King2305:
[[s]quote author=Franklyspeakin post=106595817]My own sef is the angle u are coming from. Are u sure its not financial gains you people want from your sis?? Because a right thinking family would have been more interested in knowing if she is fine... That is pay a visit to see her, talk to ker and know if she is OK then probably remind her that her parents are worried about her. Which one is her presence is greatly needed?? Do you even know if your sister is still alive?? When last did you see her with your eyes?? See talk ooo. Go and check on her abeg. It could even be shame thats stopping her from coming back. Shame of you guys laughing at her. Go and show love to her before you start giving her responsibilities.




A family that can't find money to go and see their sister/daughter to be certain she is fine, to know if she is alive, to know if she is sane, but is more interested in her being present most definitely to pick up some responsibilities or to help look after the aged parents who killed her dreams and still didnt show her love when she needed it the most says a lot to buttress my point. See because a man is a deportee dosent mean he wont be able to stand on his feet and cater for his family. afterall they have been surviving all this years. Even the man knows he has un serious inlaws so he can take them for granted. Imagine if the girls family where more involved and concerned with their number one priority being the well being of their daughter, they won't have been complaining of losing their daughter.The annoying part is the dad is still ashamed of her and is yet to come to terms with reality as he continues to lie about the well being of his daughter. How will he make heaven sef If he dies and does he think his village people don't already know something is up as to no bride price collected yet she is married.?
My brother Hustle oooo make them no use you or your family do yeye[/s]



guy, do you even know what it means for a family to watch there only daughter being led away by a man. I can't even imaging what d old MAN is passing through right now not to mention d MOTHER. 99% of the the time, any man that isolates a girl from his family severely maltreats them. The evidence is clear. How can u not give someones daughter u claimed go love with ur life ordinary phone to communicate wit his family. THAT IS PURE WICKEDNESS FROM PIT OF HELL. To the writer, my prayers are with ur family

sleek82:


There is nothing diabolical here, two adults had sex and got pregnant...your dad arrested the guy and beat the girl. What if she truly love the guy? Because he was deported from Germany doesn't make him useless or hopeless but from all you wrote here, you and your family had already written the guy off (this is enough reason for the girl to stay away from you guys). That you are still thinking of treating the guy's f*ck up tells me you have not learnt anything yet. Show your sister love and support, she will return

Franklyspeakin:
The family is also un serious full stop.

NPTJ:
My dad did kicked against that to be sincere. But the distance was much. Moreso, my mum said what if there was money to process her admission then, would she still remain under my parents roof or something

Thanks for your input

TWoods:


And? How is that your problem? She's a grown woman who has a right to live her life as she pleases. This is one of the major reasons Nigerian families fragment once the kids are old enough to leave the home. No love, no care, just rules, anger, and demands.

NPTJ:
Please kindly pinpoint where we are begging her to come shoulder our family responsibility?

Or you meant where i said when she lost her immediate younger brother and grandparents she never showed up? Please how is that a yardstick to claimed we are bestowing it on her to shoulder our family responsibility?

Please where did i affirmed that I'm going to beat the man up?

Thanks anyway for your input

TheGoodJoe:
Your sister is a grown-up woman. Let her live her life the way she wants. Move on.

Franklyspeakin:
The family is also un serious full stop. Okay how do they know he didn't give her a phone??
Have they gone to see her?? See family is family we all should learn that. If Mohammad refuses to go to the mountain, the mountain should go to Mohammad. If they buy yam and plantain carry or send family members nearby to check on her and give her, then you can start from there to know if she is being beaten or maltreated.

NPTJ:
She did confirmed it that she doesn't have a phone. The man as well confirmed it himself. My mum late younger brother bought a phone for her when she was still living in Lagos. Ever since they moved to pourtharcourt she stopped using phone

InTheCloudySky:
You said your Dad "beat the hell out of her" after she got pregnant. That was a wrong move on his part. She needed your family during that time. That was the time for y'all to talk some sense into her and keep her away from him, especially seeing he hadn't paid her bride price or married her, or inform y'all of his plans for her, if any. Your Dad beating her propelled her into the man's hands even further. She lacked the love she needed at home, found it in him and ran towards him with it, however toxic and abusive he himself may be.

NPTJ:
please do you mind elucidating how our parents failed her?

Your input also implies that all poor parents failed their wards and as such they can't get a good life for themselves in a legal means?

Moreso, you meant our parents also failed the rest of us because they couldn't see us through school to the brim?


Maybe you should tell me what i don't know then

PeaceJoyLove:

That you wrote that crap means you arent thinking right. Did I even write you were going to beat him? You cannot cos the guy will brush you. Trust me. I know. But it's what it is in you cos you mentioned it stylishly. B
Also, you wrote your papa beat the man up. Listen, she is just your sister, and not responsible for you. Get it into your head. Go and hustle. When you make it, she will be the one who will come look for you. You are shameless for even talking about bribe price. Are you OK at all? What's your business? Let her leave her life. If she makes mistake, she will learn from it and feal with. You still get hand to type rubbish. Right? You better give yourself brain.

Listen, she ran away from your papa, from your mama, from you, and from your siblings cos you all used her roughly. I pity your mama as she is the one who is suffering it. Can you cook? Wetin you dey do for house? Oga, go hustle. Stop ranting here. When she realises you have made it, she will reconnect with you. If you love her genuinely, give her space to breath and let her live her life.

If you are worried she disgraced your parents you are guys. Make it big and go pay millions for your bribes. Paint the whole city with your pictures. Show your sister say she don arrive. She will return and apologize. So, go hustle. This is the solution to your rants. Make money. If you like go do rituals, oga, you go meet am there..

NPTJ:
Thanks for your advice sir

Glycolite:


What you typed is so rubbish...and disgusting !

I pray the same fate befalls you ,either your children or your own siblings,so you can feel how easy it's to move on from your blood in situation like that.
If you can't proffer reasonable solution(s) ,you shut the fvck up !

galantjoe:
It is your dad that cause all these brouhaha. Why on earth he got his potential inlaws arrested for impregnating adult child. Not satisfied he beat his daughter mercilessly when she was still pregnant.

Your dad made big mistakes and you people are reaping the fruit of his mistake.

My advice, let your dad, summon your sister and her husband and tender his sincere apology to them. With I hope she will turn a new leaf

TheGoodJoe:


I keep wondering why a lot of you people derive joy in cursing. How can you use prayer and cursing in the same way?

No man can curse or pray someone punishment.

By the way, the woman was not dragged or kidnapped by the man. She chose to leave after her parents found she was pregnant and beaten by her family.

She was not beaten in the man's house. It was in her family house and most likely kicked out.

So what are you cursing and feeling good about it.

Glycolite:


What you typed is so rubbish...and disgusting !

I pray the same fate befalls you ,either your children or your own siblings,so you can feel how easy it's to move on from your blood in situation like that.
If you can't proffer reasonable solution(s) ,you shut the fvck up !

Glycolite:


Just shut the fvck up !

PeaceJoyLove:

That you wrote that crap means you arent thinking right. Did I even write you were going to beat him? You cannot cos the guy will brush you. Trust me. I know. But it's what it is in you cos you mentioned it stylishly. B
Also, you wrote your papa beat the man up. Listen, she is just your sister, and not responsible for you. Get it into your head. Go and hustle. When you make it, she will be the one who will come look for you. You are shameless for even talking about bribe price. Are you OK at all? What's your business? Let her leave her life. If she makes mistake, she will learn from it and feal with. You still get hand to type rubbish. Right? You better give yourself brain.

Listen, she ran away from your papa, from your mama, from you, and from your siblings cos you all used her roughly. I pity your mama as she is the one who is suffering it. Can you cook? Wetin you dey do for house? Oga, go hustle. Stop ranting here. When she realises you have made it, she will reconnect with you. If you love her genuinely, give her space to breath and let her live her life.

If you are worried she disgraced your parents you are guys. Make it big and go pay millions for your bribes. Paint the whole city with your pictures. Show your sister say she don arrive. She will return and apologize. So, go hustle. This is the solution to your rants. Make money. If you like go do rituals, oga, you go meet am there..

Franklyspeakin:
My Gee go and find out first if she is still living. Come at her with compassion if your a Christian/Moslem you can add prayer. But go and show her you still love her as a sister then you can win her over. Has your family forgiven her?

od501:



Did you just say that? Chai...what's happening to this modern generation?!

You eloped with a man's daughter without paying a dime, and you are expecting an apology from the same man? The same victim.

I don't know about this family, but where I come from, tgat man will be held dead should something happens to the girl in question.

numericalguy:
NPTJ,

Look here NPTJ, let me give you a very valuable advice.

Don't try to attack the man. If you are lucky, you will only get arrested for assault because if he should die from your attack, you would be arrested for murder.

galantjoe:
It is your dad that cause all these brouhaha. Why on earth he got his potential inlaws arrested for impregnating adult child. Not satisfied he beat his daughter mercilessly when she was still pregnant.

Your dad made big mistakes and you people are reaping the fruit of his mistake.

My advice, let your dad, summon your sister and her husband and tender his sincere apology to them. With I hope she will turn a new leaf

TheGoodJoe:


The OP has to tell us. From the look of things, she was still in their custody when she discovered she was pregnant. They knew she was pregnant. She did not hide it.

These are the things that need clarifications.

Did they propose for her to terminate the pregnancy and she refused? Did they chase her out?

She was with them and ended in the hands of the man. How did it happen? Did she run away?

TheGoodJoe:
Your sister is a grown-up woman. Let her live her life the way she wants. Move on.

ziondaughter247:
So you mean your parents and 4 able bodied men could not help your sister out in paying her school fees to study Law in a school like Unilag? Your sister seems like an intelligent and ambitious person and I just feel that your family contributed to killing the dreams of their only girl and making her what she is today. Your parents and family seemed very non-challant towards her education and she saw the handwriting on the wall that she will not receive any form of support from her family. Does your family have a bias against sending girls to school? She is the only girl and daughter and all of you failed her when she needed you the most. All this would have been prevented if she was in school.

She is probably still resentful and avoiding you all now. Hope it is not because of money you people now what to keep in touch with her?