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Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Hathor5(f): 7:43pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: I agree but this is the kind of advice the couple in the series was given to repair their marriage, to give their best. And at the same time this is how the counselor defined the purpose of marriage, to bring out the best in people. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Nobody: 8:03pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:since you're not lazy, find one |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Kobojunkie: 8:23pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Hathor5:The idea or expectation of being at your best 24/7 spells "S-T-R-E-S-S". That shouldn't a part of what it means to be in a marriage and a family. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by cayorday89(m): 9:16pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Klass99:Haaa, na so my matter turn case study ooo, when I was reading I was like I can relate to this not until I saw my moniker and realized I am the case study for the comment.. Truly no unconditional love not even a parent child relationship, they love you because they don't want all their investment on you to go to waste, which you must in turn payback one way or the other and for some people it's the biggest debt that have drawn them back.. Some mothers will claim to have carried you in womb for 9months, na that carry gangan be the condition wey dey the love. Modified kobojunkie / Lollittaa I did not even see your comment before I made mine above, you can check out an example I gave on the condition involved. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Acidosis(m): 9:38pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
It is not about money either. The rich cheat more. |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Hathor5(f): 9:43pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Interesting point. But what does it mean to be in a marriage and a family then? |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Kobojunkie: 11:01pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
cayorday89:No mind those women! Unconditional love by arse! Dem no fit show that same "Unconditional love" to a child that is not of their own blood, a child they are aware they cannot hold to Ransome like the one wey dem carry? 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Kobojunkie: 11:02pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Hathor5:I honestly believe that each couple knows best what terms and conditions best fit into their contract/relationship. For this reason, I encourage couples never to go in believing there are set rules as far as marriage is concerned. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by descarado: 11:16pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Unconditional love is sweet in the pages of romance novel or movies. Love is abstract. Marriage is union of 2 people who can tolerate each other and are sexually compatible with conditions attached. The conditions sum up what we call love. Remove that and it will be cat and dog even with the sexual compatibility. Conditions can change as we mature in marriage. Circumstances can make conditions alter too but we have the major and minor conditions. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by cooooooks(m): 1:09am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Poco has a way of painting mature things like this with the best analogies. Biko, men, run from people who use this western take me as I am philosophy. pocohantas: 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by ogawisdom(m): 11:43am On Oct 25, 2021 |
LordReed: U only need to accept Jesus n he loves u unconditionally |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by bukatyne(f): 11:50am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Hathor5: According to the counselor, what is the difference between unconditional love and showing up the best you can? |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by bukatyne(f): 11:51am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Iyaebe: Does love fade? |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by bukatyne(f): 11:54am On Oct 25, 2021 |
Hathor5: If both parties love each other 'unconditionally', wouldn't they naturally work to bring out their best for the other party? 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by bukatyne(f): 12:03pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
Kondomatic: Nice piece especially on adaptability vs compatibility I think love is all that is needed to make a marriage work. Not the feeling of love; love as an action as defined in the Bible. 1 Cor 13: 4 - 7: NLT version: 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. NKJV version: 4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not [a]puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, [b]thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by bukatyne(f): 12:07pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
cooooooks: Dem full instagram. That is the new rave in town: self-love and take me as I am 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by LordReed(m): 12:33pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
ogawisdom: No its conditional, I have to believe or else I go to hell. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by cooooooks(m): 12:34pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
That's why research is soo important. bukatyne: 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by SweetVibe: 12:50pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
Magnoliaa:I understand your point….BUT dont you think we should embrace reality? |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Nobody: 1:15pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
bukatyne:It fades my dear,people in an abusive marriage will tell better |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Nobody: 1:29pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
bukatyne: Quoting bible scriptures out of context, this is not love between a man and a woman (romantic love), this here is the love as defined as loving your neighbor as yourself. Being kind all humans. 1 If I speak in the tongues [1] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. Infact as far as I am concerned, Romantic Love is the least thing that keeps marriages together. If it was about Love, I would have married a long time ago. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by bukatyne(f): 1:39pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
truthsayer009: And the love between neighbors is different from the love expected between spouses? |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Nobody: 2:59pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
bukatyne: Do you love your neighbor the same way you love your child or your spouse? |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by bukatyne(f): 3:08pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
truthsayer009: Love is love displayed in different forms. The passage I quoted applies to my family, neighbors, friends etc. within the scope of my relationship/role with them. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Nobody: 3:42pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
bukatyne: Okay but you are not being realistic sorry, let's just agree to disagree. I have to be in a very high level of selective ignorance for me to admit that I love my family the same way I love my friends. I mean I can die for my family, but i can never die for any of my friends talk less of nonsense neighbors. |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Kobojunkie: 3:48pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
bukatyne:Love, the brain-chemical induced feeling, fades over time but love, the desire, we can hold on to for as long as we want to. |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Kobojunkie: 3:50pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
SweetVibe:And what is this reality you speak of? |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Kobojunkie: 3:54pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
truthsayer009:We are actually meant to do exactly that however, we choose to selfishly love one group more than the other where God never prescribed such a love to begin with. |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Nobody: 3:59pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Yes, which is why I asked because even parents don't love their kids the same way they love other people's kids. If not, all this house helps being maltreated will never happen. Women don't love their husband's the way they love their children. A lot of women can die for their kids but not husband. This love thing has levels. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Kobojunkie: 4:21pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
truthsayer009:I think it sad. |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by SweetVibe: 4:32pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:The reality of realising that the real world is not the fantasy we dream of |
Re: Marriage Is Not About Unconditional Love by Kobojunkie: 4:35pm On Oct 25, 2021 |
SweetVibe:Yet, over and over we are told to make our dreams come true.... I don't understand the point you are attempting to make of reality. |
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