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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by DukeNija(m): 5:09pm On Nov 02, 2021

Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.

Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

Have you both seen a therapist? Like a sex therapist? Have you both discussed this issue? If yes, what was his reaction?

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Germi9: 5:09pm On Nov 02, 2021

Na you be 1sec man ,na u still dey proud

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Greystone: 5:09pm On Nov 02, 2021*

Iyaebe:
That's an insult to the husband

Hubby already insulted himself by refusing to lick his wife to multiple orgasms.

Small head make he dey give Madam e no gree, now we are trying to encourage Madam not to cheat. undecided

If na me, I go lick that my wife pussy clean till e shine like mirror...

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Olarewaju89: 5:09pm On Nov 02, 2021

Bigpapi:
Poison him fullstop

Are you a human being undecided

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by beautyfunke(m): 5:10pm On Nov 02, 2021

LifeOfTrigga:
Na wa o, different wahala. Me Wey be say if I knack my gf laso she no fit stand up or walk for some minutes after sex! Cos the way I been dey knack her self even sperm i dey always find m like lcm and she go din cum so many times that I won’t be able to see the flesh of my dick again as my dick din turn white cos of her cum! E go come thick like say Na goldstone ice cream

for your eyes now, you don comment be that.you need to reason before typing

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by ojuu4u(m): 5:10pm On Nov 02, 2021

Iyaebe:
Marriage is indeed complicated,this your story makes premarital sex looks important but however it's against God's commandments which brings the question on how do we know the sexual compatibility of a partner before marriage? I don't know what to say.

.......If two of the intending couple and not one avoid premarital sex........

Stop find illogical reasons to beat commandments of Almighty, they are the best for we human.

God doesn't have wife or child you want to sex wen he asked us not to fornicate neither does he has any money you want to steal wen he told us not to steal, it's best interest of we his handwork.

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by victorazy(m): 5:10pm On Nov 02, 2021*

Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.

Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Seankhalifa: 5:10pm On Nov 02, 2021

Ur husband should use sex drugs or he should be giving u head.. but cheating should not be in ur mind at all.. dia is a solution to dis.. some people husband no fit give dem bele.. so be grateful... and again it might be u are too sweet.. if I use wrong language no vex trying to explain myself

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Funkyswagzz(m): 5:10pm On Nov 02, 2021

My dear u have encourage him to do the thing he won't normally do.. I know you might not have the urge to take the lead buh u have to try couple of times to see his response. Also if he is the type that masturbate, make him to stop it

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Nobody: 5:11pm On Nov 02, 2021

Greystone:
Hubby already insulted himself by refusing to lick his wife to multiple orgasms.

Exactly, men should learn and perfect the act of licking plate thoroughly like their life depends on it to avoid this kind of situation.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by godofuck231: 5:11pm On Nov 02, 2021

Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.

Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

don’t ruin your marriage , go treat him for simple toilet infections being carried around by young girls, it stays in the human system as long as 70 years and over and can become complicated at old age and still not diagnosed properly, it kills the male libido and some are lodged behind the nose , lobe region , herbs are used in flushing it out to manifest then the western drugs are used in eradication,most men don’t know this and blame their hat for their problems

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Biglittlelois(f): 5:11pm On Nov 02, 2021*

olabrinks:
I’m going to be real with you sis, you cannot find the solution you want unless you cheat on your husband. Your husband is stuck in his ways, he’s not willing to compromise or sacrifice his beliefs for your satisfaction. Let me tell you the truth my sister, most men just want to cum and sleep. All this extra gra gra is work for them, and like you said they have other things to worry about. This is how most married women feel, men especially become laid back once they are having sex with the same woman over and over again. Married woman to married woman.

My real advice to you is to satisfy yourself with your hands or a toy when you are Hot. Focus on your child and your career. Accept that you can never have it all in marriage. Your partner must lack in one department, it may be sex, finances, compassion, good looks, hygiene etc.. there’s always something. The easy thing to do is to look for that missing thing in someone else. The smart thing to do is to focus on the positives and try to enjoy your marriage the best way you can. You said you are like friends….go on adventures with him, go out clubbing, go to parties.. you will begin to overlook this missing void you’re feeling. This is feeling is temporary, good luck to you.

Brutal truth my dear, all you typed is the brutal reality.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by BlackPantherxXx: 5:12pm On Nov 02, 2021

LifeOfTrigga:
Na wa o, different wahala. Me Wey be say if I knack my gf laso she no fit stand up or walk for some minutes after sex! Cos the way I been dey knack her self even sperm i dey always find m like lcm and she go din cum so many times that I won’t be able to see the flesh of my dick again as my dick din turn white cos of her cum! E go come thick like say Na goldstone ice cream

Maybe your GF has the same opinion this lady has.

Keep fooling yourself.

That white na another man's sperm

Other men - PLURAL

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Okortor: 5:12pm On Nov 02, 2021

Deal with it....... Don't u dare cheat on him else u would live to regret it.

Google some herbal root that would help cure his premature ejaculation. There's so many he can use n should be fine afterwards.

I repeat, DONT DARE CHEAT ON THAT MAN.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Buffalo2(m): 5:12pm On Nov 02, 2021

Iyaebe:
That's an insult to the husband

Husband wey no sabi

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Geenosko: 5:12pm On Nov 02, 2021*

Apparently, you guys didn't discuss this before marriage. If you had, you would have known his sexual preferences and decided whether these are deal breakers or not, the quick ejaculation is not even an issue because that one can be solved but it seems when it comes to sex, you guys are polar opposite.
Sha don't cheat, you guys should go for counseling.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by revived: 5:13pm On Nov 02, 2021

Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.

Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

If you like go cheat on that man just because of temporary fvcks

After Dem dun fvck you finish your eyes go clear and your pvssy go dry. Yes sex is important but woman you better get yourself busy and add up to your hustle and accept your husband the way he is.

And you can get him herbal products that can make him last longer on you.
Nobody is perfect in marriage

E go be for you

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Michelle55: 5:13pm On Nov 02, 2021

No amount of advice given wee enter Op's head laidis.. She will do it laslas as be say the tin don dey hungry am.

If you can not satisfy your partner, just foggerrit.. Na away match dem go play next.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by KoshCAD: 5:13pm On Nov 02, 2021

I am here to help. I can so fore play like mad.

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by jericco1(m): 5:13pm On Nov 02, 2021

Well well, from the way you're sounding, it seems you have given him little to gnaw on

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by dahmie2013: 5:13pm On Nov 02, 2021

Na wa o... Me I fantasise about having a house & getting my dream job. Someone is fantasising about kissing & sex. Different strokes for different folks.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by AfonjaConehead: 5:14pm On Nov 02, 2021

Happened to me too.
We were so so close,I mean,so tight like we were best if friends. We only knew each other for a couple of months but it seemed we already together for decades. We were just like brother and sister.
But I really hit her bad when we finally get down but kissing was almost every minute,we literally sucked our tongues outta our mouths hehehe..

Op,do stay put,you are best of friends and you can work things out

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by newoffer: 5:15pm On Nov 02, 2021

One thing women forget to realise is that men go through a lot after wedding. Bills bills bills. Only unstable mind will have sound election when things are not going fine. When the man is the only source men u don't expect action.

ezugegere:
You both need to make conscious efforts to make your marriage work. I think the major problem here is his inability to last, which can be solved.
Don't try to pressure him into MouthAction since he finds it disgusting. I too don't like it. I don't think it's healthy.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by otukpoyam(m): 5:15pm On Nov 02, 2021

Iyaebe:
Marriage is indeed complicated,this your story makes premarital sex looks important but however it's against God's commandments which brings the question on how do we know the sexual compatibility of a partner before marriage? I don't know what to say.

Honestly. And the thing is dat we can't trust word of mouth. Action is a stronger proof

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Mom007(f): 5:16pm On Nov 02, 2021

My dear, you are quarter to cheat already, its just opportunity that has not presented itself. Better begin to pray because the devil is knocking. You can do without MouthAction madam. There are other clean pleasures in the bedroom that a husband and wife can share. Beware oo...

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Godfather052(m): 5:16pm On Nov 02, 2021

This is the more reason people should consummate before marriage, I won't even marry a woman who don't like MouthAction, that is my best part in love making, I love to inhale that sexy aura of my woman and feast on her orally.

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Godfather052(m): 5:16pm On Nov 02, 2021

Godfather052:
This is the more reason people should consummate before marriage, I won't even marry a woman who don't like MouthAction, that is my best part in love making, I love to inhale that sexy aura of my woman and feast on her orally.

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by sisisioge: 5:16pm On Nov 02, 2021

Talk him biko before your monkey will go on a no return journey.

I feel you sha....sex should be stimulating biko.

Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by donhils: 5:16pm On Nov 02, 2021*

Ok but why do you need the orãl sex thing so badly? I can't do that either...sticking my tongue there?? Nah

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by Orpe7(m): 5:17pm On Nov 02, 2021

Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.

Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

Have him enroll in a gym he needs to build his testosterone

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Re: Fantasising In My Marriage. by cr7lomo: 5:17pm On Nov 02, 2021

This is why marrying a virgin is best

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