Spectaclesawe25:


Know this and know peace.
Otherwise heartbreak is sure in marriage.
For men, you can't get loyalty and honour from your wife if you don't secure her financially, securing her financially is only a function of her own expectation and need at any time T, as a woman you can't get to feel secure if you don't trust and believe in your man, and also help him to win in his little battles. These qualities from both parties aren't even at 50% in most homes. Forget love. True commitment, trust and believe is what grows a home, love comes after.

Hathor5:
Do you agree?

I am watching a series and in one of the episodes a couple goes to see a marriage counselor. She tells them that marriage is not about unconditional love but an agreement to show up the best we can. It is meant to challenge each spouse to bring out the best in them.

How useful is this kind of advice?

Hathor5:


Can you forgive all kinds of "thorns" and still love your spouse?

after4:
For me, love is is a decision with or without emotions

bepositive11:


I personally believe that genuine love is unconditional. And when we love someone, we want to nurture them to become better versions of themselves. We want to watch them grow and thrive. But there's a catch. Some people want to grow but some people want to remain the same

This is why I believe that marriage involves unconditional love and conditional commitment. One of the conditions for commitment being that they are willing to grow into better versions of themselves

Love can also be either healthy or toxic. Healthy love is the one that supports growth and toxic love is the one that hinders personal growth. You can see toxic love in abusive relationships

So, when talking about love, it's also important to distinguish between the healthy one and the toxic one too.

Magnoliaa:


Oh. I just remembered another definition now... I like to learn from people sha and there are some things I don't know. I find it very unrealistic to be everything to yourself.

So love according to this person is: a commitment to the betterment of the other person.

And I strongly agree with it.

Hathor5:


You started with nurturing the other to bring the best out of them but my thread started on the premise that marriage is about bringing the best in ourselves not in our spouse.

DeRichard:
2 Timothy 3:16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:

The scriptures came by inspiration of God and understanding the Bible is not just by mere reading the text. The meanings of the scriptures are more than just the text. It takes the grace of God to fully understand the Bible.

No man who claims to be a Christian will disobey the words of Christ.

Kobojunkie:
Even the very out of the mouth of Satan, demons and devils, also written of in the very same scripture are "inspired" of God yet they are still lies, are they not?

Your Bible is not not Word of God - Jesus Christ is the Word out of God's own mouth , God's Truth that is every Word out of God's Mouth - Matthew 4 vs 4 & John 14 vs 1 - 6.

Yet again you include a description of your very own self in bold there. Why do you feign blindness to the reality that is you? Several, you have denied the very Word of Jesus Christ as written in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36, opting instead for the opinions expressed by Paul in one of his many letters. Yet you think yourself a Christian even at this?

DeRichard:
Paul's words were inspired of God and Jesus spoke the very word of God. The word of God never contradicts be it spoken by Jesus or his apostles.

Kobojunkie:
Even the very out of the mouth of Satan, demons and devils, also written of in the very same scripture are "inspired" of God yet they are still lies, are they not?

Your Bible is not the Word of God - Jesus Christ is the Word out of God's own mouth , God's Truth that is every Word out of God's Mouth - Matthew 4 vs 4 & John 14 vs 1 - 6.

Reptyle:


Yes I can...but it is not easy. Takes some work to be able to do that.

Like I said, once you understand that the person you are marrying is not 100%, it becomes a bit easier to let go and forgive when they offend you.

Kobojunkie:
Again, God doesn't contradict Himself, and, He warned you against trusting in the words of men, including Paul - Jeremiah 17 vs 5

P.S. Look up the meaning of the word 'inspired' so you don't keep confusing it with the word 'true'.

DeRichard:
The commandments of God also came through the mouth of apostle Paul and they are of relevance in living the Christian life.

Kobojunkie:
The commandments of God came to us through Jesus Christ, the one who is the embodiment of God's Law in the Kingdom of God. He is God's Truth- Law - and the Eternal Life(grace) that all those who enter into His Kingdom are ruled over by and gifted with.

In Matthew 4 vs 4, Jesus Christ all but declared to you that it is He, the one who is the Word out of God's Mouth, that you are to live - He is ruler and Law in the Kingdom of God. So any opinion or word contrary to that decreed by Jesus Christ Himself is against Him and not of His Law.

It is a sin to add or remove from God's Law and God's Law to us was ratified on the cross when Jesus Christ declared, "It is finished!". And the same Jesus Christ informed you that not a jot of the Word of God, His Law included, will pass away or change until after Heaven and Earth have passed.

So whatever commandment you claim to have received from Paul, I suggest you validate each and every one of them against Jesus Christ's teachings and commandments as given to you in the 4 Gospels, this to be certain you even follow Jesus Christ and not a mere man.

DeRichard:
Hmmm... It's well.

Kobojunkie:
Unless you realize that right now you are not serving Jesus Christ but another master, it is certainly not well at all.

DeRichard:
I serve Christ and him only.

Kobojunkie:
In mouth only maybe, but God says we are to serve Him all our heart, mind, body and soul even, which you don't since you turn the Word of God(Jesus Christ) upside down to suit your ideas rather trust and Obey His teachings and commandments.

DeRichard:
God knows who serves him. I don't need to prove it. It's God that can justify any man.

Kobojunkie:
Even those who serve God can tell those who are false from those who are true. Jesus Christ taught us to know this though His teachings. He made it simple when in John 15 vs 14 He said His friends are those who do as He asks - those who trust and Obey His teachings and commandments. By this you know that those who don't trust and Obey the Truth of Jesus Christ are liars and their mouth full of deciet!

You can't your way into belonging to Jesus Christ when your very fruits here reveal you for who you truly are.

DeRichard:
It's well.

Hathor5:


Are you saying that you can forgive all of the following?

- cheating
- cheating with your best friend
- cheating with your brother
- cheating repeatedly
- insulting your mom
- stealing from you
- paternity fraud
- revealing your secrets

Reptyle:


Yes I can. Once again, it is not the gravity of the offence but the mindset towards offence.

One good head can keep a marriage.

Reptyle:


Yes I can. Once again, it is not the gravity of the offence but the mindset towards offence.

One good head can keep a marriage.

Reptyle:


Yes I can. Once again, it is not the gravity of the offence but the mindset towards offence.

One good head can keep a marriage.

Bostin:
One good head can't keep a marriage , it's takes two to tangle . You can't change who is not ready for change , you can't accept who doesn't value your acceptance .

MufasaLion:


LMAO

You will forgive a woman that did such things to you? I can never have someone like you in my circle.

Klass99:


And why not? Why can't you have someone like that in your circle?

Talk is really cheap on these streets sha , some comments had my eyes popping out of their sockets.

Hathor how did your thread become a religious debate? I have been seeing Bible verses all over the place, I didn't even bother to read. How we bring religion into every discussion is beyond me....I need that emoji of face palm smacking the head.

Reptyle:


Fair enough. You have a right to surround yourself with friends of your choice.

Reptyle:


Yes I can. Once again, it is not the gravity of the offence but the mindset towards offence.

One good head can keep a marriage.