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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Mrkumareze(m): 9:04am On Oct 11, 2021
This topic makes me laugh, I remember how a girl visited me then in villa, na so my mama pack her slippers go hide for old man room.. as girl wan go, na so my mama grab her.. it was embarrassing indeed, can't forget that day

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Zagee: 9:04am On Oct 11, 2021
Seems that is his opium, the only thing keeping him sane in this very troubling world and Nigeria.

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by seyz91(m): 9:05am On Oct 11, 2021
Gbamsolute!

you said it all

none to add or remove
Unruly7:
How you portray the girl evil without saying anything bad about your son lol

If the girl is a chain smoker it means your son is a chronic smoker

If the girl is a prostitute it means your son is one

If the girl is not responsible for sleeping in a man house, your son is irresponsible for sneaking in a girl in his father's house VERY DISRESPECTFUL

Atleast the girl is working your son isn't working

The problem here is your son maybe you help him get a job and his own apartment

Since he has decided to be useless let him continue



Before you quote me remember The girl won't come to the house if the boy didn't invite her

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by yetunsbay(m): 9:05am On Oct 11, 2021
Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?
Then let the son be independent residing alone naw.
Even the lady is bringing her value downwards

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by id4sho(m): 9:05am On Oct 11, 2021
wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.
He's enjoying free sex, I guess her place of residence is far from work hence free accommodation. I guess you live in Lagos

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Starz825(m): 9:05am On Oct 11, 2021
Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?
Guy .... reason am na
Be wise edet
The wise mum has a point

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by nairaman66(m): 9:05am On Oct 11, 2021
Simple solution- just ask the Gurl to take you to her parents if she wants to sleep in your house with your son.

When you get there, leave a stern warning to her parents. Tell them that anything happens to their daughter you will not be held liable, also tell them you are going to the police to leave same advice.

By the way, your son was over pampered hence he tries such rubbish. He doesn’t take you guys serious, I guess you guys are afraid of loosing him and he preys on this!

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Ladycewhy(f): 9:06am On Oct 11, 2021
Your son is the problem.

Dem say na rat wey dey house dey tell rat wey dey outside say food dey.


If you don't want to keep experiencing such, go and rent a one room sef con for your son,let him take up the responsibility from there when rents expires since he is man enough to camp a woman in the house.

Na man, na man nor be only for prick and Toto matter, let him show his man-ness by taking care of himself ,stop babying him.

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Nobody: 9:07am On Oct 11, 2021
suffering:
I knew this was headed to the front page. It’s these kind of pointless topics Nairalanders enjoy only to complain later that the front page is non-educative.


It is an issue nah
Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by temielects(m): 9:07am On Oct 11, 2021
Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?
her son is her business dear!

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by NoToPile: 9:07am On Oct 11, 2021
Let's hear what the youths have to say then


But your son doesn't regard you or his father simple.

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by yetunsbay(m): 9:07am On Oct 11, 2021
seyz91:
Gbamsolute!

you said it all

none to add or remove
tell us the integrity and self value on the part of the lady. So, because she was invited then it's paramount for her to be sleeping over.
Not really a bad thing to sleep over buh better if the guy reside alone

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by GorillaApp(m): 9:08am On Oct 11, 2021
Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

Are you a parent?
I guess not!

So if it was your sister or daughter behaving this shamelessly, you will mind ur business?

Wisemum is doing the appropriate steps. Some of you just spew trash instead of just keeping quiet to learn.

@wisemum. You have taken the right steps and I appreciate you. Try and go to where the girl works and trace her to her parents home and inform them maturely.

In some tribes in southern Nigeria, if an unmarried lady dies in the house of a man, he must marry her corpse.
Aside that, the family and police won't take it lightly if anything happens.
You and your husband should keep talking sense to him. The boy is not jazzed. He is just getting in touch with his base side and the girl provides something that intoxicates him.
Also put him in prayers if all else fails.
I feel ur pain madam

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Starz825(m): 9:08am On Oct 11, 2021
Unruly7:
How you portray the girl evil without saying anything bad about your son lol

If the girl is a chain smoker it means your son is a chronic smoker

If the girl is a prostitute it means your son is one

If the girl is not responsible for sleeping in a man house, your son is irresponsible for sneaking in a girl in his father's house VERY DISRESPECTFUL

Atleast the girl is working your son isn't working

The problem here is your son maybe you help him get a job and his own apartment

Since he has decided to be useless let him continue



Before you quote me remember The girl won't come to the house if the boy didn't invite her

Guy...reason am na...
She is here for advice..and you've just said she should get a job and an apartment for him...shikennA
Don't long thing blaming her for her observations about the lady..

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by chiedonedoor(m): 9:09am On Oct 11, 2021
Very unfortunate, you failed in bringing up your child in the fear of God, since your son have decided to leave his life that way, very simple ask him to leave your house and sense will fall on him. Since he is under your root , he must abide by your rules unless you are also guilts of some sin.
Christ is coming soon repent from every know sin

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by joyandfaith: 9:09am On Oct 11, 2021
PuZZyNegro:
This is a proof that training a child abroad with millions of naira does not guarantee anything.

I see that you are financially capable and have been spoiling your son thus the reason he has enough money to afford a whore_ even when he is jobless.

Since you don't want to go hard on both the girl and your son (option most people would have taken to), use the denial approach.

Warn him to desist from bringing that girl home or you deny him of whatever upkeep money you are giving him that's affording him that whore_

You know for sure that the girl gets paid for every night she stays with your son thus the reason she keeps taking the risk even after you have warned her.
Fixed!!
They wasted money on him. I hope they wouldn't loose their lives because of him.
Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by VULCAN(m): 9:09am On Oct 11, 2021
This must be someone who is feeding from his parents.

How can a young boy do whatever
he likes under his parents roof.

If you were the one paying your own bills you would have said he should move out since he wants to do what adults do.



Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?
Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by adewaleadeyemi8(m): 9:09am On Oct 11, 2021
Ohh God bless my late Mom, i dare not try this rubbish when she was alive. Even though i was so free but i never did such, your son has been doing this act right from school that's why he sees nothing in it to stop. Imagine her walking half naked in my house at night after i have warned her to stay away undecided omo youths don take over. Ma'am you have a fault as a parent and your son should be blamed also

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by AnotherOpinion: 9:09am On Oct 11, 2021
Damage have been done already.
Send him to the village

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Solatium(m): 9:09am On Oct 11, 2021
Sorry mama,
i can sense your fear for your son safety and well-being,if you ask me i think he will cope,the young man he's just been a man,they will go their sperate ways when the time comes,when he's more engage with making money,just keep an eye on him so he doesn't take to Drugs.

Secondly your husband is safe,she is not going to come close,not even when your son is smashing her.
stay safe mama

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Nobody: 9:10am On Oct 11, 2021
Unruly7:
How you portray the girl evil without saying anything bad about your son lol

If the girl is a chain smoker it means your son is a chronic smoker

If the girl is a prostitute it means your son is one

If the girl is not responsible for sleeping in a man house, your son is irresponsible for sneaking in a girl in his father's house VERY DISRESPECTFUL

Atleast the girl is working your son isn't working

The problem here is your son maybe you help him get a job and his own apartment

Since he has decided to be useless let him continue



Before you quote me remember The girl won't come to the house if the boy didn't invite her


You aren't ok at all.

@wisemum, madam, ignore mu.mu like this. You will get good answers from some of his generation here.

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by neonly: 9:10am On Oct 11, 2021
Promzy99:
Now wey ur fellow woman need help, u don lack words. if na to attack guys nw, u go carry first. Nairaland WITCH

Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Nobody: 9:11am On Oct 11, 2021
Debit alert dey sleep for your house everyday
Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Amani004(m): 9:12am On Oct 11, 2021
Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

I don’t think so, if he matured enough to bring a woman home, he should man up and make his intentions clear to his parents. Don’t bring a girl home who has not been officially announced to your family as your girlfriend and expect them to receive her with open arms. It’s not wise to disregard your parents especially when you are living rent free in their house.

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by lasheun: 9:12am On Oct 11, 2021
He's an adult now and there's nothing you can do but to help him get a job and raise him some fund to get his own apartment, only if you are really tired and can't take his excesse anymore.
Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Naija4love(m): 9:12am On Oct 11, 2021
Unruly7:
How you portray the girl evil without saying anything bad about your son lol

If the girl is a chain smoker it means your son is a chronic smoker

If the girl is a prostitute it means your son is one

If the girl is not responsible for sleeping in a man house, your son is irresponsible for sneaking in a girl in his father's house VERY DISRESPECTFUL

Atleast the girl is working your son isn't working

The problem here is your son maybe you help him get a job and his own apartment

Since he has decided to be useless let him continue



Before you quote me remember The girl won't come to the house if the boy didn't invite her

I see nobody wants to quote you, because you are the only one that makes sense on this. The mother self they avoid your comment and other idiot..

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by sonssyo: 9:12am On Oct 11, 2021
wisemum:
I am bringing this topic here to see if I can get any good advise from youths of the same generation.

My son returned from schooling abroad two years ago and after completing his NYSC, has been trying to get a job. None has been forthcoming but he tries to keep occupied, trying his hands on different projects. He still lives at home but says that once he is financially stable, he will get his own apartment and move out.

He is generally a calm, law abiding , likeable gentleman until when he recently started bringing home this girl who dresses like a prostitute and who I discovered stays overnight in his room with him. His dad and I have fought him over this subject to no avail. I confronted the girl to tell her I do not feel comfortable with her sleeping overnight in my house especially since I do not know her family and will be held responsible if anything happens to her. She apologized to me and promised not to come to sleep over again. However, I noticed that after that, he started sneaking her in at late hours of the night when he thinks we have gone to bed, sometimes when it is past midnight. He hasn't introduced the girl to us as anything to him even though I have asked him several times what his intentions with this girl is but he will just say she is a friend that makes him happy- that's all.

He told his uncle that he likes the girl. I don't even know what else to do. I have tried talking to him, reasoning with him, but it all falls on his deaf ears. I do not like this girl at all. She comes across to me as a street girl- even though she is generally polite when she meets me at home anytime she comes during the day. I investigated and found out her work place is not far from our house. What I do not like about her is that she dresses, exposing delicate parts of her body and is a chain smoker.

Furthermore, to me, a girl who sleeps out in a mans' parent house, continually disregarding how his parents feel about it, cannot be good news. Once, I caught her almost naked in the night walking along the corridor leading to my sons room. She ran inside his room when she saw me. I was so embarrassed and wondered what if my husband had been the one who ran into her? What kind of thing is this? Only her pant on, breasts bare. It was the following day I traced her to her work place and gently but sharply and firmly told her I do not permit her to sleep over in my house again. His dad also spoke with him. I also spoke to him. Everything has been to no avail.

He still sneaks her in. Or did she jazz him?, Please advise me. Thanks.

Ma'am seems your son learnt bad things abroad, may be he smokes too just as the girl in question, since you and hubby has money to send him abroad,get an agent that will get a one bedroom flat a distance afar of your own, then pay and put some basic stuffs there, you guys will call him and inform him about the decision, he will pack to the new house and have time to rock the babe as he wishes. Some children are just pain to their parents, imagine the effontry, you have paid his dues,let him go and huzzle to fend for himself.

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by Havertz10: 9:13am On Oct 11, 2021
Once the problem pass una, the next suspect na jazz cheesy
Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by socialmediaman: 9:13am On Oct 11, 2021
Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

Mind her business in her own house? What sort of advice is this?

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Re: My Son's Girlfriend Comes To Our House To Sleep Everyday by oluplus(m): 9:13am On Oct 11, 2021
Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

She should mind her business? over her own son that still leaves under her roof?
I disagree.

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