officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

This one is not a problem na, just let her know only things she WANTS and LIKES to know. Forget nollywood scenes now and secure your happiness in your home.

pocohantas:


Hopefully it is your last time.

Bia nnem nwere ya nwanyo.

tyup:


Sadly such mistakes happen when we men fail to make our GF or spouse know their place and boundaries. who on Earth is that girl that would question how my money is spent?? if i've paid bride price, I got no business anymore sending that family money. how dare my GF open my fridge without my consent?? or spouse shouting on my junior sis either she's right or wrong??

Burst my brain. ...As in you burst my brain.... Just told my padi this same thing yesterday...

KimberlyWest:


He brought his wife here for you kids to dissect and examine does not warrant this name calling.

If I didn't know better I'd say you're siding with the wife since you have nothing to say about the wife's attitude but to the names she's being called

Your wife has witchcraft and madness running in her veins oga. Invite a spiritualist to do the needful, period.

Always start what you can finish please else you will stab yourself in your stomach without knowing. You should not inform her about giving to your family members. When your parents saw you through school, your wife was no where to be found.

Damn
Shey my Mama Dem no born any woman well make she vex say I dey send my mama money! U dey ment? Ur papa house straight up

OP am sorry to say this
You are not man enough
You wife is the husband while you are the wife

No dey listen to women.

Avoid discussing money with your wife.

Druss:
Do not hide it. Continue to tell her. If she wants to develop high blood pressure, that is her wahala.

Unless you are not yarning the full story, she should go sit down. If she is upset on behalf of her own parents, she should go work and send them money.

Semaj77:


If I didn't know better I'd say you're siding with the wife since you have nothing to say about the wife's attitude but to the names she's being called

Thank you. I'm not siding her. Who she is, is quite obvious. If she were my brother's wife, I won't be happy with her. But I also don't expect the man to use a violent approach to settle the issue.

descarado:


So you just want to catch cruise.
Okay o

LOL...

Sassy, any woman wey nor like make her husband take care if him mama na winch o. That's wickedness, and wickedness is witchcraft.

officialmario:


Something about her is that, if I buy a boxer I have to buy her a pant too, just to make it perfect, if I don't buy her own, it's going to be war.

this is bulls#it bro, get your acts together and be a man. Your wife is obviously riding u.

tyup:
Is she also telling/showing you her monthly expenses and how she forward money to her folks to or ur just being a fool here?? cuz I can't seem to understand when it becomes ur duty to send her parent money every month

The way so called married come on here and tell us their story like 10yr old kids get as e dey irritate my sex organ

Pussi or penis which sex organ ? Lol � Omo no vex jor no be everybody fit be u

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Tokskob2008:
You must have been seeing some of the signs before marriage, she didn't just grow to be like this one day to start questioning or getting upset about you sending money to your mother. Anyway the only way out right now is to sit her down and tell her face to face to stop the act and pray she does. She probably doesn't like your mother that much from the start and that's a big problem.

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It is not about signs bro. As a man, the simple truth is NEVER disclosed your exact revenue and mode of spending to your wife, even your siblings.

Even if you are his brother, you will have sentimental opinion about the way he is spending on relatives.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Sorry if I insult you, you're a very stupid man for letting her knowing that much

KimberlyWest:


Marriage is partnership. Not Lord and servant. Nobody is Lording over anybody.

When you get married, use iron fist to rule your own wife.

I am the Lord in my house and cannot condescend to do account of my money to any partnership wife after giving her money for upkeep of the house. She might hear about it afterwards from another source but can't question me about it except that she would have loved to also send more to my mum.

I just want a question and make a comment.
Do you send money to your mother and her mother at the same rate?
I also feel you haven't been firm enough.

ubola:
I am the Lord in my house and cannot condescend to do account of my money to any partnership wife after giving her money for upkeep of the house. She might hear about it afterwards from another source but can't question me about it except that she would have loved to also send more to my mum.

If it works for you, great. But this wouldn't work for everybody. I know couples who put their money together at the end of every month and decide how it's going to be spent. Which one is going into investment, savings, upkeep, kids, and so on. Marriage has no formula or template. Everyone does what works for them.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Do you really need to tell her everything?

There is love indeed but should not be at the expense of individual independent needs and actions. There are responsibilities that you have to bear alone and some shared. She is acting the way most women do out of jealousy and exertion of control over husband.

I know you would not like to lose your independence and freedom to love without restraint.

Please plan for your future.

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Mumu! Do I have to tell her any u send to ur family?

demoBaba:
You're the problem here bro, MOST YOU TELL HER YOU SENT MONEY TO YOUR MOTHER WHAT TYPE OF MAN ARE YOU? I didn't say you shouldn't open with your wife, don't relate your family issue with her, you send 50k to your mother, father, siblings etc. Tell her you sent 2k and enjoying your wife sample. Moreover I don't discussed those kind issue with my wife, if you want happy home. I spent my money the way I want it, but i make sure my wife, children don't lack anything that's most important thing. Good luck.

Yes he mustn't tell her but what kind of stupid and selfish woman gets angry when a man sends money to his mother. He even mentioned 10k o. Common 10k, and he claims he sends to her mother too. That's evil.

gfon:
Dude you just a SIMP Period!!! As a man,you need to possess that aura,ego,manliness and authority over your gf/fiance/wife.Am a god cause i was created in the image of GOD.Never let any woman lord over you,even your mother.Always show that authority as a man,let your wife know her place,but do so in a romantic but firm way.

we are exactly the same bro..I dey vex join self

dapadawee:
You better watch it. Your wife must not be angry with you in any area of your actions. Find a way to get her approval in anything you do. Important and don't take any advice from this forum that says otherwise. Read books on marriage. The reason why your wife is not happy is not really because u send money but your approach wise up. And make sure her emotions is not hurt.

Your reaction is ideal but not practicable with women. Let us assume this guy was not telling the wife but has been sending money as stated. The wife would surely had assumed he was doing it without her knowledge and she would have taken some negative action in her mind, negative to the man.

Women are full of plots all the time, plots that are hardly helpful to the marriage.

Selfish spirit has gained the heart of women from time immemorial.

Truth be told ,...your wife hates you , any woman who hates her inlaw ,hates her husband ,...secondly don't let her know anymore about your finance

I think it depends on how you both handle your family income.
In my house we have a fixed percentage of our income that goes towards family expenses and projects. After that nobody asks the other what they do with their money.
Whatever we send to our parents is our business.

Tell your wife to go and get a job and start earning money too. She should be caring for her family.
As an Inlaw you should really just give her family gifts(birthdays, festive periods), not carry their monthly expenses except they’re hungry people.

As long as you’re meeting your finance goals as a family, what you do with your disposable income isn’t her business.
In fact, you should have scolded here very severely the first time she started that behaviour.
Just make sure you’re not being irresponsible with money, because your nuclear family comes first. Your Mum is infact extended.

yomi007k:


Make I no just talk wetin dey my mind...


Shey na my mama wey spend over 10000USD on me years ago to help me become successful plus fasting, prayers, ideas na him woman go come go dey beef?


If my mother wasnt responsible, I might not have made it.

Thank you. I don’t understand how a woman will be sad that her husband is sending his mother money. Someone that you should be thankful to for bringing up such a responsible son.

That's why some women should be dealt with.

Them never born any girl well wey go try that rubbish with me.Seriously I don't know why some wives re lyk dat they want you to take care of theirs,but when it comes to yours them turn am to rough

MeghaneMorgane:


Thank you. I don’t understand how a woman will be sad that her husband is sending his mother money. Someone that you should be thankful to for bringing up such a responsible son.

Nne I tire oo

Bowwow11:
I concur with u my partner

I dey tell u bros

RPG2020:


Kudos to your mom but believe in yourself

I believe already bro.