torqque7:
Anyone who has a problem with that statement means he believes women should live very reckless and irresponsible lives in their youth, and such an individual belongs in a mental institute.

ambient:


Onuku,so which country women is good for a mentally derange man like you? The Americans,Europeans? Do they remain chaste and avoid living life while waiting for you to climb out of the poverty your dad placed you in?

UncleKoboko:

Shut up with your nonsense!
He has a wife to love and care for?
And that should be his purpose and responsibility in life? To love and care for somebody?
How do you care and love a WHORÈ?
Do you ever feel comfortable around your boyfriend or husband's ex fûckers?

Your past is very important and if you did rubbish, it will still hunt you down. You can't eat your cake and have it. I will never love a WHORÈ even if she's repented.
Forgiveness is a choice and God is not even against tit for tat.
Even God usually punish for past sins whether you've repented or not or whether it was committed by you directly or not. Example is the sins of Adam and Eve that all humanity is still paying for.

Oyiboman69:
after going through some comments on here...I really understand where you're coming from.

the only problem you have is trying to weave your spouse in your situation as the cause. however, you can take a break, tell your wife that you'll be traveling to a far away place, go on,drink beer,party, bang enough pussies,met different people and come back after one or two months. don't forget that there are some generation who don't use hand set and computer which we are enjoying today cos life is not always fair . I strongly believe this will ease your anger and you'll definitely see life in different perspective...happy marriage life

Lostchild:


Only few wise fellow like you understand this. Many people today are suffering over the sins and past life of their fathers and many keep doing worse than that of their father.

They will say, let forget the past.

Later, the past will start hunting their future.

Oluchia:


In your mind now, you have given a great advise. If the tables were turned and the wife is the OP, will you give her this kind of stupid advice?? Go on a drinking spree, bang enough men, and come back so she can feel better? And then you went on to wish him a happy married life. I really don't blame people who stereotype most men as women haters. Some things I hear on Nairaland ehn.

Roseey0:
This one don make small change and now looking for excuse to cheat
Of all the reasons to cheat, he chose to dig up the lifestyle his wife lived in the past and called it revenge

Uwa mmebi

jjcena:
Oya go ahead and damage your life, onye ihuruihu

mikigen:
@opThis is of the main reason it's difficult trying to stop men from cheating.
You will be struggling as a single man while your wife to be will be enjoying herself as a single lady jumping from one relationship to another even if she was from a poor background she would still have a better single life than you so u see? Just when u start getting some money to live your life as you wanted marriage conditions will come and hold you down. Abegi this life na nonesence and unfair to men.

BigYash:
Una just dey open mouth talk. The wife that lived those kind of hook up lifestyle,might still even be cheating .. Women no dey ever talk secret out.. Na men like op dey Bleep up shall. Too much talk. Do wetin dey ur mind and leave talk. Present and formal hoes deserve no respect. My opinion

Trustedpronet:
Na gods go purnish you...your suffer never do you. Mumu. Because small money don enter your hand now you wan turn fucker. That is why is not advisable you suddenly turn a poor man into a wealthy person because the wealth go eventually kill am.

If all these stupidity you wrote are real you don't deserve any advice na proper beating and make DeM tie you for poll wire you need. Were.

UncleKoboko:

You're overworking yourself man.
The past is very important.
Don't allow anyone to deceive you.
Your wife can't change her past and a pussy fûcked can never be unfuckéd.
How would you feel when you're with your wife in a social gathering or a public place and one of her former fuckèr just crosses path with you? The only memory that will come up first in their heads is those fúckíng memories.
Your wife knew what was doing then and she's aware that it wasn't cool. You don't have to forgive her. One can not always eat their cakes and have it.
There are things greater than peace and happiness and it's FULFILLMENT, CONTENTMENT and vengeance.

efficiencie:


True you deserve to get some justice and there should be balance...but you cannot achieve it fairly and justly. Only God can balance the scales of justice. Many of the children on nairaland don't know that the consequence of past sins are very well part of the present and can affect the future. I will advice though that you temper justice with mercy. Yes she messed up her life in school but if she is changed today, a submissive wife, a sensitive mother and a dependable guardian you should endeavor to forgive her dirty past. It is in the domain of humans to have a very horrible past but I will plead that you forgive her so that God can also forgive your sins. Don't let the enemy of your marriage use your knowledge of your wife's past to destroy your marriage.

greygoblings:
You just wasted my time reading your rubbish. How does the life she lived before she met you matters? I don't believe this rubbish sha.

Lostchild:
LiegeMan

Why I don't tolerate people on this forum is because majority of nairaland users will quote or comment without them having the experience to see beyond its writer.

Many here will choose not to understand your feelings because they do not know the slow but painful journey of your life.

I, myself understand your anger and know how you feel.

I feel that no Nigeria woman deserve to be my wife. Why?

1. Because when I was suffering, they where busy fucking different men.

2. When I was fasting and praying for a better life and future, they where busy confessing their undieing love for Johnbull to Fred, to Paul, Felix to James and they keep jumping from one man to another. Why on earth would I fall for their fake love after suffering and making money?

3. When I was trying to overcome my trials in each phases of my life, they were busy partying and sleeping around

When I overcome and money start coming into my life, who will I go for? I will go for a decent western woman.

Even Mikel Obi shun Nigeria women because of their many dramas and fake love.

FINAL WORDS

You have already made the mistake and you know, mistake have consequences.

Oluchia:


This una Wisdom=foolishness; If you cannot forgive a 'LovePeddler', THEN DIVORCE HER. Nobody forced you to marry her in the first place, and if you can't deal with her past as a matured person, then do needful and stop acting like a child and claiming 'wisdom' Nonsense!

Bobmarie:
Western people think you stink, you no reach them marry. Except she’s fat, old or you’re rich.

Who go come marry your sisters and daughters?

Because no amount of white paint you put on your skin, or white pussssy you Bleep, your daughters will always be useless Nigerian girls nobody wants to marry.

Maybe you go marry them.

Lostchild:


SHUT UP your shit mouth.

SEE runs girls like you dey quote me.

Lostchild:


SHUT UP your shit mouth.

SEE runs girls like you dey quote me.

Bobmarie:
Just keep your useless Nigerian daughters and sisters away from the rest of our Nigerian brothers and sons.

Not their fault prostitution is your family business.

Bobmarie:
My name is Marie and you will remember this name someday, might seem amusing but humor me. I’m sorry all your female friends perhaps family members are into prostitution. That must be the reason you most girls you see are runs girls. Change your circle.


Some of us have rich parents, some of us own business.

Hide your dick bro, you have no idea who I am or what I do for a living.

Bobmarie:
Another fish brain

Bobmarie:
Nobody forced them to marry, and not all men lived that unnecessarily hard life the government has caused. Rich/middle class men everywhere that enjoyed their lives growing up too.

Lostchild:


SHUT UP Your useless mouth and stop quoting me with your foolishness.

If you have f'vck too many men in your past, go and ask God for forgiveness and reap the consequences of your lust.

Bobmarie:
There are men on this thread in support of his irrational thinking. Might just be real. Very sick.

Bobmarie:
Lol. Because her parents gave her a better life than him? Sick people everywhere.

Bobmarie:
Nobody forced them to marry, and not all men lived that unnecessarily hard life the government has caused. Rich/middle class men everywhere that enjoyed their lives growing up too.

NoToPile:





What I find funny about the thread is if it was about his wife's sexual history he would have emphasized more on it. ( I trust nairaland guys for that) his major grouse is the privileged background his wife had that he didn't have.
( check out his opening statements about his wife, it was all about how her family could provide and she didn't lack and this and she enjoyed herself and that ) , maybe he would have felt better if she also hawked oranges to go to school ( not a prestigious university).

I am not even a fan of boys and girls partying and clubbing in school but for me this OPs matter is very close to witchcraft, what this OP feels is pure envy and in all honesty I pity his wife he is a dangerous person to be around.

And you know the very hilarious part of it, even if he goes all out partying and clubbing womanizing he still won't feel fulfilled and that anger will still be there.

GodisFirst:
I have just few questions for you;
Is your wife's past affecting your marriage like making her not being able to pay her role as a wife or mother to the kids if you now have Children?
Were you forced or deceived into this marriage?
Is she disrespecting you and your family?
Is she using her family wealth to intimidate you?

If the answers are NO, then you don't need to do what you are planning to do because it may come back to haunt you.
she did those things when she was a student and not very much aware of the consequences of some of her actions, could be peer influence or juvenile delinquency. Those were the days of ignorance; the case is different now if any of you try it this time, it may not go down well. She was lucky to be protected by grace unlike so many other persons.
If she has changed, the best for you is to give her the support she needs to remain a changed person for the sake of your marriage and the family you need to build as the head of the family.
That thing you think you missed while starving or suffering are some of the things so have led many to early grave and have kept so many people in the hospital today battling for their lives. Thank God for not allowing your wife’s case to be the same. You that is free, thank God for the grace because you escaped that is not because of your power. Some people went into some dirty lifestyles due to poverty, but you did not allow poverty to ruin yours, but it led you to the virtues of modesty, fortitude, endurance, patience, and perseverance. So, don’t just throw these good qualities away carelessly due to a little moment of darkness in life. Just put them all in the hands of God.
“You don’t know what you got till is gone”
Good luck.

Lostchild:


Only few wise fellow like you understand this. Many people today are suffering over the sins and past life of their fathers and many keep doing worse than that of their father.

They will say, let forget the past.

Later, the past will start hunting their future.