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Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by edoman2016: 12:30am On Oct 10, 2021 |
TheGoodJoe:shut up idiot. What is bad is bad. How can the imo state man just eloped with a man's daughter like that? No bride price, no marital commitment to the family that nurtured her up. I feel for the OP's family. Will you wish such for your daughter? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by JoeSoapy: 12:30am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Are you guys sure she is still alive? |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by TheGoodJoe(m): 12:35am On Oct 10, 2021 |
edoman2016: After abusing 'idiot', I hope you feel better. Now relax. He got the young woman pregnant, she came back home and let the family know. He did not kidnap her. She was beaten and left the house. The question is, has she chosen to marry the man? Let us forget that the man did this or that. She is not a baby. They both left the house and town, maybe to find a better life. If she loves the man and chosen to marry him, dragging her, beating her, bursting the man's head will not change the situation. The only solution is to support them. Unless you have a better solution to cater for the woman and her baby. Keep in mind, the OP is talking of them having their own financial challenges. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by NPTJ(m): 12:38am On Oct 10, 2021 |
JoeSoapy:honestly she's very much alive. My dad still spoke with her 3 days ago luckily the man was around to give her his phone She was just a living dead. This saddened my parents heart seriously |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by samszany(m): 12:39am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Ok |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by JoeSoapy: 12:41am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Wow, feels very strange 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Nobody: 12:45am On Oct 10, 2021 |
How do you know she is still alive? When was last she spoke to any of you on the phone or visited? Try and trace her to make sure she is alive and well, is the first priority. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Drella(m): 12:46am On Oct 10, 2021 |
TheGoodJoe:I get but I doubt they were the ones who cut her off. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by SonofGod231: 12:46am On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ:OP,Do you want her to come back home with many more mouthers to feed or you just want the guy to treat her better? This your matter don Taya me oooo. Sorry,I'm going to bed now. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by TheGoodJoe(m): 12:49am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Drella: The OP has to tell us. From the look of things, she was still in their custody when she discovered she was pregnant. They knew she was pregnant. She did not hide it. These are the things that need clarifications. Did they propose for her to terminate the pregnancy and she refused? Did they chase her out? She was with them and ended in the hands of the man. How did it happen? Did she run away? |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Goldenheart(m): 12:53am On Oct 10, 2021 |
The deported has finally blown. She is living large with him now... On the other hand you guys are just regretting what you all did to the poor girl. Y'all screaming marriage dowry. Looking for ways to collect yam, booze and what have you. Y'all should Hustle hard so you can ball hard Stop depending on proceeds from dowry 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Gunayo(m): 12:55am On Oct 10, 2021 |
fergieboy:So they can deceive their wives abi? Are you a deceiver? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Owen247: 1:12am On Oct 10, 2021 |
This whole story just dey pain me. ���������� NPTJ: 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Nobody: 1:17am On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ: your elder brother earns 50k a month and you're still job hunting, oga the only thing you should be thinking about is hoe to grow more. your sister never even cry out for help or reach out to you guys- she's doing well- your a good bro for thinking to help her, but till she realizes she needs help, let her be |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by MemoriesAndMe: 1:37am On Oct 10, 2021 |
If the man was not a deported, was rich, had money to spend on your family, and then got your sister pregnant, would your father have gotten him arrested? Why was he even arrested? She was 20 and definitely not underage and they both loved eachother, so why is your family ganging up against the family they have started on their own? The reason you guys are bitter is because of money. If the guy gives your parents some money now, everyone will be happy with him. It was because he didn't have money your dad arrested him and even beat up his pregnant daughter. What if she had lost the pregnancy while he was beating her up? And you expect your sister and her husband to forget that action so quickly? Its not her you guys miss, its money thats the problem in that family - the more reason every man needs to be careful what type of family he picks a bride from. Some Nigerian fathers are fond of bragging about "I will disown you", as if that means anything to today's youths. Your dad probably bragged about same thing and she decided to disown him too. When he didn't disown her in the first place, wasn't he broke? So what does she have to lose if she disowns him back? So all this has to do with money. If your family becomes rich now, she'll find you guys, if yall are still broke and she's doing better with her deportee husband, she doesn't need yall. Forget all that tradition, culture and fake love yall are suddenly throwing up after sending a deportee that has faced much from his circumstances in jail because he had no money and impregnated your sister. Deportees are humans too, he's probably back on his feet even with what what your dad did to him and your sister. Yall never thought he probably had investments and assets in Nigeria, did yall? All you knew was that he was deported and should be avoided by all means. You should be worried about your own life and your future spouse, instead you're here complaining about someone that is owing you and your parents some bride price as if that will take poverty away from the family. Face your life bro, just be sure your sister is alive. #TruthIsBitter 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Judolisco(m): 1:41am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Franklyspeakin:more wisdom bro 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by TWoods(m): 1:41am On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ: And? How is that your problem? She's a grown woman who has a right to live her life as she pleases. This is one of the major reasons Nigerian families fragment once the kids are old enough to leave the home. No love, no care, just rules, anger, and demands. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by TWoods(m): 1:44am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Cashio: I'm confused... Genesis 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. What part of the above is unclear? I don't see anywhere in that verse where a brother has a right to "see his sister" if neither she nor the husband are interested. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by EndBuhariNow(m): 1:58am On Oct 10, 2021 |
First of all , must all of you go to university How many university graduates has made it out there I can see your family is in deep shit (poverty) to allow such... piece of advice leave her to her world, in every family there must be a judas, ur sister is the judas and bad egg of the family earlier u know that and face ur own ghost the better for you |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Octopusssy(f): 2:01am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Oh, what poor choices we make... |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by rolams(m): 2:19am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Maybe payback time! |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by madjune(m): 2:29am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Sad. I can tell your family is Ibo. I can relate on that. The man is supposed to perform the necessary marriage rites before taking your sister. This is particularly sensitive, with your sister's place as the only girl and first daughter of her mother. She's supposed to be close to your mother into her grey years, or else your mom will be heartbroken sooner or later. Now, the man isn't diabolical. I'm sure he's irresponsible. A well bred man would be in touch with your family, broke or not. He will face his karma soon. He only took advantage of your sister's economic status. She's poor. Equally, he's taking advantage of your family, knowing you guys are poor and can't do nothing. He won't try this rubbish with a well to do family. No. The way forward is, your father and his kins should trace this man's roots. Go there and summon his village elders to a meeting. Table the matter. I'm sure his village elders would intervene. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by melviniyke2002(m): 2:48am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Iyaebe: 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by grandstar(m): 2:56am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: My thoughts exactly. She's being isolated which gives the abuser control. I urge them to get in contact with her any means possible. The first contact may open her eyes to things the way they are not just from the abusers lens. A meeting will rekindle hope. The more she sees them, the greater the hope. She would realize that her situation isn't hopeless and she'll start seeking freedom. That's my 2cents.i hope I'm right |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Nobody: 2:58am On Oct 10, 2021 |
NPTJ: Your sister refused to visit you while she was in the university, and now you expect her to visit you. Was it the man who stopped her from visiting you then? You are angry and want to beat the man cos he eloped with her and didnt pay her bride price. How much were you expecting will reach your pocket from the bride price? You head dey pain you. Your papa arrested the man and beat him up cos your sister opened her legs willingly. Ok ooo. Do you think he still stupid to still pay you millions you tslk as if you sell your daughters? And do you think your sister doesnt want joy for herself too? Ibo and culture. Hmmmm. So, you plan on your sister getting married to sponsor you and your family. Mainwhile the girl lost the opportunity cos your parents could not do what they were to do. The next plan is to sell the in ocent girl and use the cash for uplifting your family. You boys are useless ooooo. She is the only girl, and you are the fourth or so. What about your other brothers? She has no right in your fathers house according to the ibo culture, and you people are shameless for trying to sell her. Very useless family. All your worry is about your pocket. Lol. Your papa do gragra and arrested him, and even paid the police to beat him up, and you expect him to still come and give you broda price. You are a shameless goat for even saying it confidently. If I slap you, you will understand you are a man who should hustle. You are depending on the bride brice of your sister. Are you OK? Are you well? Shameless goat. So, igs only your sister who should carry the responsibility og your parents. You are ma.d. You arent thinking of getting job to help and make yourself useful to your parents, but it's your sister who must do it. I am sure you all used her like the rag when you were small. The girl ran away from you all. She cooked and did everything all cooked, wash plates, clean the house for you lazy goats who called yourselves boys. Your papa has boys na which is what he is proud of. Go and take care of your father and mother. Shameless goat. Just imagine the boldness to say her sister is the one who should take care of them. So, you are not to. The girl is meant to do the housekeeping till she dies while you go out and live a fulfilled life. On top expecting to use her bride price. You are an idioota. Confirmed 1 Like |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by samwillyco1(m): 2:58am On Oct 10, 2021 |
This is time to relate everything with your uncles, trace her and know if she is ok, if everything is well next move will then be made |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by grandstar(m): 3:02am On Oct 10, 2021 |
InTheCloudySky: You have great points. Nevertheless, why would she throw the baby out with the bathwater over the way her dad treated her? it doesn't add up. You don't completely cut ties with your family over such an incident. The husband is probably the domineering and abusive type and has their sister under his grip. Such people are very insecure deep down and he doesn't want to lose his "wife", hence would go at great lengths to hold 9n to her. He cares only for his own happiness and no one else. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by stayclearofme: 3:06am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Why did your father arrest the guy in the first place? That alone can cause bitterness after all he didn't rape your sister. That was a very wrong move, in a country of law he will sue your father. Beating your sister also is very wrong, a pregnant woman for that matter! this probably pushed her further to the man. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by grandstar(m): 3:11am On Oct 10, 2021 |
Acidosis: Her husband is abusive and domineering. No sane woman would throw the baby out with the bathwater because the father beat her. The father did not beat her out of wickedness but out of love and even she would realise that no matter how bitter she was. She missed a flamboyant white wedding with her dad giving her away. She knew where her father was coming for. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by ziondaughter247: 3:13am On Oct 10, 2021 |
So you mean your parents and 4 able bodied men could not help your sister out in paying her school fees to study Law in a school like Unilag? Your sister seems like an intelligent and ambitious person and I just feel that your family contributed to killing the dreams of their only girl and making her what she is today. Your parents and family seemed very non-challant towards her education and she saw the handwriting on the wall that she will not receive any form of support from her family. Does your family have a bias against sending girls to school? She is the only girl and daughter and all of you failed her when she needed you the most. All this would have been prevented if she was in school. She is probably still resentful and avoiding you all now. Hope it is not because of money you people now what to keep in touch with her? |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by grandstar(m): 3:14am On Oct 10, 2021 |
greenie77: You understand the situation perfectly. The truth is the woman is being held against her will through fear, threats of violence and manipulation. It's an extremely precarious situation. Such men are extremely insecure and violent. |
Re: I'm Losing My Only Sister by Trojan8(m): 3:16am On Oct 10, 2021 |
sylve11: D.u.l.l.a.r.d.i.n.h.o See senseless generalisation |
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