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My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

I see nothing wrong as it is her child.. that you were sexualy abused have left a scar in your memory but you have to deal with it..

Maybe you should let her understand your point of view rather than just prohibiting her authoritatively from the act...

Everybody loves the feel of the lips of babies bro.. don't be mad..

Elders only I'm out.

Let us wait to hear from lalasticlacla
Lemme go and plug guava, will be back.


Back to the topic..
So your wife shouldn't kiss her own baby again? Wait, who is the mother of the baby?

Wahala no dey finish for marriage!

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused. This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it. Please I need advice from experienced parents. I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son. The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it. Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

You tell a mother not to kiss her own baby, from her own womb, in the mouth, why?

If you need to seek counseling for the abuse you suffered as as child, then go get it quickly. But to try to restrict a woman from showing love and affection to her own baby because you were abused is a bit too much.

And using the teenage girl living with you as reason to scold your wife is ridiculous. Tell the girl she is not to do the same to the child, not scold your wife for showing affection as a mother to her own offspring.

You speak like one who is married to a full time house wife who contributes nothing to the house other than cook, sex and take care of the baby.

I mean, what do you mean by "my son" as though the child belongs to you alone while she's only there to breast feed him and nothing more...

taye no be kehinde ... abeg make she enjoy the fruit of her labor with the kisses ...

She is taking it too far

If a man can not kiss his daughter as such, why should a woman do such to her son

Remember that what a man can do, a woman can do worse

Oga you're overreacting

You need to see a therapist, you're obviously still dealing with trauma from your abuse.

There's nothing wrong with a mother kissing her baby in the mouth, you're just projecting your trauma on your wife and child.

Please, deal with it before it ruins you.

Officialgarri:
You speak like one who is married to a full time house wife who contributes nothing to the house other than cook, sex and take care of the baby.

I mean, what do you mean by "my son" as though the child belongs to you alone while she's only there to breast feed him and nothing more...

Even if the woman is a full time house wife, na small work be full time house wife?

Make them switch roles make e see as e be na.

Mr op is the kid only for you or both of you abi na you carry am inside stomach for good 9months or so....
She doing so only makes the baby knows she is his mother nothing more and I'm sure as he gets older even him will start rejecting the kisses cos it will be embarrassing him in front of his peers... At this stage I'd call it "mother's love" which is very very important for everyone in the family.

Shellsploit:
Let us wait to hear from lalasticlacla
Lemme go and plug guava, will be back.

Hian, you no dey taya to chop guava for okearo farm, you better look for correct ofe owerri soup loaded with kpomo, ogunfe, Turkey, bokoto, chicken with akpu, eat and drink fresh orange juice, thank me later

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused. This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it. Please I need advice from experienced parents. I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son. The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it. Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

Your past experience at bold has affected your reasoning! How can u tell a mother not to kiss her child?? And u say this is causing issues already? U are not well abeg! U need psychological help!

Nothing wrong with it, she will stop when he is close to a year or like 9 months, I stopped kissing my babies when they started walking at 10 months, it is just a show of motherly affection.

It is normal na. You are overreacting joor.

Romanoff:
You need to see a therapist, you're obviously still dealing with trauma from your abuse.

There's nothing wrong with a mother kissing her baby in the mouth, you're just projecting your trauma on your wife and child.

Please, deal with it before it ruins you.

Exactly @bold
Op needs help
I honestly feel for the woman & child, who know what they might have been going through in the hands of op.

@bobontop
Hope u don't get jealous when u see that child sucking her mother's breast? Just 6 months old child & u dey reason like this?
Abuse is really bad, it can mess up someone's mind.

Did you tell your wife your reason for not wanting her to kiss your child?
Does she know about your experience?

As for the kiss, I doubt it is as perverted as you’re making seem.
Does she kiss the child deep in the mouth?

tribes only I'm out.

Some men can sabi look for trouble for where trouble no dey

Op,na mumu talk be that . You are prohibiting a mother from kissing her own son,but na that her the same lip you dey kiss during every bedmatics session . Should I call this too much of westernization or foolishness?

Abeg go chilax jorrh....

Which Kain mumu talk is this? you're stopping a mother from kissing her own child.
Op it's a form of endearment.

You de para for common kiss,what of me wey dey Waka naked for house nko,if say you be my husband you for don kill me be that nau.

All these kind authoritative husbands sef...may God airpus.

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused. This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it. Please I need advice from experienced parents. I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son. The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it. Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

communicate this exactly as you communicated it to us, instead of giving unnecessary orders, communicate, stop running to strange people for strange advises.. Communicate with love and compassion...

AngelicBeing:
Hian, you no dey taya to chop guava for okearo farm, you better look for correct ofe owerri soup loaded with kpomo, ogunfe, Turkey, bokoto, chicken with akpu, eat and drink fresh orange juice, thank me later

Officialgarri:
You speak like one who is married to a full time house wife who contributes nothing to the house other than cook, sex and take care of the baby.

I mean, what do you mean by "my son" as though the child belongs to you alone while she's only there to breast feed him and nothing more...

Nnaa,I just weak...... oil dey your head....

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused. This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it. Please I need advice from experienced parents. I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son. The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it. Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

Why na? Does ur wife have mouth odour? Isn't she the mother?

Cheiiiiiii op ti sa lo
He was expecting us to support him and lambast his wife.

Bobontop pls Kam Beck here.

Op sorry, I've got nothing to tell you but I'll be expecting a nl girl that always advies nairaland mothers to keep their baby daughters faraway from their fathers to say something here.
Maybe I can learn one or two

As for me I don't like it. I wouldn't want anyone to kiss my child in the mouth, neither would I kiss my child in the mouth. Deep motherly hugs and caring for my child is enough for me to show affection. For peace to reign you have to wait till your wife gets tired of kissing the child, or you keep telling her you don't like it.

My friend who is almost 40years now him and the mother still kiss in the mouth. He is a spoiled child. Who sleep with anything in skirts. He doesn't even select class.

Then when he was 35. He was sick and I went there to see him. I saw the mother kissing him In the mouth. It was so disgusting.

Your kid will get use to that kissing which is bad