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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by enemyofprogress: 4:51pm On Oct 05, 2021
Op I dey sell rat poison o, my rat poison na original and it is very very ship
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by tritt(m): 4:51pm On Oct 05, 2021
The guy dey sound like simp

WestAfricaan:
Op to be candid with you, you decisions sounds childish. No one should wield so much power over who you'll settle down with, most especially when you both quarrels during courtship.
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Nobody: 4:51pm On Oct 05, 2021
Mercychen:
K
K for kedike undecided
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Ecstacy21(m): 4:52pm On Oct 05, 2021
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Toks2008(m): 4:52pm On Oct 05, 2021
*Yawns and walks out of thread*
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by HRHQueenPhil(f): 4:52pm On Oct 05, 2021
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

It's quite unfortunate because u don't act like a man...see how u sound like a child, my mummy forced me ..yuck!!!!
U are playing with a curse if u dare divorce that woman
U better go for therapy/ counseling
Or stay desperate, listen to all apostle Joshua Selman messages everyday, read Oyedepo books on marriages and woo your wife from the beginning again

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by osibenaezekiel: 4:52pm On Oct 05, 2021
Think about the future of your child before you take any decision. Learn to make decision as important as this based on your own terms. Your mother only wants the best for you. Don't marry for money!

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by feamtrik(m): 4:52pm On Oct 05, 2021
You were never a man from the beginning.. you should have taken your grip on some decisions Rather than saying your mum engineered the marriage

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Odinaka00(m): 4:52pm On Oct 05, 2021
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Until we hear your wife’s side of the story then I can comment

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Consultville(m): 4:53pm On Oct 05, 2021
This marriage of an issue no be here o, make God save person ni o
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by MIM77(m): 4:53pm On Oct 05, 2021
You might have married a narcissist.They don't change, just run your dear life. All the best.=MyOleSolksjaer post=106474372]Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.[/quote]
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by tempex88(m): 4:53pm On Oct 05, 2021
In my opinion, you are immature. You blame your parents and your wife for your unhappiness.

Take charge of yourself , your life and take responsibility.

If you don't work on yourself....even in another marriage, you will be unhappy.

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by tarantino1: 4:53pm On Oct 05, 2021
lilvicky68:

This pics don turn meme now now..
Omo grin


Who is the guy?

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by onlygiddi: 4:53pm On Oct 05, 2021
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.


Advice, you are married already do whatever you have to do to make your marriage work , you made a mistake by not involving God , but now you should involve God , take your Kid to live with your mum , plan to be celibate ,keep to it at the same time take your wife out , buy he stuff even if she does not appreciate or mean anything to you remember be celibate, no masturbation , go out with her to places ,go to church also . Make your marriage work people get tired of sex , love is a scam it is tv deceiving us ....MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK .. marriage is pure God love , decipline and pure decision not to quit but to love you will get tired of the other one it will happen , then the next just make your stuff work , ask God for Forgiveness of your past sins and make it work for you.

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Lugianostar(m): 4:54pm On Oct 05, 2021
To be sincere with you, the relationship was build upon a wrong foundation as social media platforms isn't were Eve was taken suitable for Adam. The mistake has been done and am not pointing a gun on your head for that but you wouldn't have succumbed to their incessant pressure as it looks as if the man in you was overwhelmed. You have to decide what you want now; The decision is for you to take and not we. Be a man for once and do the needful.

God will help you.
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by nedu2000(m): 4:54pm On Oct 05, 2021
Life is already too short for you to live a life enduring someone else's bull, divorce her and move on
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Spherical77(m): 4:54pm On Oct 05, 2021
Youngpo413:
'7 figure monthly salary' so men dey gold dig too? Chai.
The guy is nothing but a gold digger and a disgrace to manhood

He better go back to your wife and stop fooling yourself around

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by MPESA(m): 4:54pm On Oct 05, 2021
Iyaebe:
You are a gold digger and an opportunist you are only in love with the seven figures and not the lady.

Exactly my thoughts.

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Nobody: 4:55pm On Oct 05, 2021
Curious345:



Are you saying there are people who earn 7 figures, lousing about in facebook?

This is what 7 figures looks Like ==== 15,000,000 naira monthly..

Guy you're a fraud.

Take this post to the romance section
7 figures is 1000,000 to 9,999,999. What you stated above is 8 figures undecided

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Nobody: 4:56pm On Oct 05, 2021
Then get a divorce cool
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise .



My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Dapson73(m): 4:56pm On Oct 05, 2021
I'm yet married thou, but no one can force me into marriage not even my parents . If I'm in your shoes, since 8 know I couldn't flow with her, I will never agreed to marry her no matter the pressure.
But since you already married the lady, my advise for you is to sit her down and you guys understand the causes of your misunderstanding and see if you could address it.
Moreover like they usually say that every marriage has its on challenges probably your challenges came early . Try and fight it together and peace will reign in your home .

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Vinnie2000(m): 4:56pm On Oct 05, 2021
bigcee:

Why are you wicked? grin grin grin grin You done quickly use that guy pics do memes grin grin grin




I tire for Mr SmellySperm oo..I have asked him on one Topic for Romance section sad

Why he dey do the Guy like dat nah? embarassed
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by afonha(m): 4:57pm On Oct 05, 2021
You God in your marriage, because marriage is not easy, very hard. Sometimes I regret ever getting into it. But with prayers and patience there is hope.
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Richieniit: 4:57pm On Oct 05, 2021
Bigredmachine:
okay listen to what i have to say...

its not advisable to stay in a marriage that you are not happy in, you thinking your marriage with your wife is over, is a decision only you and you alone can take...

if you think you can get in touch with your ex and there is a chance of marrying her, give it a trial... but if she has been taken or she is no longer interested abeg japa, make she no go eliminate you

as for your parents, they have lived their lives, and should not be the one to be interfering in every decision you gonna take, some times dont listen to them about issues only you will live and deal with for the rest of your live

think about your live man, no woman out there should make you die before your time, pick up from where u have fallen and soon you will be back to your best...

it is well


Seriously this is your advise Can't you see the guy is the problem?? Can't you read in btw the lines? He wants more outside his home with a woman who earns 7 figures, he's having issues with his mom over another woman and same guy who claim not to have interest with his wife both sexually and otherwise plus he met the chemical lady after the wife.


Motivation speaker that what you are.. leave his home because he is not happy How about fix his shit and focus on family. I don't see their marriage beyond broken, it's something that can be fixed. Ok you talk about happiness right ? This bring me to the question what happiness truly mean and how we find it and if you ask me, it starts in ur brain then goes to being appreciative and then doing your best to be contented with what you have and above all this? I dont think he's man enough to fix his home.

All I see in his right up is pure evil motive and no woman in his wife position that won't nag, question him or trouble him. Let him first be a good loving husband and father and see if his wife will treat him like trash.

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Spherical77(m): 4:57pm On Oct 05, 2021
MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.
Go back to your wife Mr. Man. You are married already go and make it work.

Stop looking for what didn't lose up and down

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by ensamy(m): 4:58pm On Oct 05, 2021
Stay there, God says in the scriptures ' I hate divorce' Stay there and work it out.

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Writercruze: 4:58pm On Oct 05, 2021
Bro, I don't know if people will tell you the truth here, but I hope you read my comment.

Let me ask you three questions

#1. What was the attraction between you and your wife? what did you find interesting in her? Is that thing still there?

#2. Has your wife always been like this?

#3. Don't you think it's because of your feelings (rather an obsession) towards the chemical engineers that's making you to feel this way?

From what you wrote, I can reliably tell you that you are the problem in your marriage. You are married bro, and if you want to have a happy marriage, limit the number of female colleagues that call you unnecessarily while at home.

It is what it is. Your wife is only suspicious because you must have seen your chat or conversation between you and the mechanical engineer.

You gat a daughter and a woman who seems to love you, please I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in, try to make your marriage work.

have a proper conversation with your wife. Ask her to tell you the things you are doing that she doesn't like, you should tell her the things she is doing that you don't like at all.

At the end of such a conversation, you will know your boundaries and start living happily.

No woman is good o. That one you are fantasizing over (the chemical engineer), but the time you destroy your marriage because of her, you would regret it in the future.

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Ecstacy21(m): 4:58pm On Oct 05, 2021
Truly, you were immature enough not to know the difference between 'love and emotion'
Also for you to have listened to your mum really shows how immature you are. Listen to their(parent) advice but in the end you are the best advice to yourself!

Call your wife to order since the relationship have turned violent , and if she continues do the needfull by ending the marriage/relationship. Leaving her though doesn't guarantee a sound relationship with your ex. Women are complex animals, you never know with them, they don't often know with themselves.

Shalom!

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by BRATISLAVA: 4:59pm On Oct 05, 2021
Men who cannot go down on their knees and fight for their marriage have no virtues. Another man would do a better job. All these men who cannot be men in their homes, always looking for the quickest escape.

We need her side of the story. Because OP sounds like a nagging gold digger himself.

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by dan9ice(m): 4:59pm On Oct 05, 2021
Certainly, I'm not married yet, but I will never allow my parent to dictate for me the person I'll spend the rest of my life with..
In this 21st century parent still decide for you grown ups ?

Pausibly you married out of pity because I don't see why you're already tired of your marriage. It's barely two years and there are all these commotion?.

Most times we humans, we tend to '' marry" the one we should had friend

Then "friend" the one we should have/had married
This life no balance
Bro try and work on your marriage
Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by MummyD2020(f): 5:00pm On Oct 05, 2021
Youngpo413:
'7 figure monthly salary' so men dey gold dig too? Chai.

Abeg leave that one. E never see life. Just how many years e don dey cry. When the pressures of relationship or marriage befalls that one u are scrambling to be with, u will look for someone else. Relationship needs work, continuous one. 7 figure indeed

Lets hear from the other party first

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Re: I Am Not Happy In My Marriage, Please I Need Advise. by Vinnie2000(m): 5:00pm On Oct 05, 2021
tarantino1:



Who is the guy?



Na one Nairaland guy (Probably a Newbie)..

According to him, Since Facebook wasn't working..
He come say make him Upload/Post his picx here.. Probably, for us to Like!!.. kiss

SmellySperm don Turn am to Meme! sad

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