₦airaland Forum

Miyachi:
Finding those guys is not going to unrape her. It will make him feel better but what about the girl? Will everything just go away because the attacker has been caught.

I would rather suggest he channels his effort to helping her get past this. (be kind to her and don't let her feel like it's her fault). If possible she should get therapy.

She's carrying a heavy burden and needs all the love and support she can get.

Are you a rapist? How would you claimed he should channel the energy in getting the bastard arrested to the girl

A rapist deserves death penalty.. the bastard is still roaming the street of Lagos freely and possibly looking for another victim

If I'd kill anyone in life, it would definitely be a rapist.

Spherical77:
may God deliver women from your hand, that is all i have for you

.may God deliver you from foolishness

cocolacec:
Many Nigerians are ignorant about what to do when rape happens or reporting it for fear of stigmatization by the community.

And I find it hard to believe them.

Pimine:
Aswearugaaad

ehn , ehn , Ansar-ud- deen
( i've always wanted to retort to that like this )

Athemisia:
Don't mind him... That girl don go collect better Puck from one BBC. She's just using the rape tactics joor....

Rape tactics wey don cast like kastina

nairaman66:
My dear some people almost ate me alive for my comments. Most people only judge with their head and not Brain, it is so pathetic!

Don't mind those ass and simps. In an issue like this, one had to be very very critical about it, don't just be carried away by emotion and that's what most are exhibiting.

Spherical77:
Are you a rapist? How would you claimed he should channel the energy in getting the bastard arrested to the girl

A rapist deserves death penalty.. the bastard is still roaming the street of Lagos freely and possibly looking for another victim

If I'd kill anyone in life, it would definitely be a rapist.

So her life should be on pause until he finds the rapist?
Mister, this is Nigeria, be realistic. The perpetrator might never be caught and even if he is caught God knows if he gets his day in court.

You all can come online and vent you anger on others for the failures that you are. But if any of you love this girl, you'd be focused on her well-being- that is, both physical and mental well-being.

In truth what the OP is dealing with is the fact that he has placed this girl on a pedestal and as someone pointed out, placed her in chains. To him she's no longer "pure" and this is his way of coping with it, by putting it online and having lots like you detract him from helping this girl heal from this.

If he had the means of finding the rapist he wouldn't be online posting, heck he'll be too busy with his plans. He has made this about him from the beginning, dehumanizing the girl in the process. You don't need to be a psychologist to see the red flags.

Mystoree:
So I had some issues with my girlfriend and we were kind of not talking for 2 weeks, during that time, a lot happened in her life.

We settled and while we were telling each other about what happened during our time apart, she began to cry and opened up to me that she was raped. I will ordinarily not believe that lie if she was a virgin but she wasn't, I met her as one and I was her first, so there will be no point in her even revealing it to me if she wasn't as it was a one time thing and I will hardly notice. At that point, i felt like my world just stopped for some seconds, o felt dizzy and found somewhere to sit trying to process what I just heard. Funny thing was that on the night of that incident, I was feeling weird about her and called her to find out how she was, it was around 9:30 pm and she was a student of a higher institution on the mainland while I stay on the island. After I called her, she picked up and told me she was going to call me back as she was trying to get a bike to take her to where she was going to, and immediately she ended the call, a man put a knife behind her and threatened to kill her if she doesn't give him what he wants, she offered her phone and all but this man was just after sex, according to her, the area was quiet and there was almost nobody on the streets, he pulled her to a shop corner and forced his way. I was devastated and confused, this is the only lady I have ever seen myself marrying amongst all the ladies I have met, she checks all the boxes, she said it didn't last up to 5 minutes and she cried all through but the man didn't care. He was a fat elderly man with a pot belly, wearing a nose mask in the night so she could not even see his face.

I was so angry at her because first of all, I warned her several times not to move in the night in that area as it is very dangerous, we were once robbed on the same street around 8pm, so I wonder what went into her mind moving by almost 10pm. She said she was on night shift where she works and then her friend called her to join them for a party, so she took permission and wanted leaving and that was when it happened. Now the thing is, those friends of hers are very bad influence on her and I told her a long time ago, she said she doesn't follow them but just hangs around with them in school, little did I know that she went to the bar alongside them and their boyfriends a number of time without my knowledge. She showed me pictures of their outings and a stab on the hand from the rapist. I'm so angry, she has been crying and begging, I asked her to stop the job and she agreed,i have thought of getting a girl and some guys to disguise and go to the same area late night to see if the devil will push the bastard to try his lick again cos I swear, I will make sure I put a stick through his anus through to his mouth,revenge is all that is on my mind cos I love this girl so much


I have read rape stories but I never thought it would come so close to me, I have been put in countless situations where a girl changes her mind on letting me into her and I respected that, I wonder why this would happen to me, I don't know what to do, any advice is welcome.

Modified - for those claiming she lied, she came along with the doctors report and tests receipt.

Go and find the elderly man and stab him in the pot belly...........to DEATH!

Was there a proof that she was raped are you sure the man is not her sugar daddy

You need to fear women and don’t trust them

Mystoree:
I am not putting chains on her, I forgave her already but that doesn't take out that dark part of our story. If I don't love her, I will not be feeling this bad.

See listen to me guy, break up with the girl and find a well bought up girl from a rich family.
That your Girlfriend is fu....cking different guys behind Ur back.

budaatum:
I bet she did not go to report to police so they can take dna to track this rapist down!

Kobojunkie, I'm loving you more each day, please note.

Dna? Nigerian police? in Nigeria? Lol Guy you funny I swear.
You don de watch too much filmSha

Trust me when I say you WILL ALMOST DIE The day she decides to end this relationship.

TRUST ME THAT DAY WILL COME...

Enjoy it while it lasts bro...

budaatum:
If the police is as useless as you claim, I'd personally sue them for negligence of duty because that's their job.

But I bet you'd claim the courts are useless too, instead of realising it's your duty to hold them to account.

guy! sir police? in Nigeria?. you are living in Utopia it's clear now. you may probably demand 1billion as compensation fee.

Cholls:
My brother sorry to digress.
Is the Queen of England alive?

yes. and she's 95.

almarthins:
Perhaps, you didn't read the part when he said he warned her not to walk in the night within the dangerous vicinity. That statement alone give credence to the usage of the word "forgave". I was not expecting anything less from him. We all make mistake.

You forgive a fellow adult for rejecting your advice? What insolence?

Alexaonfleek:
All these epistle just to discredit a rape story.
Im scared for the women around you,including your female family members.

Seriously scared!

Bbqekpa:
The boy na baby

A baby has a heart! This one just has his ego !

Brushstrokes20:
Hmmmmn..... I had a similar experience with an ex girlfriend who claimed that she was raped, only for me to later discover that when we had a brief misunderstanding, she went back to her ex boyfriend who forced himself on her .... bitches ain't loyal!!

Trust them at your peril

What exactly is rape? How is it a "claim" with your admission?

Some of you don't know what to say.

kkins25:
I saved a pic of a certain lecturer that did same to my God daughter. if i ever get the chance, i will play out SAW very well. i will take it slowly and enjoy every moment of it.. vengence is mine, said the lord. it is mine

are you God?

Femeto:
Na so my girlfriend that time talk self. She was drunk and the guy carried her to his house and raped her. Fear women. The word rape is most often used wrongly.

Define rape, please.

Someone sees an inebriated woman, takes her to his house and has sex with her, and to you that isn't rape? Like, she's drunk and unable to think clearly, and he takes her home and has sex with her, but to you it isn't rape?

BRATISLAVA:
What exactly is rape? How is it a "claim" with your admission?

Some of you don't know what to say.

Bullocks for buffoons!
I stand firmly by my assertion and...
Bleep off my mentions

If you didn't report it to the police when it happened it's not raping anymore it's adult sex, for a fat person to rape you it very difficult to convince me. I've been accused once and thank God I didn't even touch her.

BENEAMATA:
ehn , ehn , Ansar-ud- deen
( i've always wanted to retort to that like this )

Lol Glad I helped you fulfill your wish.

I'm very angry at you OP. What kind of talk is this? You kept blaming everybody for your girlfriend being raped — except the bloody rapist himself!

You're asking what she was doing there at 10pm, that you were all robbed there. Then you shift the blame to her friends for being the bad influences who called her out to party then you became angry that she had been going to parties behind your back.

And the last thing on your list to do is to say that you want to lay ambush for the rapist. Are you angry and disgusted that someone raped a woman? Or only angry because he raped your girlfriend?

It's a big shame that you even blamed her and didn't see it fit to extend the blame to the bloody rapist! And even if she was a virgin and she told you she was raped, so what?! You only believed her because you broke her virginity and knew she was not a virgin.

Human beings sef!

BRATISLAVA:
Define rape, please.

Someone sees an inebriated woman, takes her to his house and has sex with her, and to you that isn't rape? Like, she's drunk and unable to think clearly, and he takes her home and has sex with her, but to you it isn't rape?

Same someone has been sending her money and gifts. Along with love messages on her phone. Plus she never rejected it. Most of these cases her deeper than you can understand.

You need to track that stupid old fool down and get him arrested....She needs you more now than ever

Femeto:
Same someone has been sending her money and gifts. Along with love messages on her phone. Plus she never rejected it. Most of these cases her deeper than you can understand.

Most rape is perpetrated by people trusted and/or known to the victim.

Because he gave her money and gifts, it means that the day she's drunk he is entitled to have sex with her?

Once again, define rape, please. From there we will know what went on.

This OP is an immature idiot

I hate to make you feel bad but was she really telling you the truth? I think she's telling only part of the story. Simply, she slept with a fat, potbellied man and she's feeling guilty about it. She opened up to you about it but left out the part that it had been a consensual affair. The part about her being raped was only to mask her guilt by concocting a rape story.

chaiii!!!

kkins25:
But i wonder which data base exist for genetic profiling.

What stops citizens from gathering around to create such a database and then rally to have it installed and used in all 36 states of Nigeria?