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We women ain’t stupid...
How do you want to cheat someone and still find peace... let me tell you this
There is no peace in the home of a man that cheats his wife... she was lovely when you first met her and that was why you picked a relationship with her,, then all of a sudden she is no longer attractive to you cause she’s troublesome

Mr writer check yourself

This woman in question with definitely have something to say about your attitude towards her sudden change

Firstly, you are not mature for for marriage but due to your nature (mummy said) you enter. Why did redi when you never ready?
Secondly, I guess you don't love your wife anymore because you have seen another lady who is financially okay (becoming a golddigger) and your wife is now becoming a liability to you.

My advise to you is that stick to your wife and try to establish her by so doing it will lessen your burden.

Do whatever you want, it is your life.

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Funny man
You made a vow with your God that you won't abort any pregnancy, but u didn't make a vow with him never to fornicate.
My friend , I see you are happy cos the ex earns 7 figures while your baby mama isn't working yet and the responsibility of caring for your family is taking a toll on your empty pocket. You had better stick to your wife and you both work out how you will grow together, cos what you are experiencing presently is just a phase of your life and will soon roll away.
Every female will nag if you ain't taking care of her, at least withing your limit, my mum will too.
So double up , cos you have mouths to feed now. Daddy baby

That is a lie. I knew this lady before I met my wife.

Richieniit:
Seriously this is your advise Can't you see the guy is the problem?? Can't you read in btw the lines? He wants more outside his home with a woman who warns 7 figures, he's having issues with his mom over another woman and same guy who claim not to have interest with his wife both sexually and otherwise plus he met the chemical lady after the wife.


Motivation speaker that what you are.. leave his home because he is not happy How about fix his mom and focus on his home. I don't see their marriage beyond broken, it's something that can be fixed. Ok you talk about happiness right ? This bring me to the question what happiness truly mean and how we find it and if you ask me, it starts in ur brain then goes to being appreciative and then doing your best to be contented with what you have and above all this? I dont think he's man enough to fix his home.

All I see in his right up is pure evil motive and no woman in his wife position that won't nag, question him or trouble him. Let him first be a good loving husband and father and see if his wife will treat him like trash.

bros which kind talk be this "chemical lady"

Richieniit:
Seriously this is your advise Can't you see the guy is the problem?? Can't you read in btw the lines? He wants more outside his home with a woman who warns 7 figures, he's having issues with his mom over another woman and same guy who claim not to have interest with his wife both sexually and otherwise plus he met the chemical lady after the wife.


Motivation speaker that what you are.. leave his home because he is not happy How about fix his mom and focus on his home. I don't see their marriage beyond broken, it's something that can be fixed. Ok you talk about happiness right ? This bring me to the question what happiness truly mean and how we find it and if you ask me, it starts in ur brain then goes to being appreciative and then doing your best to be contented with what you have and above all this? I dont think he's man enough to fix his home.

All I see in his right up is pure evil motive and no woman in his wife position that won't nag, question him or trouble him. Let him first be a good loving husband and father and see if his wife will treat him like trash.

Start f*cking around nau

tarantino1:
Who is the guy?

He's on front page he posted his pictures here for safekeep

https://www.nairaland.com/6787034/since-facebook-having-trouble-let

Seek God's help, not men.

Homeboiy:
Mugu

Your wife did this , your wife did that

Your wife is giving your troubles because you don’t appreciate her.

You know she’s not good for you and you had sex with her raw.

Oga go back and love your wife

And peace you shall receive

abeg share sense give me

'按摩also 是擦热点哦发this

MyOleSolksjaer:
She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

This is the key to break up with her, when she does make sure your mother knows about, break up with her

Your mum was on interested on having more grandchildren. She didn't care about your happiness.

Remag666:
bros which kind talk be this "chemical lady"

You no read the post Lol. I chemical lady who earns 7 figures. Lazy yeye man. You wan leave your wife to find woman way get more money how sure is he that he won't end up washing pant and cleaning house for the chemical lady ?

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Funny man
You made a vow with your God that you won't abort any pregnancy, but u didn't make a vow with him never to fornicate.
My friend , I see you are happy cos the ex earns 7 figures while your baby mama isn't working yet and the responsibility of caring for your family is taking a toll on your empty pocket. You had better stick to your wife and you both work out how you will grow together, cos what you are experiencing presently is just a phase of your life and will soon roll away.
Every female will nag if you ain't taking care of her, at least withing your limit, my mum will too.
So double up , cos you have mouths to feed now. Daddy baby

Homeboiy:
Mugu

Your wife did this , your wife did that

Your wife is giving your troubles because you don’t appreciate her.

You know she’s not good for you and you had sex with her raw.

Oga go back and love your wife

And peace you shall receive

I don't know why he thinks the marriage with the 7 figure girl will be any better. Some guys reasoning is just poor. Probably, he thinks the lady is rich and won't bother him financially. The truth is dating and marriage are not the same but he doesn't want to tell himself this truth. I agree, he should leave the toxic marriage but not to jump into another one. He needs to grow up a little more.

We knew already. It will always end in premium tears.

SmellySperm:
Hmm marriage wahala here and there. Una com dey mk us fear.

Baba God abeg mk we no fall into the hands of wrong and devilish women wen we finally wan setle down,Amen
But single life sweet abeg

Nawa for Nairalander self.Una don quickly turn dis guy pictures to meme.

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

Did you make the vow after your 2019 escapades

MyOleSolksjaer:
My sister even asked for her address to come see the babies.

Do you know that she refused to send her address but all she was sending was her bank details.

She even stated that if we want to see the babies, that we can meet up in a public place.

MyOleSolksjaer:
That is a lie. I knew this lady before I met my wife.

Oga go and sleep and man up. Fix your home and comot eyes outside. I be man like you.

I once had an ex who nearly made me scatter but the moment i put her behind and start giving my partner all the attention, love, outing and treat her with respect, everything set back as it should be now my present babe is my heaven. Fix ur home o

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

oga go love your wife and be truthful to her, admiring your ex because she has money there by creating room for suspicion.

Be humble for once.

Before I got married, my MOTHER SAID I WOUKD NOT MARRY MY BABE, I ASKED FOR REASONS, THE REASON BE SAY MY BABE NOR DEY COOK FOR HER, I TOLD HER, MY BABE NOR BE YOUR PIKIN, YOU GET PIKIN, TRAIN YOUR CHILDREN TO SERVE YOU, MY BABE IS NOT YOUR HOUSE MAID. I TELL HER SAY IF YOU LIKE COME MY WEDDING, IF YOU LIKE KNOW COME, I GO WED HER. MAMA NOR GET CHOICE NOW, SHE COME, SHE DEY STRONG FACE FOR THE WEDDING, ME JUST DEY ENJOY MY DAY. TODAY SHE DONE GIVE ME 4 KIDS, NA BUHARI I DEY LOOK TO DECIDE IF I GO, GO FIR THE 5TH ONE. WHEN I MEET HER I NOR DEY WORK, TODAY I GET MORE THAN 15 TENANTS FOR LAGOS.

NOW LISTEN SON, KNOW BE EVERYTHING YOUR MAMA OR PAPA TELL YOU, YOU GO DO, THE REASON YOU ARE CALLED A MAN IS BECSUSE YOU ARE SUPPOSE TO USE YOUR BRAIN TO THINK, WHEN INFORMATION IS PASSED TO YOU, ANALYZE IT, LOOK AT THE INFORMATION USING 3D FORMAT, I BE I.T GUY DATS WHIKE I SAY 3D, THEN ATTACK THE ISSUE FROM THE BEST VIEW. WHEN MY MUM WAS REJECTING MY BABE, ONE THING WAS IN MY HEAD, SHEY NA MY MAMA GO LEAVE WITH THIS WOMAN ABI NA ME. SO SINCE NA ME GO LEAVE WITH THE WOMAN, I JUST BONE MY MAMA. NEXT YEAR OUR MARRIAGE WOUKD BE 10 YEARS, SHE IS STILL THE BEST FRIEND I HAVE IN THE WHOLE WORLD, WE CAN GOSSIP FOR 5 HOURS EVERYDAY, E NOR DEY TIRE US. I ALWAYS TELL GUYS, NOR because OF PUSSY GO MARRY WOMAN WHEN GO GIVE YOU WAHALA, IN MARRIAGE, PUSSY GO TIRE YOU, FLEXING GO TIRE YOU, YOU NEED A WOMAN THAT IS STRONG ,REASONABLE, DEPENDANT, WOMAN WHEN GO EVEN HELP YOU WARE RAG GO THAT THINGS GO PURE TOMORROW. LL

Let me just chimp in this, my wife once wore tertared pants because we where building, today all rents, I repeat all rents goes to her, eevn as she collect the rest, she go still dey use the money they pursue me say make I take, I go tell am say I know want...

Young guys nobody dey do una from una village ohh, na your decide to trow away your future because of PUSSY.


CHEERS.

colestephan86:
Funny man
You made a vow with your God that you won't abort any pregnancy, but u didn't make a vow with him never to fornicate.
My friend , I see you are happy cos the ex earns 7 figures while your baby mama isn't working yet and the responsibility of caring for your family is taking a toll on your empty pocket. You had better stick to your wife and you both work out how you will grow together, cos what you are experiencing presently is just a phase of your life and will soon roll away.
Every female will nag if you ain't taking care of her, at least withing your limit, my mum will too.
So double up , cos you have mouths to feed now. Daddy baby

The bolded is just sweeting me

MyOleSolksjaer:
That is a lie. I knew this lady before I met my wife.

You're even making the matter worst.. you knew the lady and yet chose to make out with ur present wife, got her pregnant and wedded Bros nawa you oh!

Hyerin:
The bolded is just sweeting me

Lol abi na

MyOleSolksjaer:
However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

Since you allowed your mom to get you married to the baby mama, just post her to stay with your mom permanently. Shikena.

Wait, to be candid why would you wed during the Nigeria version lockdown!!
You must be a wicked and stingy man!

Writercruze:
Bro, I don't know if people will tell you the truth here, but I hope you read my comment.

Let me ask you three questions

#1. What was the attraction between you and your wife? what did you find interesting in her? Is that thing still there?

#2. Has your wife always been like this?

#3. Don't you think it's because of your feelings (rather an obsession) towards the chemical engineers that's making you to feel this way?

From what you wrote, I can reliably tell you that you are the problem in your marriage. You are married bro, and if you want to have a happy marriage, limit the number of female colleagues that call you unnecessarily while at home.

It is what it is. Your wife is only suspicious because you must have seen your chat or conversation between you and the mechanical engineer.

You gat a daughter and a woman who seems to love you, please I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in, try to make your marriage work.

have a proper conversation with your wife. Ask her to tell you the things you are doing that she doesn't like, you should tell her the things she is doing that you don't like at all.

At the end of such a conversation, you will know your boundaries and start living happily.

No woman is good o. That one you are fantasizing over (the chemical engineer), but the time you destroy your marriage because of her, you would regret it in the future.

Leave him, he thinks the grass is always greener on the other side. Let the lady give birth to one now and watch him see the tiger she really is.

Writercruze:
Bro, I don't know if people will tell you the truth here, but I hope you read my comment.

Let me ask you three questions

#1. What was the attraction between you and your wife? what did you find interesting in her? Is that thing still there?

#2. Has your wife always been like this?

#3. Don't you think it's because of your feelings (rather an obsession) towards the chemical engineers that's making you to feel this way?

From what you wrote, I can reliably tell you that you are the problem in your marriage. You are married bro, and if you want to have a happy marriage, limit the number of female colleagues that call you unnecessarily while at home.

It is what it is. Your wife is only suspicious because you must have seen your chat or conversation between you and the mechanical engineer.

You gat a daughter and a woman who seems to love you, please I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in, try to make your marriage work.

have a proper conversation with your wife. Ask her to tell you the things you are doing that she doesn't like, you should tell her the things she is doing that you don't like at all.

At the end of such a conversation, you will know your boundaries and start living happily.

No woman is good o. That one you are fantasizing over (the chemical engineer), but the time you destroy your marriage because of her, you would regret it in the future.

may God bless you beyond ur expectations..

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Oga, let me tell you.
You are the one that is making yourself unhappy in that marriage. YES, you are the problem.
You started dating this lady. you told her you love her and may have promised everything to her.
Boom, pregnancy came. All the love u have for her flew away.
You were dating her and got another 7-figure-salary-earning girl. Your love switched gear.
Now she is the one you love and you want to ditch your baby mama for that one.
Your baby mama became a nag, unappreciative and all.
When you started dating her, you did not realize that she was not earning 7 figures.
When you were climbing her up and down, you did not realize that she will not be good for marriage, still you had unprotected sex wt her.
When you were making vow not to abort a baby, you forgot to make vow to keep your dick under check.
Now you want to dump her for who.
If you don't want your problem to be double, ignore the advise of the first commentor of leaving this girl for that 7 figure ex.
You want that one cos u think she has money.

My advice for you is to take your mind back to those things that attracted you to this your babymama/wife and revive them.
Find one or two things to love about this woman. Build on them and start loving her again.
Forgive whatever you think she has done wrong.
Call her and make peace wt her and I bet you, you will see that she is not even as bad as u thought.
Stop filling your head with the thought of other women. Love what you have.
She threaten that if she catches you cheating that she will cheat back....daz good.
So don't cheat on her if you will not like her to cheat on you.
She will remain faithful as long as you are faithful to her.
Be a good husband and father.

Can someone please explain how people are being forced to marry each other?

When we tell una to abstain, una no go hear. Okay since you have chosen to nack, must you nack raw? Don't sleep with somebody you can't envisage a future with.