And some men are looking for more blessings from God to marry......

Ok life no balance shaa,....just wait for the first child to come up,then you will advice yourself properly.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

B
Give am belle quick, when the kids start coming, you will be considerate and not selfish.

shedybaba44

What your parents did was selfish. They wanted you to settle down because you're an only son and give them grandchildren.

Anyway, the deed is done. You can't turn back now. "I have hated a divorcing" is the utterance of Jehovah.

So, you can make the best of the situation. Perhaps wait a while before having kids. Go for dates with your wife. Think of things.

advanceDNA:


Why is it so hard for you to overlook an unimportant sh!t on a faceless forum....

So you think writing properly at all times is 'unimportant'?

Think again- https://www.nairaland.com/6387551/boss-dropped-internship-applicant-because

Bad habits can cost us plenty.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

It's a phase, you shall pass.....

Stop hanging out with single guys......

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Be a man bro by not allowing sensual cravings to wreck your marriage and invariably your life on the long run. You are not bored but you are fed up with one pussy. You crave varieties of women. That's not cool.

You still think you are young at 29.....if them dey deceive you, you too dey join deceive yourself.

Mercychen:
Okey-dokey!

Now, marriage requires readiness on all levels. Not just in one aspect.

Fine, you're ready financially. Which is just one aspect but did your family try to find out if you were ready emotionally, psychologically, metally, physically and spiritually?

Look, it's not enough to just jump into marriage without first having all the above listed checked. otherwise the resulting effect is the situation you find yourself today.

Since you were not given the time to develop the readiness and now you find yourself in a tight corner, I'll advise you start building yourself into it now to enable you weather whatever surge is pushing you to consider divorce.
Divorce is not the solution, rather it will further demoralize you with all the drama and trauma that come with it.

Great.
Although I will say You are in Nigeria, the only thing people see as readiness for marriage is the financial aspect, forget mental , Spirituality and emotional aspects. Most of My country people no dey check that one. Lol

Michael662:
Happy weekend..not married..dont intend to. Gat no say in this.. Benin people fit come for me but I'm ready

Wetin concern benin for this one na?

Op the problem is you. I have gone through your all your threads and you're a very confused man. You don't know what you truly need and what's good for you. Always restless and unsettled and asking for help but never contented. Always looking for more more more. If you go on like this you will regret your life in future cos of the mistakes you're about to make. The grass always looks greener on the other side untill you get there. Find yourself and work on you.

Poopypants:
I’m just 28, I have been with a woman I love for more than 2years now and it’s never a bored moment , we do our things and still spend time together whenever we get the chance , we host, gossip and play , these things keep us together and connects us more , ismts never a dull moment , we gave all our neighbors nick names that we call them by when we gossip .. make your wife your best friend and gossip mate and you’ll never be bored in your marriage ..

When people are told, "marry your friend," they never understand what it means.

The very minimum in a relationship should be communication.

Think about how you are with your chummiest friend and marry someone who can be close enough to that.

You have endless things to talk about.

They don't always have to make sense, or be serious conversations. Breezy conversations.

Someone with whom you're not scared of judgement. If they're advising you, they do it with love and gentility.

Someone you can't fight with for long because you'll be terribly uncomfortable. There's a new gist you want to share with them...
There's a new place you want to try out with them...
There's a movie you want to see with them...
You're genuinely happy and at ease being around them...

You don't put on airs around each other...
No pretence...
Bare to each other...

Being like that with a romantic partner may not happen overnight. But that's what building a relationship is all about.
You can get it there.

And when/if you do, you'll be super thankful because it will make so many things a lot easier.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Are u not d same mofoka that posted sh*t about wanting a life partner around april this year

YOU MUST BE MAD !!!!!

@OP I know what is happening to you.. it's psychology.

You thought you'll be happy and satisfied after marriage not knowing it's just a mood (wedding event and honeymoon) like you gaining admission, graduating from college etc. that will subside with time. Make your marriage fun and work with your partner to reduce the boredom and thirst for bachelor life.

I don't like marriage....

foleskay:

How is it a scam. If its a scam..your parents might have abborted ur pregnancy..

My parents mustn’t be married before I can be brought into existence.

This!
But not usually easy.

God help you.

Romanoff:
Hmmn.

Oga, there's a difference between a married man and a single man.

A married man cannot live like a single man.

Anywhere you're looking for fun, carry your wife along. That's not to say you can't hang out with your friends, single or married but tag your wife along in your fun.

Go on date nights with other couples, see movies together at the cinema, go on boat rides and holidays, give each other tasks of shopping for each other, etc.

Marriage doesn't have to be boring, na marry you marry, no be solitary confinement.

Age they say is just a number.
There are 25yrs old thinking marriage and here you have a 29yr old who feels bored in marriage.

Take away; People are wired differently. Let people go with their flow. Stop mounting pressure on people just because of age.

This happens to women a lot

Why getting married at such a young age? You are not serious maybe you think marriage is a joke?

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Did you marry the lady you both exchanged email addresses on your last thread while seeking for a life partner?. If so, we the online inlaws need some bottles of wine as our share of the bride price.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Yes it is normal to feel this way but if you want to remain married then you have to make adjustments.

Lemme ask what do you mean by you feel bored? Is it because you have to go home everyday to your wife as opposed to hanging out with the guys?

Human beings are insatiable.
People will see trouble, and still walk into it. If you are bored, climb a mountain, go sky diving. Upon all the problems in this country right now, your own is boredom? Smh.

Just endure for now. The first two years of marriage are the most challenging. You can still go out with your friends with a good understanding with your wife. Go out with her sometimes too. By the time you start having kids she would be more relaxed with you. Trust me; later in life, you will wish you married earlier. Try and be very open to your wife.

Just be always grateful to your God that he has favoured you alot. Many are praying for this blessings but not fruitful yet. Try to navigate ur mind from bachelorhood n see urself as someone with responsibilities. Explore anything explorable with your wife, I swear down, those ur single guys will in turn envy you. I am 31 and I wish to get marry now but no formidable work yet.

From one married man to another, na dog life de hungry you @OP. Grow up or get a divorce before you destroy the life of your wife emotionally, mentally and physically.

Mr married man, first thing I want to say is that there is nothing wrong with you or your marriage. The notion that you should change automatically just because you got married is a fallacy and the result is what you are seeing. Also, the people who said 'marry your friend' knew what they were talking about. When you marry your friend, she is your buddy, your goon and y'all can have fun hanging out together. Even just chilling at home watching a movie or playing cards is great fun when you are with the right person. Also, being married doesn't mean you cannot go and hang with friends without your Mrs. Go visit your friends, watch a match, sit out and gist with your buddies but create boundaries as the married man that you are and go home at a decent time. Stop seeing marriage as a kind of bondage, it is not. And stop thinking you married early, you did not. My husband was 27 when we got married and 9yrs down the line, he is still my partner in crime...
Get rid of bad thots, be determined to enjoy your marriage and you will. Good luck.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Marriage is forever...be happy in it,you signed for it...your wife didn't offend you, Don't hurt her...All the best.

Raalsalghul:
https://www.nairaland.com/5821202/lonely-heart

You were seeking a life partner in the above thread, you have found one and now you are bored.

You were supposed to condition yourself mentally.

the way you guys keep pple record in this forum baffled me.

What you suffering from is youthful exuberance.
Endure in the marriage, later you discover that you made the right decision.
It is better to marry early than to marry late

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Why men dey look for trouble when e no find them?

That exploration wey u wan do go end you quick quick. U beta talk to ur self now before u enter aye wahala.

My father used to say if u have friends that are living care free, don't follow them. You being d only man of the house, you wan caught ur journey half way. U beta tell those friends URS bye bye before u go bcom laughing stalk.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

Yelz. You need a second wife.

shedybaba44:
Hello nairalander, I jus got married march this year, honestly am bored already .

The truth is am an only son so the whole pressure of getting married from my family made me got married although I love my wife she is beautiful, sexy and intellectual but I just miss the bachelor life.

I feel I entered marriage too early am just 29 although am well to do, with my own business and from a well to do home also... but am always feeling marriage is slowing me down business wise and exploring.

Sometimes I just feel like I want to leave the house and do what my fellow friends that are not married are doing.

I am scared I might divorce soon....cause honestly am bored the whole marriage thing just tire me although I go out with my wife and all that...

Please what should I do..??

Is it normal for a guy that is young and just married to feel like that

please advice

u miss the bachelor lifestyle simply means you miss fucking different pussies, why not treat her like a girlfriend, u know like take her on dates, just spice up your marriage, u won't be bored

https://www.nairaland.com/5821202/lonely-heart

In this thread above, you came shouting that you wanted an Akwa Ibom Lady that you are a lonely heart. Now you are saying marriage is boring. Which kind person you be sef.