your salvation etc. These are decisions you make which could alter the entire course of your life and your destiny, and as such you don't look at your friends or even your parents or siblings when making such decisions cos you might be pushed into making the wrong decision! You consult God only. I always advice that even if it takes you a lifetime to find the right partner, then it's worth waiting for it. Don't feel time is passing you by. Take your time and make the right decision and enjoy. Cheers.

Modernizer:
I won't bore you all with a long write up.

I'm ready to settle down, actually I needed to settle down like yesterday. Problem is, I don't make friends easily and hooking up is even tougher. I don't trust easily.

So I'm talking with this girl that checks all my boxes ( quite a rare feat for my high expectations), but for one thing...she is evidently a choleric. I know because I'm one myself.

The hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy, high ambition...all those tell tale choleric features give it away.

Now I know cholerics are advised to get their opposites say phlegmatic for relationship purposes, but I want to ask the house: can I a hot tempered man cope with a hot tempered woman?
Any people with experience on this here?
Can both of us with low empathy really be compatible?

The adverse statistics coming out of marriage these days scares the sh..t out of me. I don't want any of it.

Should I drop this girl? Or can it work?

Sorry oo...it may sound small but that's my own challenge.

Cc newbornmacho, Ahnie, kestolove

You are hot temper, impetuousness, some bossy-ness, independent mindedness, low empathy
but
You want the opposite which is gentle temper, patient and considerate, submissive, a team player, empathetic

My brother, marry her!! leave your opposites alone for people like them.